People criticizing for losing weight...

[EJ Obuaya]

Hello Slickg,
I did feel like that when I lost a lot of weight in the past.

I think people either mean well or are jealous. You have to know what weight is healthy for you and take their comments and/ or actions with a pinch of salt. They'll soon get the message.

 

[brazenlysasse]

Yeah that's definately a low blow. How insensitive. Seriously, that shit hurts. I've never been to the point where I had loose skin so bad (I only lost roughly 70 pounds), but cmon if anything it's sad that the people who lose a lot of weight had one problem, and then they are are left with another.

I dont know if you watch MTV but I was watching True Life, about two people who got the lap band surgery, and the one boy/man named Rocky had a lot of loose/extra/saggy skin. He had to wrap himself in almost like a girdle every day to give the illusion of being "tight". I just felt so bad for him the poor guy already had to do something to force himself to diet, and then he is left with that to make his confidence plummet. I just felt horrible for him =(
So, needless to say, F*** that, at least that loose skin means you lost the weight and are healthier. Skin is not going to harm you, but being obese is.

A good friend of mine had a banding done with a ring that got inflated with fluid to block off part of the stomach. there is a permanent port *like a hard ring* under her skin that a needle could be put through to inflate or deflate the ring. She lost 70 pounds with that banding..but then had to get it deflated due to complications. She has since lost another 95pounds on her own. She is having a horrible self esteem issue with all of her loose skin and I know that she wears a girdle type thing to keep things firm. She is still losing weight but has started a *tummy tuck boob lift fund* She has said before, "i can live with the loose skin, but the weight was killing me",
We actually just talked today about it, how hard she is on herself about what the aftermath of being so large is (how it makes her feel)
For myself, I know its going to be an issue, my tummy hangs lower now and I have such of weird mix of feelings... ** Yay im loosing weight, omg look at my gut!**
sighhhh.... that's why its good to surround yourself with a great support system.

 

[Jessica086]

I haven't lost enough weight yet for any criticism. However, I used to have a best friend who was bigger than me and try to put me down all the time b/c I was smaller. That was messed up! She was and is very insecure. I won't let anybody make me feel that way again. My mom also said I would be "too skinny" at 120. I'm 5'1 1/2! That's a healthy weight for my height!

 

[xokara]

Just out of curiosity to those of you who are losing a good portion of weight I was wondering if you have the same problem I do. I didn't realize there are some annoyances that actually go along with losing weight, obviously the positives outweigh the negatives but still some annoying issues...like....

A) I've had a few people who think I'm sick just because I've lost 45 lbs. I have to reiterate that the weight loss was intentional. For some reason just because a person wants to lose weight they are considered to be either sick or dying to some people despite an increase in lean muscle mass. I even had someone with the nerve of asking me if I had (and I quote) "The Big C".

B) I have family members saying that I'm getting "too skinny" and they try to feed me excessively at parties, etc. i.e. they keep trying to put more and more food in front of me lately. I don't know if I'm over analyzing but it just feels that way. I've even had some of them ask me why I keep exercising since I've lost all the weight already.

I guess I can get off my soapbox now. I just had to vent a little. Most people have been extremely positive with my weight loss and I've gotten massive kudos so the positives far outweigh any negatives for sure. This post is in no way meant to discourage people from losing weight as it is one of the best things I have done in my life! I just simply wanted to see if anyone else experiences these minor annoyances.

Hey

I definately know where your coming from, my family does the same to me and it's annoying i always say no and it's hard to say no cause clearly i want the food but i have will pwer and they just keep pushing it i find it very annoying aswell!

 

[Beatlesboy]

Yeah...I've gotten that I was on DRUGS. not just weight loss drugs. Like crack and shit. which made me REALLY mad. That's becasue my brother had a past dabbling in drugs, but honestly I never touched them besides a few pot smoking encounters. okay a few like 10. But that's not the point. I never took anything that made me not want to eat. hahaha. =P

Yeah, I had someone so jealous that was losing weight so fast (10-15) pounds a month for 3 months, that I *had* to be on drugs because she couldn't lose anything. I didn't matter I went to the gym twice a day for an hour and a half each time and watched what I ate, it had to be drugs. The only drugs I could afford make me eat, not lose weight.

