Journey, Not A Destination

we're all really concerned about your journey....we want to see the progress from start to finish with your current goal
 
Eustress is the good stress that we feel when we have, for example, successfully accomplished a challenging task or benefited from our efforts. It entails a person to perceive that they have adequate resources to meet the demand or stressor they have encountered. In essence, eustress is effective goal striving.

Although sitting and watching TV could be considered eustress, one would have to weigh up the gains of such an exercise with the losses of not completing more pressing demands. Perhaps if TV is watched after a strenuous activity, then TV could be associated as a reward of one's efforts. Alternatively, watching one's favourite TV series could be eustressing because it is an important and significant goal that underscores a well balanced life. The point is, most activity is beneficial as long as more important goals are not hindered.

Eustress is regulated by both emotional and situation processes (regulative process).

Emotional regulation is the appraisal of gain or benefit - finding the passion or value in the current activity that is demanding necessary effort. Situational regulation involves detailing the demand into clear goals, establishing feedback indicators to monitor success, and maintain control.
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I'd never heard that term before... Generally stress is how I know I'm alive -that gnawing at my gut, the searing pain behind my eyes...

It's interesting - it doesn't seem like an appropriate term though - just not sure what to call it...
 
sensa516 said:
we're all really concerned about your journey....we want to see the progress from start to finish with your current goal
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My journey has strayed away from physique training so pictures don't really paint a picture, unfortunately.

:)
 
maleficent said:
I'd never heard that term before... Generally stress is how I know I'm alive -that gnawing at my gut, the searing pain behind my eyes...

It's interesting - it doesn't seem like an appropriate term though - just not sure what to call it...
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For me it's simply pressure. If I feel no pressure, I take no action.

Said pressure is tied to my goals, which is obvious.

But depending on how people set their goals and how they think about the process, it's very easy to simultaneously avoid pressure. They associate immense stress or pain to pressure. The net is conflict between managing pressure and obtaining goals.
 
Pressure and stress, to me anyhow - are from different sources...

Pressure tends to come from within - and is relatively healthy.

Stress comes from sources that I cannot control yet still affect me... Server goes down in the middle of the day and I've 250 users who are dead in the water while I wait for the server guys to resolve the issue... That's stress... :D
 
maleficent said:
Pressure and stress, to me anyhow - are from different sources...

Pressure tends to come from within - and is relatively healthy.

Stress comes from sources that I cannot control yet still affect me... Server goes down in the middle of the day and I've 250 users who are dead in the water while I wait for the server guys to resolve the issue... That's stress... :D
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That's great that you make that clear delineation.

The fact is though, that many people get stressed by their internal pressure.

Hypothetical example:

Sally wants to lose 100 lbs. She's been obese the majority of her life. After a ton of struggle with losing and gaining, self doubt, limiting beliefs and thought processes, etc, etc.... she decides to put her foot down and succeed no matter what.

She sets goals and established outlines of how she's going to go about obtaining said goals.

Yet, each morning when she wakes up she feels nervous and uneasy. Much like you might when a problem arises causing stress. For Sally, even though she made up her mind to reach her goals, the very process of losing weight stresses her out emotionally.

Now that she's made up her mind... it's do or die time. She either succeeds or she fails. What if she fails? What does that mean to her? What does that mean for her future?

Pressure leads to doubt and doubt leads to limiting questions.

Soon, the same pain that caused her to make up her mind about losing weight causes her to fail. Where the pain originally led to things such as disgust, regret, etc... it now leads to internalized pressure that stresses her or scares her out of living up to the goals she set for herself.

It's seems crazy and illogical... however, I've seen it quite a few times. Sure, it's usually not so cut and dry. It's usually not something you can point a finger at and say, "Sally is stressing herself to the point where she sees pain in moving forward."

The stress from the internalized pressure is usually multifaceted but there's always a foundation of thought patterns that are similar in each case. I say it time and time again but perception and self-talk are awesome forces that break people down time and time again.

In truth, I've experienced very similar patterns that I've corrected. Not with my weight or physique... but other areas. It's all the same.
 
sensa516 said:
ok fine next time we both happen to end up in AC you have to meet me so I can get you drunk and talk you into these pictures then make a new thread lol
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It's rare I let drunken pictures slip out on to the Internet, lol.

I'm not saying it hasn't been done.

But it's rare.
 
Steve said:
It's rare I let drunken pictures slip out on to the Internet, lol.

I'm not saying it hasn't been done.

But it's rare.
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I'm making a career of getting people to do what I want them to do lol I'm fairly confident in my abilities...I'm not trying to get you to go all Miley Cyrus on us....think of it as giving back to the community if you will
 
I'm sure I appear that way outwardly to some as well... because it's what I present and what I choose to talk about...

With regards to weight loss and fitness... for me it's always been a moving target.. yes, I have high expectations... and i get frustrated and annoyed with myself when I fail to meet those expectations... but I don't ever see it as a failure... it's generally a kick to not give up... Pressure to keep going forward...
 
Ohhh, ok.

That makes a lot of sense.

If I'm being honest, I've got nothing to show off right now. My pics in my album now are when I was 20 lbs heavier. At least.

I've lost fat and muscle netting out to nothing spectacular... not that I was spectacular before.

Maybe I just have to view this differently.

I'll be taking pictures to show people what NOT to do if they wish to look better over time, lol. Although my primary goals weren't to look better; they were the business and improving performance and work capacity.
 
maleficent said:
I'm sure I appear that way outwardly to some as well... because it's what I present and what I choose to talk about...

With regards to weight loss and fitness... for me it's always been a moving target.. yes, I have high expectations... and i get frustrated and annoyed with myself when I fail to meet those expectations... but I don't ever see it as a failure... it's generally a kick to not give up... Pressure to keep going forward...
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And that's a damn respectable quality that most struggle to grasp.

There is no failure if you don't stop trying.

This doesn't say much about the journey mentality though. It sides more with the destination mentality.

There's a lot of middle ground that helps improve the 'ride.'
 
Steve said:
Ohhh, ok.

That makes a lot of sense.

If I'm being honest, I've got nothing to show off right now. My pics in my album now are when I was 20 lbs heavier. At least.

I've lost fat and muscle netting out to nothing spectacular... not that I was spectacular before.

Maybe I just have to view this differently.

I'll be taking pictures to show people what NOT to do if they wish to look better over time, lol. Although my primary goals weren't to look better; they were the business and improving performance and work capacity.
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I don't care how you justify it at the end of the day :nopity: lol let's see em....
 
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