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Originally Posted by Frogged
185.6! :biggrin:
I'm now back to the weight I was at before this damn plateau sunk its claws into me![]()
Wow well done Frogged, thats brilliant!! Enjoy your treat day
Originally Posted by Frogged
185.6! :biggrin:
I'm now back to the weight I was at before this damn plateau sunk its claws into me![]()
Originally Posted by Irishprincess
Wow well done Frogged, thats brilliant!! Enjoy your treat day![]()
Originally Posted by Frogged
Hi Sparked![]()
Exactly! They definitely seem mutually exclusive for sure.
The first few months when I started my regimen, I was pretty isolated. I lived pretty much the same way as when I was at my heaviest. I stayed locked in my room and only emerged to feed - sort of like an obese grizzly bear
Only now, instead of eating terrible junk, I ate healthy and I utilized the treadmill I purchased and setup in my room. I never hung out with friends though, so temptations never really obstructed my numbers. I pretty much stay consistent with a loss every week. Although now that I'm attempting to be more social, yes.. temptations I have yet to tackle are springing up here and there. I'll just have to get used to it and develop the tools so I don't hinder my progression any further![]()
Hmmmmm, regarding that 'Fake It Till You Make It' suggestion. That sounds interesting, but at the same time, it sounds scary to me if I'm to be honestThere were moments while I was out with friends (and a bit intoxicated) where I felt like I could do something like that. Maybe just go wild and, if I make a complete ass of myself, just blame the alcohol. But a lifetime of living so withdrawn always overshadows my ability to let loose. There's also the thought of my body image always in my head. If something were to happen and I lost an article of clothing.. ugh. Nobody needs to see that. I'd be mortified. I don't even let my roommate see me without my shirt on - and he's pretty overweight himself! I just have a lot of hang ups I need to work on, but that suggestion is something I will remember when things improve!
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Oh, and my roommate is a nurse, so I figured his water pill suggestion was safe. I didn't feel anything from it really. Haha, perhaps it was a placebo?
Anyway, thanks for the suggestions, Sparked! :biggrin:
Originally Posted by Sparked
Woah, woah Frogged, I was just trying to suggest some ideas about how to feel comfortable talking to new people in new situations... I definitely was not talking about getting naked in public! lol, let's just start off slow now... we don't get into public nudity until at least lesson 6!But anyway, yeah, feeling comfortable being social is just a skill, so the more you continue to practice I'm sure the better you'll feel -- just don't be too afraid to push yourself (slightly) out of your comfort zone once in a while
Aww, it made me sad when you said that you feel like you're letting everyone on here down when you don't meet your goals - if anything it just makes you look kinda human and reminds us that we are capable of achieving success like you have because it's ok to slip up once in a while, the idea that success doesn't require perfection makes it feel much more attainable. So you were having a little fluctuation, that doesn't mean that you don't inspire everyone here
Oh yeah, one water pill is ok, but those things are pretty infamous for people getting addicted to them for weight loss, so I was just kinda urging you to be carefulAnother idea is that whenever I'm retaining water I take a really hot bath or shower and sweat it out (my own personal sauna!) that'll also release all those excess sodium ions that are near the skin, I'll usually stay in there for about a half hour and I always see a few pounds difference when I get out. Then drink water like crazy.
And seriously, over 10 miles?? Come on, now you're just making the rest of us look bad!Really, that's incredible, I'm green with envy!
I totally applaud your willpower for being able to have a cheat day, I can't do it, it's hell for me to start back up again!
Good job on getting back on track - plateau shmateau- you've got this!![]()

Originally Posted by Sparked
Ha! Yeah, I've heard my share of icebreakers before, but I think bringing up getting nailed with public indecency because you ran naked through the streets might be the winner!
I also disagree that some people aren't worth it and you've got a good heart for saying that. But, on the other hand, I think, weight loss is an extremely personal endeavor and it takes a level of readiness, you can do the best to encourage people, and this forum is so awesome for that, but this journey is about the individual choices .. am I going to eat that, am I going to exercise today... you can't make the decisions for people, that part is out of your hands and you can't take the blame when someone doesn't make the best choice. I think the important part is that you made sure that they know that they have someone to lean on when they decide they do want to make the right decisions. That's just what I think, and I'm sure I didn't ease the guilt -- with all that empathy you'll probably end up saving the world someday!
