Keeping up a constant battle

CandoATU

CandoATU

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Okay well my name is Rhy and Im a 21 yo girl from Australia. :seeya:

I currently weigh 61kg, which makes me over weight because i am very VERY short! No I mean like seriously short! But anyhoo, I have never been an overly big girl, just very flabby. I come from a family where everyone is extreamly over weight and as a result I have to work very hard just to stay flabby. Now I just want to keep on fighting this battle of the fat and get down to 50kg - which is the ideal weight for somebody my height.

Up until early last year I was really on my way to success. I was down to 54kg and had the finish line in clear sight. However due to a sad to say failed pregnacy I put on a fair big of weight and at my highest I was 72kg. Was reaally not a good time for me.

However even through that very very sad time I had to realise that i am a very lucky girl. I have a very supportive partner, who just happens to be a personal trainer. So while he has all the know how about this kind of thing, he still manages to tell me that I am gorgeous and dont need to change a single bit while at the same time giving me all the helpful answers that I want in reguards to getting in shape. Plus on top of that whenever he finds me excerising he always gets this big smile on his face and tells me how beautiful I am. Such a sweetie! :angel:

So since mid last year I have gone from 72kg down to me current weight of 61. Which is good, but i could be better. There are a few things which make it very hard for me. One being I have to feed my boyfriend while feeding myself, and while he is a personal trainer he also loves to eat everything and anything bad for you. However I have slowly been training nd tricking him into eating healthier. (And by tricking I mean switching in lighter cheese etc into meal - he cant tell the difference when he eats it but my god, if he ever sees it in the fridge boy does he start to sook)

Another would be my friends, who get cranky at me when I say I want to lose weight. Things like if we are out eating and i opt for healthier things, that arent very happy with me when i do stuff like that.

So anyway enough ranting, ill just finish off with what I currently do in order to work towards me goal weight.

- I have a note book which I track me calories in, this includes what i eat AND how many I burn.

- I excersise a bare minimum of 30 mins a day along which make sure that if i can move I do move. Such as while im at work, instead of sitting behind the desk I mak sure i just keep walking around. I also make sure i do this by getting rid of temptations such as sitting on the internet, and move certain tasks to places where i have to stand to do them instead of sitting.

- Because I work in hospitaly there are plenty of free meals on demand, however none of the meals are very healthy so I make sure i have a storage area full for soup on demand.

- Eight monitored glasses of water a day

- max 1500 calories a day

- min 200 calories burnt a day

- daily weigh ins on my wii fit

So yeah, I guess thats my first post! Hope there is more to come in order to keep me plenty motivated!

:hurray:
 
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Oh very excited! I recently finished reading every book I own three times over so i decided to buy a book about weight loss to read. It looked kinda interesting on ebay so i bought it and it got deliever just then!!! Yay! It is called "Famous People Dont Get Fat" by Adele Parker.
 
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Goals

Okay so I was just writing in my note book about my goals, which i think is the best thing you can do to keep motivated, ensure you are heading in the right direction and give yourself a clear purpose.

I think where i have been going wrong in previous attempts to really crack down on my weigh is the whole goal concept. Usually I set out a date 6 months down the track with one ideal goal weight. However I have realised that by setting only that one goal which seems so unattainable I am screwing myself up. Because it seems so far off and impossible to achieve i lose track and before i know it that date i set six months ahead is all of a sudden 2 weeks ago and I have not accomplished a thing! :banghead:

So this time round i am trying something different in reguards to me goal setting. Im sure it has been done before but i only just thought of it. I am setting myself tiny goal points to achieve monthly so that I can achieve them and it will make the over all goal seem more accomplishable.

So here are my little beauties, the first one I set myself 2 weeks ago:

- By the 16/04/10 I will lose 2kg taking my weight down to 60kg
- By the 15/05/10 I will lose 2kg taking my weight down to 58kg
- By the 14/06/10 I will lose 2kg taking my weight down to 56kg
- By the 13/07/10 I will lose 2kg taking my weight down to 54kg
- By the 12/08/10 I will lose 2kg taking my weight down to 52kg
- By the 11/09/10 I will lose 2kg taking my weight down to 50kg

So that...

- By the 10/10/10 I will lose 2kg taking my weight down to 48kg :biggrinjester:


I think the numbering of the dates worked out very well, its just how it happen. Hell, it might even be fate! Let hope so and see how I go!

So I have 15 says to lose 1.1kg!!!!
 
BIG weekend

I find this the hardest part of weight loss. Now it isnt that I am an alco or anything, i rarely drink actually - but when i do it sucks BIG time. Because nobody had to work on friday we drank all night and through to the morning.

