nataliejo's diary: Moving, flowing, grooving forward... change is coming...

Hi Natalie jo,

That's really good advice from Maleficient (so good I am going to do it myself - thanks).

I used to have a walking buddy and we went walking 3 days a week together and she was a tough walker actually - slim and more like a drill sargeant, but it sure got me going. She has 2 kids and I would drive to her house in the morning and off we would go. When I no longer had access to a car, she wouldn't drive to me and once I tried to walk to her, but that was a 45 minute walk, and then the hour and a half walk we did, and then 45 minute home, plus I first had to walk our dogs, so it meant getting up at 5am, and finishing exercising at 9am or thereabouts. So yep, it was once and once only.

A walking buddy is a great motivator, as long as they are committed. You don't want someone who will let you down, because if you get that text message 'not up for it today' more often than not, you will go 'well neither am i' instead of going on your own. So check she has the same commitment as you. Because it is nice to share with someone and have a bit of company. I hope that it works for you.

I am lucky in that the dogs are a great motiavator for me. They simply need it. And I am sorry you have had such a hard time lately, but you have lost a significant amount of weight, and so you can do it. And walking has been one of the best things for my depression I can tell you. I can't believe it took me so long to figure it out. But I just love looking around the neighbourhood first thing in the morning and with all the rain at the minute, there aren't that many people out and I love that.

Just put on the shoes and get out there - seriously, you will love it.

Big hug,

Frankie
 
maleficent said:
Keep with consistent behavior and it's not hard... if you think it will be hard then it will - don't psych yourself out before you even get started...
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Mal .. your right! I need to write a list and post it on the cabinets to remind myself everynight and day why I need and want to do this ..

thanks hun
love yas
always
natalie jo :seeya:
 
Hi Natalie Jo

Both Mal and Frankie make excellent points.

I would certainly go out walking with your friend when she is available. But go out by yourself too. Do not become dependant on her.

Remember - you have more to gain than your friend by losing weight. She may just be obese or overweight - and her main concern may be
a/ being attractive to men
b/ being able to wear nice clothes

You have so much more to gain. Never let any apathy that she develops put you off going for your target weight.

Obviously you have A and B above. More importantly you probably have a much greater health incentive. I am sure that the PCOS related risks will diminish as your weight reduces. You know that these are serious health risks - and we dont want any of them if we can help it. Your risk of getting a lot of very nasty things will be a lot greater than her risk.

Do not let her divert you from the path that you know that you should follow.

For many years I mistakenly believed that it was impossible for a PCOS lady to lose a large quantity of weight - but I was wrong. If I can do it - you can do it. We are in this together.

Whenever I find myself questioning whether it is possible for me to lose this weight - I look at a website and it always helps me believe.



Charlie went from 616 pounds to 196 pounds in two years without an operation or medication. He just ate sensibly and walked a lot - like we do.

Google the name "Charlie Walduck" to read more about him.

Fire it up and read it again and again. If Charlie can do it - so can we.

My other idea is based on Frankie's reply to you. I know how much you love animals. Would it be possible for you to get a lovely big dog that you could take walking every day. He would be wonderful company and would be sure to love a walk. Men take dogs walking in the park too - so it could be an alternative way of meeting nice young men. We have all seen 101 Dalmations and know how the dogs got the people together. You could also make less romantically interesting new friends (that like walking) that way.

I hope that it helps.

Take care:hug2:
Love
Margaret
 
Hey hun,

Oh, you're lacking motivation...so am I.

I read a quote the other day at work though, my manager left a copy in my mailbox.

"They did not know it was impossible, so they did it"- Mark Twain

I know things seem unrealistic and not possible sometimes, but we can do this NJ. We can do it. There is *nothing*, absolutely *nothing* stopping you from losing the weight. You owe this to yourself!

You want to look good, you want to be an absolute sex-bomb, you want to be healthy, you want to do this. Now or never.

Love,
Misty
 
:seeya: NJ
I like Margaret's idea of getting a doggie to go walking with! Or asking a neighbor if you can take her dog for a walk.

I chuckled when I read that you enjoy walking in the snow! You'd make a fine Canuck, girlie! It's not the snow I mind so much as that blasted ice! Scary.

