I Think Im In Need Of A Pep Talk!!!

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ERYNN123

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I THINK I MAY BE LOSING HOPE... I HAVEN'T HAD ANY MOTIVATION TO GET MYSELF BACK INTO A ROUTINE. I THINK ITS BECAUSE MYSELF ESTEEM IS SLOWLY DEFLATING DUE TO A RECENT BREAK UP. I SHOULD BE READY TO START FRESH AND NEW BUT I NEED A PUSH.. DOES ANYONE HAVE ANY TIPS ON HOW TO GET YOURSELF BACK INTO THE EAT RIGHT WORK OUT MENTALITY??? IM STUCK!!! :eek:
 
Hey Erynn...I'm Kristy. Let me ramble a minute....
I know break-up's are hard, but it may be the sign of a new beginning. Don't let something like a "break-up" ruin you, your mentality or what you have been working so friggin hard for. Sometimes things happen for a reason you know? Just think of it as part of your past, learn from it and try your damnest to move forward. Don't lose hope now because of a temporary milestone in your life. You are stronger than that & besides, whoever broke up with you must be the loser! Why let them win? Be strong....cry your eyes out for a while, kick your pillows a$$, have a beer or something and start a new day tomorrow. That's my pep talk. Hugs to you hun! Things will get better.
 
Depends on your personality. My methods are to get a new hairstyle, buy a new outfit, or just tell myself that I'm better off without him. With my choice in men, the last statement is usually true.

Above all- don't ever let another person be your reason for giving up on yourself. No man/woman is worth so much that you should willingly give up your self worth.

Good luck, and remember: "You're good enough, you're smart enough, and doggonit, people like you." If you know where that line originated, I'll be shocked. :)
 
I say focus on something that makes you reeelly want to keep going- and it can be a shallow thing, like looking good at a friends up-coming wedding/event/party/whatever, or even passing your ex on the street in a few months time and making his jaw drop by how much better you look without him.
And whenever you're being tempted to stray from your plan, think of how nice that moment will be.
 
My Fiancé and I broke up in April after a 6 year relationship. He spun me the whole "I love you but I'm not in love with you" BS. I just didn't do it for him physically anymore. I had to move out of my house because I couldn't afford it on my own. I was emotionally crushed. My sister was/ is going through a divorce and I wondered how she made it throughout the day without crying. I realized after a while that I had spent all my time on him and none on myself. Now I have all my time for me. Everything is about me now. I became selfish and it's been to my benefit. So get selfish. You want that fantastic haircut and color from the fancy salon? Get it. A massage and facial just because? Do it. Expensive new jeans that make your ass look great? Buy them. You answer to no one. You can make you happy all by yourself. Yes it’s nice to have that special someone in your life but you don’t require them to validate you. You want to lose weight and exercise and get your life back in order. You don’t want to feel lost and overwhelmed and miserable. It will take hard work and some days you’ll feel like giving up, but anything worth having is worth working for. You want to be happy and healthy you have to work hard for it. I found that all things come in time, but we can’t sit on our asses and wait for them. You have to get up and go get what you want. Wake up each day and tell yourself ‘Today I live for me’. Put yourself first and everything else will follow.
I got myself in touch with old friends, got some hobbies, lost 40 pounds and the ex came back to me crying. Now he’s taking me on a cruise for my birthday. It’s still all about me.
 
Mogs said:
Good luck, and remember: "You're good enough, you're smart enough, and doggonit, people like you." If you know where that line originated, I'll be shocked. :)
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Eeeeps! Stuart Smalley!!! Too funny, Mogs!!

Erynn123- Hmmm... had a relationship for 5 years with a fellow (ex fiance) who decided "why the hell not move in and sleep with another girl behind my fiancee's back." (He lived in Canada.. the douche.) Bah... oh well, life goes on. Personally speaking, I try to focus my anger by working out. For instance: I would spend 30-45 mins, after warming up/ stretching, letting out my frustrations on my punching back. (Punches, jabs, kicks, etc) Also look at it this way: His loss. You're smokin' as it is. When you do reach your goal... holy crap, you'll have to beat the boys off of you. Hmmm yah.. you might want to invest in a punching bag. Hahaaa! j/k Get out there and do it! WOOT! :D

-Sheryl
 
thanks so much everyone.. i love knowing that i'm not the only one in the world who feels/felt like this.... and your all right I AM WORTH IT!!! i shouldn't let this break up get the best of me.. 5 years of my life is a long time to let go... Is it true when they say time heals pain??? could it hurry up..lol... i havent given up completely yet!!! i just spent the last few days with my new bestfriends... chocolate and pj's.... but to hear that other strong woman can get through it so can i.... thanks so much from the bottom of my heart!!!!!! this is exactly what i needed...
 
Screw time healing the pain. haha Time passed me by and left me with a bigger ass! Don't wait, my little Turbo Jam fanatic! haha Hope you're feeling a LOT better, Erynn...

-Sheryl
 
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