And you're right, pie would be a terrible thing to waste, so sacrifice as you must todayAlso, who in the world doesn't like pie??? What's not to like? :s
I like the smilies - they make your posts look festive!I use a ton too, but I try to hide them by typing them
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Originally Posted by Frogged
You really have a gift for great insight, Sparked!![]()
I've talked to family and other people about my habit of trying to take the blame for things that were out of my control. It's one of several things I've been trying to get a handle on over the last few years, but sometimes it's like I'm not even aware I'm doing it. I'm getting better at catching myself when I try to make excuses for other people's actions, but usually whoever I'm talking to about it is the first to point it out. Then I'm like 'but maybe they..', and that's usually when I start getting eye rolls from whoever I'm speaking to. That's about the time when I typically shut up![]()
I guess all I can do is just be there if or when people need support.
Oh, and I'm sure I'm not the only one struggling with this other issue I deal with, but have you ever been unsure where the boundary is between being a good friend to someone, and being an annoyance? I sometimes worry about trying to help someone who doesn't really want it, but is too nice to tell me to piss off. I'm certainly not one to hound someone I want to help, but I also don't want them to think I'm giving up on them either if I back off from the situation.
Eh, I just don't know. Maybe I'll just use my success in the end to help everyone indirectly!![]()
I still have another ~20 pounds to go, so I'm not going anywhere anytime soon! :biggrin:
And the pie was deeelicious! Although I tried to put some whip cream on it, and my rottweiler puppy nearly assaulted me when I took it from the fridge! She's like a crackhead for whipped cream, haha. Absolutely loves it!![]()

Originally Posted by luzdafuzz
I think it's quite sad that you still are a bit down on yourself, you're an incredibly attractive guy (and really, you are, and I'm not just saying that) and you have oodles of personality just bursting out of everything you write. I understand being socially awkward, and that is something you learn with time. I know confidence doesn't just happen, but you don't have all the extra weight to hold you back anymore... you've actually done it, you're there! And you should be proud of everything you've accomplished! I hope your inner self catches up to your outer self one of these days!
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Originally Posted by Loch
Hey Frogged, I just wanted to say I have been checking out your journal just wasn't sure how to integrate into the conversation lol. Sounds like you all have a lot in common =P. But I'm glad to see you're doing better than I am. Also, I hope you do get better at accepting compliments. You're a handsome young man, you're going to get a lot of them the more you open up and become social. Even when I did lose a bunch of weight I didn't get many compliments. It must be a guy thing lol. I'm sure for me, I'll just miss every compliment that comes my way.
Cute dog, by the way. I miss my dog, he had diabetes and wasn't getting any better so we had to put him down. Now I have two very fat cats. They should really sign up here and lose weight xD.![]()

Originally Posted by luzdafuzz
Yay, looks like you had a good day food/exercise wise!!!!
With the compliment thing, I don't really know how to take them either. I used to get really awkward, but I've developed this thing where if someone pays me one, I thank them straight away, compliment them on something, and then really quickly change the subject. I used to cop a lot for how I looked growing up, heaps at school but I kind of just learned to avoid people, stay in the background, keep my head down. When I was in public school a guy in my class followed me home one day and beat me up, after that my mum changed us over to a private school... it was pretty much the same there, until my last year when I was 12. Kind of formed a small group with the other individuals in the class. My older sister though was the worst though, she always used to tell me how fat and ugly I was. I remember once one of my friends were over and I left the room for a second, and my friend told me later my sister had cornered her and demanded to know why she would want to be friends with me, she should go home or no one else would like her because of me. So yea, my childhood didn't carry many good memories at all. I was homeschooled in high school because my older sister was having probs there, apparently SHE was being bullied, so my mum pulled us all out. I think I developed most of my social skills from getting a part time job really young- I was 13 and doing day shifts at a fast food place, and the youngest people working with me were 18+. So I learned a lot really fast, but I was so much more comfortable in that situation and I never got bullied at work.
