You can fight through it. Drink a ton of water and act like the person you are striving to be, not the person you have been. Make a list of all the reasons you want to lose weight. I am working on that right now as I found myself eating a cookie earlier. So....I got out of the kitchen and started making a list before a big binge transpired. If you already have one just read it. Good Luck. Don't beat yourself up if you slip. You have been doing great.
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twinmom2791
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You know you can
You know you can do this. You know your injury is a temporary thing, and that you will be exercising before long. You know that the only way you'll fail is if you quit trying. But it's hard to convince yourself that these things you know are true really ARE true when you are depressed.
So, listen to your friends, because we know that you are going to make it. We're not racing over speedbumps, we're climbing majestic mountains, and it's okay to need a helping hand from time to time. We're all going to get there together and enjoy the view - you just have to ask for help when you need it.
Now, if you get down over not being able to do the workout part of your plan right now, then get constructive and start looking up new recipes for the eating part of your plan. Find a good Splenda-sweetened cookie recipe to share! Melancholy days are the hardest, but they, too, shall pass. This is NOT another failed attempt - this is your new life!
You know you can do this. You know your injury is a temporary thing, and that you will be exercising before long. You know that the only way you'll fail is if you quit trying. But it's hard to convince yourself that these things you know are true really ARE true when you are depressed.
So, listen to your friends, because we know that you are going to make it. We're not racing over speedbumps, we're climbing majestic mountains, and it's okay to need a helping hand from time to time. We're all going to get there together and enjoy the view - you just have to ask for help when you need it.
Now, if you get down over not being able to do the workout part of your plan right now, then get constructive and start looking up new recipes for the eating part of your plan. Find a good Splenda-sweetened cookie recipe to share! Melancholy days are the hardest, but they, too, shall pass. This is NOT another failed attempt - this is your new life!
NothinToLose
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Hang in there, girl! Vent here if you need to(that's what diaries are for!), but keep it strong! You can do it!
Hey babe, am so sorry to hear about your back. This is not the end just one of the glitches we come across in the journey of life. 
We all have negative thoughts, I was trapped in them for years and still am at times, but, along with what spelin01 and others have said, its what we do with those thoughts that matters.
We can chose to allow them in, and believe them, or not. Something I read may help you. It said when we have negative self- defeating thoughts, treat them as if they were actually said be someone whose sole ambition in life is to destroy us. If we knew thats all they were aimed at doing, 24/7, we wouldnt put up with it, would we? Its when these things are said by a so-called friend, we listen, because we think - hang on they're our friend, they wouldnt want to hurt us would they, or would they?
But we wouldnt listen to someone who we know is out to get us.
Be your own best friend and kick out the false friend. Go in to bat for yourself. Remember the saying "True friends are like diamonds precious and rare, false friends are like autumn leaves found everywhere.
Cognitive behaviour therapy is really good with this sort of stuff. Havent actually tried it, but read through a friends stuff, and its all about thinking outside of the square, learning to look at things from a different perspective, and really its something which has to be learned, because we all do what we have always done, until we learn a better way, and retrain ourselves. One thing which at times helps me when I am being negative, is to think how someone else I respect for their positive outlook would view and handle the situation.
Whatever you do, dont stop posting on here, we cant support you and bore you with such long posts, if we dont know whats going on. (See that negative comment about my long post - so easy to do, even when we are joking. How often we like to give others a laugh at our own expense) lol
Oh another thought. This helps me too. We give permission to others to treat us a certain way. The way to getting others to treat us the way want is to treat ourselves that way, with respect, love and care. Sometimes it means putting what we want or need 1st.
Every time we stand up for ourselves in a non agressive, but firm manner, and refuse to put up with unacceptable treatment from others, we are impowered. It gets easier each time. The hard part is learning to accept rejection by saying no. It means being true to yourself. If we arent true to ourselves we wont expect anyone else to be.
Isnt it amazing how all these profound thoughts come when you cant sleep. (Its 2.12am here) I better go nigh nights. Yawn.
We all have negative thoughts, I was trapped in them for years and still am at times, but, along with what spelin01 and others have said, its what we do with those thoughts that matters.
We can chose to allow them in, and believe them, or not. Something I read may help you. It said when we have negative self- defeating thoughts, treat them as if they were actually said be someone whose sole ambition in life is to destroy us. If we knew thats all they were aimed at doing, 24/7, we wouldnt put up with it, would we? Its when these things are said by a so-called friend, we listen, because we think - hang on they're our friend, they wouldnt want to hurt us would they, or would they?
But we wouldnt listen to someone who we know is out to get us.
Be your own best friend and kick out the false friend. Go in to bat for yourself. Remember the saying "True friends are like diamonds precious and rare, false friends are like autumn leaves found everywhere.