 

[Jessfrogger88]

Here are some posts I made about it in a similar thread.... I've calmed down since then, but it sure does get annoying at times.

I was just going to post this exact same thread! It's really frustrating at times for me too. I went from 263-178 (as of this morning) and a lot of people are really nice and i've gotten more than my fair share of compliments, which I really appreciate.

But then a lot of others keep saying... "Stop loosing weight", "You're too skinny" "Are you sick", and even "You should gain 10lbs".... hearing people say I need to gain weight after all the struggles I've gone through my whole life makes me borderline insane... lol... I mean I prefer hearing i'm too skinny over you're fat... but seriously it kinda ticks me off, because there are thin people who i've been around my whole life who nobody seems to bother them about being thin... just because I used to be fat... doesnt' mean I need to be fat again. Also... it's not just about looks... i want to be as healthy as I can...

I'm not starving myself by any means... I pretty much eat whatever I want just in moderation and I exercise, which I happen to enjoy. I'm not going to stop eating better and stop exercise to appease other people... and I've already lost 60lbs at one point in my life and gained it all back... I'm not doing that again...and I almost feel that sometimes that is what some people want...

blah... sorry... just something that's been getting under my skin lately... Glad I'm not the only one!

Ugh... today I'm starting get at the end of my rope... I'm 6ft and 178lbs... I am by no means skinny... I have a gut... and not much muscle definition... I wear medium shirts and about a size 32-34 waist depending on the pants. I'm starting to think maybe I look terrible, because people keep yelling at me not too loose any more weight... telling me I'm too skinny... asking if my health is ok... trying to constantly get me to eat more (even though I eat normal already)... Today a co-worker.... asked me why I lost so much weight... and I said because I went on a diet and started exercising... and she was like "No, Why?" with a dissapproving look on her face... I WAS FREAKING 78lbs OVERWEIGHT. It's like everyone thinks I have an eating disorder or cancer or something ... ... I mean a good amount of people have been great and congratulatory, but like some I feel just won't leave me alone about it... I never bring up my weight, but I feel they are constantly concerned with it... It's really getting annoying... jeez..

 

[Carthonn]

Yeah I have people telling me to stop losing. Saying that I look fine and don't need to lose more.

I wish they told me to stop eating about 5 years ago lol. They are all meddlers.

 

[pixienerd]

B) I have family members saying that I'm getting "too skinny" and they try to feed me excessively at parties, etc. i.e. they keep trying to put more and more food in front of me lately. I don't know if I'm over analyzing but it just feels that way. I've even had some of them ask me why I keep exercising since I've lost all the weight already.

That quote is the story of my life.
Throughout my childhood, if I so much as lost 5lbs, my (very obese) family would freak out and try to feed me. I remember I used to dread going to my grandmothers house because she was the worse. Everytime I went there, and I mean everytime, the first things out of her mouth were "Oh you look skinny, here I'll make you something." And then about every 20 minutes she would ask me if I was hungry and fry something up anyway, despite whether I said yes or no.

I moved about 10 hours away from the family members a year ago with my mom and stepdad, and they are gone for weeks to months at a time (they are now gone until August) for their jobs. It's going to be veerrrrryyy interesting seeing them after I lose this weight. I imagine there might be a family intervention. LOL! I'm preparing for accusations of eating disorders, illnesses, etc etc etc. God forbid a person in our family is a healthy weight!


Oh yes and if anyone ever accuses me of doing drugs or drinking or something to lose weight, I'm going to punch them right then and there. I've worked too hard for my reputation, I've never done drugs, never had a sip of alcohol, never smoked, never partied, etc. So yea, if someone accuses me of something like that, they are going to catch on pretty quick ^-^

 

[Carthonn]

I get the manorexic thing occasionally from my sister. The communication in my family is sub par at best. It's more of just jokes and shit like that all the time to get your point across. Well I'm putting a stop to that.