Marsia's Diary

Marsia I haven't time to rep,y to all that right now but yeah I don't know why I always was the picked on child . Had other issues too growing up as have you . Your childhood sounds like it was tough once your dad left . It's so good you have your mum in your life now to try help you repair some of the hard times from growing up . I know you don't find it easy dealing with her but the one thing I will say is when she is no longer around you will not feel any guilt or regret for having you share your home with her .

I like the tv foe a short while to unwind a bit . The internet I find frustrating due to my poor wifi and also typing and eye problems . Need to do more nice things for myself like take a walk without worrying about weight loss benefit of it etc .
We need to be kinder to ourselves
 
Hi Petal, I really like the idea of doing more nice things for ourselves, and especially walks without worrying about how much weight we are losing. I feel like that a lot lately, like I need to enjoy things for the joy of doing them!
 
I think the more we concentrate on doing nice things for ourselves, being kind to ourselves & walking without worrying, enjoying life more, the weight will come off anyway. Being kind to ourselves is key I think.
 
The idea of a nest where you can just chill sounds very nice. My personal struggle, aside from the whole couch potato thing, is always feeling rushed. That's the worst thing. There much less of a need for it than you tend to think.
 
I really agree, Jack. I know that one of the sales tactics that really gets people is rushing them into a decision to buy something, you see it all over the place, and it plays on the idea of there being a shortage of things that you need to get right away or else you are left out in the dark. But if you really look at things, we probably have enough food to feed the whole world, enough goods to house and clothe nearly everyone if we focused and slowed down and stopped believing in lack. So I feel like this whole part of history is the "hurry up and make rash decisions based on a manufactured sense of lack" era.

I have been noticing how much better I feel when I stop pushing myself to do things, and start just pondering what it is I really want, both in the moment and for making long and short term goals. I actually think that learning to eat better helped with this.
 
Congrats on the 30 lbs. That is super!!!! The bookstore sounds lovely. Bookstores calm me for some reason. I love the smells and vibe of the place. I can spend hours just browsing. I wish we had more cool ones in my area!
 
Jenniquest said:
Congrats on the 30 lbs. That is super!!!! The bookstore sounds lovely. Bookstores calm me for some reason. I love the smells and vibe of the place. I can spend hours just browsing. I wish we had more cool ones in my area!
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Me too I do love the library too can go find a little hidey hole in it when at lunch for 20 mins .
 
Thanks everyone for the lovely replies!

My mom and I just got back from our annual pilgrimage to the San Francisco Library Big Book Sale, which is about a football field and a half of tables of books. San Francisco has great Asian bookstores, so we usually pick up a bunch of beautiful Asian art books, and this year, there were 3 massive tables of art books (each one the size of a supermarket isle) so we came out with bags of beautiful books and then went for tea and I read my mom from a book on a shaman's apprentice on the Amazon while she flipped pages of art books for us. Then we went home along the coast stopping to take really nice autumn pictures of the Golden Gate Bridge and the gorgeous sunset. Really nice day out.

The day before yesterday was Halloween here, and we all went downtown and danced around in costumes to lots of percussive drumming troupes (the hammer dulcimer troupe was especially nice!) Then we went and saw the movie"Venom" for fun. It was actually pretty good. My husband was so happy dancing in the street with us. It's been forever since we went out dancing, and he really loves dancing. So have had a wonderful last 2 days.

I am eating a ton of fresh greens as massive salads lately because I learned that most people do not get nearly enough potassium (which is an electrolyte), which makes us fatigued, feel bad psychologically, have weakness and muscle pain, and constipation. (They are also very low carb, so I can basically eat all the fresh greens I want.) So in the week I have been doing this, I lost 2 pounds, am no longer constipated, have a lot more energy, and am in a lot better mood. Here is a nice article on potassium in case anyone is interested Potassium: Health benefits and recommended intake .

The intermittent fasting is also going well. I am eating in an 8 hour window, and my midsection is shrinking somewhat. I also think the excess skin is starting to shrink a little. So things are going well, and I think I may be starting to get out of the low energy rut I have been in for the last several years. Honestly, I just started slowing way down and getting practically nothing done, but feeling so tired constantly. Getting healthy again is such a relief!!!
 
Hi, Marsia. Your weekend sounds wonderful. Oodles and oodles of books, music, dancing in the streets, including with your husband....how fantastic!
I am always interested in articles like the one on Potassium. By coincidence, I had this article on Magnesium ( Magnesium: Health benefits, deficiency, sources, and risks ), from the same site, saved on my laptop. I have always got cramps after golf but rarely do now. We eat a ton of fresh greens too & I also take a calcium & magnesium supplement. I always eat a banana while playing golf.
It's great to hear that IF has your midsection shrinking. That is exactly what happened to me when I started. I love having my waist back. Having more energy must feel wonderful!
 
That's really funny how many of the magnesium foods are favorite foods of mine. I wonder if I crave them because I need the magnesium? I think I'll bookmark this article - thanks! I am so surprised that my shakiness is gone and I no longer need to snack between meals. IF is magical! With IF was weight loss about the same as with calorie counting for you when you started? For me, I seem to be losing about a pound a week on IF, and was stalled out just counting calories. Yes, having more energy is so much nicer, and my moods are more consistently happy now, too!

Hope you have a wonderful weekend!
 
I'm a slow loser on IF, but I'm not being strict enough. I think 16:8 is a good way to do it, if breakfast is not important to you. You are doing well, Marsia! It's time I really focussed on losing before our Greece trip.
 
Thanks, Cate! Maybe if you hang up a picture of Greece somewhere to remind yourself? I have been surprised that I can skip breakfast, as I really thought it would make me lose focus if I don't eat first thing. But actually I think I focus better with the fasting!
 
I might try 16:8 in December if I don't lose at least 1kg in November. Learning to cope with hunger is good for us.
 
Hi Marisa - love that you and your husband danced! I love dancing too, it seems the occasions for it are so rare somehow.

Very cool how you've been losing weight with the IF and greens. I think I'm going to pay stricter attention to not snacking at night. Although I usually skip breakfast anyway, if I could avoid the night snacking, then it would prolong the fasting period. Heck, if I didn't eat after 9, it would be 15 hours. Thanks for the tips!
 
Yay for greens, fasting, and not eating in the evenings before bed! It's interesting how if you eat well, the hunger isn't overwhelming. I think a large part of it is not eating empty calories and then crashing because the body doesn't have proper nutrition. All of this sounds so intuitive in retrospect, but wow, it took me so long to figure all this out, and I wouldn't have even looked it up if Cate wasn't an intermittent faster!

It was so nice dancing as a family in the streets! Actually our friend was drumming in one band, and she didn't even recognize us with our kitsune (fox spirit) masks on, and we took a while to recognize her! Another friend was dressed as a Kali goddess, and we bumped into her at a portable photo booth, which was a great place to stand and take pictures of all the cool costumes. Really fun night. We are so lucky to live where we do!

Also, Jack, Cate is really knowledgeable about intermittent fasting in case you have questions. I have researched some stuff about it, but she has lost serious weight doing this in the past!
 
Sounds like a great party, Marisa. Bands and friends and what cool costumes - I guess skeletons and witches don't make the grade these days.

Well, I screwed the IF for tonight as I just had a few grapes. I notice everyone around here seems to be losing weight except me. I think I'm going to have to bring my game up to another level.
 
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