Kaitie's Open Diary

I agree with Pineola... medicine balls are really supposed to help a lot with love handles!

Your husband is lucky to have such a great support system in you! :)
 
Kaitie said:
T2 got me thinking about how much of an oddity it is for me and John to be trying to lose weight together.
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I think it's unique. Let's face it, not many women would stay, love, support and tolerate a 500 pound man. Your first post on here captured my heart for the mere fact you were with John in his state. My initial thoughts were "he's a lucky man and she's a very special woman".


It's not the first time we've tried this but I'm sure it's going to be the last. I can't stand being with him at this weight.
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Is this an ultimatum ?? It could work but in all likelihood it will only cripple his spirits (and yours further). I would like to think his fears about dying young would be his biggest motivator but losing a woman who loves him may make him give up completely.

Currently he is trying, I hope you're willing to ride this out for awhile with open communication and an affirmation you no longer bear guilt to the consequences for his failure. The 'meet me halfway' approach is worth a shot dontcha think ??

We can't do anything--unless it's him sitting in front of the damn tv watching car show after car show
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This would be a time where I would remind him of his lack of motivation. I know in my morbidly obese state, TV was my life (and pc too) and really that's all I cared to do until I found my motivation.

I hope you can give John some latitude on his energy levels or lack of. It must be extremely difficult to maintain at his size. Again, enter into open conversation if and when you think he's slacking, eating wrong, missing workouts, etc.. Only you can gauge his efforts. I think there are more results to be seen than just a number on a scale. Evaluate his day-to-day changes and consistency and be fair and also be fair in recognizing that the days you slip up too - hey, it happens.
Yes, he's lost 12 pounds and yes he's going to the gym
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The effort is being made and the results are starting to happen. Perhaps you want to see a lil more wallop out of his results but give it time, he's at least started. Soon you two will see the results and it may be the very thing that makes John set his sails.

I know seeing my weight loss made it that much more motivating. I hope you two get to enjoy this phase of lifestyle changes :)



and yes he's eating a crap load less but something about drinking seven 2 liter bottles of soda in one week is wrong. I tried to tell him to drink less and he says 'but it has no calories!' I told him about the sodium and how it makes you retain water and that's why he's got these nasty-ass pus balls all over his lower legs but I don't think it sunk in.
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Big man, small steps.

I see where you're coming from. You see this from a self-control standpoint and I wouldn't disagree with you, morbidly obese people need to find self-control to succeed in lifestyle change. I like your awareness even more. It says you're keeping score, you care, you're monitoring him - that's a nice aid to have in a joint effort. Like I've said before, John is a lucky man that you care about these things.

In this case, it sounds like John has classic circulation problems in his legs consistent with what the morbidly obese get. I would hope you have medical evidence that supports peripheral edema is connected to diet soda. One 2 liter cares 8% of the daily requirement of sodium, in the sodium world, that's pretty hard to beat.

Personally, my circulation improved hugely from walking and being motivated to do it every single day. I drink diet soda every single day too - usually 5 -2 liters a week, At this point, the good is he's off the sugar danger part, the bad is he's not showing self-control (in your eyes). Once John finds the motivation to exercise off the weight and his circulation improves, you'll tend to forget about the drink of choice and smile that he's doing better in general.

T2 if your reading this: what are some ideas that you can give me to help him lose the weight faster? It's been a month and yes he's dropped 12 pounds in a month but didn't you lose more faster?
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Yes, I did drop much more faster, but I am a warrior. I saw I was in a fight for my life and it motivated me to come out fighting. I lost over 60 lbs the first 2 months..

but...

I didn't have it as bad as John and I'm sure my ability was probably a little more available to me. It didn't take me too long to build up from 10 minutes a day of walking to 75 minutes
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I can give John some wiggle room on distance and time, but I sure couldn't accept him not walking everyday. If he's motivated, he'll be out there every day kickin' ass and taking weight off.

Tips: I have to be careful here. My method isn't for everyone. I would highly suggest a planned ADA diet but a doctor should appoint the calorie level, be it 1200 or 1500 or 1800 a day, at John's size, a good dietician may start him out at 2000 a day - not my field of expertise.

The 'go it alone' warrior-like-I-did plan is low-cal, low-carb and I eat catabolics 4-6 times a day to stave of hunger, and walk walk walk.
Maybe I'm just desperate.
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No, IMO John is desperate, you're frustrated - and understandably.
 