I love having a walking partner in my Mom. She is my greatest support. But I also really enjoy my time alone on my treadmill, or out walking alone if Mom is busy. There is something to be said for solitude - just not all the time! We do need other people, don't we? ;)

I'm glad you were encouraged by the nurse's response to your weight loss! And you should be! Just keep up with MINDFUL eating and exercising regularly, and you know what will happen. Suddenly the Man Candy at Starbucks will all be :drool5: over you!

Cheers, my friend
Janice
 
Called my dad!

Hiya gals,

Well I called my dad and started to allow the rain pour over my eyes. He was almost off the phone and I told him about my break up with Alex.

A few days ago Alex said he noticed a girl. He didn't notice much, except that she was thin. And he said "Thats the most important thing"

We are friends, but that statement bugged me from the get go and now it is dictating what I do. I feel like its not possibly for me, myself, and I to lose weight. I couldn't satisfy my ex, how can I satisfy myself, nor anyone else. I so wish to do this. To be this. To love myself enough to walk in a winterwonderland. I shovelled today, man was it work, kind of sort of... it was fun, but still I am not happy today, not depressed, just melencholey over my predicament. I have homework and health work. Things are piling up and all I keep thinking is can I do this? Everything? My dreams and aspirations. Can I do this life? My life? They way I wish to for the rest of my life? Is it possible for someone as fat as me .... 294 pounds to lose weight ... when I didn't even go out my door today, except to shovel the snow.. which is excersize ..but I don't consider it exersize ...never ...

My word .. my life is just a train ready to fly off track ..wait ..it has flow off the track .. I'm at the controls ..but can't quite pull it back off ..stop it before it goes so over that I can't do anything, except weep in the end...

My word.. I am so down..
Frankie I know you are right. Walking can make you happy. Maybe I will walk tonight ...with a flash light to guide my way. It is so dark out and snow has covered the street. The plow cannot take the snow off the ground ..it trully is a winter wonderland ...

maybe I just need to go ...walk ...finish the papers ...do what I so wish to do and it will kick me up out of this horrible meloncholy and bring me to the point where my train will get realighned and back on track ..where the world ..is so pleasant ... in my life

love you all
natalie jo :seeya:
 
Hey Natalie jo,

First off, am reaching through this computer giving you a big hug.

Second, now hope you can feel this - I am holding your hand. Now you are not walking alone.

Frankie
 
Hiya NJ

Sorry to see your feeling so down,
nataliejo said:
A few days ago Alex said he noticed a girl. He didn't notice much, except that she was thin. And he said "Thats the most important thing"
We are friends, but that statement bugged me from the get go and now it is dictating what I do.
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I dont think being friends with him is best for you and your thoughts what a stupid statment to make full stop im not even going into that i think you really should consider telling him you need a total break or you may nt be able to move on


nataliejo said:
I so wish to do this.
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And you will, your just not mentally in the right place at the moment you have so much going on and dealing with a breakup is hard but you will do it you will be the positive person determind to meet the target you set for Jan

nataliejo said:
Is it possible for someone as fat as me .... 294 pounds to lose weight ... when I didn't even go out my door today, except to shovel the snow..
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YES YES YES and you know it is possible its not easy but it can be done concentrat on your eating keep a food diary it makes me think 2ce before i eat anything as i look up the cals first, why not carry on with your walks walking in the snow is great i love it...shame we dont get that much snow well any snow really or the excerise dvd's you have do one of them 3 times a week even once is better than none and heading in the right direction

Hope your feeling better about eveything soon
Take care
Sarah
 
Hiya Misty!

misty22 said:
Hey hun,

Oh, you're lacking motivation...so am I.

I read a quote the other day at work though, my manager left a copy in my mailbox.

"They did not know it was impossible, so they did it"- Mark Twain

I know things seem unrealistic and not possible sometimes, but we can do this NJ. We can do it. There is *nothing*, absolutely *nothing* stopping you from losing the weight. You owe this to yourself!

You want to look good, you want to be an absolute sex-bomb, you want to be healthy, you want to do this. Now or never.

Love,
Misty
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Hey Misty,

This quote is awesome:

"They did not know it was impossible, so they did it"- Mark Twain

Anyway... I have decided its time I got off my duff and did this and did it for good. Losing weight is like an uphill climb. I can believe how hard it is. I have mostly bad days, but that quote really ... well I love it ..
thanks

love yas
always
natalie jo :grouphug:
 
frankie said:
Hey Natalie jo,

First off, am reaching through this computer giving you a big hug.

