Petals diary

Sounds like you are doing great counting calories and am really glad you have a close friend to talk with about depression. I am feeling rather daunted by taking care of my mom. Though all I really have to do is drive her around and check up on her once or twice a day because has dementia and can't drive herself anymore, I feel like I am going to be trapped when she gets much worse, and so have to do a lot of calming exercises. Not as much depression for me as anxiety, but the depression is lurking behind the anxiety, so I know I have to feel it instead of ignoring it, so it doesn't build up. I think most people have something hard like that in their lives, and I want to learn to be one of those people who don't let that sort of thing weigh them down, but can learn from it instead.

It's funny eating with people not watching their calories. Just having a bunch of teen girls over who are only interested in sugar and white carbs was interesting! Glad your son is eating healthy while putting on weight!!

I agree with Cate - so nice to have you back!!!
 
Marsia I actually don’t count calories at all which is great for me . The lunch I only knew as it was in the menu . But the plan is I say pretty good to restrict calories so you don’t overeat . I tbh haven’t studied the science behind it . I was able to have rice , peppers onion and a chicken skewer for lunch today .

I cared for my dad for some time before he died and when we were teens we cared for 2 old family members . One had dementia. I feel for what you are going through but it sounds like you are well prepared for it Marsia . The feeling of being trapped I can relate to . One day at a time is all you can do and when you need to get some help and support you must do it .

The girls will change as they get a bit older and will be aware of the sugar and white carbs so enjoy it while you can . My daughter thankfully is happy in her own skin but has become health conscious . However she loves a pizza or a cupcake on occasions!!
 
Cate said:
I love that you are really looking after yourself & have found some balance. My Mum could never gain weight. I think it was impossible :svengo: My Dad, on the other hand, struggled with being overweight all his life. You can't fight genes!
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My mum lost weight once in her life but struggled mostly . My dad just kind of stayed same . I wish I had the slim gene !
 
Not counting calories & losing in a healthy way. You are so winning at this Petal. It sounds like your daughter has found a good healthy balance too. Well done, Mum :)
 
Hi Petal - I think the "one day at a time" perspective is really good. I do tend to get ahead of myself! It's wonderful your daughter is health conscious now and that you can lose while not counting calories. I am not good at knowing when to stop so I lose weight without being under calories for the day. It's great you can find that balance!! Glad you have exercises for the tendonitis! Are things going well with you and your husband lately? I know you were frustrated when we last wrote and I hope you have found ways to work things out. J and I went to counseling for the first visit the other day and have another session coming up. It helped a lot! Hope your day is going great!!!
 
Em i am not sure if it helped me . I didn’t really like it either . Cate thanks for the vote of confidence.

Marsia I think the plan I am following restricts my calories automatically. 40 per cent minimum of my food needs to be veg and fruit , a piece of protein and I can have portion of potato , pasta or rice again though just a portion . I eat lots of salads and veg now . One or 2 Greek yoghurts a day , 35g of granola , little bit of cheese and milk . I like it as i can have a varied diet . And it’s working , first thing in years for me really so I’m happy for now . I can use up to say 300 cals max a day on stuff like mayonnaise, bread if I want it , a chocolate bar for example . I eat one small choc biscuit bar every day .

Yeah things with hubby muddling along . Tbh he is so driven by work I just let him get on with it now . Sounds like you and J are taking some positive steps . Happy for you .

I’m tired tonight had a busy day with optician appointment for daughter and work too .
 
Hey Petal, thanks for posting on my diary, it helps me to know others are watching.

I like that you are able to eat well without counting calories, maybe one day I will get there. I also like Greek yogurt, I eat a lot of it, that some cereal and some fruit are my breakfast staples.
Petal001 said:
I had a quick google for 1447 and there was a great fire in Valencia .
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Thank you, someone needs to keep up! I was too tired and had too much whiskey to do it last night.
 
Hi Petal. It's great you have a diet plan that is working and is nice and flexible! If I remember to eat more veggies than anything else, the calories do tend to sort themselves out, so I know what you mean! Sorry to hear your hubby is burying his head in work. I wish I understood that tendency in mine, as well. When we go to therapy again, I am going to bring this up, because I don't know how to address this with him in a way that isn't loaded and likely to backfire on me.

