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my son had his appearance in front of the magistrate, police pushed for a custodial sentence, but he was given a $2000 fine and no conviction yet the same magistrate gave a bloke who killed 2 people with his car with reckless driving only a $3000 fine, so according to the court a hot headed punch from a stressed out autistic boy is not much better than killing somebody, it makes no sense
 
I thought the stress levels would drop today, thinking that it was all over despite how screwed up the outcome was, however the drawback of being an elite sportsperson has meant that my sons case took up the whole front page of the newspaper today using a photo they had on file from his sports success, despite so many other cases being so much worse (can't get much worse than killing 2 people). Easier to publish a story for which you already have a high quality picture than a serious story with no picture.

Nearly T-boned an idiot driver this morning who pulled out right in front of me from a side road and lost count of the idiots on the highway on the drive to and from the hospital down the coast where I had a pregnancy checkup today.

Tomorrow has got to be better as I sit in front of the air con with 34 degree temp outside in the shade on the verandah
 
Oh, god Tru. I'll send you some of our bloody freezing day & a great big hug! The newspapers in Australia suck!
 
I don't think they'd be allowed to print his picture or his full name in this context over here, given that he's a minor.
 
I thought the stress levels would drop today, thinking that it was all over despite how screwed up the outcome was, however the drawback of being an elite sportsperson has meant that my sons case took up the whole front page of the newspaper today using a photo they had on file from his sports success, despite so many other cases being so much worse (can't get much worse than killing 2 people). Easier to publish a story for which you already have a high quality picture than a serious story with no picture.

Nearly T-boned an idiot driver this morning who pulled out right in front of me from a side road and lost count of the idiots on the highway on the drive to and from the hospital down the coast where I had a pregnancy checkup today.

Tomorrow has got to be better as I sit in front of the air con with 34 degree temp outside in the shade on the verandah

Can I offer an alternate way of looking at things?

First of all, I have never lived with or cared for someone with autism so I have nooooo idea what it's really like. Sure, I can guess, but I have no clue what it's REALLY like. Nor will I pretend.

However, what I DO know is this...

For an autistic child to grow up and excel at sports, to such a degree that he is considered a coveted athlete, is a remarkable feat. I excelled at sports when I was in my youth and never once did I see or hear about anyone with autism playing at anything close to a competitive level. Sure, we had some kids with autism and other issues try out for baseball or football or whatever, but none of them ever made the team. Nor did they even have anything close to genuine talent. I don't mean this with any disrespect to the kids who came to try outs, but most of the time it was just a huge joke they were even there. Everybody knew well ahead of time they weren't going to make the team and, when watching them on the field, we were all proven right to feel that way. However, your kid shattered that illusion. He broke the mold. In an amazingly positive way. He tried out, he made it, he proved them all wrong. He won.

Don't let one minor setback ruin that for you.
 
He broke the mold. In an amazingly positive way. He tried out, he made it, he proved them all wrong. He won.

Don't let one minor setback ruin that for you.

Thankyou chef, I needed that

feeling a bit better this morning, most people who know him have given him full support and think the coverage and the massive social media thread it spawned was disgusting but had to get some of his team mates and other supporters to stop feeding the social media trolls, best to just let it die as some other controversy will take over in the next few days like always happens online, the opinions of professional trolls who don't know him and a few people who have always been nasty (same people who a few years ago told my eldest son that he and his spastic brothers should have been drowned at birth). bullying is a normal daily experience for people with disabilities. With my sons faulty memory and inability to hold a grudge helps, and an attitude that people he doesn't know don't mean anything. He has the ability to forgive idiots, everybody makes mistakes. A good example of this is that tonight he has organised to teach a couple of boys he his now friends with how to lift at the gym, these friends were once school bullies who he had run ins with a couple of years ago.

With Autism, my son has one of the most common aspects of the condition, he has minimal understanding of emotions especially in others, for example if somebody dies one one level he knows some people will be upset but on an emotional level he has almost no empathy. He is unable to pickup on anything but the most obvious body language (he had to be specifically taught how to recognise common facial expressions at school)

As a parent of Autistic kids it is normal knowing I will never get a hug or an "I love you mum" from them because they just don't handle close physical contact or have any understanding of the emotion involved. If I am obviously upset the usual response will be "are you upset?" My boys are fully aware their grandmother is dying from cancer but have no understanding of the emotion involved or why I get upset over it.
 
Your sons sound lovely Tru, but it must be very hard for you, not getting that emotional support back. I think you are an amazing woman & I admire your strength & resilience. Those boys are very lucky to have you as their mother.
 
With Autism, my son has one of the most common aspects of the condition, he has minimal understanding of emotions especially in others, for example if somebody dies one one level he knows some people will be upset but on an emotional level he has almost no empathy. He is unable to pickup on anything but the most obvious body language (he had to be specifically taught how to recognise common facial expressions at school)
My son is exactly the same way. It becomes normal after awhile. I guess it gets easier with time.
 
It was a quiet day for me today, hubby was out all day fighting fires, it is soooooo dry and hot, not even bothering to prep the garden for planting, everything is dead from no rain and 30 degree plus winter temps. even with only being a couple of days into spring, this is going to be a bad year for high temps and fires, cannot afford to waste water on the veg garden.
 
I just read that out to G & he looked so shocked. Wow! Take care Tru xoxo
PS It's crazy as I'm sitting here dressed in thermals from head to toe & looking at snow on the mountains. It's 4 degrees outside, with a top of 12 expected.
 
hot again today lol, there are still fires around but hubby is not on any fire crews today. Heading to the markets before it get to hot while hubby is at chess club.
 
Crazy climate. Crazy weather. I´d say I hope it gets better but given that summer is on its way... I´ll just wish you all the best.
 
Speaking of crazy. I just looked outside at the bleak-looking rain & said (in my head) "Go to Gympie!" I'm sure we could spare you some.....
 
just got back from dropping son off at work, 25 degrees at 9:30 am so nice now but will be horrible later when it gets hot.

Planning to go and watch "IT" tonight

Feeling like an over inflated beach ball today, lots of movement, next scan is on Wednesday, my weight is still looking good.
 
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