Cognitive behaviour therapy is really good with this sort of stuff. Havent actually tried it, but read through a friends stuff, and its all about thinking outside of the square, learning to look at things from a different perspective, and really its something which has to be learned, because we all do what we have always done, until we learn a better way, and retrain ourselves. One thing which at times helps me when I am being negative, is to think how someone else I respect for their positive outlook would view and handle the situation.
Whatever you do, dont stop posting on here, we cant support you and bore you with such long posts, if we dont know whats going on. (See that negative comment about my long post - so easy to do, even when we are joking. How often we like to give others a laugh at our own expense) lol
Oh another thought. This helps me too. We give permission to others to treat us a certain way. The way to getting others to treat us the way want is to treat ourselves that way, with respect, love and care. Sometimes it means putting what we want or need 1st.
Every time we stand up for ourselves in a non agressive, but firm manner, and refuse to put up with unacceptable treatment from others, we are impowered. It gets easier each time. The hard part is learning to accept rejection by saying no. It means being true to yourself. If we arent true to ourselves we wont expect anyone else to be.
Isnt it amazing how all these profound thoughts come when you cant sleep. (Its 2.12am here) I better go nigh nights. Yawn.
sillygirl
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made it through!
Feeling better again today, largely because of stuff that was said by you guys. I've been letting myself feel powerless but you guys gave me proactive things that I can do while I'm recovering. I can look up new recipes, concentrate on the food changes I have to make, DRINK MY WATER and look forward to the time when I will be able to work out again. The biggest changes that I have to make are in my mind and there is no reason I can't start working on that now.
In other stuff, I'm excited about my story being published, am trying to look at this as a positive time to get writing work done. This novel writing is brutal! And it's another way in which the negative talk in my head affects me. I think that as I deal with more and more issues I'll see the changes in every area of my life.
WHAT I'M PROUD OF YESTERDAY:
That I turned to this diary when I felt weak instead of letting bad habits take hold.
WHAT I COULD HAVE DONE BETTER:
I could have drank more water!!! Why is it so hard?
Feeling better again today, largely because of stuff that was said by you guys. I've been letting myself feel powerless but you guys gave me proactive things that I can do while I'm recovering. I can look up new recipes, concentrate on the food changes I have to make, DRINK MY WATER
and look forward to the time when I will be able to work out again. The biggest changes that I have to make are in my mind and there is no reason I can't start working on that now.In other stuff, I'm excited about my story being published, am trying to look at this as a positive time to get writing work done. This novel writing is brutal! And it's another way in which the negative talk in my head affects me. I think that as I deal with more and more issues I'll see the changes in every area of my life.
WHAT I'M PROUD OF YESTERDAY:
That I turned to this diary when I felt weak instead of letting bad habits take hold.
WHAT I COULD HAVE DONE BETTER:
I could have drank more water!!! Why is it so hard?
sillygirl
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Just came back from physio and the situation is not as bad as it could be! No serious disk issues! I have a lot of core muscle work to do, starting from scratch, but as soon as the pain subsides I should be able to go back to work. It will be a long process but I think I'll be able to have a much better quality of life. Feeling really positive.
Yesterday I did OK. I had Corn Flakes with low fat soy milk for breakfast, A wrap with soy cheese and an apple for lunch, another bowl of cereal and a banana as a snack and two pieces of veggie pizza with soy cheese for supper. Lot of carbs but considering that I've been a prisoner to the sofa I could be doing so much worse so I'm proud of myself.
WHAT I'M PROUD OF YESTERDAY:
I didn't have the big bowl of buttery popcorn that I was craving.
WHAT I COULD HAVE DONE BETTER:
I could have eaten fewer carbs.
Yesterday I did OK. I had Corn Flakes with low fat soy milk for breakfast, A wrap with soy cheese and an apple for lunch, another bowl of cereal and a banana as a snack and two pieces of veggie pizza with soy cheese for supper. Lot of carbs but considering that I've been a prisoner to the sofa I could be doing so much worse so I'm proud of myself.
WHAT I'M PROUD OF YESTERDAY:
I didn't have the big bowl of buttery popcorn that I was craving.
WHAT I COULD HAVE DONE BETTER:
I could have eaten fewer carbs.
NothinToLose
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You're doing great! Good news about your back. Just take it slow, let yourself heal, and you will recover and will be able to strengthen yourself!
twinmom2791
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exercise
Sounds like your physical therapy will have you on your way to a good exercise habit before you are even able to return to work! Hope you feel much better soon.
Sounds like your physical therapy will have you on your way to a good exercise habit before you are even able to return to work! Hope you feel much better soon.
