It's all about me

About your goal weight...I'm always surprised when people think "if I lose x amount of pounds I'll look just like I want"...when there is no way of knowing where those pounds are gonna come from...you'll know when you've reached your goal weight when you can stand pure baby butt naked in the mirror, view yourself from all angles and think "Yep, that's gonna do it":)

That's a great way of looking at it, cym, provided you have a good body image, which I know Valerie does, but a lot of people don't. They could have a perfect body and still think they're fat.
 
1980

CurvyGirly & Tom: I have this idea about the relationship between women/weight training/body image. Even though it remains the birthright of every woman on the planet, no matter her shape and size, to have "I feel fat" days, I seriously think that engaging in no nonsense, no fluff weight training goes a long way towards restoring/instilling a positive self body image that is largely unrelated to a number on the scale.

I think you learn to start recognizing and appreciating things like how quality and quantity of food directly impacts energy balance - eating too little, skipping pre/post workout nutrition, filling up on so-called "diet" food, you just can't do any of that nonsense and train effectively - so that's half the battle with food right there. Scale weight, which is just a mishmash of so many factors, becomes secondary to bodyfat% - removing the tempation to counter productive things just to see the scale number drop. And you start to appreciate things about your body beyond the superficial, traditionally feminine attributes - like gaining strength, endurance and how it feels to really dig down past the point when your mind is encouraging "aww, just give up"...I don't know, it's just a half-formulated thought in my head but I think that an overall all positive body image and weight training are in some way intertwined.

I love my gym! So much that I renewed today for a three year membership. I'm super cheap and hate long term contracts so that's a big step for me to make....but I signed the paperwork feeling like I was making an investment in, and commitment to, my future.

Had "official" weight/measurement/bf%/strength assessment this a.m. I could not be more pleased!!!! It was a very cheerful training session. Especially for me cause I wasn't the one doing the gruntin' and sweatin'.:) Rest is rest is rest. Did a happy stroll down memory lane with primary w/o partner who, over the last six months or so has become freakishly strong relative to her small frame. I reminded her of how a couple of months ago she used to lay on the bench doing presses and would look at me and say the same thing every single time: "I bet I'm the only Asian girl in the whole world doing this...the only one"...sob sob

Calories at 1980 - on target. Back to counting sat fat as I go so it's once again on target at 17g and 8%. Discovered I love lowfat provolone cheese - at 50 cals and 3.5g of sat fat a slice I'm in dairy heaven once again. Went overboard on the fiber at a whopping 60g - 18g came from a new wrap I'm trying out. Protein could have been just a bit higher, a second egg white would have done the trick. Overall satisfied though.

liquids:
coffee, 8 oz
green tea, 8 oz
lemon juice, 1 oz
water, 60 oz

fruits:

mango, 1 large fruit
apple, 1 medium fruit
apple sauce, unsweetened, 1/4 cup
raisins, 1/2 of .05 oz box
grapes, 1/2 cup

veggies:
pumpkin, puree, 1/4 cup
spinach, 1 cup cooked
tomato, 2 medium fruits
sweet potato, 1/2
carrots, shredded, 1/4 cup

dairy:
low fat provolone, 2 slices

meat:
ground turkey, 85% lean, 4 oz
egg, white, 1

nuts/grains/seeds/legumes
almonds, 1.5 oz
flax, ground, 1 tablespoon
oats, rolled, 1/2 cup
oat bran, 1/4 cup
ww wrap, 2 wraps
saltines, 2 crackers
popcorn, 1/4 cup kernels

other:
olive oil, 1.5 tablespoons
sf/ff pudding, 1 serving
honey, 1.5 tablespoons

Total: 1980
Fat: 81 731 38%
Sat: 17 153 8%
Poly: 11 103 5%
Mono: 29 260 13%
Carbs: 273 852 44%
Fiber: 60 0 0%
Protein: 87 349 18%
Alcohol: 0 0 0%
 
You've just made incredible progress. And your comments about strength training and body image are right on the mark. My daughter started the new weight training program I gave her, and feels exactly the same way.
 
