Journey, Not A Destination

Weekend was a lot of fun. Had my buddies wedding on Saturday. Had a blast, lot's of drinking, laughing, dancing.....

Did a lot of reading yesterday. I've been dong a lot of research on cognitive behavioral therapy.... very interesting stuff.
 
drinking laughing and dancing are all good things - as long as it's not the chicken dance -though that could cause some serious laughter...
 
that sounds really interesting. i do believe that people have the power of altering their thoughts, and while altering their thoughts they alter the way they feel and consequently how they act. i don't know much what the therapy includes but i suspect it involves some practice.
 
I am anxious to see what you think of this program.

I find this hard to believe, but I think I'm even more anxious than you are to try it out. I'm getting very antsy not doing any serious exercise!

WOW, Tom, what a bod!! Oh now I feel dirty

LOL. Unfortunately, a bod that will never be seen again, except in a photograph!
 
that sounds really interesting. i do believe that people have the power of altering their thoughts, and while altering their thoughts they alter the way they feel and consequently how they act. i don't know much what the therapy includes but i suspect it involves some practice.

Certainly does.

I've been studying things of this nature for quite some time. When I finish the current research I am doing, I will write up something on the subject.
 
Gosh for the past few weeks I've been there and back. Mid May I was in Anaheim, CA for a Urologist conference, came back in time for Memorial weekend and headed to Green Bay, WI for a volleyball tournament (took 3rd place:) ), then Memorial Day had to take a plane to copenhagen denmark for an all department meeting. Got back Friday. I'm beat and my body is screaming for exercise and chicken. :) It's been a crazy month and I'm looking at an even more insane June and July. but I'm having a blast. You'll never believe what kind of devices I'm working on...really interesting stuff - See urologist.
 
You'll never believe what kind of devices I'm working on...really interesting stuff - See urologist.

So, do you have a device that will suck all the pee out of you before you step on the scale? :)
 
Gosh for the past few weeks I've been there and back. Mid May I was in Anaheim, CA for a Urologist conference, came back in time for Memorial weekend and headed to Green Bay, WI for a volleyball tournament (took 3rd place:) ), then Memorial Day had to take a plane to copenhagen denmark for an all department meeting. Got back Friday. I'm beat and my body is screaming for exercise and chicken. :) It's been a crazy month and I'm looking at an even more insane June and July. but I'm having a blast. You'll never believe what kind of devices I'm working on...really interesting stuff - See urologist.

Wow, sounds intense. But if you're having a blast.... that's all that matters. Glad you popped in. :)
 
I was trying to keep my whining and negativitiy in my diary yesterday and not let it spread -

So I didn't do many visits...

So...

loser? you?
not bloody likely...

we are due for pictures soon aren't we though?
 
Quote of the Day

Each indecision brings its own delays and days are lost lamenting over lost days... What you can do or think you can do, begin it. For boldness has magic, power, and genius in it.


Even if you are on the right track, you will get run over if you just sit there.


Your goals, minus your doubts, equal your reality.


Random Thought of the Day:

Are you happy?

By that, I mean, listen to what you say to yourself on a daily basis. What's the atmosphere in your mind?

I think so many people blow over this concept as if it is some far-fetched gimmick. Positive thinking has transformed into some mythical, magical act that transforms people's lives with the wave of a wand. When something is associated with myth and magic, much like many of the products of the fitness/diet industry, they are pushed aside by the smart individuals. Passed right by. They know better.

Doing so, though, with regards to the act of concentrating a great deal on your internal dialog, is a grave mistake.

Cognitions (thoughts) drive emotions. Emotions ultimately drive actions. This is very true. It's not me speaking only from experience. It's what I've learned from experts in the psychiatric community. I've applied it to my life with a great deal of success.

Let's think about this for a moment.

Emotions seem to be what everyone trips up on, in life. You know the saying, "Let's get to the root of the problem," right?

There is truth to that saying.

If you are going to permanently fix anything in life, you must identify the origin of the problem and work on it from that level. If you are fat, you don't start at such a "shallow" level by literally attacking the fat itself. Right? I mean, that would be absurd. Imagine someone sitting there grabbing their fat and shaking it violently! LOL. "For the love of God, get the hell off of me!!!!"

Now I know people do get this frustrated, but I think any rational person can see how futile the above actions are. What would be the more sensible thing to do?

The core (root of the) problem with regards to body fat is excess energy. It's rampant. As a whole, our global society has become less active and food (bad stuff too) has become more abundant. A combo that surely leads to obesity on large scales. So, the basic "root" is excess energy. To lose the fat permanently, any rational person is going to attack it from this level. They are going to control energy to a certain degree.