How are you feeling about the last year of school with your younger child? I am not looking forward to the day mine leaves, though not dealing with mountains of school work is going to be nice. I hope work is going well for you and that you get to have a more relaxing day today!!
 
Your food plan sounds epic.

I think making positive changes like that has such a knock on effect. Just gaining confidence and self-belief. The body and mind are so intertwined. Keep it up.
 
Hi, Petal. Your diet plan sounds very flexible and easy to follow. I'm glad it's working for you. Hope you had a quieter & more relaxing day yesterday xo
 
Marsia I will be honest I am delighted it's the last school year because it's been hard hard work. This coming year I'll be growing lots of grey hair lol . She has no real idea what she wants to do either but I'm hoping it will fall in place somehow. No real major panic as yet . I have seen her stressed and anxious and don't ever want to see her live like that again so if she doesn't want college for a high powered career I'm happy with that . My husband gets very defensive too , counselling wouldn't work for him ever as his idea of talking about a feeling is him turning it to work related things . If I ever do mention anything that touches close to home he suddenly becomes unwell or upset . Now I just leave it . I have mentally parked all that stuff now until daughter finishes school .

Thanks LaMa .

Had a cupcake yesterday for a birthday celebration. Omg it was so yummy . It had a raspberry topping and a little bit of jam in the middle. Was a special birthday so I had allowed for it. Rest of the day foodwise was great .
Rob I had a big salad too with mixed leaves , tomatoes, beetroot, pear , spring onion, chicken breast and a light dressing . Was good.
Em and Cate, I'm enjoying following the SW plan . Gives me a bit of structure and as you know I never got on with counting calories. Fingers crossed now I will stick to this.

Need to start thinking about more autumn and winter foods soon. The salads made it easy for me . I love soupsbut they give me terrible indigestion and I dont know why .
Hope you all have good days .
 
Petal001 said:
I love soupsbut they give me terrible indigestion and I dont know why .
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Does it make a difference if they're puréed or chunky? Many people don't chew even chunky soups and take quite large "bites" with smooth ones; maybe that makes a difference?
 
Hi Petal! Glad you are not worried for your daughter and are fine if she doesn't have a high powered job. Mine does well academically, but I don't wish that high powered lifestyle for her, and hope she can have a nice mellow life. I am not looking forward to the school year. There is sooo much homework.

Nice you can have a cupcake and really enjoy it and stop at one! It sounds like you are doing so, so well with your new lifestyle!!
 
I think there is so much ridiculous pressure placed on the school exams. There are so many avenues to go down. If you get a really disappointing result, but really want to do medicine for example, there are so many avenues in, it's ridiculous. People have to realise that an 18-year-old might not know what they want to do, but after living a little, experiencing lots of jobs, meeting loads of different people, they will find out what they are good at and they will find themselves in the right place for them.

No one is going to end up homeless if they don't go to college. She will be fine. Don't pressure her, let her make up her own mind. Even if you think it's the wrong decision, at this stage, it's her time to make those decisions and trust that her life will pan out the way it's meant to.
 
Petal, do all your soups have onion in them. If they do try cutting that out. When I make mine I sometimes add red salad onion, rather than brown, but mostly I don't bother. It must be a common ingredient that is giving you indigestion you would think.
 
Thanks Marsia I am finding this suits me this time around . We had an ok day out yesterday but the rain was really horrific. Ended up having lunch and dinner out which I enjoyed and I chose healthier choices and did not clear my plate at either meal . I have noticed I get full quicker now which is good. I have a graph of my weight loss as I record it in the slimming world app and it shows I can be at my ne t target by mid October which I guess is 1lb a week give or take . I'm not in a mad panic though just happy now enjoying the plan. It will take however long it takes because this is the life plan now for me.

Em I agree totally with you about the exam system and the different avenues . She is dreading meeting with guidance teacher because she is pushy pushy . I have told her to tell her that she is looking at all her options with her mum and just show her the one or 2 courses where she would have an interest to get her off her back. Thankfully we have a local college and courses if she decides she might want to go. Otherwise plenty of places she could work for a year and have a think.

Cate yes !!!!! I always add onion and I imagine any soup I buy out has onion. That's definitely worth a try. I always assumed I need it for flavour . Good idea for me to try.
 
You sound like a great mum Petal.
 
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