Looking to lose an extra human I apparently picked up along the way
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That's a HUGE achievement Mr Vee!!!!!!!!!!!!! So exciting!!!!!!!!
Congratulations on being half the man u used to be 
MrVee
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186.5 this morning.
Have decided to back off the dating thing for a bit. I started doing it in the hopes that it would be fun, and it's simply not been fun. There's a chance I'm simply not ready yet and that the dates I've been with have picked up on that and reacted accordingly. I dunno. I'm not going to actively avoid dates, just going to back off the full court press (IE online dating) for a bit.
As much progress as I've made, I'm not feeling like my self improvement project is near complete just yet. Maybe as I get closer to the person I'd like to be (and we're talking about a lot of things that go beyond my weight and body), I'll be better prepared to date.
Have decided to back off the dating thing for a bit. I started doing it in the hopes that it would be fun, and it's simply not been fun. There's a chance I'm simply not ready yet and that the dates I've been with have picked up on that and reacted accordingly. I dunno. I'm not going to actively avoid dates, just going to back off the full court press (IE online dating) for a bit.
As much progress as I've made, I'm not feeling like my self improvement project is near complete just yet. Maybe as I get closer to the person I'd like to be (and we're talking about a lot of things that go beyond my weight and body), I'll be better prepared to date.
JeremyRice
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congrats on keeping it off, life and love all happens at the exact moment it's supposed to.
I met my wife off e-harmony and weve been married for 2 years now and have a handsome 4 month old boy together! it will work out and the new you will find the right teammate for life!
I met my wife off e-harmony and weve been married for 2 years now and have a handsome 4 month old boy together! it will work out and the new you will find the right teammate for life!
Quercus
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I would think you could use online dating sites to look for something more casual. Put out there for just coffee, a drink, a ballgame, or friendship. Something in between. A way to progress/interact with the opposite sex without all the pressure. The object is indeed to have fun, but a lot of first dates aren't going to be fun. You know yourself the best so do what you think you should to improve. Just make sure you aren't stepping back from progress that you've made and that you have a new plan.
You're the jock AND the brain now. That will work out for you when you're ready.
You're the jock AND the brain now. That will work out for you when you're ready.
MrVee
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185.5 this morning. Have completed 98 weeks of this since starting on July 1 ,2012.
Have a trip to Chicago for business in a couple of weeks (June 1). Would like to hit 185 before then just to get this milestone done and move on to the "big 200" which is likely going to take a little bit.
Checking my weight journal, I've still managed to lose 24.5 pounds the last six months despite weighing a relatively modest 210 at the start.
Have a trip to Chicago for business in a couple of weeks (June 1). Would like to hit 185 before then just to get this milestone done and move on to the "big 200" which is likely going to take a little bit.
Checking my weight journal, I've still managed to lose 24.5 pounds the last six months despite weighing a relatively modest 210 at the start.
MrVee
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185 on the nose this morning. When I started this thread looking to lose an extra human, my goal weight was 185. I've since adjusted that downward as I really want to see if I can trim down as much bodyfat as I can (I'm planning to add muscle right after that). That said, having lost 190 pounds now total (150 since starting this thread), it's safe to say I have indeed "lost a human."
Along the way I've found that self-improvement is a tricky thing. It's been an undeniably fantastic experience for me, but it's not without its pitfalls. It's clear to me that I've had success at this beyond my wildest dreams, but at the same time having gone through this but still experiencing the same sorts of struggles and doubts that have always been there is a tough adjustment. You can say to yourself "if I only I lose the weight, everything will change." And the truth is some things will change and some things won't. Having gone through such a successful transformation, realizing that you won't automatically reap all the benefits you thought you would is not necessarily easy.
But it does put you in position now to get to work on those things as well. Losing the weight clearly is not going to fix everything or even the majority of things, but it does sort of put me in a far better position to get to work on the other aspects of my life that I'd like to change. Most notably my self-confidence: I'm guessing it's still far below average and I really want to get better at liking the person that I am. But I know that doing so is a far more achievable task for me at 185 than at 375. And so I just need to put in more work in that area.
At least 15 pounds to go (maybe 20 depending on how I look 15 pounds from now). The next milestone is at 175, and I think most of you can do the math on the difference between 375 and 175.
