Okay, I changed my goal wieght on my ticker. Not that this is my ultimate goal weight, that will still be 135, but I felt I really needed to up it to take off some of the pressure of losing. The reason being is I was reading a thread Mal posted about fear and weight loss and after reading it, I figured out that that was a huge problem for me. I always knew it kind of was, but I didn't realize how much of an impact it had on my weight loss until I read that post.
I remember when I first started losing I would tell myself, "Once you get to your goal, you can always wear big baggy sweats, hoodies and sunglasses so you don't have to be noticed if you don't want to be." Being over weight made me kind of invisible and there were times, even though I didn't realize it, that I wanted to be.
It's all because I have this big fear of predator type men. My last relationship was with an abusive bastard and it's also when I started to really put on weight. This has been a long time fear for me though. My mother was sexually assulted when I was little and it's seems I heard about it my whole life, and it always scared the crap out of me. After losing the weight I lost, I think my subconcious said "Okay, that's enough.", but I have to get over this. If I ever want to be truly happy, I have to get over this fear and get this weight off me. My kids are older now but I'm not getting any younger and it's time for me to start to live my life the way I want to. However, I can't do that with all of this extra weight on me and I certainly can't do it with these fears looming over my head, so it's time to do something about it. I just hope I can figure out what.
In the mean time, I'm going to shoot for 185 instead of 135 and take things from there. I'm hoping my subconcious will be okay with this new goal until I can figure out how to alleviate this fear of mine.