I totally know what you mean about having a 'sabateur', I am a freshman in college and before I left for college I weighed about 190 lbs, and I'm 5'6", so I was very overweight. I had been trying to lose weight for about 2 years. However, I found that my mom actually made it a lot more difficult for me to stick to a diet. I would be motivated and really making an effort but she would always ask if I wanted to go out to eat or order pizza, neither of us have healthy eating habits at all, they're awful actually. I'm glad to hear you're making an effort to show your kids good eating habits! Not that my mom did it on purpose but she actually caused me to gain weight and made it very hard to take it off due to her constant temptations even though she knew I was on a diet and she knew how badly I wanted to lose weight. I think it has a lot to do with respect, she wasn't respecting the fact that I was trying to do something healthy for my body and just wanted a partner to eat bad food with so she wouldn't feel as guilty, maybe you should sit your husband down and just say I know that you like to eat fast food sometimes but I'm really trying to do something healthy for me and to set a positive example for our kids and it would be great if you could respect that, if you want mcdonalds thats fine but try not to include me in your decision. That's what I did with my mom and she realized how much she was tempting me all the time so she changed how she acted. But my point is that I have been at college now for about 4 months and currently weigh 155 lbs.! I went on the same diet I have been trying to maintain for years, low sugar, low calorie, and overall healthy foods, and the difference was that I didn't have someone constantly tempting me, I found that I was strong enough myself to eat some fruit or a salad at the dining hall instead of the pizza or hamburgers, its empowering to find out you really are strong enough to eat healthy, sometimes its your environment or the people you are with that can hinder your diet efforts. and I still find when I come home for breaks I eat worse than I do at school, I found my experience pretty enlightening! Hope this helped, keep up the amazing work you can do it!! =)