2) I purposely made a huge mental seperation between food and exercise cause I know myself too well didn't want to fall into the trap of thinking "I'll overeat by x amount and burn it off running later"

I'm still struggling with this and still trying to switch that mentality. I very huge struggle at the moment...:eek:

I had to stop by and catch up today. I love your journal and it really motivates me to keep doing what I'm doing. the past few weeks have been uber busy and I've finally been able to get some decent workouts in. Sadly my food intake was not as anal as I would have liked it to be...but after reading your posts I'm very much motivated again.:D
 
1963

mnexercisegirl: Yey! for being remotivated Sometimes my own life feels like a runaway train and I continually have to grasp at every motivational staw available to just keep on keeping on because it's so easy to get wrapped up in life and forget how important taking care of yourself is...and I don't even have a hubby and kids to account for - so it's got to be 100x's harder for you...and btw your upcoming trips look like a lot of fun.

Re the food/exercise seperation thing...sounds a little odd probably but when I first decided that I was going to do this and make it stick I sat down and made a list (it was embarrassingly long) of all my ingrained habits, personality quirks, preferences, yada yada that had led to me both gaining and regaining the weight in the first place....the "I'll burn it off later" mentality was at the top of the list...cause I seldom actually "burned off" the excess:) I know people that works well for, because they actually do it - but I happen to be a big procrastinator (also at the top of my list of "barriers").

Okay, this is so cool it just made my day. I'm looking through my training log for ideas for writing up my new routine and I stopped to look at one particular entry cause I had written the whole thing in red with lots of stars and happy faces... c: 39.5" w: 33.5" lower abs: 37" hips: 41" - and this reflected a 4.25 overall loss from the previous 6 week measurements (which I guess accounts for all the happy faces) The thing is I've actually lost 7 inches from the natural waist alone since that entry! I tore the page out and taped it to my computer...better motivation for me than a million before pics!

Cals in line at 1963...but sat fat over by 4 grams. Fiber a bit excessive at 57g, and protein at 116g. Just that friggin sat fat. It's annoying, I'm down to one meat serving a day (if I choose beef) and using all low or non-fat cheeses. The only other thing I can really change is to switch to non-fat yogurt...not really an option because I basically hate non-fat yogurt and wouldn't eat it. Okay, I could also forgo my daily cappuccino...ummm, no that's not gonna happen either. I think I'm just being resistant to committing to consistently making the changes I need to make in this area. Just gonna keep pluggin away at it.

liquid
coffee, 16 oz
water, 80 oz

fruit
pineapple chunks, 1/3 cup
raisin .05 oz
apple, 1 medium
tangerine, 1 small
grapefruit, 1 medium
blueberries, 1/3 cup

veggies
onions, 1/4 cup diced
tomato, 2 large fruits
spinach, cooked, 1/4 cup

dairy
yogurt, plain, nonfat, 1/2 cup
cottage cheese, nonfat, 1/2 cup
low fat provolone, 2 slices

meats
beef, 6 oz

nuts/grains/seeds/legumes
whole wheat tortilla, 3 wraps
almonds, 1.5 oz
popcorn, 1/3 cup kernels

other
pudding, sf/ff,
olive oil, 1.5 tablespoons

Total: 1963
Fat: 94 842 43%
Sat: 24 215 11%
Poly: 10 93 5%
Mono: 42 382 20%
Carbs: 216 637 33%
Fiber: 57 0 0%
Protein: 116 464 24%
Alcohol: 0 0 0%
 
Wow, a 7 inch loss - now THAT's impressive! Of course, I'm not surprised, given how meticulous you are. If anyone can succeed in this, it's you.
 
Tom...those measurements were from a very, very long time ago - back in fact when I had, umm, a more impressive chest.
 