That's great news, sillygirl! I've had back problems myself, so I know how painful it is. Can you do any walking, even if it's really slow? If you can, at least you would feel like you're moving alittle. Backs do take a long time to heal, but you'll get there, don't worry. Everyone has been giving you such great ideas to occupy your thoughts and time. Isn't it great that we have each other to lean on! Keep up with the positive thoughts!
P.S. I visited your fair city a couple of years ago. I loved it and have great memories of Nova Scotia!
P.S. I visited your fair city a couple of years ago. I loved it and have great memories of Nova Scotia!
Initial_C
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eeep. I'm glad it's not serious or anything permanent. Hope you feel better soon.
good for you for not eating buttery popcorn!
if u're REALLY craving though, go get an airpopper at Walmart for $10. You can make yourself butter-free popcorn. Much more healthier. That's what I do when I urge to snack and I cannot resist. So instead of grabbing chocolate or whatever, I make freshly popped plain popcorn.
good for you for not eating buttery popcorn!
if u're REALLY craving though, go get an airpopper at Walmart for $10. You can make yourself butter-free popcorn. Much more healthier. That's what I do when I urge to snack and I cannot resist. So instead of grabbing chocolate or whatever, I make freshly popped plain popcorn.
Crunchie
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I can get a sore back when I'm at work too so you have my every sympathy! I really hope it gets better soon but please do take time to rest up and don't worry too much about excercise, it's probably more important that your back recovers a bit first!
Have a lovely weekend though!
I really hope it gets better soon but please do take time to rest up and don't worry too much about excercise, it's probably more important that your back recovers a bit first!Have a lovely weekend though!
I bit the bullet and have been seeing a Chiropractor all month for my back problems. It's helping so much! I can stand and chop and onion w/out my back hurting. It's pricey, but he swears that once he gets me all in alignmnet I"ll only need to come every 3 months. (That'll be nice!!)
I hope your back is 100% better very soon.
I hope your back is 100% better very soon.
sillygirl
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Things are still going pretty well. I have to thank everyone for the support. I would not be doing well at all if it wasn't for you guys!
I haven't had any junk food. We had fajitas for supper last night and I really should have stopped at 2 but I had 3. So good though, so I'm not going to be too hard on myself. We made them with whole wheat wraps to make them a bit healthier.
According to the doctor I should take another week off of work. Stressed about money, but I have to get the back better. I need to work out again because I'm going nuts! I don't think I'll weigh myself again until I can start to move a little. It would be too depressing and I don't think a true gauge of how I'm doing.
Today I've had corn flakes for breakfast and a veggie and soy cheese wrap for lunch, and an apple. I have no idea what to have for supper.
WHAT I'M PROUD OF ABOUT YESTERDAY:
I drank all my water!!!
WHAT I COULD HAVE DONE BETTER:
The third fajita.
I haven't had any junk food. We had fajitas for supper last night and I really should have stopped at 2 but I had 3. So good though, so I'm not going to be too hard on myself. We made them with whole wheat wraps to make them a bit healthier.
According to the doctor I should take another week off of work. Stressed about money, but I have to get the back better. I need to work out again because I'm going nuts! I don't think I'll weigh myself again until I can start to move a little. It would be too depressing and I don't think a true gauge of how I'm doing.
Today I've had corn flakes for breakfast and a veggie and soy cheese wrap for lunch, and an apple. I have no idea what to have for supper.
WHAT I'M PROUD OF ABOUT YESTERDAY:
I drank all my water!!!
WHAT I COULD HAVE DONE BETTER:
The third fajita.
twinmom2791
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fajitas
I made fajitas last night, too! Yum! I even ate some of the veggies! I normally just have the tomatoes and chicken, but this time had the peppers and onions, too. It was pretty good, although the texture of the onions still kind of gets me.
I figured out that I was eating fajitas all wrong. I had been eating like 4 tortillas with a small amount of filling in each. Now I eat two tortillas with a LOT of filling in each. Same amount of filling as I used to have, just 2 round fajitas instead of 4 flat ones! I need a bib around my neck to eat them, but I save 260 calories by not eating the other two tortillas!
Anyway, just thinking I'd share that for next time you guys eat fajitas. Have all the filling you want - and get bibs!!!
I made fajitas last night, too!
Yum! I even ate some of the veggies! I normally just have the tomatoes and chicken, but this time had the peppers and onions, too. It was pretty good, although the texture of the onions still kind of gets me. I figured out that I was eating fajitas all wrong. I had been eating like 4 tortillas with a small amount of filling in each. Now I eat two tortillas with a LOT of filling in each. Same amount of filling as I used to have, just 2 round fajitas instead of 4 flat ones! I need a bib around my neck to eat them, but I save 260 calories by not eating the other two tortillas!
