Is it fair?

die2bthin

die2bthin

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I have a meal plan worked out for myself that I'm hesitant to start because I'm not sure what to do about my husband. Pretty much ever since we've been together, I've always cooked him dinner. Because he works a third shift schedule, it's pretty much the only meal that I ever make him. When he comes home from work at 7:30 in the morning, I'm still sleeping, so he helps himself to a bowl of cereal or toast. He packs himself a lunch to take with him when he goes to work. It usually consists of leftovers. Other times, he packs a sandwich.

He's all of 145 pounds, so you can imagine he doesn't eat much. Is it fair to ask my husband to start making his own dinner? Should he be eating what I'm eating, or is that unfair to him?
 
What are your plans for dinners?

You should be eating healthy well balanced meals... NOT STARVING YOURSELF ordoing some fad style diet...(your user name screams eating disorder in the making)

He can eat what you're eating perhaps just a litle bit more of it - Just because he's skinny doesnt make him healthy and doesn't m ean he shouldn't be eating correctly.... You should also be learning proper nutrition that you can take with you for the rest of your life

It is unfair to ask him to make his own dinner -this is the one meal you get to share together in a day... Why eat something different?
 
An example of dinner would be:

Dinner: Vegetarian StirFry
Ingredients
1 teaspoon olive oil
2/3 cup vegetable protein crumbles* (substitute 4 ounces firm tofu)
1½ cups yellow onions, peeled and chopped
2 cups broccoli florets, washed
2 cups button mushrooms, washed, dried, and thinly sliced
1 ounce reducedfat
Swiss cheese, shredded
 
so why wouldn't he eat that?

I love cheese but it personally wouldnt like it on that combination.. but ito each their own :)
 
maleficent said:
so why wouldn't he eat that?

I love cheese but it personally wouldnt like it on that combination.. but ito each their own :)
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I suppose there's really no reason why he wouldn't... and he loves veggies, which is a plus.

Yeah, cheese on that does seem kinda yucky, doesn't it? I'm just doing what the meal plan tells me, LOL.
 
I wonder what my name screams Mal?

Anyways, if anything you should be encouraging him to eat what you eat if you're making something healthy for dinner. Better for the both of you.
 
Agree with all that, but if you didn't mind, you could make seperate meals. I do that for my family since there are favorites like spaghetti or mac and cheese that I don't eat, but they like every so often. Maybe you could do something like that where you make him somethina a bit more carb/fat rich ever other day and he eats with you the other days, but you add perhaps some bread or something with his meal?
 
These are all really good ideas, thank you for the suggestions.

I talked to him about it and he told me that if it's something he likes or finds interesting, he will eat it. Otherwise, he'll make himself dinner.
 
I'm a night shifter also, but have the opposite problem, sort of...

I'm trying to be on a somewhat meat restrictive diet for cholesterol reasons, but my wife often makes food that is not really friendly to that diet. I recently sort of argued with her about it and told her that if she was making the unhealthy (for me), dinner that I'd be more than happy to make my own. She got sort of upset with me because here she was making dinner for two, one of which wouldn't be eating it...

My take... Make the healthy food, 'cuz it isn't bad for either of you. If he wants to suppliment it with something else, let him, but don't take it as an afront to you if he wants to add something else in.
 
BTW, welcome to the forum!

You should jump in and start a diary so that we can jump in and give you support.
 
Your hubbie will be better off eating what you are on the diet. He can always supplement with meat (IE pre-cooked chicken breast) and he'll be fine. If your diet is balanced, he'll be better off for it.

Good luck.
 
When I first started to diet I still cooked my husband meals he would like, his usual staples like rice & chicken cooked in olive oil, but not something "diet friendly". I would also have to cook meals for my kids like mac n cheese, spaghetti & meatballs, etc. , you get it. For myself, I ate healthy and proper proportions. A year later, he got used to what I make for myself, and he eats what I eat , just a lot MORE of it. He has become aware of his eating habits now. The kids however, eat their own food. Its hard to make everyone what they want, but you can over come the temptations.
 
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