I think all this stuff is character building, I mean if I hadn't grown up how I did, I certainly wouldn't be the same person. And yea, when I say I've beaten the depression, it's that it's much further to the back of my mind. I have days when I feel like I've sunk into a hole but usually it only hangs around for a day or two, rather than several months/years. Plus I've got my husband now, who doesn't mind spending all day playing Xbox when I don't feel like going out... funny that! Also he knows everything I've been through, and he was there for a lot of it (he's the first boyfriend I ever had! Started dating him when I was 17, but we were really good friends for at least 6 months before that). So yea, I'm in a good situation now and wouldn't want to change it for anything!
Also I love Batman cuz he's the only non-super super hero (if you don't count him being a billionaire with a zillion gadgets at his disposal as super)... he's just a bad ass, trying to make a differenceI like Spiderman too, can't wait till the new movie comes out. Actually we're saving our last week of holidays for when the Avengers comes out next year, THAT I can't wait for. This teeny little town I live in has no cinema, so we're planning on flying home for the week for it (oh, might drop in on the family at the same time!)
Originally Posted by Sparked
Well... while we're getting personal... this being able to take compliments topic struck a chord with me and I just kinda felt compelled to chime in too. I can't say I feel awkward in a social sense about taking compliments because my mom always made a big deal about making sure someone knows you appreciate the comment and saying an enthusiastic thank you, so as far as that, I'm kinda on autopilot because that's just what I was always forced to do. But I feel more of an internal awkwardness in accepting them, or that there is some kind of guilt that comes with agreeing with them. When Luz what talking about her sister it upset me a little because it reminded me of something I went though. I had a relationship (that lasted way too long) that got to be pretty verbally abusive, insults that just kind of ran the gamut from my looks to my weight to my personality to my intelligence, and sometimes those words just never leave you, so it can be hard to take it in when someone tells you something to the contrary, or when you've always experienced something different. I think anymore I just try and appreciate the fact that someone thought that about me, and I just keep working on getting to the point where I'm able to internalize it. I guess, Frogged, that that kind of sounds like what you are going through too, your brain is trained to expect the old situation and it's hard to change its reality over night. I'm not sure why I just let all that out, maybe Luz inspired me to share, or because it's 2 AM, or because sometimes I'm really surprised by how much I can relate to what people on this forum are going through.
But I agree, I think hardships are character building when you are able to overcome them... like they say, "that which does not kill you, only makes you stronger!"
On a lighter note, I nearly spit out the water I was drinking when I read the part about you in pigtails! Looks like you've got next year all figured out!
I'm a big fan of scary movies too, especially the classics, but I'm really terrible at turning the thoughts about them off when I go to bed! I could never watch them without a friend in the house. For some reason biblical horror really terrifies the pants off of me -- it's not like I necessarily even believe in its possibility, I guess it's just the thought that an outside force could take over your body and you would have no control over it really freaks me out! But then for some reason it ends up being fun to be that scared! weird...
Doing a 5k would be awesome! My friend and I are going to get back to training for one as soon as I can run again. I've also been playing around with the idea of setting a goal to run a half marathon before the end of 2012 for my New Year's resolution. But.. we'll see how that goes
Hey 28 was my guess! And I'm right there with ya, I spend every day convinced I'm 23!
Oh, and I'm gonna butt in again here and add to the superhero conversation. My favorite superhero is totally Professor X - just hear me out - ok he's insanely brilliant, a geneticist (which is what I'm studying to be!) and I think the dichotomy of him being so powerful and yet still confined to a wheelchair is really interesting. I always get made fun of for admitting this, but I stand by it!!!
Please forgive me if this post is full of incoherent 2 AM rambling![]()

They totally did that with Juggernaut's cringeworthy portrayal! holy heck. Even though I enjoy most of his other works, I wouldn't mind tossing a spoiled egg at Vinnie Jones for that indecency! lol