Anyway, just thinking I'd share that for next time you guys eat fajitas. Have all the filling you want - and get bibs!!!
sillygirl
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sucky scale!
So, I haven't been on in a few days and I really have to get back on track and not get complacent. I haven't done anything really bad. Saturday we had our weekly cheat meal, but it was actually not that bad as it was again taco salad with baked chips and the faux-meat strips have no fat. I don't recall exactly what I ate the last couple of days but I know that I didn't do anything really bad. The salad was the worst.
Not tracking is what I mean about getting complacent. I feel like I could start to get cocky and that's when it becomes easy to cheat.
My back is feeling better. But this is the drama of the day. I weighed myself. The same scale as Emmcookie and we think there is something wrong. I know that sounds like an excuse but I swear that there is no way I gained 7 pounds in one week when I ate nothing bad at ALL! And she supposedly gained 5 pounds, also doing really well. If I'd gone up a pound or 2 then I'd say it was possible but that's ridiculous. I've obsessed about my body long enough that I can tell if my weight goes up that dramatically. So I may have to re-do the ticker when we get a new scale.
So, I haven't been on in a few days and I really have to get back on track and not get complacent. I haven't done anything really bad. Saturday we had our weekly cheat meal, but it was actually not that bad as it was again taco salad with baked chips and the faux-meat strips have no fat. I don't recall exactly what I ate the last couple of days but I know that I didn't do anything really bad. The salad was the worst.
Not tracking is what I mean about getting complacent. I feel like I could start to get cocky and that's when it becomes easy to cheat.
My back is feeling better. But this is the drama of the day. I weighed myself. The same scale as Emmcookie and we think there is something wrong. I know that sounds like an excuse
but I swear that there is no way I gained 7 pounds in one week when I ate nothing bad at ALL! And she supposedly gained 5 pounds, also doing really well. If I'd gone up a pound or 2 then I'd say it was possible but that's ridiculous. I've obsessed about my body long enough that I can tell if my weight goes up that dramatically. So I may have to re-do the ticker when we get a new scale.
twinmom2791
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scales
scales are finicky instruments. If you move them around, they can get out of whack. If both of you are showing a gain that you don't feel, maybe that IS what happened. Here's hoping, anyway!
Hang in there and keep doing the right things. You are going to make it to your goals, no matter what kind of issues your scale has!
scales are finicky instruments. If you move them around, they can get out of whack. If both of you are showing a gain that you don't feel, maybe that IS what happened. Here's hoping, anyway!
Hang in there and keep doing the right things. You are going to make it to your goals, no matter what kind of issues your scale has!
spelin01
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UGH...I absolutely dispise the scales!!!! I have major scale issues. I went and bought a brand new one...nice digital one and it proved my scale was lying to me..unfortunaltey the old one said I was 7 lbs less than the new one....that sucked!!! So it is very probable that your scale is the problem...when you got some extra cash..get a nice new one!!! Though no matter how new they are...I will always hate them ! You have been doing incredibly well..keep up the good work and drink lots of water. Keep positive!!!!
! You have been doing incredibly well..keep up the good work and drink lots of water. Keep positive!!!!
sillygirl
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feels like starting over
Stupid, stupid scale! We got a new scale, old school non-digital so there is no mechanical issues with it. Turns out my weight is 230. Who knows what I started at, so I did up a new ticker showing my weight as it is now.
It's frustrating. Even though I know I have made some positive changes it's hard to focus on that when something like this happens. But I have to get back on track.
Yesterday I ate OK, but I can feel myself starting to slip. I ate 2 pieces of veggie pizza with soy cheese for supper, leftover Cuban black beans and brown rice from the night before for lunch and Corn Flakes for breakfast. I had a Tofutti Cutie for a snack (sort of bad but not too evil). I need to snap my mind back into determined mode.
Today is another day.
Stupid, stupid scale! We got a new scale, old school non-digital so there is no mechanical issues with it. Turns out my weight is 230. Who knows what I started at, so I did up a new ticker showing my weight as it is now.
It's frustrating. Even though I know I have made some positive changes it's hard to focus on that when something like this happens. But I have to get back on track.
Yesterday I ate OK, but I can feel myself starting to slip. I ate 2 pieces of veggie pizza with soy cheese for supper, leftover Cuban black beans and brown rice from the night before for lunch and Corn Flakes for breakfast. I had a Tofutti Cutie for a snack (sort of bad but not too evil). I need to snap my mind back into determined mode.
Today is another day.
ciaoana
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Sillygirl!! That name fits you today! I just read your journal and you are doing great!! Don't let the scale get you down... that is just a number and water weight can fluctuate 5 pounds either way....keep up the good work and thanks for your kind words in my diary! I will keep you updated! Have a happy day!