T2: John has no idea how frustrated I am...I haven't told him anything in the way of an ultimatum---it's just my personal feelings. I certainly don't want him to think that he has to lose the weight or he's going to lose me. I've talked to him before about certain things lacking in our marriage and it didn't have any effect what-so-ever...you'd think it would but it didn't. That was 4 years ago. New topic: John didn't tell his doctor about those things on his legs (they're freakin' gross) I hope they go away soon. The trainer has John on a 30-40 minute weight lifting regimen and a 30 minute cardio workout 3 times a week and the other 3 days we work out he just does 25 minutes of cardio. He won't weigh himself again until Saturday the 2nd of September--hopefully he'll have dropped a bunch more weight.

I'm just impatient.

I was baby-sitting all day so I missed my workout today, I'll do it tomorrow. I'm hoping with this day off that my muscles will have rested and I'll see a big jump on the scale on Monday--unfortunately I ate about 1700 calories today. Not terrible, definately below 2000 but 600 over what I have been aiming this week. It was a turkey sandwich---I ate a 8 inch sub from Quiznos. It was yummy.

I'm watching Annie with my neice. We watch Annie every time she comes over. :) I created a monster!

Thanks for listening everyone!
 
Eek! I've totally cheated tonight. My calories are close to 2000 and I've had a fruit cup and three peanut butter crackers after 8:00. They're just going to go straight to my butt!!! Seriously though, I totally feel weird--like I didn't eat enough of something today so now my bodies going wacko. Hopefully the protein in the peanut butter with help stop the weird-ness. I'm also tired and I'm STILL babysitting. (12 hours later)

T2: I wouldn't hit you with the boppy stick--I think you're the only person that truly knows what the heck I'm talking about!

My neice (who can't read btw) want's me to put a smiley---so: :cool:
 
This is for the niece!

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^ :confused: I'm lost!

Today was fine, 4 miles on the bike and 150 sit-ups. Food is back on track and hopefully I didn't screw up to bad yesterday. My muscles are firming up again so maybe in a few days when they've recovered I see (or feel) some results.

I wore a jean skirt that I bought a while back, it's a size 20W--It was always a wee bit big on me, maybe an inch or so around the waist. Today I put it on and it was 3+ inches too big for me. John even told me to not wear it anymore b/c it makes me look bigger than I am. So here it goes..... *throws fat skirt in the trash* My first piece of fat clothing tossed away and never to be seen again!!

Yippee!!
 
What a feeling, eh?!! Wow...congrats. It sure helps to have some tangible evidence that you're shrinking...more than just scale numbers!

Awesome job...keep up the good work!
 
Kaitie, I don't have any opinion to share., I just wanted to send a hug your way. You ARE a special woman. I hope your caring ways help motivate your hubby. But whatever happens, don't stop doing what you're doing for yourself!!!
 
Thanks everybody!!!

Great feeling here: I went to school today to start setting up my classroom and I saw my principal and the first words out of her mouth were: 'Hey, have you lost weight?' YIPPEEEE!!!! It's noticable!!! Wahoo!!! Yahoo!!! :) :) :)

*starts singing* I feel good, na na na na na na na, like I knew that I would, na na na na na na na....

I did 7, yes 7 miles on the bike today!! 150 sit-ups, 20 off these things, 20 of these things (what you can't picture them?), 40 chest presses, and 54 torso twisty things. All in all a good day!
 
150 sit-ups, 20 off these things, 20 of these things (what you can't picture them?), 40 chest presses, and 54 torso twisty things. All in all a good day!
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I love your description..."torso twisty things".:D
 
omg so lucky lol
Im only just starting to get the 'you've lost weight' thing now after 60lb/26kg
 
I really wish that the numbers on the scale would go down---I feel like everyone else here is 'Oh 400 pounds gone in two days! and I'm still stuck at 193. Why does everyone else lose weight weekly and I don't? It seems like everyone else is dropping it super fast and I'm the dud in the corner. I'm eating better, I'm exercising my a$$ off...why won't the numbers go down!!!!!

*grrr*
 
Oy vey we exercised at freakin' 10 pm tonight!!!! Never again. I know that when school starts I will not go that late. Anyway, I rode 3 miles, did 100 sit-ups and 150 torso-twists. Less than usual but it was late and I'm not in the least bit motivated.
 
hehe I go doing it in the morning, If i leave it till later i talk myself out of things.
If its already done i can go around without the stress of thinking about it and i end up thinking how great i am all day :D
I swear i walk with more of a bounce in my step! in fact sometimes im so happy i do a second workout in the afternoon or go swimming! :D

How many calories are you eating in a day? and how much are you burning?
Have you got a fitday.com account? it might be just the thing to keep you loosing.
 
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