Diary: Curvie Girlie: A Yo-Yo's Reformation

Status
Not open for further replies.
If you can get past the killer flight to australia -it's absolutely worth going to - spend a few weeks....

New goal: go to Australia!!! I have flown 10 hour flights--what's this flight? 12?

When I used body fat percentage as the driver for my goal, I came to a range of 195 to 199 pounds. That's quite a difference, but even at that weight, I would have a body fat percentage of only 12%, which is pretty damned good for a guy my age.

Now I have no idea what your body fat percentage is, but it would be interesting to see the difference between an ideal weight in your mind based on BMI vs. body fat percentage.

I really believe the BMI "goals" are based on the normal, sedentary American, who works out very little and has almost no strength. When I get to 12% body fat at 195 lbs., I'll still be "overweight" according to BMI standards.

Weird! 12% is very good, I think! (I am not going to say "for a guy your age" but I admit I thought it...) Yeah, BMI doesn't take into account individuality I suppose. An online test with measurements said 20.6%--if that is accurate, I believe that is great for a girl!!! Next weekend I'm getting one done at my gym--of course I'll let everyone know. I'm not sure if I'm going to change my goal yet--I'll wait to see when the results are in. I wouldn't mind being 18.5% BF....although 19 and 20 is all gravy too!

If you dont like people commenting on your weight and body, tell them. I have had to do so. Say in a strong voice: 'It's not ok to make comments about my weight.' or whatever sounds comfortable to you. There is no need to emphasize any further. Once you set a boundary, people will respect it. Bottom line is: It's your body, and even if they are coming from a caring place, it makes you uncomfortable.
Another thing: you may have to get to your goal to prove to yourself that you can, but you dont have to stay there if you aren't comfortable. You may find that for your height, you like being 140 lbs (or 138, where you are now). It's up to you, but just remember that you did all of this hard work, and it's ok to change your goals if you feel that it's what is right for you. As long as you are eating enough, and not working out too much, and not obsessing about this, you are fine.

This is great advice! I really approciate it--thanks so much! I am going to tell people to please not comment--and remind them that I don't say stuff about their bodies (I usually keep my comments to myself because I understand people don't want to hear it a lot). And you're totally right about eating enough and not obesssing. It is difficult not to obsess while I'm still losing, but I think that once I choose a set point to stay at, I'll relax :eek:
 
You're welcome :D
In order to not obsess and think about it constantly, you have to be happy with where you are now. If you can be happy with yourself now, you can be happy with the result when you are done.
Also, when setting boundaries, it's important not to go into detail as to why it's not ok to comment on your weight. If you go into detail, it will overshadow the strong request that you have made.
You are doing fantastic, and I have no doubt that you will find a great balance for yourself. Just dont get too side tracked with losing, the fat will come off in the other places over time, because you will still be working out to maintain your weight. It will settle down evenly. :D
 
i think it's 13 from lax and 14 from sfo - it's 18 from new york which is where i've flown from each time... basically enough time to get drunk and sober upfor some people 2 times :)
 
LMAO!!!!
Australia is on my list of places to go eventually.
It's funny, I was just looking at flight times, and it's going to take a whole day each way! We are going to be pooped! :) hehe
 
You're welcome :D
In order to not obsess and think about it constantly, you have to be happy with where you are now. If you can be happy with yourself now, you can be happy with the result when you are done.
Also, when setting boundaries, it's important not to go into detail as to why it's not ok to comment on your weight. If you go into detail, it will overshadow the strong request that you have made.
You are doing fantastic, and I have no doubt that you will find a great balance for yourself. Just dont get too side tracked with losing, the fat will come off in the other places over time, because you will still be working out to maintain your weight. It will settle down evenly. :D

Great points. Thanks again--you know something? Not much is going on in my life right now, which is relly nice because I have nothing to worry about. The past year was aweful. Life is a smooth ride at the moment--leaving me much time to think about my weight loss goals. I need to study more for my wine class then! ;)
 
but you cross the international dateline so you lose a day when you get there - and get it back on your way back - so you get home before you left :)

when you go its rreally best for it to be for 2 weeks minimum - i did at least one trip in 5 days and I think I was in a coma most of it - if my passsport hadn't said I was there - I wouldn't have remembered :D
 
i think it's 13 from lax and 14 from sfo - it's 18 from new york which is where i've flown from each time... basically enough time to get drunk and sober upfor some people 2 times :)