Along the way I've found that self-improvement is a tricky thing. It's been an undeniably fantastic experience for me, but it's not without its pitfalls. It's clear to me that I've had success at this beyond my wildest dreams, but at the same time having gone through this but still experiencing the same sorts of struggles and doubts that have always been there is a tough adjustment. You can say to yourself "if I only I lose the weight, everything will change." And the truth is some things will change and some things won't. Having gone through such a successful transformation, realizing that you won't automatically reap all the benefits you thought you would is not necessarily easy.
But it does put you in position now to get to work on those things as well. Losing the weight clearly is not going to fix everything or even the majority of things, but it does sort of put me in a far better position to get to work on the other aspects of my life that I'd like to change. Most notably my self-confidence: I'm guessing it's still far below average and I really want to get better at liking the person that I am. But I know that doing so is a far more achievable task for me at 185 than at 375. And so I just need to put in more work in that area.
At least 15 pounds to go (maybe 20 depending on how I look 15 pounds from now). The next milestone is at 175, and I think most of you can do the math on the difference between 375 and 175.
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Quercus
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A fantastic achievement and a powerful reflection. You've done a tremendous amount of good for me as you've improved yourself so much an I thank you.
A separation of mind and body is a construct. There is no separate mind and body. The physical self is the mental self. You are necessarily much more healthy emotionally and mentally. You are in a great position to continue your self improvement and it has arrived to a place where the shift from physical to emotional focus has occurred. You posses the same ability and resolve to achieve as you did when the goal was pounds lost. It will be a bit tougher to chart and model, but you've made successes already. I know you are disappointed in your dating results so far, but you're dating. You could have been dating at 375, but you weren't ready to. You wouldn't consider dating even when you had lost a lot of weight. Now that you've dated you are worried that you aren't ready. Whether or not that's true doesn't change that you have been dating and you are basing your opinion on those results rather than just your own self-opinion. The point being that you aren't just ready to work on things, but you've already improved. Compare your mood or emotions on a given day or week compared to when you were the least healthiest. You certainly are more emotionally fit. Everyone struggles. No one is happy about every part of their lives. You will find someone that appreciates what a great guy you are.
Congratulations on hitting your original long term goal!
A separation of mind and body is a construct. There is no separate mind and body. The physical self is the mental self. You are necessarily much more healthy emotionally and mentally. You are in a great position to continue your self improvement and it has arrived to a place where the shift from physical to emotional focus has occurred. You posses the same ability and resolve to achieve as you did when the goal was pounds lost. It will be a bit tougher to chart and model, but you've made successes already. I know you are disappointed in your dating results so far, but you're dating. You could have been dating at 375, but you weren't ready to. You wouldn't consider dating even when you had lost a lot of weight. Now that you've dated you are worried that you aren't ready. Whether or not that's true doesn't change that you have been dating and you are basing your opinion on those results rather than just your own self-opinion. The point being that you aren't just ready to work on things, but you've already improved. Compare your mood or emotions on a given day or week compared to when you were the least healthiest. You certainly are more emotionally fit. Everyone struggles. No one is happy about every part of their lives. You will find someone that appreciates what a great guy you are.
Congratulations on hitting your original long term goal!
Cate
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Mr Vee, That is the most personal post I have seen from you & I think that you are well on the way to getting to be that person you want to be. I went through the same feelings when I first lost weight. Even though I have a lovely husband, who loves me regardless of my size or moods, I still did not love myself. I do still have insecurities, but am getting better & better at learning to love myself. As you learn to love yourself more, you will be more ready to let someone else into your life. She will be a very fortunate woman.
Thanks for offering to come to my defence. That gave me a really good laugh & I needed it! Cheers, xo Cate
Thanks for offering to come to my defence. That gave me a really good laugh & I needed it! Cheers, xo Cate
Verobc1
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Hello Mr. Vee.....Wow 200lb gone that is such an accomplishment!! I am in Awe you are a true insperation!!! Congrats on getting there and I know you can get to be where you want to be!!! I have been reading your journal but didn't take the time to post but for this I just had too!!!
Xenon1
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Nothing wrong with this
actually when my husband and I both decided to be single for life..and I mean sincerely we both decided to just be single, this is when we both met each other lol. I think this made us both comfortable with ourselves in the beginning and allowed our real selves to come through because neither of us were interested in impressing the other, we just wanted someone to talk to You have made excellent progress with your weight loss goals and I have no doubt you will do the same with your other goals Mr. Vee
I second that! How was the hike?Nothing wrong with this
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