My food + exercise + venting space

I think the majority of all that is over. Wade's parents are here, I don't know what was said but he is going back to WA with them next week. We are refusing to ever see him again so his parents are picking his crap up on Friday and we will have a discussion about financial stuff/ rent etc. Just don't ever want to speak to them or deal with them ever again.

In other news I'm actually really good friends now with his other close friend, she had to go through all this with me. We'd never really spoken together before because (as we discovered after speaking) Wade had been saying nasty things about each of us to each other so we'd never get together and compare stories. So manipulative. She's coming over for dinner tomorrow night now and to my birthday!!

Had to defer my course till next semester which sucks, I was so excited about it. No way around it, don't have the money anymore to buy all the stuff I need right now and you can't have more than 2 days off per term or you fail. Some good news though, I had a phone call about a job on Mon so fingers crossed that goes somewhere!

I've eaten really well yesterday and today, went to the gym and trained chest/shoulders/tris.

Right back into it tomorrow, I'll make sure I'm here and really on top of this! Now Wade is gone there's a huge load off stress off my shoulders. Didn't realise how dark and gloomy it always felt when he was here, the last few months in particular.

Diary is going to be ALL POSITIVE stuff now!!!
 
So glad to hear things have resolved themselves. Poor parents... Your new friend must be a wonderful person or she wouldn´t have supported W through all this crap. So there´s your silver lining ;) Good luck with the job thing!
 
Phew! That's a big relief Lucy. It's bad luck about having to defer, but it is also something to look forward to. Good luck for the job interview!
 
Thanks guys!! Just going to update quickly before I start work. It's a new week (mine kind of start on Thursday haha) and going to start posting every day again!

B Overnight oats
S 1/3 avocado and 2 vita weats
L beef and salad wrap
S 50g mixed seeds and nuts, 1/2 cup grapes
D 130g pulled chicken breast, kaleslaw, miso salad dressing

Exercise Pilates barre (I love these classes)
 
I don't think you ever realize how bad things were until you get out of the negative situations. Welcome to your new normal! May bright days and cheerful times be all you have to deal with for a while!
 
Aw thanks Oaks!! And I completely agree!!!

My sister is having kind of a mirror of our current situation... only at the conclusion of ours, she rang and said she's leaving her husband. He's been cheating on her and is taking my nephew and living with my parents. We had the exact same discussion, she knew what was going on but kept trying to justify staying until she couldn't anymore. So both of us are getting out of toxic situations at the same time!

Last night was pretty bad food-wise, I keep seeming to justify the cheat meal I get every week as a pass for having a massive binge instead of just having a cheat meal. THAT has to stop. Though I know in my head if I'm on point the rest of the week I'll still lose weight, it's definitely hampering my efforts and making me feel like crap immediately afterward. Cheat meals are ok, binges are not! Also because it was the start of a new week I have to be perfect for 6 days in a row, and I was going to save my cheat meal for Sat night as it's a friends birthday and we're going to a restaurant. Sooo while they're all having burgers and cocktails, I will be having a salad... and sparkling water... (brought this on myself! Haha)

Didn't make it to Pilates last night either!!! So bad. I think I'm just stressed about tonight, Wade's parents are picking up the rest of his stuff and discussing some financial loose ends then we don't have to hear anymore about it EVER AGAIN. I'll block them all on every device and social media network.

Food plan today

B 2 eggs, 2 egg whites with homemade guacamole (1 small avocado, 1 small chopped tomato, fresh coriander, cumin, cayenne, lime juice, salt), 1/4 cup chopped turkey sausage all kind of rolled up together
S Celery sticks, carrot sticks, 40g tahini
L 130g herbed pulled chicken, 1 cup coleslaw mix, 1 cup leafy salad mix, 1/2 cup baked sweet potato, 1 tbsp. homemade miso salad dressing
S Chia pudding with 1/2 cup grapes
Post workout Protein shake
D Baked fajita casserole (I do this in 4 serves, one for tonight and one for tomorrows lunch then the rest is frozen for next week)

Exercise Back day at the gym!
 