:D
In actuality, I don't drink on airplanes. *shocked gasps?* Yeah, me--the party girl. Uh, I avoid caffeine and alcohol on planes, because then I can sleep--and that way when I get to my destination I won't be too tired. I don't want to spoil my mood by being exhausted!! But I dunno...maybe on a 14 hour flight I would get drunk first thing, then sleep it off! :D
 
well, lucky you! I look forward to having nothing to worry about. Hehe. I have found that I need things to take my mind off of things that I am waiting for. You are getting there, but I am seeing you having some frustration, so studying, or hiking, or photography may help get your mind going, plus those things are all good for you mentally!
 
Lol, mal. I think it's an 8 hour time difference right? Or am I completely off?
Sorry curvie, for hijacking your diary.:eek:
 
Ah yea, the International Dateline. That was really screwy when I went to the South Pacific. Before I went to Samoa, i had to stop in Fiji--then I went from Fiji to Samoa, then Tonga, then back to Fiji, and then home--time stopped meaning much to me after that!
 
Lol, mal. I think it's an 8 hour time difference right? Or am I completely off?
Sorry curvie, for hijacking your diary.:eek:
from the right coast it was 12 or 14 ish - somehting like that - my bedtime was when the guys in the office at home were just coming in to work... so 8 ish might be right from the left coast
 
Either way I hate flights. I wouldn't let it stop me from going somewhere, but when I was in the South pacific I did 10 flights in 12 days--2 of them 10-hour ones.:mad: That pretty much killed it for me--not to mention France, Eastern Europe, and Hawaii 3 times. I guess I'm fortunate to be in California when it comes to flying to Hawaii! I hate checking in and out of airports--and stessing about the herb I'm hiding in my bra or underwear! LOL, just kidding! :rolleyes: Or am I? :confused:
 
OK, I'm off!

Ok guys and gals, it's time to hit the road!! I'm off on a 2 and 1/2 or more hours drive to S.L.O.! Please wish me luck in staying on track, I am a hedonist at heart!!!

Thanks for all your support--I probaby won't be around until Sun/Mon, BUT my friend does have the internet so you never know! Let me know what went on while I was gone! :D
 
Hope you have a great weekend! Don't worry too much about the diet/exercise stuff - you've been kicking ass lately and deserve some treats!
 
Lucky to have you

I'm lucky to have your support!

OK at this exact moment in time....I am Drunk!

Anyway, I had a lovely weekend!! My buddy is at our neighbor's house, playing Beer Pong. Anyway, I just want to say,

Yesterday I ate 2500 calories--600 in alcohol! The rest was delicious, nutritious food. Today I need to check, but for the most part it was all healthy. Still, I was not dieting.

I went through a short situation this morning.

I woke up and reached for my hip this morning. It was bony. I didn't like it. I stripped off my clothes and studied myself in the mirror. I thought thought certain parts of me (hips, abs, legs) were too skinny, and other parts (backs of arms, lower back, butt) were still chubby. But I am not delusional enough to do anything to do at this point but have a good time. MONDAY is going to be the defining moment. Either way, I got some pictures I'll post later. I'm still trippin about the drastic change. I just want to stop dieting....

Anyway, I'm so Drunk I can barely type....Until Monday!!!:D
 
9 in the morning

Let's see, I couldn't resist getting back on here...

Yesterday my buddy and I did it all--we hiked up Mount Madonna, then went to a few wineries, then drove to a Paso Robles winery, then stopped at Morro Bay, then had dinner at Blue Sky (halibut special), then out for beer @ Spike's, and to the neighbor's party. What a day! I was really glad to start the day off right, with the hike. I wished I hadn't drank those mimosas--UGH! Today I'm going to hang out with our S.L.O. sales rep down here--she's a sweetie! People sure are pretty in San Luis....lots of Southern California influence, I believe. In Santa Cruz, ladies more often dress in hippie clothes and wear no makeup--here, almost every chick is skinny with full makeup. I'm glad I lost weight before I came here--it makes me feel like I could fit in. I'm a rebel from birth, and an independent thinker, but I'm still human--and influenced by the flow at times. I think there's big pressure on young women to be thin. I feel really comfortable with my stature at this point--much better than I was at 155 lbs. I usually felt big and awkward then, at times, if I started comparing myself to other girls. BTW, don't bother--pointless! Everybody's different. Period. Too bad insecurities can creep in when you're not looking....