It was a big one. But anyway, while I do make sure that im not consuming excess calories while drinking it still screws up my metabloism. For instance I dont drink any premade drinks in the bottle, nor do I drink any beer, or wine but stick to the clear alcohols which have a lower alcohol count. Such as my dear friend vodka! And ill either mix it with water or diet coke.

But I will put on weight :( Only 0.7kgs BUT it is much better than I did the last time i drank alot and put on like 3 kgs :blush5:

Anyhoo ive made myself get up and moving early so i can try and get my body back on track.
 
Hang in there! The toughest - but most important - thing to do after you've slipped is to keep your spirits up and remember that it's just a little slip-up and if you stay on plan it'll just be a minor blip in your lifetime chart :D
 
Thank for the support Jeanette! Thats exactly what im going to try and do.

Starting with this bowl of oats im trying to eat with breakie. Im not going to lie, there is nothing about these oats that I like at all, but i need to stop eating so much bread and cereal doesnt seem to fill me up where as this is very quickly.

Well after my big weekend i manage to put on a whole 2 KG :banghead:
Not surprizing but still depressing. Reguardless im determined to stick to my weight loss plan, even if i have to make up for it in the next month.

One of my biggest issues is getting hungry after dinner, and i always want savory things which makes it really hard. However ive been trying to cut it out but doing things like drinking a whole glass of water, or wha helped last night was doing research on calories to distract my mind.

Also one other thing that ive set up ust in case of these situations is make up jelly! May sound crazy but what i do i buy some cheap jelly (weightloss plus strict budget equals great difficulty) but to make up for not being able to buy the more expensive and low calorie count brands, i water it down heaps so that each serving is about 50 calories plus. And with the type of sugar they use in the jelly i find that the sweetness numbs out any other cravings so that pretty good.

Okay i might make another post later, for now i need to concentrate on getting this food down....
 
Alright so today i have so far consumber 500 calories over the morning. Which is right on what i have laid out and calorie budgetted for. i have also worked off 280 calories. i really wish my calorie counting watch would arrive already...
 
Questionair

Okay so i thought i would take some time doing this while i drink my green tea...

How much weight do you want to lose?

Total of 22kg, at this point im 15 kg off

What is the timeframe for reaching your target weight?

Ive set it at 6 months atm

How do you want to accomplish your goal (what methods do you want to use)?

Calorie counting and budgetting plus 30 mins of cardio and 30 mins of resistance training each day

Who or what can support you in reaching your goal?

My boyfriend and the desire to be thin first the first time in 15 years

How realistic is your goal?

Fairly realistic, it will be tough but i WILL do it

When will you start?

I started 6 months ago

What is your current height and weight?

Im 145cm tall and currently weigh 63 kg

If you were at an ideal weight now, what would that weight be?

48 kg

At what weight would you like to be at four months from now?

52 kg

Why do you want to lose weight?

So I can be happy and healthy

Do you want to lose weight for a specific life event such as wedding or reunion?

Yes - Summer holiday

What obstacles could get between you and your weight loss goals?

Lack of motivation and emotions

Why do you think that you now have a weight problem?

Family history of it

What lifestyle changes do you think would help you lose weight?

Quit night time eating and over eating and junk food

Have you lost weight in the past? If so, what has worked in the past to help you lose weight?

Yes, i got down to 54 kg from excersising once a week.

Why do you believe that you did not lose weight or you gained the weight back?

The weight i have lost in the past 6 months is due to commitment, almost obsession, but through the obsessive compulsive behaviour i have learnt so much to help me

What, if anything, has not worked for you in the past in helping you to lose weight?

Letting my head get the better of me and telling me ill always be the fat kid

Would you try writing down all food and drink consumed for a given period of time?

Thats what im doing

Do you cook at home often? If so, what do you cook?

Yes i cook everyday, meals which will suit my partner but can adapted to me

How often do you go out to eat? Where do you go?

Probably once a week, out at clubs

What are your three favorite foods? does water count?

Pizza (ive learnt to make home made stuff which is much better for me)
Maccas cheese burgers (god i miss them)
Bread (cutting out as much as possible)

What are your three favorite restaurants?

Aussie Pizza House
Darby Raj - indian food soooo good
Hungry jacks - havnt been there in over 6 months

What are three things you can do differently when it comes to food?

Think before i eat and make compromises

If you woke up tomorrow and your body was exactly the way you want it, what would be different?

Thin waist line and hips and no back fat

Do you binge eat (large amounts at a time)?

sometimes yes

Do you hide your food or eat in secret?

No

Do you eat when you are sad, nervous, or depressed?

No its more so when im bored

Do you eat as a reward?

No not really

Do you eat while watching TV or using the computer?

