Derrick's ongoing journey

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Hi Alta. Thank you for supporting and caring. I wish I weren't such a wreck.

I think I would do well if I lived in the middle of my dad's farm, where the nearest neighbors are almost a half mile away in any direction. You can still hear noises but they are much farther away and they don't bother me as much. The only bad thing out there is about four years ago one of the neighbors built a freaking moto-cross course and him and his kids often go crazy on their dirt bikes. But it's only about two or three times per week and only for about one or two hours in the evening. Also, he recently put his property up for sale so he could be gone eventually. My dad would buy it just to get rid of the motorcycles but the guy wants over a half million dollars for 80 acres when land prices in the area are closer to $2,000 per acre. So he's wanting more than triple what its worth. At his current price, it may never sell. All I know is when I'm at the farm I'm almost completely at peace.

Today was horrible. This morning at church I sat in my truck for 45 minutes while my wife and daughter were inside. My daughter was in class and my wife was in the sanctuary. I was dreading the praise part of the service because I really wasn't ready for that much noise. A lot of times I like the singing but today was a really sensitive day. Finally I went inside but I ended up just sitting out in the lobby and listening to the sermon through the speakers.

When we got home it got worse. The new neighbors two houses down moved in and, of course, they have a barking dog. And, of course, they just let him bark, and bark, and bark. I almost lost it. I can't even type about it right now. It was my daughter's nap time so I ended up taking a nap too, with ear buds, listening to the sound of rain. The dog did stop so my daughter and I, and my wife, all took a nap. I felt better after waking up, for about 20 minutes.

Tonight was challenging but not as bad.

My daughter is finally in bed now, not sleeping yet though.

That's all.
 
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hi derrick ur doing great job man carry on man!!!!!!!!!!!
 
Today was a good day.

My son, Nathan, was born today at 2:09 pm. He came two weeks before his due date and weighed 6 lbs, 9 ounces and is 19 inches long. His umbilical cord was tied in a true knot. From the little bit of research I just did, this happens in about 1 in 2000 pregnancies. One nurse said he's a miracle baby but that's probably a stretch. Then again, I guess they are all miracles. My wife did great and she is doing great. Nathan is having trouble keeping his blood sugar and body temperature up so they are keeping a close eye on him tonight. Of course I am concerned but the nurse told me not to worry too much. They are going to check his blood sugar every 2 hours and warm him up when needed. He's definitely the most beautiful baby boy I have ever seen but I'm sure all parents feel that way about their baby. I'm at home tonight, about to get some much needed sleep. My wife and I each got about 1 hour of sleep last night so we're both feeling it right now. Unfortunately she will have to be awakened every 2 hours to feed him tonight as part of the treatment to get his blood sugars back up. Hopefully she will at least feel somewhat rested tomorrow. The Lord has blessed us with two beautiful children and today I felt great joy for the first time in quite a while. For that I am very thankful.
 
Congrats DERRICK!!!! YAY!!! I'm so happy for the two of you.

Your baby is a Miracle baby and I can't wait to see pics when you take some! I wish you guys the best and everything will be fine with him! No worries!!! You'll see....again...super happy for you two!!!!
 
Your son is beautiful. I haven't been on here for a long while,but I'm glad to be back!

Also just a ps I have issues with anxiety myself. I've gotten way better. I still get panic attacks,but they aren't as frequent. I was seeing a therapist for a while.She taught me how to relax a bit more. I also loathe annoying noises,but its mostly when I haven't slept. My fuse is so short. They do construction on my apartment building often. It is the worst. It would be annoying to most people,but I get the urge to throw things outside of my window and hopefully hit someone...major anger.....My hubs had a hard time dealing with me. It's rough when people don't understand. anyway

Congrats on the new baby!
 
Beyoonnnnnnnd beautiful!!! You were right!!!!! Such a little angel!!!

I loveeeeee the pics!!! Thanks for posting them! Your wife looks beyond gorgeous as well. Give her and yourself a HUGE Congrats hug!!! I adore adore your baby!!!! Awwwww.....:)
 
Thank you Alta. I appreciate such warm comments. He really is a little angel.

Hi Lea. Thanks for the congrats. Glad to see you on here again. I read some of your updates recently and it sounds like you are doing well. I know it sucks to be so sensitive to noise. I just want people to shut the hell up and learn how to have fun without disturbing others who just want some peace and quiet. We live in a noisy world though so I guess all we can do is figure out how to cope with it better. For me, the worst part is what goes on in my head. I just wish things didn't bother me so much. I see how other people can live every day without the worries I have and I think, "why can't I be like that?"

The last month has still been very challenging for me. I switched to a new medicine about 3 weeks ago. I was no longer tired during the days but it made me nautious and extremely anxious every single day all day long. I was also moderately depressed. At one point a couple weeks ago I had lost my interest in everything. Nothing excited me. Last week I could no longer tolerate it so I called my doctor to ask if I could stop the medicine and try something else, again. She never called back so I just decided to quit cold turkey. That was last Tuesday. So far, no withdrawals. I can't say that I feel great but I do feel better. Now I only have slight anxiety. Noise is still bothering me but a lot of the other symptoms (paranoia, obsessive thoughts, etc.) have subsided quite a bit. I really think there is a good chance I am one of the few bipolars that will do best without any medication. I just have to accept that things will always bother me to some extent.

