James's Journal (And Alternate Alliteration)

ok -so what's wrong with you that you haven't been scooped up...

you're too cute...

and I'd say where the hell were you 15 years ago - but.. well -that'd land me in jail :D

yoou have a single father? grandfather? :D
 
I never touch a grill--I agree that it's a man's job..lmao. I just have no interest in grilling whatsoever. Now eating what's been grilled is a whole nutha thing. :D I'm a pretty good cook, so I don't mind cooking. I wouldn't mind doing the laundry, cleaning the house and all the crap if I was a stay at home wife-mother. But if I was out there working full time, there is no way in hell I'd wait on you hand and foot. :puke:

And a man who can fix things around the house and does it without having to ask him 50 times----that is a total turn on...lmao. In return, I'll sew up your shorts when you rip them out doing squats at the gym, or the buttons back on your shirt that popped off when I ripped it off ya.... ;)
 
yoou have a single father? grandfather?
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Nope, sorry. My grandfather just died a couple of months ago at 98. My pop is still married and in love with my mother. They are getting back from their trip to mexico together, today. When I go home for thanksgiving, my brother and I have squirt bottles that we carry around to squirt him with when he says something perverted about our mother while in earshot of us. He is the man that I most admire, though, and who I try to be most like, so he's like me, but a better man in every possible way.

ok -so what's wrong with you that you haven't been scooped up...
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Fear of commitment. I dated one girl for a LONG time in my youth, and I got crushed at the end of it. She went behind my back and cheated on me with a guy that she is now married to. Girl after that dated for ~6 mos, and she cheated on me, and then married the next guy. The girl after that, I dated for ~5 months, but we were a TERRIBLE couple (she was afraid of sex / closeness... I am a hugger, and toucher)... she married the next guy... The list goes on, but the past couple of relationships all ended the same way. We date for 5-6 months. Something happens, and I break up with them. They get married to the next guy.

List of the most recent three:
1) Tried to change me and make me act more mature. Peaked when we were out at a bar, and I did a "food show" when I was feeling goofy, and she dressed me down right there for acting too much like a child. We broke up that night. She was a resident, too... woulda been nice to marry a doctor... Guy right after me married her
2) I dated her more out of convenience than anything else. It was a shallow relationship, and we were both happy when it was over. She is now married to a different one of my friends.
3) (This is in all seriousness the thing that I am most ashamed of in my life, so be kind) A single mom. We were originally set up on a blind date. We really hit it off, and when I was making her pancakes the next morning, she tells me that she has a kid. I tell her that I am not at a point in my life where I can handle being a father. I have neither the financial or emotional fortitude to be a dad. I have a great relationship with my father, and when I become a dad, I want to be the best possible father, and right then (and right now), I don't believe that that is possible. She got insulted that I would even think she was trying to get me to be the child's father. Great, that understood, we started dating. It was awesome for four months. Four months in, she says (word for word) "I need you to commit to me and my child. She needs a real father." So, I told her I couldn't do that, and we broke up. Many bad words were said about me and my manhood, but it had to be done.

Basically, there is only one girl that I've dated that did not get married to the guy right after me. What am I to do? I'll just keep on keepin on. Eventually, I'll find SOMEONE crazy enough to enjoy a man that says "See that graveyard there? That's a really popular one... people are just dying to get in there" when passing a graveyard, and I'll be all good. Till then, I'm good just chilling with whoever is the soup de jour.
 
Bah, and THAT is why I don't look back on my past relationships... 5-6 months, a breakup, then hearing about an engagement a year later is enough to make ANY man morose...

damnit...

I'm gonna go listen to the cure...

Spinning on that dizzy edge
 
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Fear of commitment. I dated one girl for a LONG time in my youth, and I got crushed at the end of it. She went behind my back and cheated on me with a guy that she is now married to. Girl after that dated for ~6 mos, and she cheated on me, and then married the next guy. The girl after that, I dated for ~5 months, but we were a TERRIBLE couple (she was afraid of sex / closeness... I am a hugger, and toucher)... she married the next guy... The list goes on, but the past couple of relationships all ended the same way. We date for 5-6 months. Something happens, and I break up with them. They get married to the next guy.


3) (This is in all seriousness the thing that I am most ashamed of in my life, so be kind) A single mom. We were originally set up on a blind date. We really hit it off, and when I was making her pancakes the next morning, she tells me that she has a kid. I tell her that I am not at a point in my life where I can handle being a father. I have neither the financial or emotional fortitude to be a dad. I have a great relationship with my father, and when I become a dad, I want to be the best possible father, and right then (and right now), I don't believe that that is possible. She got insulted that I would even think she was trying to get me to be the child's father. Great, that understood, we started dating. It was awesome for four months. Four months in, she says (word for word) "I need you to commit to me and my child. She needs a real father." So, I told her I couldn't do that, and we broke up. Many bad words were said about me and my manhood, but it had to be done.