Second, now hope you can feel this - I am holding your hand. Now you are not walking alone.

Frankie
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Oh Frankie,
Thank you so much hun.. I really needed that. I have been feeling so alone. This girl I am hanging out with ...is ... not realizing that she is gaining enormous amount of weight ...

she has gone from a size nine in shoe...to a size ten and people keep telling her she is pregnant ... she is only 195 at 5'4, but she said she gained weight on her last med. She gained 75 pounds. Wait, she said she weighed 95 pounds...so I could see why the doctor gave her the med, but now she has gained a bit too much and she is off it, but still going up, which is what happened to me. It started small ...a little there, a little here... and than wham .. I gained forty pounds from Zyprexa ...a med for bipolar...

Anyway ...so med weight is so hard to lose, and I just seem to be on this balancing beem trying to balance everything and not being very successful ..but thanks for the hug Frankie ...

**Hugs** back to you! :) :grouphug:
 
rah said:
Hiya NJ

Sorry to see your feeling so down,

I dont think being friends with him is best for you and your thoughts what a stupid statment to make full stop im not even going into that i think you really should consider telling him you need a total break or you may nt be able to move on



And you will, your just not mentally in the right place at the moment you have so much going on and dealing with a breakup is hard but you will do it you will be the positive person determind to meet the target you set for Jan


YES YES YES and you know it is possible its not easy but it can be done concentrat on your eating keep a food diary it makes me think 2ce before i eat anything as i look up the cals first, why not carry on with your walks walking in the snow is great i love it...shame we dont get that much snow well any snow really or the excerise dvd's you have do one of them 3 times a week even once is better than none and heading in the right direction

Hope your feeling better about eveything soon
Take care
Sarah
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Hey Sarah!
I am so happy you stopped in! You know when I see "Rah" has posted in my journal I think of
"Rawr" like a tigeress .. lol
Your kick butt girl!
now I need to start kicking butt! lol
ttylater hun
love yas
always
natalie jo :grouphug:
 
I'm Ready!

I'm Ready!
Hello gals,
Well I have yet to walk in the snow, but I have been doing a lot of driving. Well my new friend has. Her name is Helene. She is half Hawaian and half Jewish. Interesting combination, but she celebrates Christmas. She absolutely loves Christmas. I am going to buy her a gift, but not sure what. Something to do with The ocean. She did her livingroom as if it was an ocean. So I may go to Walmart and check out what they have there for themes. They have some pretty cool stuff when it comes to putting themes in your rooms. Or I could get her one of those large bowls for candles and get her the floating candles. That would be a neat idea. Michaels, or ACMoore might have fish floating candles. I must look online at their catalogues.

Well I am ready! Ready to jump back on the track and start my weight loss up again and cause my weight to go down. I have been walking around today a little and after snowing a little today, the sun came out ...a sure sign it was time.

So tomorrow I am going out after I come back from being with mom at the hair dressers and I am going to take a walk. Don't know how long, but going to shoot for thirty minutes as a start. I think that is a good start...and than to continue. By next month move it up to an hour a day... Forty five minutes in two weeks...
its harder to walk in snow, but I can do it!

but anyway..
so its more than a plan... Its a doable thing... and I am going to!!!:party:

ttylater folks
love you all always

love yas
always
natalie jo :grouphug:
 
Icarus...

Hello peeps,
Well I was on nolongerlonely.com today. Just checking whats going on in the proverbial house that I belong so much toooo lol

but Nothing much, except this guy who has a nic, "Icarus" wrote me. He is into literature, art, sculpting, etc. I think he would be a great friend. He lives too far away for anything else, but chatting would be fun!

But anyway it says he is muscular. Why would someone so in shape be interesting in a "fat" girl like me? Do you think its so it makes him feel better.. hmm ..makes me wonder ...

but anyway ..so I sent him a message saying hi and that I was only interested in a friendship ..he seems really cool .. I hope I hear from him ..

Tomorrow I am going to mom's hairdresser with her. Mother/daughter time .. have to be up at seven am ..the drive there is forty five minutes ...

so ... I am waiting for her to come home so I can give Dookie, my guinea pig his Romaine Lettuce and apple ...

