Petals diary

I think we all could use lots of help with stress. So nice we have each other for support!!! :grouphug:
 
Long emotional day today . I ended up lashing out at someone who hurt me . Sadly it took that to get an apology . Then I ended up apologising more even though it was justified not to be walked over by this person again . Has happened more than a few times . I need now to have zero contact going forward . My friend who died , in a nice way used to call me a doormat . Not far wrong . I'm ashamed now I lowered myself and didn't take the higher ground but only so much I can take before I crack . God knows how the bp was today :p
 
Sometimes there´s not enough oxygen on the high road - or people chuck rocks from below. Defending yourself is a good and healthy thing to do, even if the little voice inside your head then tries to tell you you made a spectacle of yourself. I came across a picture on FB the other day that summed it up nicely:
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(In case I messed up the link or you don´t have Facebook, it says: Ever notice that the mean voice in your head that insults you is awful confident for something that´s literally never done anything in it life except be mean to you... like... one of us is pathetic and it´s not me buddy... get a hobby... yikes. And the answer: Self care is roasting the mean voice in your head. All spelling aberrations mine.)
 
Hi Petal! I agree with LaMa. Sometimes you just can't wait to formulate a patient, well thought out reply to someone being a jerk. And sometimes people need to know they are being a jerk! The other day we were all going to a class at the Apple store and my mom started backseat driving in dangerous places where I needed to pay attention and it was raining hard, so I just turned to her and told her I wasn't in the mood to put up with that nonsense today. If she kept doing that I was going to pull over and have J drive instead, and furthermore, it was raining out and I needed to concentrate on driving. She was quiet for a long time and didn't back seat drive. I didn't even think, it just came out of my mouth. It wasn't diplomatic in the slightest, and luckily my mom wasn't in a retaliatory mood and it worked to do that. I could have felt badly, but decided that if someone is going to be an annoying distraction when I have told them not to for years, they are going to get a piece of my mind!

I also don't think it diminished you standing up for yourself by apologizing. In work places it's good to error on the side of being gracious. And those types of situations are really tricky. I think you did well, and should not beat yourself up at all!!! And I hope you don't hide from the person in the future. People get testy sometimes, it's just part of being human!
 
LaMa thanks for that it's great . On reflection I think I was right to do what I did . I don't feel so bad about it today . More calm and peaceful. Yes I may have said too much but I think it was deserved . I have a feeling though there will be zero contact in future . I can live with that . That person really was a complete and utter jerk to me and I had enough .

Marsia good on you too . You should have to,d her you would put her out and she could walk home ( joke )

I have lost a kilo since at the doctors on Friday . Happy new with thst . Hope they are too when I go back .

Not much other news to tell here decided to have a relaxing evening for me today .
 
I think I will join you on the other side of the world having a relaxing evening, too! Good news about the lost kilo!!!! I think you are starting to see the results of your efforts!!
 
You were right to speak up, Petal. There should be more of it! It's a shame that other people's bad behaviour leads to this, but we should not take it. Well done on the lost kilo. I have too. Let's each say goodbye to that kilo, never to return xo
 
Marsia said:
I think I will join you on the other side of the world having a relaxing evening, too! Good news about the lost kilo!!!! I think you are starting to see the results of your efforts!!
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Come on over Marsia . Well I think the health scare gave me more of a fright to get serious .
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You were right to speak up, Petal. There should be more of it! It's a shame that other people's bad behaviour leads to this, but we should not take it. Well done on the lost kilo. I have too. Let's each say goodbye to that kilo, never to return xo
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Yes it made me very anxious at the time . But the peace I feel now it's worth it .well done to you on lost kilo . Have a great day all x
 
Today I have lots planned but how much I will do I don't know . Yesterday was a day where I had to say right I will do 20 mins housework just so I had a start and an end . It worked . Met sister for lunch . Had lots of other bits too .
Getting my hair cut and highlights today . Might also do some xmas shopping . Desperately need an outfit for next weekend as I have social events . I might go shopping on Sunday for that .
Dropped another .3 of a kilo so that's 1.3 kg this week . Happy with that .
 
Congratulations on losing all that weight in one week! That's great!! I should set little times to do things like you suggest. Really good idea. I hope you find a really nice outfit, and hope your haircut comes out wonderful!!
 
Thank s all my weekend was hectic . Put up all the xmas decorations, was driving my daughter about . Shopping visiting so really occupied. I found a sparkly top and some shiny black jeans that will do the job. I guess I will be underdressed compared to some but I will be comfortable. I will wear some sandals with a bit of a heel too .
 
Sounds like a nice, classic outfit. I bet you'll look great! Hope everything's going good for you food and rest-wise! Two weeks until Christmas already - wow!
 
Have fun with your new garb!
 
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