O wow, some real turmoil in the family :( But always better to have it resolve itself than to keep it dragging on. Your meals sound delicious, as always :)
 
Sorry I should have read more of the later part of your diary before saying what I did. I meant congratulations on your weight loss and the gym work. So sorry to hear about your current problems!!!
 
cowboy48 said:
Hi. I remember your diary from way back. Wow you have come a long way. Congratulations!!
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Thank you, definitely much fitter than I used to be!


LaMaria said:
O wow, some real turmoil in the family :( But always better to have it resolve itself than to keep it dragging on. Your meals sound delicious, as always :)
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I guess it's good all this stuff is getting resolved now though.
I try to make my food as tasty as possible!!

cowboy48 said:
Sorry I should have read more of the later part of your diary before saying what I did. I meant congratulations on your weight loss and the gym work. So sorry to hear about your current problems!!!
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All good, I don't usually have to rant as much as I have been recently. Hoping life will be dead boring again now!!!
 
Perfect day yesterday, today has been awesome too.


Did pilates this morning with SM and afterward ducked into a shop next door, they sell active wear and stuff geared towards yoga/pilates and the stuff in there is amazing!!! I bought a very bright pair of tights for half price that I love and a candle.

Going to a birthday dinner tonight, will just be eating salad.

Todays food

-B green smoothie
-S 2 celery sticks with 40g tahini
-L leftover mexican beans and rice with veg
-S 1/2 cup grapes, 50g mixed nuts and seeds
-D Chicken salad with dressing on the side

-Exercise 1hr Pilates class
 
Finished yesterday well, my salad was nice. I'm glad I opted for that instead of a burger bowl, the burgers there were these crazy stacked things on brioche buns. Even without the bun it would've upset my nutritionist :smilielol5:

Today I'm working 11-4, that's about it. Weather has been obscenely humid as we've been having storms every day. Pretty over it right now. I might still walk to work, we'll see.

Food plan for today

B Almond meal pancake (this came out more like a scone than a pancake but was pretty good) with strawberries
S 1/3 avocado, 2 vita weats
L 130g pulled chicken breast, coleslaw mix, homemade miso dressing
S Chia pudding with blueberries
D 130g slow cooked pulled beef with gravy made from pan juices with green beans and broccoli

Exercise Today is a rest day but I might end up walking either to or from work, we'll see.
 
Hi Lucy. Do you feel things are settling down a bit now that Wade has gone? You sound much better xo
 
cate said:
Hi Lucy. Do you feel things are settling down a bit now that Wade has gone? You sound much better xo
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We did have a meeting with just his parents on Fri evening, just to discuss the financial stuff to do with the house. That was all fine but his parents made me pretty angry regarding Wade, they read Ash and myself a list of things that made Wade amazing and that he was just having a mental break. Made me angry as I felt like they just hadn't listened properly when Jackie and I had spoken to them- completely disregards the fact he's been doing this since I first met him 6 years ago and that nothing he's ever said to me has been true. They're definitely making out like we're the bad guys in all this for not sticking by him. The truth is Wade never really existed, I have no idea who that person is. He is a fabrication of his own making. He absolutely has his parents eating out of his hand now too, we told them to be wary of everything he says but they seem to think he's suddenly fixed now he's with them and has had one counselling appointment. I think they're of the opinion that the would never lie to them or something, I don't know.

I do have his parents coming over for an hour tomorrow, they're having his bed and fridge removed and they're cleaning his bedroom and bathroom for us. It's definitely much nicer here without him but I'm not going to be completely happy till he's actually gone back to Perth.
 