Anyway, time to shower and have more fun in S.L.O.!!!

Looking forward to reading diaries on Monday! :)
 
OH right it's April 1st!!!

Damn no prank on hand!

I also was supposed to weigh myself....ha ha, the scale in this house said "E" when I hopped on it. So it's broken. I have no idea what I weigh--which is actually pretty nice. I've pictures to post in the before/after threads, which I'll so Monday. OK! APRIL FOOLS!
 
I'm lucky to have your support!

OK at this exact moment in time....I am Drunk!

Anyway, I had a lovely weekend!! My buddy is at our neighbor's house, playing Beer Pong. Anyway, I just want to say,

Yesterday I ate 2500 calories--600 in alcohol! The rest was delicious, nutritious food. Today I need to check, but for the most part it was all healthy. Still, I was not dieting.

I went through a short situation this morning.

I woke up and reached for my hip this morning. It was bony. I didn't like it. I stripped off my clothes and studied myself in the mirror. I thought thought certain parts of me (hips, abs, legs) were too skinny, and other parts (backs of arms, lower back, butt) were still chubby. But I am not delusional enough to do anything to do at this point but have a good time. MONDAY is going to be the defining moment. Either way, I got some pictures I'll post later. I'm still trippin about the drastic change. I just want to stop dieting....

Anyway, I'm so Drunk I can barely type....Until Monday!!!:D
I'm glad you can see yourself in a realistic view. Dont focus so much on each part of your body.You are so beautiful and smart, no one but you is looking at how much fat is on your butt vs. your hips.
Let's see, I couldn't resist getting back on here...

Yesterday my buddy and I did it all--we hiked up Mount Madonna, then went to a few wineries, then drove to a Paso Robles winery, then stopped at Morro Bay, then had dinner at Blue Sky (halibut special), then out for beer @ Spike's, and to the neighbor's party. What a day! I was really glad to start the day off right, with the hike. I wished I hadn't drank those mimosas--UGH! Today I'm going to hang out with our S.L.O. sales rep down here--she's a sweetie! People sure are pretty in San Luis....lots of Southern California influence, I believe. In Santa Cruz, ladies more often dress in hippie clothes and wear no makeup--here, almost every chick is skinny with full makeup. I'm glad I lost weight before I came here--it makes me feel like I could fit in. I'm a rebel from birth, and an independent thinker, but I'm still human--and influenced by the flow at times. I think there's big pressure on young women to be thin. I feel really comfortable with my stature at this point--much better than I was at 155 lbs. I usually felt big and awkward then, at times, if I started comparing myself to other girls. BTW, don't bother--pointless! Everybody's different. Period. Too bad insecurities can creep in when you're not looking....

Anyway, time to shower and have more fun in S.L.O.!!!

Looking forward to reading diaries on Monday! :)
I love Mt. Madonna, SLO wineries...love Morro Bay (some of my family lives right on the beach next to the big rock) Love Blue Sky. I miss going to SLO. As soon as my situation permits me to, I am going to be visiting my cousin up there like once a week. It's like a mini Santa Barbara, only more laid back.

I know what you mean about the So Cal influence. I moved from Petaluma to SB and the transition is HARD! I'm sure you know that SB is a huge college town too, but it seems like everywhere I go there are SKINNY girls. In an unhealthy way. Anyways, I am glad you are having a good weekend. Good for you for seeing how nice it is to not know your weight. Just be comfortable in your skin-thats the sexiest thing in a woman.
OH right it's April 1st!!!

Damn no prank on hand!

I also was supposed to weigh myself....ha ha, the scale in this house said "E" when I hopped on it. So it's broken. I have no idea what I weigh--which is actually pretty nice. I've pictures to post in the before/after threads, which I'll so Monday. OK! APRIL FOOLS!

For a moment I thought you were going to say that you broke the scale! haha I know you couldn't have, but I have friends who would have made a big deal out of it and said something like that. :D I'm happy for you, you sound really good! Take care :D
 
Status
Not open for further replies.
Back
Top