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Sunflower said:
So, um, you guys know each other in real life, huh? :p
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You could call it that...

Once upon a time almost a lifetime ago a couple of teenagers met each other during some pretty adverse times they we going through and ended up sort of lighting up each other's worlds for a time... Rough times though, lots of pressures from friends, family etc... like I said, adversity... they ended up having different lives, marriages, etc. Twenty plus years later a message and friend request on FB shows up and a couple of people in their 40's reconnect and become good friends...
 
anna.banana said:
Yum and hi!

I will definately have a fresh spinach salad today. I have a friend on those blood thinners and it really impacts his life. I feel for you!

Your talk about getting more 'girlie' really struck a chord with me. I've been focusing a bit more on wearing brighter colours, and nice perfume etc. I used to just wear bland bland blah outifts not wanting to show myself off. Its such a change eh.

Anna
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so glad to hear you are enjoying yourself and focusing on allowing yourself to realise you dont have to wear bland and blah!! keep this going, even o n a day you wouldn't normally..

ahhh, how was the spinach salad???
 
Yummy, I made a greek salad (sorry to rub it in!) and it was good.

To make you feel better I could tell you about my allergy to stonefruit and apples ... sigh...

Anna
 
Hi Moonbeamish,

I'm glad to hear you're going great :) and I think it's fantastic you're finding that 'inner girlie'. I really struggle with that too, I always wear mens t-shirts and jeans every day. I'm really going to make an effort to buy girlie clothes when the weight is down a bit more. I started with the mens t-shirts to cover up a dodgy tattoo (armband) I got when I was 18, but a few months ago I finally had it all fixed up and it looks cool, so now I can stop being self concious about it and wear shorter sleeves. Only thing is my arms are fluro white for being covered up for 15 years!!! :hurray:
 
Hey moonbeamish, just stopping in to say hello and wish you well on your journey!

I've recently got back into cycling too...bought a road bike about 7 years ago and its languished in the cellar, then got lent to a friend for a year. Now I have it back and I'm really enjoying it ("someone" I know likes cycling too, hahahah I'm so easily led by men!!). All good motivational stuff though!

I can't imagine how it must be having come through bullemia and out the other side. I have bad enough issues about my view of my body and my relationship with food anyway, let alone to have to throw something like that into the melting pot. Good on you for coming through it and also for wanting to be here and lose weight/maintain the healthy way.

The whole feminine/girly thing is so true. The bigger I was, the more asexual I felt - you feel invisible, like no-one is looking at you anyway, so you tend to hide. The irony is I love boyish clothes - pair of ripped faded jeans and a mans shirt, but I KNOW that they look really cute and feminine on skinny ladies not on jumbo mamas!!!! So weirdly part of my goal is to look feminine and great in those kinds of clothes!! But I am also having fun starting to rediscover the bright pinks and more feminine colours as well as tentatively dipping a toe in the big frightening sea of dresses and skirts!!!!
 
anna.banana said:
Yummy, I made a greek salad (sorry to rub it in!) and it was good.

To make you feel better I could tell you about my allergy to stonefruit and apples ... sigh...

Anna
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hey there! i'm so glad you enjoyed your salad!! no need to be sorry, i like when people enjoy something, i can enjoy for and with you. even if it is a salad!!


when i was much younger i was allergic to all chocolate except white, and strawberries. i outgrew the chocolate allergy woo hoo!! now the strawberries, i'm not so sure about. i can have frozen, just not fresh. i may have outgrown, just scaredy cat to try...
 
jjjay said:
Hey moonbeamish, just stopping in to say hello and wish you well on your journey!

I've recently got back into cycling too...bought a road bike about 7 years ago and its languished in the cellar, then got lent to a friend for a year. Now I have it back and I'm really enjoying it ("someone" I know likes cycling too, hahahah I'm so easily led by men!!). All good motivational stuff though!

I can't imagine how it must be having come through bullemia and out the other side. I have bad enough issues about my view of my body and my relationship with food anyway, let alone to have to throw something like that into the melting pot. Good on you for coming through it and also for wanting to be here and lose weight/maintain the healthy way.

