ok soo my bf is moving in with me next week... he used to work away most of the time but now he wont be. trouble is every time we re together i eat the wrong foods which is cool some of the time but not all the time. he will try and get me ewating junk food like buy it for me if were out he ll go n get me crisps or a choclate bar when he knows i dont eat them its been going on long enough for him to know he does it on purpose and i say to him that im just trying to look after my body so it last longer. i mean surley he wants to have a gf who is slim and sexy ect.
need to find a way of making him think about what he is putting in his mouth?? and what its doing to him
i have a dress fitting in a week so i cant afford to put on weight.
xxx
You started another thread where you were claiming that people were sabotaging you. Now you're claiming that your boyfriend is purposely buying you junk food, as if he is trying to prevent you from losing weight.
I know this is going to sound harsh, but blunt is the only way I can be...
Quit focusing on what other people are doing and focus on yourself. If you want to lose weight, you have to realize that the world isn't going to change for you. Who cares if your boyfriend buys you a chocolate bar? You don't have to eat it. If you eat it, that's your choice. Unless he unwraps the candy and shoves it down your throat, you have nobody to blame but yourself if you eat it.
Now, is it difficult to combat the temptation of having that chocolate in front of you? Yes, it can be. But, once again, that has nothing to do with your boyfriend or anybody else - that's all on you. If you want to lose weight, you have to realize that
you are the only person who can keep unhealthy foods from entering your mouth. So, whether your boyfriend buys you a candy bar or if you go with your brother to a restaurant that doesn't have a healthy menu (as you said in your other thread), the blame is all on you if you choose to stray from your diet.
Temptation is always going to be there. You have to learn to fight that temptation and let go of the expectation that everybody else in the world is going to cater to you and your needs.
Also, what do you care what your boyfriend puts in his mouth? You're the one who is trying to lose weight - not him. So, who cares if he eats a couple pieces of greasy pizza or a big ass hot fudge sundae? You're the one who has a dress fitting next week - not him. So, why worry about what he's shoveling in his mouth?
It just seems to me that you're spending too much time focusing on other people and what they're doing, when, what you
should be doing is focusing on yourself and what you're doing.
I'm sorry if that seems harsh, but it's the reality of what you need to do in order to progress in your weight loss journey. It's what we all have to do in order to progress in our weight loss journeys.