Basically, there is only one girl that I've dated that did not get married to the guy right after me. What am I to do? I'll just keep on keepin on. Eventually, I'll find SOMEONE crazy enough to enjoy a man that says "See that graveyard there? That's a really popular one... people are just dying to get in there" when passing a graveyard, and I'll be all good. Till then, I'm good just chilling with whoever is the soup de jour.
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Man, if I didn't already have a James of my own, I would sooooo try to scoop you up! Your sense of humor never fails to make me laugh! And I love the touchy/cuddly stuff, and my James isn't a big fan.

I don't blame you for not being ready to take on daddy-hood. Better for you to be honest about it from the get go. I think you handled that in the best way possible.

Have you seen Good Luck Chuck? Your story reminds me of that movie. As soon as you are done dating a girl, they marry the next one.

I think you just haven't found a feisty enough woman for you.



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As far as telling the women I date how I feel about 'em, I am a very vocal person. They'll know exactly how amazing I think they are. As far as cooking, I am usually the chef. No woman I have dated ever really cooked for me more than once or twice. Normally, it is me doing the cooking, which I am fine with. I wouldn't mind sharing the cooking responsibilities, but I've just not really dated any women that enjoy cooking, I guess. (Also, the grill is mine. Not to be a sexist, but grilling the meat is a man's job, and I am the manliest man I know, and my grill is the best grill I know, so it is my responsibility to grill, and I'm awesome at it)

I've seen relationships in my friends where the fella comes home and sits down and has himself a beer while his girlfriend runs around and does his laundry / prepares meals for him / packs him a lunch for the next day... I wouldn't have thought that that sort of crap still exists, but I have multiple buddies that live every day in a relationship like that... None of those relationships seem healthy to me. The women I date always end up being smart / sassy, and if I ever asked them to do something of the like, I would like to think they'd tell me to kiss their ass. Now, I'm not talking about an occasional doing something just to be nice, or just because, I'm talking about the girlfriend / fiance / wife taking over those sorts of duties, and the man expecting them to get done.
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Wow... the second paragraph too closely resembles my relationship. He was first attracted to my sassy side, and somehow I have managed to lose some of that. I dote on him too much, and instead of being a good thing, I think it may annoy him. I am glad I read this, because it really opened my eyes to a lot.

But, he is definitely not like the top paragraph. He is NOT vocal in telling me how awesome I am, which is why I am constantly trying to please. I think I am desperately searching for the vocal confirmation.

Ugh. Sorry to analyze my relationship here! It's just that everything you said helped everything make more sense.

And seriously, if I didn't have a James of my own, it would sooo be on....

:D
 
Have you seen Good Luck Chuck? Your story reminds me of that movie. As soon as you are done dating a girl, they marry the next one.
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Yeah, I saw the previews for that, and the whole row of people I was seeing the movie with turned and started giving me shit... fuckin hollywood

Wow... the second paragraph too closely resembles my relationship. He was first attracted to my sassy side, and somehow I have managed to lose some of that. I dote on him too much, and instead of being a good thing, I think it may annoy him. I am glad I read this, because it really opened my eyes to a lot.

But, he is definitely not like the top paragraph. He is NOT vocal in telling me how awesome I am, which is why I am constantly trying to please. I think I am desperately searching for the vocal confirmation.
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Tell him. Tell him. Tell him. I tend to be an "overprotecter" of my ladyfriends, so I am usually the person that sits and listens to them cry about stuff (I need to design an implant for my ears that lowers a crying girl's voice to a reasonable level and pitch... I'd make billions), and in all of those relationships that I was talking about above, the guy had no idea how the girl felt, and they refused to talk about it.

Obviously, fixing it isn't as easy as "talk to him", but no headway at all is going to be made if he doesn't know about it.

That said, if you and your bowling balls get lonely, you know where to find me. :-D
 
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You are friggin smokin... If you want more, make a drive down, and I'll get you at least four years worth in one weekend.

Chicks with dimples...
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And exactly where are you located?!?! :reddevil:

Real life man would be so much better than :conehead:!!!!
 
List of the most recent three:
1) Tried to change me and make me act more mature. Peaked when we were out at a bar, and I did a "food show" when I was feeling goofy, and she dressed me down right there for acting too much like a child. We broke up that night. She was a resident, too... woulda been nice to marry a doctor... Guy right after me married her
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Bah --you cannot change a person... you have to appreciate and accept them for who and what they are.. and a little childish is good sometimes... Stuffed shirts who take themselves too seriously get really old really fast...
 
