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Hmmm...

A fascination with salsa AND men...

I wonder if the two have any possible connection ;)

Seriously, I think it's so important to find happiness and contentment with who we are and our own lives and the rest will follow.

Life is too short to settle for losers - whether it's men or women, whether it's a love interest or even a friendship.

I also think that when we have satisfaction and appreciation of who WE are in our own lives, then *GOOD* men will be attracted to that.

I've had my share of loser men - more then my share and some, truly dangerous men - the fact that I let them into my life is testament to where I was emotionally.

Setting the ground work for what you want and EXPECT....knowing that you are WORTHY of integrity will help the men with integrity find & respond to you.

You women truly are remarkable people. Taking control and shaping your lives to be the women you want to be is the first step towards finding happiness - and men of worth are attracted to that.

Any man less then that isn't worthy of YOU!


My motherly speech of the day,
 
Ohappydaye said:
I've been considering eHarmony
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I joined them for a while.. paid the fee and everything.. and while i'm sure there are one or two good men on there.. those that approached me-- the routine was all the same.. send Message... message says.. let's bypass all this getting to know eeach other questionairre stuff -- send me a picture... Yah OK... they're just as shallow on eharmony as on the other sites...
 
M2M said:
Hmmm...

A fascination with salsa AND men...

I wonder if the two have any possible connection ;)

Seriously, I think it's so important to find happiness and contentment with who we are and our own lives and the rest will follow.

Life is too short to settle for losers - whether it's men or women, whether it's a love interest or even a friendship.

I also think that when we have satisfaction and appreciation of who WE are in our own lives, then *GOOD* men will be attracted to that.

I've had my share of loser men - more then my share and some, truly dangerous men - the fact that I let them into my life is testament to where I was emotionally.

Setting the ground work for what you want and EXPECT....knowing that you are WORTHY of integrity will help the men with integrity find & respond to you.

You women truly are remarkable people. Taking control and shaping your lives to be the women you want to be is the first step towards finding happiness - and men of worth are attracted to that.

Any man less then that isn't worthy of YOU!


My motherly speech of the day,
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Very solid advice M and I know you're right. I told my ex the other day that I wasn't dealing with him anymore because I had realized that I deserved better and that loving him had nothing to do with it. I think I'm on my way to recognizing that I'm worthy of a good man, hope the good ones see that I've cleaned my glasses off now. :p
You're a really good person M and I'm very glad to know you, if only cyber-ly. :) Thank you so much for helping talk some sense into me. *big hug*
 
maleficent said:
I joined them for a while.. paid the fee and everything.. and while i'm sure there are one or two good men on there.. those that approached me-- the routine was all the same.. send Message... message says.. let's bypass all this getting to know eeach other questionairre stuff -- send me a picture... Yah OK... they're just as shallow on eharmony as on the other sites...
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:( That sucks. My friends have been dating guys from Match.com, I don't want to pick them out myself....was hoping eHarmony would be different. Guess not. *shrugs shoulders* I'll keep thinking on it.
 
every so often - eharmony has free trials - it's worth a shot.. you n ever know.. two of spark's advertisers are plentyoffish and perfectmatch.. Ithink perfectmatch is more of an eharmony competitor... but again.. you don't know unless you try...

I'm feelinb rather burned out on "love" these days :( ...
 
maleficent said:
every so often - eharmony has free trials - it's worth a shot.. you n ever know.. two of spark's advertisers are plentyoffish and perfectmatch.. Ithink perfectmatch is more of an eharmony competitor... but again.. you don't know unless you try...

I'm feelinb rather burned out on "love" these days :( ...
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That makes two of us. As for the trials I get them in my inbox frequently. Maybe I'll give them a try...one day.
 
OK...I told myself I wasn't going to say anything, but I keep thinking about it so...here goes.

It feels really nice when people acknowledge the hard work that you've put in, but do you guys ever feel like, "well damn, did I look that bad before?" I saw a guy I used to date while I was out Saturday and he apparently was floored by how I looked. :rolleyes: He kept saying how great I looked and starring at me as if I were on display. He just kept going on and on about how he had heard that I was working out but didn't expect "this." At first I was flattered, but when he seemed utterly amazed and wouldn't shut up about it, it made me feel like I must've looked a hot mess before. :eek: Anyone else ever feel this way?
 
Anyone else ever feel this way?
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Well, no, but then at almost 260 pounds, I felt like a mess before ;)

If he was going on and on, maybe it was him trying to work out just what it was he lost out on when you guys were going out!
 
M2M said:
Well, no, but then at almost 260 pounds, I felt like a mess before ;)

If he was going on and on, maybe it was him trying to work out just what it was he lost out on when you guys were going out!
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I guess...but I couldn't help but feel depressed about how I used to look versus good about how I do now...if that makes any sense. At any rate, I'll try to look at it that way M, but dang. I couldn't stop thinking about how I used to look, that really bugged me, but I'll try to see the positive. I don't feel that way when other people say things, I'm usually flattered. There was just something about how shocked he was that made me uneasy I guess. Oh well...:cool:
 
I must've looked a hot mess before. Anyone else ever feel this way?
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Well.... at this point I know that I look like white hot mess, that's why part of why I'm getting my act together. But I know what you mean and while I think sometimes it would have been nice for someone to let me know I was looking that bad my reaction would have been to be hurt and upset (as well it should be). Just take it as a compliment and know that you look damn good! :D:D
 
People really don't expect other people to change and it is awesome the way you are doing OHD. Saturday I discovered one of my friends cut off his ponytail and shaved his beard. I must have stared at him for 6 hours--it was like a different person. You're doing great!
 
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