You may not be having that issue with your fiancee's mother anymore, but if you are, I know EXACTLY what you are going through.
My boyfriend's mother was fine with me when she first met me, and we got along great. I don't know if it's because we both loved my boyfriend, or because I was about 20 pounds heavier than her.
Anyway, now that I've lost about 55 pounds, she really hates to talk about dieting with me.
She'll try and get me to eat fast food all the time if we're out, but she says that she doesn't want anything... she just wants to get me something.
She'll go grocery shopping sometimes and bring back lot's of junk food that she says my boyfriend and I should eat, and she'll actually get angry if I don't eat it.
She always used to give me clothes that she couldn't wear anymore, and now she can't do that.
I'm too small to go shopping with her in Lane Bryant anymore, too.
Plus, she's not supportive at all anymore.
I think when I first started dieting, she was really supportive of it because she didn't think I could actually do it.
Now, that I am almost done with it, it's like she can't accept it.
I remember the last time we went shopping with my boyfriend, we went into one of my favorite stores, and instead of wearing an XL like I used to, I could fit into a medium.
My boyfriend pointed this out to his mother. He wasn't being mean to her or anything, he was just proud of me, I guess, and he thought that his mother would be too.
Well, her reaction was, "Well, I hope that I lose a lot of weight and that happens to me eventually."
And she sounded a little less than thrilled if you know what I mean.
Anyway, I didn't mean to put all of that in your diary or anything, I just feel your pain.
It is hard to deal with, but you just have to ignore it.
You have to make sure that you're happy before you try and make everyone else happy.
