Project Rox

lacardwell said:
I read your diary from beginning to end and you have got to be one of the strongest and most determined people in all of France AND the USA. Your courage, dedication to weight loss and your incredible strength as a loving mother are so admirable. I'm so sorry to hear about your cats and of course your "husband" and his infidelity...amazing that anyone can be so cruel and care so little for his family that loves him, but you and certainly all of us know that you are going to come out on top.

Thinking all the best for you.
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Thanks so much for your kindness and encouragement. It helps me so much to know there are people out there who are on my side and appreciate how hard I'm trying to come out of all this a better person.

I just saw the lawyer again today. I found out what papers i need to file for divorce and I now have her on retainer. I'll probably be filing the divorce in early November.

Deep inside, I was hoping that it wouldn't come to this, but my "husband" leaves me no choice. He has a "business" trip planned to Africa for the end of this month. He says it's for work, but I know that he has not broken up with his girlfriend there and he's just going in order to be with her.
Actually, I had a bit of fun with this recently. he was telling me how much he wants us to stay together, when I suddenly asked him if he was still planning on the trip. he said that he HAD to go for work. I told him that I should probably go with him.
"But....you hate Burkina faso!"" he sputtered.
"Well, I don't like it because my marriage was destroyed there; but if going with you for a week can help save our marriage..."
"But..it's too expensive!" he answered frantically.
"Oh...but think how painful and expensive divorce is, sweetie, " I responded sweetly. "Our love is worth it!"
"I just don't think it would work" he mumbled...

I was completely jerking his chain, as I have no hope left that this situation can be salvaged. But it was fun to watch him squirm and pathetically look for excuses to go on his "business" trip all on his own, with no pesky wife along side him.

He is the lowest of the low, srsly.


However, i'm actually feeling pretty good. Just knowing that I am taking steps to get rid of him make me feel a million times better.
 
LOL, that really made me laugh. Good for you for making him feel so uncomfortable. I can hardly believe the change in you and agree with everything lacardwell said :D
 
ecky said:
LOL, that really made me laugh. Good for you for making him feel so uncomfortable. I can hardly believe the change in you and agree with everything lacardwell said :D
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Thanks! It was pretty funny, I have to admit!

Today I FINALLY got a thread up at the "before and after" section! I wasn't sure, but I finally decided that it was silly not to do it. the people here are all really supportive and I'm sure I'll get a real boost. And i need to keep the motivation! At 158, I'm finding it harder than before to lose weight. I'm eating about 1000 calories per day and still not losing. I probably need to up the exercise, rather than drop any more calories... It's just hard to find the time for it, between the kids, the divorce preparations and job hunting! That last thing is taking loads of time! And sometimes i am just too depressed and lack the energy....

But I'm sure it will all work out...
 
Oh my god, what a difference! You're so slim! Thin, even! You look AMAZING. And you're so beautiful..Gorgeous haircut! xxxxxxxxxxxxx
 
Sunflower said:
Oh my god, what a difference! You're so slim! Thin, even! You look AMAZING. And you're so beautiful..Gorgeous haircut! xxxxxxxxxxxxx
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Thanks again for all the encouragement!

I wasn't sure about the hair, but my hairdresser said it would be great- so I trusted him on it. I was afraid it would make me look older, but I feel it does the opposite.

I'm really not thin at all...it's just that my face is the first place I lose weight. And my rear end is the very last place! So, bits of me look thin, but I'm still wearing size 44 French pants! Not huge- but not really slim, either. I'd rather be in a size 40, so I've got at least 24 more lbs to get rid of....

I sure hope those darn photos are working now...I can't think why Val couldn't see them....
 
I just saw your pics and I'm so happy for you! The hairdresser did a good job. You're so motivated and achieving your goals on point that by Christmas you'll need a whole new wardrobe. *hint* that should be your x-mas present to yourself x3 you totally deserve it and tons, tons more.

As you making your husband uneasy you're so strong and cunning lol! I'm still dumbfounded as how stupid he is thinking you need to let him have time to think. Really...
 
Penguinita said:
I just saw your pics and I'm so happy for you! The hairdresser did a good job. You're so motivated and achieving your goals on point that by Christmas you'll need a whole new wardrobe. *hint* that should be your x-mas present to yourself x3 you totally deserve it and tons, tons more.

As you making your husband uneasy you're so strong and cunning lol! I'm still dumbfounded as how stupid he is thinking you need to let him have time to think. Really...
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Thanks so much! I'm really doing so much better than I thought I would, on all levels.

This morning, I did my WiiFit workout. I LOVE it so much now when I do the body test and the little voice says "That's.....normal".
When I began in the spring, it always said "That"s obese" in that annoying, chirpy tone.... then i spent months "overweight". Now i get to be "normal.

As my BMI is below 25 at this point, the Wii has now suggested I set my goal for a BMI of 22. Sounds good!

This morning, I was another pound down. I'm at 155.6 lbs now.
I know I'll have to lose the last 11 or so lbs really slowly. And I'm going to concentrate lots on toning and strength-building... My hand weights are out and I'm not afraid to use them. LOL!
 