Parents have to try to see the good in their offspring for their own well-being. We see the bad, but life is just too hard if we focus on that. I can understand them, even if they are well & truly wrong about their son. Your life will be better when he & they are well & truly gone from your lives Lucy. That won't be long now. He won't be your problem then & they will have to cope. It is so bloody hard being a parent but is also very joyful.
Do the best you can when they are there. They will need to be strong.
Take care honey xo
 
O man... I think it´s great that they still see the good in him (and the fact that they made a list of good things probably means they´re having an awful lot of trouble doing so), but I also really hope they´re more careful than they let on. As sad as it is: compulsive liars (and I´m going to assume that he is one for the sake of this post) need to get called out on their lies consistently if they are to find their way back to our world.
 
cate said:
Parents have to try to see the good in their offspring for their own well-being. We see the bad, but life is just too hard if we focus on that. I can understand them, even if they are well & truly wrong about their son. Your life will be better when he & they are well & truly gone from your lives Lucy. That won't be long now. He won't be your problem then & they will have to cope. It is so bloody hard being a parent but is also very joyful.
Do the best you can when they are there. They will need to be strong.
Take care honey xo
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I actually had a conversation with a lady at work about all this and she has 4 grown sons... she said the exact same thing. I only hope that they don't trust him so they are the ones taking him to appointments and being there every step of the way or he will never get any help.

LaMaria said:
O man... I think it´s great that they still see the good in him (and the fact that they made a list of good things probably means they´re having an awful lot of trouble doing so), but I also really hope they´re more careful than they let on. As sad as it is: compulsive liars (and I´m going to assume that he is one for the sake of this post) need to get called out on their lies consistently if they are to find their way back to our world.
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I think it's more than compulsive lying to be honest, he's very manipulative and we have evidence he may have been hurting and purposely scaring our cats. I'm really just glad he's gone and hope his parents make sure he's getting help!
 
Yesterday was another perfect day, so 4 down this week and 3 to go.

Wade's parents came this morning and had his furniture removed and cleaned his bedroom and bathroom. I thought it was going to be a quick job but they were here just over 3 hours! At least it's done now and we shouldn't have to see them again.

It's just started storming here again today! Has been for nearly a week straight. The thunder scared me as it's sunny outside and I wasn't expecting it. Lucky I have no plans other than gym now!!!

I've signed up for a cooking class with a friend- LY- it's a healthy Thai cooking class and it's at the end of March. I'm pretty excited about it, I'm hoping to do a heap of different cooking classes this year!

Food plan for today

B Overnight oats with stewed strawberries (this was so yummy)
S 2 celery sticks with 40g tahini
L Leftovers from last night- pulled beef and gravy, green beans, cauliflower, peas, plus half a cup of sweet potato
S 50g mixed nuts and seeds, 1/2 cup frozen cherries
Post workout Protein shake
D Chicken curry with carrots, spinach and onion with 1/2 cup mixed red and brown rice

Exercise- Leg day!
 
LaMa I'm so excited about the cooking class!! It's a health retreat place that takes it, they also do vegetarian/vegan cooking classes (the Thai food isn't vegetarian though). I just like how they go through things, they tell you about all the ingredients you're using and their healing properties. It sounds like a lot of fun!!

Today was another perfect dayyyyyy!!! (2 to go!) Leg workout was hard, went for an hour. SM and I both had shaky legs when we walked out of the gym! I'm sure I'll be sore tomorrow. Wore my new tights I bought after Pilates, I LOVE THEM. They are amazing, I'm totally buying all my gym clothes from there from now on. Cheaper than Lorna Jane, so much nicer and a local brand. Love it!

Tomorrow I don't have any great/ amazing plans, I have a beauty appointment in the afternoon at 3 and that's it. Might try and read a huge chunk of my book!

Food plan for tomorrow

B Eggs with guacamole and turkey sausage
S 2 hard boiled eggs, 1 cup rainbow salad, 1 tsp homemade dressing
L Leftover curry and rice
S Chia pudding with homemade stewed apples
Post workout Protein shake
D Salmon, kaleslaw and potatoes

Exercise Back day
 
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