Sorry for the tangent, but I do have a point concerning thoughts and emotions, so back to it.

I've said "emotions are the product of thoughts" more times than I care to count. However, I still think a great deal of people don't let that concept sink in. On average, most people in society get tripped up by our emotions. We feel sad, depressed, angry, hurt, defeated, defected..... whatever negative word or words you can think of to describe negative emotions. And guess what? That's what we concentrate on. We focus on the fact that we aren't feeling good. When we know all along that our thoughts create these negative emotions. Yet, we still never stop to think about what we are thinking about.

Instead, we focus on how we feel. It's easy to do so, since it's right there smacking you in the face. By focusing on the product (emotions) you are never going to find a "fix" though. By doing this, you are simply going to create more negative thoughts and we know this begets more negative emotions. It is a perpetually viscous, crushing cycle.

When I was a freshman in college, I was scared. College had always been like a far off dream to me. I wasn't a great student in high-school. I focused my attention to girls, sports, and girls. This reflected on my grades. I knew that it was time to "shape-up" with my study habits but would I be good enough? Was it even possible for me to do well?

I had accounting that first semester, a subject I knew absolutely nothing about. By the end of the first week, I was scared shitless. Information was going in one ear and out the other. How could I learn when the only thing I focused on what how badly I was going to screw this up. My thoughts:

"I'm doomed, destined to be mediocre, I'm in way over my head, if I can't pass my first class I might as well drop out of school now"..... the list goes on and on and on.

These thoughts consumed my conscious mind. It's all I thought about. Think about something enough, and it certainly does become your reality.

I took my first test and wouldn't you know.... I wasn't good enough! I failed.

Was I really not good enough? At the time, I surely wasn't. But not because of some destiny that doomed me to dumbness. It was my reality because it was what my thoughts made me perceive and believe. And if you see something, physically or mentally.... and you believe it..... guess what? You damn well better believe that it's REAL!

Long story short.... I also made a firm decision to begin reading everything I could get my hands on once I entered college. Thank the Lord a few good authors who I've become friends with shed some light on my life and my mind.

I learned at the perfect time that my current reality CERTAINLY wasn't permanent.

I earned a B in accounting that first semester. I received an A though. The professor was an amazingly rewarding, caring individual. He gave any student with perfect attendance 10 extra points towards your final grade.

And that was the beginning of the success I experienced in college. I would be willing to bet every penny to my name that if I hadn't learned about the significance of my internal dialog at that time in my life.... I wouldn't be where I am today.

Now, I know I skipped the good stuff. How did I change the way I think and therefore my beliefs and realities? This is such a deep subject that even I am still learning about on a daily basis. There are so many facets to understand. I will certainly add parts II, III, and IV to this "article" where I will go into more of the application side of things.

For now though....

I don't want you to hear about this positive thinking stuff and brush it off. It applies to EVERYONE. Certainly, you can't think yourself thin, happy, rich, etc. However, if your reality is "banged up," the path that travels toward these ultimate goals is going to be very rocky and bumpy. So rocky and bumpy that many people end up never reaching these ultimate goals.... if that makes any sense at all. At this point..... I feel like I've said a few good sentences and rambled along on the rest!!!!

For now, I just hope to wake more people up to the fact that our thoughts are our realities.

Don't get trapped in a paper box.

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To wrap up a really long post, I thought I'd share a picture from the recent wedding I attended. I know a few on here were wondering what my fiancé looked like.... so here you go.

Keep focused on her! I look like utter crap in the pic. Mind you, I was "over-heated" from dancing and drunk in this pic. :)

Oh, and I added a couple more pics. The end product of all this drinking led to a nice, long slowdance with one of my best friends. :p
 

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I was trying to keep my whining and negativitiy in my diary yesterday and not let it spread -

So I didn't do many visits...

So...

loser? you?
not bloody likely...

we are due for pictures soon aren't we though?

Haha, funny you should mention pics. I added a few above. There are really bad though.

I did get my engagement pictures back but I can't share them! Which really bums me out b/c they are really good.

Unfortunately, they are on a website that protects the pictures so I can't save them to my computer and post here.

And no, fiancé will not allow me to give out the username and password to everyone to view.

I am certainly going to buy some of the pictures from the site and then I will try and find a scanner. That's the only solution I can think of at the moment.
 
she's beautiful... damn... what the hell is she doing with you?

oh wait - never mind :) I've seen your pics too :) what a cute couple you make..

though you and your buddy also make a cute couple if you ever decide to go that way :D

I'm not commenting on the rest of your post... but if it works for you that's great.
 
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