Tyly, the more you try to please the bf to get the vocal approval, the less you'll get it. If he's not already giving it out, he's not gonna change. Why not ditch him and date this James? lol He seems right up your alley.(put your bowling balls to use) :D

James, I don't see why you care so much about these ex gf's getting married after you break up. You don't sound at all like you are ready for marriage, or want to be married atm. Evidently the ex-gf's are, and that's why it didn't work out. Don't take it personally. It's just that you seem to want different things--and trust me--there is no point in a woman looking to get married to waste her time with a guy who isn't. Harsh, but true. Too many women stay with them hoping they'll change their mind.

I would recommend dating women your age or younger. Once women get in their mid-late 20s, those nesting instincts kick in for most of them. We have biological clocks (not fair, but true), and that's when they start ticking...lmao. Mine's so loud, it's probably keeping you up at night--even though I'm a thousand miles away..lmao
 
Wow...Yer such a great guy James and a great catch!

Your soul-mate is somewhere waiting... You two will meet-up one day and and everything will be fab!

So many ppl think that's hog-wash but it's not!

For now...Enjoy your youth and the prowl! :D

Hope yer havin' a great day/night.. :waving:
 
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MAN that was a good lift. I decided to make my last set of squats an explosive set, with a pause at the very bottom of the squat, then an explosion upward, and I weighted my set an extra 50 lbs. I'd finish each rep, and the weight would be wobbling up and down on each end like a friggin looney tunes cartoon. I felt REALLY strong, and I was getting CRAZY definition on all parts of my leg.
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I'm proud of you an absolutely jealous at the same time!

I strained my left inner thigh/groin and I can't do much squatting comfortably now. What happened was some dude was hogging the area for dumbbell squats. I was like, Oh well I'll just use the leg press machine. Then I over did it with too much weight and about 80 total squats (don't ask). Haven't been the same since. Oh yeah and my right knee is screwed up from too much high impact trail running.

Hey how does an "athlete" avoid depression after sports injuries that impede normal workouts? I'm getting to be a pretty sad bunny :(
 
Hey how does an "athlete" avoid depression after sports injuries that impede normal workouts?
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You're talking to the wrong man about how to prevent that, darlin. I have had surgeries to repair my knee twice, to pull a shard of my long finger metacarpel that had broken and gone up into my wrist, to fix a seperated and dislocated shoulder, I have had to have a tooth pulled out of my head and my whole eyebrow sewn back up, and I have broken almost every finger, and dislocated most of them. I am "injury prone", and after EVERY friggin time, when I have to sit on my ass and watch my friends keep going, I turn really black. Only thing that ever helped much was getting laid a lot, but you gotta have someone really special to keep on keepin on while you are on pain meds, and wacked out.

Stuffed shirts who take themselves too seriously get really old really fast...
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I couldn't agree more. I have a lot of friends that think that they need to try and "act like adults", and they seriously don't have fun anymore. Why live life like that?

James, I don't see why you care so much about these ex gf's getting married after you break up.
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I'm not looking to get married in the least, but at the same time, I'm not against it. I just gotta find the right person. I just mention that every girl (aside from one) who I have dated gets married to the person after me... because it is weird, and frankly, it is hillarious.

Your soul-mate is somewhere waiting... You two will meet-up one day and and everything will be fab!
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Awww, thanks baby. I'll be right there!

Sorry about the crazy morose day yesterday, everyone. Those questions set off a string of answers, and apparently shook loose a feeling or two I didn't know I had (I have feelings? no way... time to supress those puppies... I'm part irish)

Supersonic Man
--James
 
I'm injury prone too man.... and much the same way. The combination of not being able to compete and not being able to train would crush me. I can say though that my injuries have made me 10 times more well-read on the subject. Every time I was hurt, I'd buy and read everything I could get my hands on. Figured if I can't train the body, might as well train the mind.
 
Well, I'm half swiss, and then 1/4 german, 1/4 irish...

1/4 of me wants to kick anyone's ass, 1/4 of me wants to do it in a bar, and the other 1/2 of me eventually abstains from chosing about the fight. It's a constant struggle inside of me to decide to decide on if I should fight or not.
 
It is a push day, and though on the schedule, my main lift today is military, I might switch today's and friday's push schedule, and put my military day on friday, and make today's focused lift Bench... I'm gonna need a big pump to kick me back out of the post-thanksgiving coma, after getting my $60 400g harddrive from staples at whatever ungodly hour of the morning I gotta get up at on black friday... And Military Press is one of my top producers of a great feeling. I'm excited to mix it with my deadlifts / RDLs on friday.

Not that any of you care which of my push days I'm doing today, but I was just mulling over my plan in my head, and I was on this page, so I started typing.

boobs
--James
 
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