Yeah big problem

What do you normally eat for a meal?

meat and veg

What type of snacks do you eat?

sandwiches use to be my biggest problem

In terms of exercise, what, if anything, are you currently doing?

Cardio, yoga and weights - oh and wii fit

Where do you go for exercise?

Home, property and beach

What, if anything, are your three favorite types of exercise?

Swimming, horse riding and wii fit

Weekly/monthly/yearly motivation to move towards your goals?

Weekly - seeing the weight ive lost right after i work it off is a lot to me

Monthly - trying on my favorite cloths which use to fit me and seeing which ones fit again and which i need to work towards

Yearly - being on the beach and feelin confortable in a bikini


Do you have rewards for certain goals?

No but thats the next thing i am working on
 
Okay so ive tried really hard today and ive done good - even avoided temptation of a house mate bringing me home not just one but a box full of ice cream.... sigh....

Today i consumed 1130 calories and have excersised 430 off that. I did both cardio and yoga work. I found a handy little thing which made the whole cardio thing a lot easier for me. What i did was instead of setting a time period i needed to do it for, i set a certain amount of calories i needed to burn. I found it much more satisfying and motivating.

Currently dealing with the late night fake hunger. Found something else out about that too, and it is as simple as breathing. I just sit down and concentrate on my breathing, deep breaths and i find i can control it easier. Very good...

Bed time...
 
Hey there you look like you are doing great!, I find that when I eat something with proteine in the morning I tend to be less hungry for the rest of the day and don't even get the urge to snack!!!! But when I eat only toast ( I love 12 grain bagels!!) or Oatmeal I am hungry all the time. Hope this helps...Godd job on the 30 min workout everyday that is what I call comitment!!!!
 
I do the same at the gym with calories! I dont take any notice of the time--Just do 100 or 150 or 200 calories on each machine :D
 
Thanks for the support guys! Love to hear any tips you've got! :)

So weight in today was good. In fact it was exactly what I wanted realistically speaking. Bakc below the 63kg mark after my big weekend. I lost 0.3 kg, which is what ive have to try and lose each day to reach my first goal. Which isnt a very healthy thing, but its only for this first month. And im not going to push myself too much cause i can always catch up next month, which is fair enough cause ive only gotten really serious half way through this goal.

Currently eating my brekkie at the moment, special K (I couldnt stomache oatmeal today).
 
feeling down

Im feeling a little bit down at the moment. Not sure why, but then again i will never understand my mood swings. sometime i can pin point why they happen, for instance my poor boyfriend discovered just how scary his girl friend can be if she gets really hungry and then you jokingly take the food away from her. At the moment i think it is cause my stomache is sooooooo full from lunch. Only 450 calories but i guess i just feel guilty because im full.

Stupid i know...
 
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for instance my poor boyfriend discovered just how scary his girl friend can be if she gets really hungry and then you jokingly take the food away from her.
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Haha once my ex grabbed my muesli bar and shoved the whole thing in his mouth when I was really really hungry and I started balling my eyes out...hunger can do crazy things to a persons mood!

I hear you on the guilt thing, it's so hard to draw a healthy line between not caring what/how much you put in your mouth, and feeling guilty over every little bite. When I do feel guilty I try and offset it by hitting the treadmill for a bit rather than dwelling on it because I get so depressed and demotivated.

Congrats on the weightloss so far, keep up the good work! :)
 
Thanks Bolso, glad its not just me who gets very emotional over being hungry. Haha.

Well im feeling good today, weigh in today was 62.4, which is a loss of 0.4kgs! Yay! I was worried cause last night i wasnt meant to work but got roped into it, so i didnt have any food with me. Hence i had to order something from work, and wouldnt you knw it they were out of lettus so no salads available. SO annoying. Instead I had some prawn dish whick would have been more calories than I should have had, but i did work it pretty hard on the excersise front yesterday so i get that made up for it.

I hate being a casual, cause you never know if you will get called into work so it makes things hard to organise in general, let alone if you are trying to smash out a goal which finishes in 7 days. Because i wasnt meant to work yesterday i decided to make the most of it and would have worked off about 1000 calories in excersise alone. Hence when i realised i was working I almost cried because if id known that, i wouldnt have worked myself so hard so that id have the energy to work. SIGH

Ah well, thats how the cookie crumbles i guess.... hahahah probably not the best phrase to use in a weight loss forum, or maybe it works well. I dunno....

Anyhoo i went out early today to go ride my horse, however because i dont ride as much as i use to i get back spasms. Which is pretty much my back going to me - "What the HELL is going on?!!? We havent been used like this for months!!!! You suck, im soooooo going to mess with you now!"