OK, I'm looking through your food entry and there is no way that is 1900 calories! I had 12 ounces of chicken and 24 ounces of cantaloup as a combination of my snacks and lunch and some other foods and got a little over 1800. I still don't get how your list gets to 1900. ?:confused:
 
copied my fitday page for you...... cals, fat,carbs,protein
Almonds 264 23 9 10
Apple 63 0 16 0
Blueberries 40 0 9 0
Cappuccino 59 3 5 3
Desserts, puddings, KRAFT, JELL-O 26 0 6 0
Olive oil 179 20 0 0
Onions, 15 0 3 0
Popcorn, air-popped 170 2 35 5
Raisins 42 0 11 0
Spinach 19 0 3 2
Tomatoes 76 1 17 3
Yogurt 75 4 6 4
cottage cheese 90 0 7 14
flat out wraps 240 8 51 27
low fat provolone 100 7 0 10
Pineapple 35 0 9 0
Grapefruit 82 0 21 2
Beef, trimmed to 1/4" fat 357 24 0 33
Tangerine, raw 31 0 8 0

Totals 1963 94 216 116
 
Funny how when you copy it out in the Fitday format it looks a lot more "un confusing"... the "fitday" format. One thing that I noticed with my foods, is that I don't calculate my olive oil consumption. I don't even measure it when I cook, just kinda eyeball it. But cooking for 4 is hard to estimate my stirfrys when everyone eats it, know what I mean? I'm wondering if I should just add in 2 tablespoons daily as an average...
 
oooh, the olive oil. I eat it every day, personally if I measured nothing else I'd figure out a way to get the closest estimate possible with olive oil because it is so darn calorie dense....if you look at my food you'll see that my little 1.5 tablespoons of olive oil had as many calories as half of my 6oz meat serving!
 
CurvyGirly & Tom: I have this idea about the relationship between women/weight training/body image. Even though it remains the birthright of every woman on the planet, no matter her shape and size, to have "I feel fat" days, I seriously think that engaging in no nonsense, no fluff weight training goes a long way towards restoring/instilling a positive self body image that is largely unrelated to a number on the scale.

Yes, yes, hear hear!! Me like.
 
1954

Funny how when you copy it out in the Fitday format it looks a lot more "un confusing"... the "fitday" format. ...

That's interesting because I'm the complete opposite...when I finish logging everything in nothing really makes sense to me except the total calories...it's only after I sort it out by catagory that I actually "see" and make sense of what I've eaten the previous day.

Had a semi-frustrating search for material on long term maint...not a whole lot new on the subject since the last time I looked. It's interesting and strange how there is a ton of material available about weight loss, some good, some stupid, but at least it's out there, but a relative void when it comes the subject of long term maint.

Calories on target at 1954, sat fat satisfactory at 18g and 8%..in this case the leaner cut of pork ended up being a better choice than the fattier cut of beef...yea, that's a "duh moment". Fiber once again reasonable at 39g and protein good at 132. Dark green leafy veggies seem to be missing in action though.

Liquids
coffee: 16 oz
lime juice: 1 oz
water: 80 oz

Fruits
apple, 2 small
tangerine, 1 small
raisins, .05 oz

Veggies
pepper, red, 1/4 cup chopped
onion, 1/4 cup chopped
tomato, 1 whole, small
avocado, 1 oz

Dairy
ff cottage cheese, 1/2 cup
low fat provolone, 1 slice
ff cream cheese, 1 oz

Meat
ground turkey, 85% lean, 4 oz
pork tenderloin, lean cut, 8 oz

Nuts/grains/seeds/legumes
almonds, 1 oz
popcorn, 2/3 cup kernals
whole wheat egg roll wrappers, 3 wraps
multigrain wrap, 1 wrap

other:
olive oil, 1 tablespoon

Total: 1954
Fat: 74 664 35%
Sat: 18 159 8%
Poly: 8 73 4%
Mono: 27 246 13%
Carbs: 209 680 36%
Fiber: 39 0 0%
Protein: 132 530 28%
Alcohol: 0 0 0%
 
1962

Oddly enough buffets are my favorite place to eat! If you ignore all the fried & sugary rubbish they offer (IMO) a better value than traditional restaurants because of the big selection of fruits & veggies and I can totally control my portion sizes. I can't exactly go to Olive Garden and say "I'd like 1/2 corn muffin, a quarter cup of corn, half a yam, a cup of turnip greens, quarter cup of pinto beans and 4 oz of meat. Thank you so much" But, DFH thinks buffets are eeeevil. We both have an "eat reasonably close to nature" kinda overview, and he made an interesting point. A buffet, (all you can eat, a little bit - or a lot of everything) is about as far from "natural" eating as you can possibly get. He's like: "A guy goes fishing, or hunting, or kills a chicken or whatever, and that's the meat the family ate in a single meal, along with whatever grain/veggies/fruits happened to be in season and available....a typical buffet meal is like a guy saying "hmm, let me go catch some fish, then kill a chicken, a pig and a cow so we can have three or four different meats along with our dinner." He's really not a fun person to go to a buffet with.


