DCarr10760's Weight loss diary

Wow. If I were in SWMBO's position, I would be praying to get laid off! lol. Honestly, raising a child is more important than any career. When she's old and lying on her death bed I bet she won't be wishing she'd worked more and spent less time with her family. :) Davy will only be little for a few years. He'll be grown before she knows it. I'd take advantage of the opportunity to stay home with him when he's so little. Lots of mothers can't afford to do it--but would in a heartbeat if they could. But, being the feminist that I am--I feel it's all about choices. It's great that she has choices. 40 years ago she'd HAVE to stay home. Now she can choose to do what she feels is best. :)
 
The ironic thing is that She really wants to be home with him (at least she has said she does). But, I think she wants it all on her terms. Which do not include being laid off.

She found out tonight that she is eligible for early retirement. They are not offering any cash incentives for early retirement (as a form of attrition) but if she is laid off, it will be treated as if she has retired, meaning she will keep her health benefits for life, pension when she's eligible and they will contribute to her 401k for some period of time.

That plus 2 weeks pay for every year she's worked (17) as severance and it's very fair...considering it is what it is.

Whether or not she is laid off, they are restructuring the territories and her job, should she keep it will be very different from what it is today. She may be forced to relocate to stay employed (but that's not really an option for us). The layoffs will be in waves over the course of a year, she's told. So after the stress of the first round, if she survives it, it still ain't over.

So she's scared and angry and it's hard not to let that spill into "US" One of the perils of loving somebody who has been single into their forties is that they don't always process the rough spots as a partnership, she thinks about it in the context of what's best for HER, not "US."

It is one of our big issues and is among the reasons we are not married. So this puts stress right at one of the seams. I think we'll work it out no matter the outcome. I try not to let the bitchiness make me angry (that would serve no purpose) but I can only be pushed so far.

Regular angry sex! That's my prescription...GRRRRRR! Suck it up! Bitch!!!

Or something like that... ;)

David
 
Well Dave, I hope that she'll find what makes her most happy, and soon! Every woman is different, if I was with some dude and had his kid and his job could afford me to stay at home, I WOULD (course I'd probably throw in some part time personal training or something for some extra dough, but that wouldn't take a lot of my time); but other women don't feel complete without some sort of job. SO I dunno. Ack! Living with a significant other is so hard sometimes :rolleyes: As for yourself, you seem like a really nice guy. Us chicks ARE bitchy and man I hate it when my OWN girl friends are bitchy.....it sucks. And then I see myself and am like, "damn I'm a bitch right now! Better stop while I can!" ;) It works sometimes...have a great Sunday!
 
DCarr10760 said:
The ironic thing is that She really wants to be home with him (at least she has said she does). But, I think she wants it all on her terms. Which do not include being laid off.

She found out tonight that she is eligible for early retirement. They are not offering any cash incentives for early retirement (as a form of attrition) but if she is laid off, it will be treated as if she has retired, meaning she will keep her health benefits for life, pension when she's eligible and they will contribute to her 401k for some period of time.

That plus 2 weeks pay for every year she's worked (17) as severance and it's very fair...considering it is what it is.

Whether or not she is laid off, they are restructuring the territories and her job, should she keep it will be very different from what it is today. She may be forced to relocate to stay employed (but that's not really an option for us). The layoffs will be in waves over the course of a year, she's told. So after the stress of the first round, if she survives it, it still ain't over.

So she's scared and angry and it's hard not to let that spill into "US" One of the perils of loving somebody who has been single into their forties is that they don't always process the rough spots as a partnership, she thinks about it in the context of what's best for HER, not "US."

It is one of our big issues and is among the reasons we are not married. So this puts stress right at one of the seams. I think we'll work it out no matter the outcome. I try not to let the bitchiness make me angry (that would serve no purpose) but I can only be pushed so far.

Regular angry sex! That's my prescription...GRRRRRR! Suck it up! Bitch!!!

Or something like that... ;)

David
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Man, that sounds like an awesome deal to me--health benefits for life, etc.

And regular, angry sex sounds kinky and fun to me....lmao. Getting a mental image of being pushed against a wall and taken. oh yeah....:jump:

Tell SWMBO to lighten up and appreciate you more. You frickin' crack me up! :rotflmao:
 
Thanks everyone for listening to me bitch and whine and getting all dramatic...

I feel better about things, "a trouble shared is a trouble halved" my British friend Albert once said to me. It's now just a matter of waiting to see what happens and making the best decisions possible.

I've been too preoccupied for the last week or two with my troubles to focus fully on weight-loss and exercise. The exercise has suffered the most. So I am trying to motivate myself to get moving again...nothing is happening so far, but I am hopeful! :)

Eating has been okay. My meals have been on target and I cheat my way up near maintenance. I have made some changes in how I eat that seem solid (if not yet permanent) so I don't really fear backsliding into morbid obesity. But I do want to bring my fitness to the next level.

Guess I'm recharging.

Thanks again, friends!