But other than that it is all good. Im also very proud of my mum! She has been over weight since, well, before i was born - so a long time. And now she is really trying hard to get the weight off. So far she has lost over 10kgs, and she is really starting to look good. However she can seem to see that which is a shame. But i dont think she realises how much it upsets me when she puts herself down all the time. Because all i want to do is compliment her on how great she looks and all she wants to do is go on about how she is as big as a whale. Which is even true!!!!

Oh well, guess all i can do is keep doing what im doing which is showing her what works for me and encouraging her.
 
Yay! I went shopping today and got a new weigh loss book which isnt full of the usual sit like how to do a sit up and ranting on about"Yes you CAN do it" and all that bullshit, its actually got lots of bits of information about everything. Which is what i thrive off.

Also i bought a calorie counting watch which monitors your heart rate and calories which are burnt all day long. Very cool and very excited! Can wait to see how much i really burn each day and how much i need to eat exactly.

Now off to the cross trainer!
 
This new book is awesome, i cant put it down!

Weight in today was -0.3... YAY!

Right so here is an awesome new development! Ive been reading this new book right, and a lot of it focuses on mind power along with lots of information about everything weight loss. And i have realised that up until this point i havnt really been trying. Ive been half assing it and basically cheating myself. I thought i knew all there was to know about this stuff but this new book is opening my eyes wider and wider with every page.

And the crazy thing is that i just came home for lunch and i was actually craving a lettus and tomato sandwich, which trust me is very very weird! Im all about hot food. For the past couple of days ive been focusing on healthy eating and forcing myself to eat stuff i never usually would, and really hating the taste. I didnt think it could happen but i have literally done a 180 in 4 days and im craving nothing but healthy things. Tis awesome!

I really hope it lasts!!!
 
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Well todays weigh in not so good. It was a gain of 100 grams, which isnt really a big deal. Plus if im doing to right then I should get getting some more muscle in my body so im not stressing too much.

Im up to day 6 days away from my goal time, but i really dont want to make myself sick, because i wont be able to lose 2.2 kg in 6 days with out making myself sick. So im going to go for 61.2, 1kg loss but my goal date.

Plus one of the things i realised was that on my wii fit, which is how i monitor my weight, it had been customised to take 1kg to compensate for clothes. Which is why i figured out that i was up to 63.4, not a big deal, but when you take into consideration that if i was still oblivious to the programing, then i would be 61.2 - kinda makes me less depressed about still being around the 62 mark.

Um, had a bit of a moment of weakness yesterday, wich has made me realised how important it is to plan out your day properly. I read my roster wrong, hence i ate an hour earlier than i should have, hence was sitting around, bored before work i got hungry when i shouldnt have. I ate a bit of chocolate... Bad...
 
In moderation, chocolate is actually good for you ;)

Sounds like that book is really helping. I read "I can make you thin" by Paul McKenna and whilst most of it was a bit "BELIEVE IN YOURRRSELFFFFF!!! OMGZZZ" a lot of it was very helpful. And well done for craving healthy food! I actually *wanted* salad for dinner today and it made me happy :D
 
Well yesterday was a test - and i failed. Not too depressed, disappointed but still happy that i have learnt a lesson. I gained 0.6kg, which isnt always a clear indicationi BUT it should be because i messed up a lot yesterday. I ate at the wrong times and ate the wrongs things. Also i didnt find the time to excersise. The weekends are always the hardest for me because my boyfriend is home and we go tot he football all day and then i go to work. Im just going to list all the bad things i ate yesterday because i kept telling myself it wont make a difference when really, it did!

- Didnt make time for brekkie so i ate a packet of chips and too many nuts
- Lunch i had a white bread snadwich because my boyfriend didnt want both of his.
- At work i was feeling tired before i started so i drank a red bull
- At work our cheff decided to be nice and make a plate of chips with dianne sauce for us behind the bar
- I had my staff drink which could have had a lot less calories
- I ate a sandwich when i got home

I have to say though, i did do a good thing yesterday. When i was leaving work my boyfriend wanted to go get maccas, but then i resisted and said i didnt want anything form there. Which would have saved me an extra like 1000 calories. So im happy with myself for that reason.

So what could I have done to fix these problems?

- Make better plans for brekkie
- Always ask my boyfriend exactly what he wants so i dont over make his food and hence have to eat the same thing as him.
- I usually remember to take my green tea to work but i forgot - BAD - always take my green tea with me and resist the sugar hit
- When tempted by the free chips, just remember my old job when i had to clean out the hot oil and found a large amount of dead animals floating in the bottom
- I work in a bar! And i know what alcohol has less calories and have all the mixers on the planet to make what eer drink i want! So why dont i do that and have a little fun with it!!!!
- I have so many different options for food when i get home, there was no need to eat a sandwich.

So hopefully i will do better next time!
 
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