He loves the two ..but I need to figure out what to feed him during the day .. I think I will feed him apple than too ..he seems to step right onto the ring of the apple and just chomp away ..it is so cute!

well ttylater folks
love yas
always
natalie jo
Well tomorrow will be my first walk in ages .. hopefully the legs and back won't be in too much pain ..but hey ..must push through it ...

love yas
always
natalie jo :):grouphug::grouphug::grouphug:
 
I did 15 Minutes, in the dark! :)

Hello everyone,
Well I was just sitting in front of this puter and just ..pondering whether to get my butt up and walk or write on here, about how I didn't go walking ..

and well ..
I didn't want to put myself down anymore by not going ...so ... I released my cup on the mouse, listened to part of a new christmas carol ...by the Barenaked Ladies...
and I just realized ..."now is the time ... now or never... "

So I arose from my seat, found my boots ...put on a jacket ... had a sweater on ..put my gloves hat scarf ...grabbed a bottle of water... and walked for fifteen minutes around a few blocks ... It was all uphill ...except for the very last couple minutes .. otherwise all uphill .. my heart was racing ..my butt hurt ...my leg hurt a little .. I definitely needed the swift kick in the ass by the cold ...

I realize now that I can't put off losing weight ..not a chance .. I need to do it now more than ever ... Tomorrow ... I will walk longer than fifteen minutes ... don't know how much more ...but I am going with the flow .. I am determined ... but it will take time to build myself up for heavier walking ...but it is still heavy ..


walking over ice and snow was mad! and trudging through the snow was hard! But I did it ...not long ..but I did!
and tomorrow is another day to go walking ... for more than fifteen minutes ..def .. I enjoyed it ... it was pitch black ...but it was awesome ..seeing the glare of the lights against the snow ... nice!

my neck is cold! Yea!!!!!!!!!!!!

ttylater
and ABBA girl and Omega .. I was thinking of you two ..oh and Rah ...
I was thinking of you all!!:coolgleamA:

love yas
always :seeya:
natalie jo
 
Hi Natalie Jo

Good girl for going out for that walk.

That is what you need to do.

Do not believe that it is an impossible task. It is not impossible.

If you get to wonder if it is possible go and look at those photos of me again (link p21 of my diary). I was 294 pounds at the start of the year.

It is hard. It is very hard work. But you can do it.

As I write this I am wet after having got home 10 minutes ago from walking 6.3 miles in the pouring rain.

I am going to go and get changed in a minute - but my legs are tired so I am resting and looking at the computer for a few minutes before I go to get changed.

It is very hard work. But nothing worth having in life comes too easy and we must not confuse the impossible with the difficult to achieve.

I must admit that I agree with Sarah - it sounds like remaining friends with Alex is not working - not least because his inability to consider your feelings does not make him a true friend to you at the minute. It may be that things will change with time - but currently I cannot see what you gain by maintaining this "friendship".

Take care
Love
Margaret
 
Natalie Jo: I have to agree with everyone else here who says don't give up. I'm sure we all have our moments when it feels like life is just hard work, sometimes joyless, often disappointing. There's plenty of challenges without adding more (like, a weight loss goal). But, a lifetime is really just one day after another, and anything can happen. If you can control ONE day at a time, getting yourself just one step closer to where you want to be, then you can reach your goals. Keep the faith :)
 
Everyone has left such lovely comments, and I couldn’t agree more with them. You shouldn’t give up or let other people’s comments slow you down. It’s easy said than done, but I’m glad you’re motivated again!

You’re definitely an inspiration for us procrastinators, or rather us: people-who-would-have-seen-the-snow-and-gone-back-in-for-soup xD I’m sure it felt great once you got going though!

Good luck :)
 
Hey hunny :) Haven't been in here in a bit, sorry bout that :( I agree with Snapshot- You are TOTALLY an inspiration, because ha! I flippin have a free gym membership that I haven't used in a month... how rediculous... I liked your comment about not putting it off anymore. Not a chance. Thats how we should ALL be!! We're killin ourselves if we don't do something about it. You are a freakishly strong person to deal with everything you deal with and STILL fight for yourself. Keep it up hunny. You are doing a FABULOUS job.
 
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