If I didn't know better, I'd say you were taking shots at me.
First let me respond directly to some things that stood out to me:
I have read a lot of your posts, and obviously you are well respected around here, and what you say makes sense, sometimes.
What you *really* seem to be missing is that this isn't about respect. I couldn't care less if you or anyone else here doesn't respect me. I'm about the integrity of information and the application of direct/individualized advice. That's all. If maintaining said integrity and application I lose respect from a few.... no skin off my back.
A wise person I know often says, "Those who matter don't mind and those who mind don't matter."
I try and keep that in mind as much as possible.
I can tell you when I wanted to inform someone that they were miss informed, or perhaps should be a little more cautious with what they are saying. I didn't "speak" to them like they were a total idiot. I respect consideration and respect above knowledge.
How does this reflect at all on me? I am not you and you are not me. I've been very successful reaching people on this front in my life and I'm not about to change the way I handle myself simply b/c you 'operate' under a different set of values.
As do each of us.
That's an important concept you seem to be missing. The moment you start filtering everyone through your own set of values is the moment you set yourself up for frustration and disappointment.
We all have our own values, and that's not going to change. So something else has to give if you're going to enjoy your stay here. It's up to you to figure it out.
and the negitive vibe on this thread really sucks, I don't like it, and it does not help when trying to stay positive in mindset threw all this.
I don't understand what you want. All along this thread people have been handing you advice. Yet, you keep crying that you aren't getting any. I critiqued some of said advice. Big deal!? It deserved critiquing and I'd do it again. It's what helps keep this a great forum. Great not b/c people get shitty information in pretty little packages. But great b/c the integrity from above is maintained.
It's also great b/c the people who can't mustard up the logic and accept that this is how things are run around here don't stick around long. So what's left is a good crowd.
But helping to feed one's ego? There are people on here that are really full of themselves, and I'm not into hero worship.
This is absurd and pathetic.
You have a handful of posts here, darling. I promise you don't know enough about anyone here to make this sort of assessment. I'm sure you had me in mind when doing so. If I'm right, you couldn't be further from the truth. I don't think you understand how little I care what you or anyone else thinks of me. Especially on the Internet.
If I'm wrong, my apologies.
If others can be corrected for giveing vage or poor advice (with good intentions) then someone else can "correct" someones manors.
With this one, why don't we start with you showing me, besides in this post, where people used poor manners?
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With the bad stuff out of the way and the obviousness that you demand coddling, let's move on to some advice:
1. Most of your weight loss at this point in time is going to be a function of your 'nutritional atmosphere.' Items of primary importance are things like calorie balance, diet composition, etc. You seem to be harping on about exercise an awful lot and while exercise is important, it takes a backseat to the nutrition side of things at this stage in the game. So I'd prioritize your focus a bit.
With that said:
a) How long have you been dieting?
b) How much weight have you lost?
c) Are you tracking your nutrition?
d) If so, how?
e) How/what do you eat? Is it the same thing most days of the week?
2. On the exercise front, you basically want to do stuff at this stage in the game to aid the caloric deficit you're trying to create. Losing muscle isn't that great of a concern so sticking to more 'metabolic work' opposed to strength work would be key. Metabolic work would be things like cardio, exercise tapes, and circuit training with weights. What you do and when you do it really isn't all that critical at this point in time. I got the impression that you were looking for a 'magical' combination of exercise guidelines to work the best. There are no such things. And keep in mind that you can't out exercise a bad diet.
If I were you I'd focus on cardio pretty much every day if you feel the need. If not, you can cut it back to 4-6 times per week. Cardio simply acts as a buffer to your diet. By doing it, it allows you to eat a little more food and not make the caloric restriction as awful. Once you start building up your work capacity, I'd really consider not doing it every single day as it can become counterproductive, or at the very least altering your intensities.
On top of this, I'd focus on doing some sort of full body weight lifting routine 2-3 days per week. These can be circuit-esque if you'd like but definitely focusing on the big compound lifts. All this means is don't sit there blasting your arms. Instead, choose exercises that call on the big muscles and multiple joints. Things like squats, deadlifts, chest pressing, rowing, overhead pressing, etc would all fit this criteria.
Look forward to hearing from you.
Every 4 weeks do you really have to change your whole work out, or can you get away with slight modifications?
I want to play foot ball with my boys and be able to tackle them with out crushing them, lol, or worry about getting hurt. I do NOT want to be manly looking at all, I want to be the best me I can. I say 140 as my goal weight, because, I know muscle looks different on the body, and umm my boobs are a lot bigger now after the kids and as a women I need to take that into account a bit when invisioning what my goal "weight" should be. But you know what maybe 135, or 130 will be what I end up at? I'm not big boned, I have a small frame, I am very strong, and I'm 5ft 4.
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