The last two weeks I have been working out quite a bit. No resistance training yet but a lot of moderate intensity cardio. My weight has been fluctuating between 226 and 228. I plan on continuing the cardio, starting back in with my personal trainer a couple times per week and also starting a boxing and MMA program at my gym. My first goal is 219. I think if I can just reach that goal it will give me a lot of confidence to continue on. My ultimate goal is to get below 200 again and I would love to get down to 191 someday. One step at a time though.

I'm at the hospital right now. We should be going home with baby in a few hours. :)

Derrick
 
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Your baby is beautiful :) You're a lucky man. I wish you and your family all the best during your new and fresh start with your adorable new son. You'll be a healthy and happy daddy very soon! xx
 
Wow I'm so glad I checked your diary today and to my surprise you have new exciting posts - what a gorgeous baby boy! I love the name Nathan too! I'm so happy for you. It made me even more happy to hear you are going back to the PT and changing the meds up - things are looking up and I couldn't be more happy to hear it! One day at a time. Take care of yourself and that beautiful family you have - you should be so proud!
 
Hi Derrick,

Been sooo long. But it is good to see that you are doing well. Congratulations on your bundle of joy. Your son is so adorable and your family is beautiful. Will drop by more often to say hi. Take care.

Juni
 
AAAAAHHHHHHHH!!!!! CONGRATULATIONS!!!!!! He is so precious... a real little boy. Most babies could really go either way, but he has such strong masculine features. A true blessing :)
 
Those pictures are too precious! I love the black and white one of your wife holding Nathan. Congratulations!

~ Sarah
 
Sunflower, Lisa, Juni, Marie, Sarah, Invective and Flumes,
Thank you all so much for the congrats and kind comments. :)

My wife, son and daughter are all doing great and I'm doing pretty good myself. My son pretty much just eats, sleeps and poops non stop. Sleep hasn't been great but so far he has not been very fussy at all. Much better than our daughter did when she was first home. She had gas pains and reflux and screamed every night the first week she was home.

Update on me: I quit taking medication about 10 days ago and so far I feel better every day. I'm a little scared that it won't last so I'm just taking it one day at a time. Things were pretty bad just a few weeks ago. I had extreme anxiety, I was nauseous all day every day and I had become so depressed that nothing excited me and I almost wanted to die. I don't think I was suicidal but I was in a dark place for sure. I had given medicine 10 months of my life and all it gave me in return was a cocktail of horrible side effects and 35 pounds of fat. I fought and fought but nothing worked. I was completely defeated. All I had left was my family and my faith.

About 3 weeks ago I started reading the bible every night before going to sleep. I've never completely read the gospels so I figured that would be a good place to start. I'm currently finished with John and Matthew and I'm half way through Mark. It helps me sleep at night and sometimes I dream about Jesus and his teachings.

Last Tuesday I had to stop the medication I was on. It was yet a different medication and even this one was making me worse rather than better. Like I said, so far so good.

I have also been doing pretty good with cardio. I do interval training on the treadmill for about 25 minutes maybe 3 to 5 times per week. It's just a start. Soon I'm going to do boxing and MMA at least twice per week. I'm also going to start working out with my personal trainer again, as soon as my daughter is done with daycare in a couple weeks.

One year ago I was 193 pounds and 13% body fat. I was near the end of an incredibly positive journey that included 58 pounds of weight lost and the completion of a sprint triathlon. The past 10 months, however, has been an incredibly demoralizing journey. I can only hope and pray that I am about to begin another positive journey and all of the challenges and defeats of the past 10 months will have only made me stronger.
 
Derrick, buddy!!! I am so happy for you and your peace right now ( I almost spelled peach! LOL)...but yes,....it's Fantastic to find that happy medium.

Letting go of the medication, like you said previously, might be a great option for you and you might just be one of the ones that does well without it. I'm glad you swam out of that negative place in the mind, and brought yourself back to where we love you and you love you!

...and reading the Bible at night! WOWWWWWWW!!! I'm SO happy for you!! God has an amazing journey for you in his hands. His teachings are definitely the way to shine light on your path! And that's amazing to dream of him and his teachings! What a blessing that you get visited that way in your dreams! :)

I'm sure it's shaping you and making you stronger with Faith more than ever!! It's funny that you say that you have come full circle to this time last year, because I feel the same way. I was way further in my eyes, but have learned valuable lessons along the way. Mind you, it didn't help for my co-worker right now to tell me "Weren't you skinnier last year this time?!" ...Um ..yea. Thanks for noticing. LOL!

...Regardless though, my mind is STRONGER! Your fitness level is getting back up there and what the mind can do ONCE, it can do AGAIN!!! Keep it up!!! Stay strong, stay focused!!! Develop those internal powers within you, for YOU and your family! What a blessing to have you as a father. So wise, so kind, so inspiring, and so filled with Faith and love from our Father above! :) Bless you, Derrick!
 