149.4 lbs today!! (That's 67.9 kgs!)
I can hardly believe it..I am SO happy!

Progress had been slow the last month or so, but I've really kicked it up in the last week with a fitness dvd. It's the "30 Day Shred" with Gillian Micheals. Apparently, she's a trainer on a tv show: "The Biggest Loser". I've never seen the program, but her dvd is sure good. It's only 20 minutes or so, but It's VERY intense and I'm already seeing a difference in my body. My muscle definition is starting to look good and I'm more toned in general.
And the weight is flying off me, even though I'm getting into that lower BMI range where it gets harder and harder to lose, despite exemplary eating habits....

My husband doesn't seem to notice- which is just fine, because my boyfriend thinks I'm totally hot......
 
BOYFRIEND?! You met someone?!?!?!?! Details please, lady! How is the cheating scum-bag situation working out? So proud of you for getting below 150! Insane!
 
Sunflower said:
BOYFRIEND?! You met someone?!?!?!?! Details please, lady! How is the cheating scum-bag situation working out? So proud of you for getting below 150! Insane!
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I did indeed meet some and he is SO HOT! And a nice, intelligent guy, of course...but really, seriously gorgeous. And he's a year younger than I am...

Tha scumbag husband has dumped his girlfriend and says he wants me to stay with him...but it's too little, too late. Of course, he knows nothing of me and my boyfriend. And, while this is not exactly about revenge, it is kind of satisfying to have my husband be the clueless person getting cheated on...

But as I said, this is not revenge...it's more about me regaining my confidence as a woman. And what better way than having a handsome and athletic man tell you that you're a goddess? I have to say that it's awfully fun...

Getting below 150 is quite a rush, too...My BMI is fast approaching the magic number of 22..
I'm far from perfect-looking, of course. .. wish my rear wasn't so big and round! Stupid thing. But I'm working out regularly now, so I'll see what results I can get...
 
I haven't been keeping up very well at the forum...but I do check in every few days. This site has been such a lifeline for me over the past six months. I'm not as dependant on it as i used to be, though...as I know what I'm doing as regards to weightloss. (I feel like a real pro!) and my motivation and will are iron-strong at this point...
As for the emotional aspects...Having my cute boyfriend tell me how completely hot I am and constantly take photos is doing lots for my self-esteem, as you may imagine.

I'm still doing the shred dvd and seeing really good results. i haven't lost any more pounds over the last week or so, but I've lost inches and gained more of a toned look, so I'm not complaining!

I've been enjoying going to clothes shops...but it's hard not to want to buy everything! Yesterday I did treat myself and buy a few things...There was a denim mini skirt in a size 10 (40 in France) that looked so cute that I didn't resist it... Maybe I'll post a picture...

As for my marriage....well, the husband is still a clueless jerk. No surprise there. He still has no idea that I'm starting divorce proceedings after Christmas. He's still trying to win me back, but doing a really crappy job of it. He not only can't even tell me that I'm pretty, yesterday he said I was getting too skinny. I know he's just trying to sabotage me, but it still makes me mad....
 
Urgh, what a bag of dicks. Hope you're ignoring his pathetic attempts to make you feel bad! Cute boyfriend sounds wonderful! Bet he's doing loads for your confidence! You've done so well lady :)
 
Sunflower said:
Urgh, what a bag of dicks. Hope you're ignoring his pathetic attempts to make you feel bad! Cute boyfriend sounds wonderful! Bet he's doing loads for your confidence! You've done so well lady :)
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Thanks so much! I am feeling amazingly good...which is astounding when I consider how low I felt just back in July when all this started.

And Cute Boyfriend is a treasure. I picked him out just for sex (sounds awful...but what can i say?) but he's turned out to be fabulous. In fact..he says he's in love with me and that I'm "The One" as far as he's concerned. He wants me divorced and moved in with him as soon as can be managed.
Sadly, I have to say that I'm not in love with him... and he knows that. My heart is still pretty wounded, I guess... But being loved and admired is certainly make me feel the sting of that wound a lot less....
 
Hi Rox,

Wow. I just read your story and man, so many emotions for me. I think you are amazing! I'm so sorry about your husband - the sooner you ditch him the better, but I understand how complicated it is when you have kids.
I just wanted to tell you how inspirational you are, and how much your strength just makes me want to strive that bit harder.

Have fun with the hot boyfriend :)


Jess
 
healthyjess said:
Hi Rox,

Wow. I just read your story and man, so many emotions for me. I think you are amazing! I'm so sorry about your husband - the sooner you ditch him the better, but I understand how complicated it is when you have kids.
I just wanted to tell you how inspirational you are, and how much your strength just makes me want to strive that bit harder.

Have fun with the hot boyfriend :)
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Thanks so much. The idea that my experiences could help you even in some small way is really wonderful to me. I love seeing the good things that can come out of all this mess...

Hot Boyfriend and I have a rendezvous tomorrow afternoon in a hotel....and I assure you that fun will be had;)
 
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