The whole feminine/girly thing is so true. The bigger I was, the more asexual I felt - you feel invisible, like no-one is looking at you anyway, so you tend to hide. The irony is I love boyish clothes - pair of ripped faded jeans and a mans shirt, but I KNOW that they look really cute and feminine on skinny ladies not on jumbo mamas!!!! So weirdly part of my goal is to look feminine and great in those kinds of clothes!! But I am also having fun starting to rediscover the bright pinks and more feminine colours as well as tentatively dipping a toe in the big frightening sea of dresses and skirts!!!!
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ahh, yes the ripped and faded jeans....is that the angels singing???:Angel_anim: add a sexy high heel to go with those...nice! actually a dress can hide a multitude of sins which have not been moved away yet!!

what i have been discovering, even if your not at the point of where you want to be. if you dress a bit now as in your minds goal you want to see you will start adding the 'sexy' factor to your psyche. this will come across to others, make sense?

thank you on the kind words. yes bulimia was very difficult. there were situations (which we all have) where i had no control and had to just take what was decided (not by me). this is where i thought i could have control...funny how this even overtook and i no longer had control of the binge/purge cycle. but yes i did beat it!!
 
healthyjess said:
Hi Moonbeamish,

I'm glad to hear you're going great :) and I think it's fantastic you're finding that 'inner girlie'. I really struggle with that too, I always wear mens t-shirts and jeans every day. I'm really going to make an effort to buy girlie clothes when the weight is down a bit more. I started with the mens t-shirts to cover up a dodgy tattoo (armband) I got when I was 18, but a few months ago I finally had it all fixed up and it looks cool, so now I can stop being self concious about it and wear shorter sleeves. Only thing is my arms are fluro white for being covered up for 15 years!!! :hurray:
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why thank you :) girl go get yourself something girly!! go right now, turn off the puter and go!!! seriously, if you want that girly side to come out let her shine! even if it is just a cute lil nightie to wear to bed. step by step she will. im so glad to see you modified something to look good for you! kinda like the rest of you, huh?! :cheers2:
 
thecabbie said:
You could call it that...

Once upon a time almost a lifetime ago a couple of teenagers met each other during some pretty adverse times they we going through and ended up sort of lighting up each other's worlds for a time... Rough times though, lots of pressures from friends, family etc... like I said, adversity... they ended up having different lives, marriages, etc. Twenty plus years later a message and friend request on FB shows up and a couple of people in their 40's reconnect and become good friends...
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the world of internet is fantastic!!

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I'm finally getting around to finding your journal and reading thru it. Just wanted to say welcome to the forum! Nice to have you here!
 
thank you very much tigpuppy!! i look forward to learning about everyone's journey thus far..cabs said this is where i would find the cool kids!!




why yes i am. i am younger than you!! thank you Karl for reminding me of this fact!!

brat? what brat? ;)
 
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I can so relate to getting more girlie. I used to hide myself in baggy clothes which were often my mum's cast offs and didn't even put make up on if I went out. I felt as though if I looked a mess it was ok because that's the way I chose to look but if I tried to dress up and still looked awful that people would look at me and wonder why I even bothered. I hated anybody saying that I looked nice because I didn't believe them and thought that they were being condescending so didn't put myself in that situation. I love it now when I dress up and somebody says that I look nice.
 
moonbeamish said:
why thank you :) girl go get yourself something girly!! go right now, turn off the puter and go!!! seriously, if you want that girly side to come out let her shine! even if it is just a cute lil nightie to wear to bed. step by step she will. im so glad to see you modified something to look good for you! kinda like the rest of you, huh?! :cheers2:
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Thanks Moonbeamish! I took your advice and went and bought a cute purple LADIES shirt with feathers printed on it. No man sleeves!
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Bit by bit I'll get there, you're right :)
 
ecky said:
I can so relate to getting more girlie. I used to hide myself in baggy clothes which were often my mum's cast offs and didn't even put make up on if I went out. I felt as though if I looked a mess it was ok because that's the way I chose to look but if I tried to dress up and still looked awful that people would look at me and wonder why I even bothered. I hated anybody saying that I looked nice because I didn't believe them and thought that they were being condescending so didn't put myself in that situation. I love it now when I dress up and somebody says that I look nice.
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and you know what?? you do look nice, i'm sure of it!!! you have to believe this as well, ok?
 
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