It's well past midnight on a Friday night. I'm still up, going back and forth from watching tv programs for awhile and stepping outside to smoke another cigarette. By the way, I need to stop that and I'm pretty confident I will very soon. It's one of the last evils I need to overcome this year. Anyway, I can't stop thinking about how each and every human being has been dealt some form of pain and suffering in their life. I see it here on WLF every day. So many of us fighting so hard to lose weight and get healthy yet so many of us not achieving our goals. Or achieving our goals only to have a relapse and gain much or all of our weight back.

Depending on how I look at my life, I could say I've had it easy. I think about millions of other Americans born into poverty, crime ridden neighborhoods or abusive households. Still even they have it good compared to some of the living conditions in third wold countries. Others have had their lives torn apart by the tragic loss of a loved one or a traumatic experience. I haven't had any such life. Quite the opposite. My heart goes out to each and every person who has suffered greatly, no matter what the circumstances.

To be fair to myself though, I remind myself every now and then that I too have had a fair share of pain and suffering. Five years ago I went through something that devastated me and has effected me ever since. In order to protect the ones I love, I won't specify. I may never share it with the public because it's a private matter. I've also battled depression since age 15. I'm 32 right now. And most recently I've been through 10 consecutive worsening months of mental illness stemming from bipolar disorder. Not to mention the horrible side effects of the medications I tried, including 35 pounds of weight gain.

Here I am today, still breathing and with much to be thankful for but I do have my share of mental and emotional scars. I think, more than anything, they serve as a reminder that I have to keep fighting and never give up.

Right now I have biggest loser on pause as I type this. The final four are about to jog a freaking marathon! I love that show because its all about triumph. Triumph is probably my favorite word right now. Still I can't help but realize that every contestant that has ever been on that show has been assisted in a way that most of us will never be assisted in. They spend months on "the ranch" taking care of no one but themselves. No worry about making money to support their families. No tucking their kids in at night, running them to daycare, getting them dressed, bathed, etc. No driving to the gym, going to the grocery store or cooking meals. I assume most of these things are all taken care of by others and these people are catered to in nearly every way. I'm not taking anything away from what they are accomplishing but the harsh reality is they can't live at "the ranch" for the rest of their lives. Neither can we. We all have so many other responsibilities that take up our time and energy. I think one of the hardest parts of losing weight and staying fit is simply organizing and structuring our lives to somehow include daily strenuous exercise and healthy eating. No easy task.

I read so many of your journals and diaries and I see a lot of you either stuck at the same weight, gaining weight or having abandoned your journal altogether, usually only to come back months later to admit you had slipped.

I too have slipped. I've been on both ends. A success story and a failure. But not a complete failure. It could be worse. I'm still 25 pounds below my all time high weight of 251 back in May 2008. I have to remind myself of that. I can pick myself back up, start walking forward again and let my scars be a reminder of why I continue to fight. It's my hope that this year will end in triumph for me. And I hope so many of you will finally triumph as well.
 
My dad had a heart attack last Monday. He is 55 yrs old. 5ft 6in tall, about 135-140lbs (just a little guy) and has never had high cholesteral. He had a 90% blockage in his left artery. It was extremely shocking and scary. They did an angiogram and put in a stent. The first day after he went into a depression... he said to me "I've never felt like a strong man (physically), but I've always felt that my heart was strong. I guess I was wrong!) I was floored that he would say something like that. My response was "I'm sorry, but a 90% blockage kills most men. I think your heart did pretty damn good!!!" His attitude changed almost immediately and he is now home and doing great. The reason I have pulled away from this forum is b/c I have realized that health is so much more important. You can stay within your daily calorie allowance and exercise regularly, but if you're eating crap it just doesn't matter. I had become so obsessed with weightloss that I was getting away from what truely mattered. Now that I've changed my goals, I've lost the rest of the weight, I'm losing the fat and most importantly... I'm listening to my body. I am happy with myself... my whole self... for the first time, well, ever. There are happy endings Derrick. Please don't ever believe that they don't exist. For me, it's all about BALANCE. Kids, husband, health, house, work, me time. It's taken me A LONG time, but I've finally realizing that the perfect schedule doesn't exist. But I've set my priorities. Trail running, yoga, and strength make me feel amazing. We've cut out almost all preserved foods, simple sugars, and bad fats b/c they make me feel heavy, bloated and just overall just like crap (and it's makes my running very difficult :p). I make time to clean my house b/c I love walking into a clean room and I hate walking on crumbs ;) But I'm also making my kids more accountable for thier own messes so I don't have to do it. My husband had always been the one stable in my life, but now we laugh more too :) I guess what I'm trying to say, is that once I took the pressure off myself and just started to "BE" the woman I wanted to be instead of trying to find her, I realized that she was there the whole time.

I truely wish for you all the happiness you can handle, and I hope you find your balance. You have a beautiful family. That's a great start :)
 
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