New Year, Big Goal

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LaMaria said:
What does the school say?
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She's great at school - well-behaved (other than occasional listening issues), sociable, good grades. She's mainly that way with us, but can act up around her aunt (my SIL) and my parents, cuz she's more comfortable around them and sees them more often.
 
Incidentally, we have an appointment tomorrow afternoon. Seems the therapist has been leaving VMs on my work phone, which I never check even when I'm in-office, let alone when I've been working from home a good chunk of the last week due to crummy weather.
 
You poor things. It must be so hard & would take it's toll on your whole family dynamic. I'm glad you have an appointment LJ. I hope you are able to get some help. :grouphug: Cate
 
Hi LJ,

Sorry to hear about what you are going through. I too, am glad you are getting help. So hard to deal with when it is your family. You will all get through this!
 
Please keep venting, whenever you need to. I am very sorry to hear that this situation is still going on :(. I hope that she will calm down soon.

I wish you a lot of courage, wisdom and strength to deal with this situation. Don't forget to take good care of yourself, no one benefits if you get overworked.

All the best!
 
I work with kids who supposedly have ODD - in my line of work we tend to think it's a bit of a bullshit diagnoses for "hormonal kids." A lot of the therapists I work with say that they offer that as a diagnosis when parents are keen to have some sort of label to explain the behaviours. Is she going through puberty? I was a horrible person between about 11-16 - I would scream to the point the neighbours would come round to make sure my parents weren't beating me and I would say horrible things, steal, cut myself, spit at my parents, etc. I was just full of rage for very little reason.. I grew out of it and my parents joked about it at my wedding so we can laugh about it now but at the time my parents sent me for counselling, we all just spent the whole time crying.. I can imagine it feels pretty brutal right now buddy. I'm sorry for you :(
 
Thanks for listening folks, and thanks for the feedback. We had another episode last night that started, logically enough, when she couldn't get her Barbie's hair just right. It ended with me screaming at her after locking everyone out of the bathroom for 45 minutes, followed by an hour of her crying and destroying her room (not that we could tell). This therapy session can't come soon enough. I unloaded on my wife everything I typed out yesterday, and then some, she was playing the role of listener very nice.

On the plus side, I took out my anger in the form of cleaning the dishes. Our big pot hasn't looked this shiny since we took it out of the box.

Sunflower_ said:
I work with kids who supposedly have ODD - in my line of work we tend to think it's a bit of a bullshit diagnoses for "hormonal kids." A lot of the therapists I work with say that they offer that as a diagnosis when parents are keen to have some sort of label to explain the behaviours.
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Yeah, I'm one of those people who need a label, but I'm going to see what the therapist says. I wouldn't be surprised if it was ADHD, too, for the way she acts in public. Like I said, it's a cyber diagnosis, so I could also diagnosis her with telekinesis or rickets. I can't blame hormones, she's currently 6. It started this summer after a couple weeks at a summer camp with pretty loose discipline policies. I can't say that's the only cause, but it was certainly a sharp transition from "stubborn girl" to "I hate this child" over those two weeks.

Sigh... anyway, weight loss, right? Yeah, I ate too much yesterday cuz it was V-Day, and I was reasonable in the garbage I did eat and ate OK during the day leading up to it. I didn't have time to exercise, so I'm going to catch up today.
 
Ahh she's 6. Yeah..too early for the hormone fun..that's still to come ;)

Well, keep venting lovely. We are here for you. Hope V - Day was nice at least xx
 
If this is a preview to the teenage years, I'm shipping her to a convent or military school, holy moly. My glimmer of hope comes from the nurse who drew my blood a couple months ago. Her nightmare 6-yr-old daughter became a kind and responsible teenager.
 
All I can say LJ is I really really hope that therapy will help get to the bottom of your daughter's behaviour. I really feel for you. Our youngest son was a difficult child & I know how hard it was. All the best with it- fingers & toes crossed! xoxo
 
LaMaria said:
See? There's hope. People are very flexible when they're six I hear.
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Physically? :D

Thanks again for the support, folks, I truly appreciate it. We had a meeting with a social worker / therapist, she just asked us the questions we expected, and we're coming back next week for an outlined plan for making things better. Daughter was actually well-behaved all night last night, one minor bicker moment that was well within reasonable constraints.

So now that we have that light/tunnel thing, I need to get my own tunnel pointed to the sunshine again. I haven't been too good the last few days, too many "aw, fuggit" moments this week, the last of which was lunch today when I said "aw, fuggit, pizza." I don't think I'm going to row tonight, either, I'm too ill feeling - sickness has invaded the Littles again, and I got it this time. Nothing too hideous, just a lot of brutal coughing that kept me up last night. Also, that pizza isn't sitting too well.
 
LaMaria said:
Downward dog will do it.
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Post of the week!

I'm fighting a cold - the symptoms are basically mucus hanging out in the windpipe and easy fatigue. Two great things for exercise. This has been a bad exercise week. On the plus side, I haven't been too hungry as a result, so I'm keeping the calories low.

Not too much else to report today, hope everyone has a good weekend!
 
Blah, this cold is the worst. Couldn't exercise since the slightest increase in breathing intensity triggers a coughing fit for the ages, which in turn triggers a headache. I'm still fighting it with drugs and water. On the plus side, I have barely an appetite, so I'm eating to survive, not much more than that. I'm down to my lowest weight this year as of this morning. Tomorrow's an official weigh-in day.
 
The weigh-in was good this morning, I'm at 347.6, which has me down nearly 20 lbs since I started in early January. This is after a nearly one-month plateau, and I need to be more vigilant about what I'm eating moving forward. I was "lucky" cuz of the cold causing me to lose my appetite for nearly a week (and still going today, but it is starting to fade out finally).

I think I'll be able to start working out again today, which is good news since the lack of it is contributing to my cranky mood lately (also coughing fits and inability to breath keeping me from sleeping solidly).

Anyway, going to keep riding the low appetite wave and eat to survive since nothing is especially appealing. A hard-boiled egg for breakfast, soup for lunch, salad for dinner.
 
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