Calories fine but sat fat over by 3 grams - it was the pulled pork, fiber right on mark, protein a bit lower than usual...could have made several different choices to balance out sat fat and protein, will admit I actually thought about making them at the time (i.e. chosing chicken breast vs the pulled pork) but not motivated enough in the moment to make them. Did have a wonderful insight about motivation though which I'm going to come back and make a seperate entry because I think it may go a long way towards making future better decisions.



liquids:
coffee: 20 oz (uh oh)
lime juice 1 oz
water, 80 oz

fruits:
blueberries, 1/2 cup
kiwi, 1/2 fruit
apple, 1 small

veggies:
candied sweet potato, 1/4 small potato
turnip greens, 1 cup
corn, 1/4 cup
onion, 1/4 cup diced
tomato, 1 small
pepper, red, 1/4 cup diced

dairy:
yogurt, plain, 1/2 cup
low fat provolone, 2 slices

meat:
bbq pulled pork, 4 oz
ground turkey, 85% lean, 4 oz

nuts/seed/grains/legumes
beans, brown, 1/4 cup
almonds, 1/2 oz
buckwheat, 1/4 cup
flax meal, 1 tablespoon
saltines, 4 crackers
whole wheat egg roll wrappers, 3
corn muffin, 1/2 muffin
popcorn, air-popped, slightly under 1/2 cup kernals

other:
ff/sf pudding, 1 serving
olive oil, 1 tablespoon

Total: 1962
Fat: 80 723 38%
Sat: 23 204 11%
Poly: 11 100 5%
Mono: 27 245 13%
Carbs: 237 807 43%
Fiber: 35 0 0%
Protein: 89 355 19%
Alcohol: 0 0 0%
 
Hi, Cym -- I agree with you about buffets, to a point. My favorite is Soup Plantation. The hard part is turning down those freshly baked chocolate chip cookies they bring around to the tables!
 
Motivation: yea, well this thought has been brewing in my head for a really, really long time. Why wasn't I motivated to do something about my weight until it reached damn near 200 lbs? What then kept me motivated to stay on track during the entire weight loss process instead of giving up like I had so many times before? Why am I motivated, beyond weight loss conerns, to continue pursuing fitness and further refining my diet - this isn't my first loss, but it's the first one I've been motivated to actively maintain.

And then, yesterday at work something totally unrelated to weight happened and it was a total "Aha" moment. In the middle of deciding whether to act or not on a particular situation I realized I handle pretty much every conflicting choice the same way: I evaluate the pain/reward ratio....and in the end follow the path that has the highest reward value regardless of pain - but if I don't perceive the reward to be worth the pain, I just follow the path of least resistance. That's my M.O. in life.

Why didn't I do something about my weight until it reached the point where it put not just my appearance and comfort but my actual health at risk: because until that point I perceived that eating what, when, how and how much I wanted to and not exercising to be more rewarding than the pain of a weight loss program. Only having my health on the line changed the ratio. What kept me motivated? Once I started feeling realizing how good it felt to be active and energetic and in control of my choices I perceived that keeping that feeling as being more rewarding than the relief that would come from giving into a craving. And on and on.

And this may be confusing as heck to anyone who reads this...but it makes sense to me...it's like peering into how my little brain operates on a daily basis and going "oh, so that's why I decided to make/not make that particular choice". And I have to remember it because it probably happens 99% of the time on a subconcious level..but if I remain aware of it, when I find myself wanting to make what I know are sub-optimal choices I can mentally stand back and readjust my inner pain/reward scales.
 
God, what a fantastic post, cym. I tell you, it describes exactly what went on with me before last July. Every word of it describes my thinking to a tee. Amazing.

I added it to the Index of WLF "Keepers".
 
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