David
 
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Wow David, I can understand where she's coming from after working for this company for 17 years? That's a huge part of her life, and she's used to being financially secure on her own being into her 40's. I think once she gets over the stress of leaving this job, if it happens, she would be happy to take a break at home. Maybe she's just trying to hold onto a little part of the old her, being that turning into a mom really does change your self-identity tremendously. Sometimes when I do things on my own or like before I had the baby, I'll feel like my old self for a second in the moment. But as soon as I'm with the baby that quickly disappears as mommy mode quickly sets back in. Not a bad thing, but its a big change if you have your first baby later in life.
 
DCarr10760 said:
I've been too preoccupied for the last week or two with my troubles to focus fully on weight-loss and exercise. The exercise has suffered the most. So I am trying to motivate myself to get moving again...nothing is happening so far, but I am hopeful! :)
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If anyone can get back on track with exercise, it's you, hun. After reading your journal entries these past few months, you seem so happy after finishing a great workout. Don't lose that. :D You need "Big Davey Time." Also, 26 lb weight loss so far is wonderful, so keep it up, doll.

-Sheryl

As for SWMBO, I see it as this:
things happen for a reason. Instead
of looking at things with a negative view,
find something positive and go with it.
Negativity only drains you and makes you
feel like shit. (Dealt with the same stuff
when I moved from HI to NY.)
 
Hmm...a dead nice guy with a kinky, perverted sense of humor who makes enough $$ so his woman can stay home with their baby (and doesn't mind if she does)...and here I thought perfect men didn't exist...:rotflmao:

Ok, here's some tough love: get your butt out there and exercise!!!!!! It'll help with the stress--and you'll sleep better. Now stop whining and go do it. hahaaha. Luv ya, Dave.:hug2:
 
Jeeez David.... poor you. Damn that Kimberly and Val for being such mean women. Here, I got your motivation:








Mr. Carr, if you don't get your ass in gear, I'm going to keep you after school, strip you down to your tighty whities, and sit on your back while you do pushups while I read a magazine. Only because Mrs. GhettoBooty, The Catholic School Teacher, cares.... HA!

-Sheryl
 
It's a deal, I'll get started on the push ups just as soon as you finish these two glasses of wine ;) Lol

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And about the tighty-whiteys...who's been talkin'?

David
 
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Jeeez David.... poor you. Damn that Kimberly and Val for being such mean women. Here, I got your motivation:

Mr. Carr, if you don't get your ass in gear, I'm going to keep you after school, strip you down to your tighty whities, and sit on your back while you do pushups while I read a magazine. Only because Mrs. GhettoBooty, The Catholic School Teacher, cares.... HA!

-Sheryl
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Umm..your first mistake was making the punishment something he'd enjoy...:rotflmao:
 
Well I managed to shake off the lethargy and get out of the house and on my walk this AM, first time since late last week. Bad, bad man...

Davy is sick (ear infection) and has been waking up at night so SWMBO and I have been zombies.

Weight's held steady at 240 so my eating is not really giving me the proper deficit. I'm around 2500 calories a day. So I guess I need to drop to 2000 a day for awhile to get things moving again.

Might as well start right now!

David
 
Mr. Carr, if you don't get your ass in gear, I'm going to keep you after school, strip you down to your tighty whities, and sit on your back while you do pushups while I read a magazine.

Then can we do some sit-ups! You sit, I'll UP!!

Trying to work my way up the list...

David
 
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Good for you! An AM walk? Isn't it freezing ass cold, though?!? And great about the deficit idea--2000 calories may seem like a lot to some people, but man....last night I was literally fantasizing about food! I'm actually planning on making little tartlets with raspberry wine jam centers....mmmmmmhhh!!!
 
DCarr10760 said:
Mr. Carr, if you don't get your ass in gear, I'm going to keep you after school, strip you down to your tighty whities, and sit on your back while you do pushups while I read a magazine.

Then can we do some sit-ups! You sit, I'll UP!!

Trying to work my way up the list...

David
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OMFG! You made me choke on my oatmeal on that one. You sick sick man.... if only we were single. le sigh.... :( HA! And hell, you're one of the TOPS in my list, David. HAHA!!

As for your weight loss, I'm hoping the deficit will kick it into gear, doll. If I could help, hell... I'd be there in my sexy librarian or CEO powersuit outfit. hahaaa Wishing you a happy halloween. I hope Davy starts feeling better.. poor angel.

-Sheryl
 
I think we ALL need a Sheryl in our lives to force us into gear. Sheryl, stop through here after you finish with Davie. I'll wear my tighty lacies ha ha.
 
Well we had fun with Davy last night. He had no clue what was going on but he liked carrying his pumpkin bucket and walking up to the neighbors house. He managed to stammer out, "Tickoreet" (trick or treat) when the door opened and "Fank you" when we left. He's never seen or had candy, but he enjoyed picking out the brightly colored packages, so at each house took one Reeses Peanut Butter Cup (my favorite). We went to 4 houses. 4 candy bars...

I ate them all...I'm so ashamed...

No walk this AM, had to be at work early to field a phone call from Germany. So on I go! Today will be better!
 
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