Dariqueen's Diary

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hey DQ... I was just wondering if you'd like to join forces with me and help put a stop to all these pumpkin's puking in our threads lol

just popping in to wish you a safe and happy halloween

*insert evil laughter here*
 
Hey Dq! How's it going today? I have no advice on dating. I'll be married 10 yrs. in Jan and we dtaed 2 yrs. prior to that! LOL I'm all out of touch! Did good on my life change yesterday. Hope you have a great Tuesday!!:D
 
I agree with the others..just be yourself. Your gonna be fine. Make him lean in for the kiss. But if the time is right and your feelin it..kiss him.. Life is too short for the what if's..
Live in the moment! You deserve it!
Good luck! (even though you dont need it!)
HAPPY HALLPWEEN!
 
Oooooohhh!! Do we get date details???

:::m2m pulls up a chair, leans forward and eagerly awaits details:::
 
Hello Dari,
Your kids are adorable! Did they get bunches of candy?
Thank's for visiting my diary and kicking my azz I needed that!
Have a gr8 Weds and a even GR8ter Saturday;) Tammy
 
OMG, DQ they are beautiful!!! You'd better watch pequin....she like to put kids in her pocket and run! :p

*OHD waves* Have a great day! :)
 
Abba's 4 1/2, and Addison is 4 months...just had his needles, poor little guy (yes, they do 2 at once now instead of one. And he knew the second one was coming:( )

I have a dilemma...and since you all are so great at being non-judgemental, I thought I would post it here instead of my other boards...:)

I was up tossing and turning last night...and my answer to my issues is...to cancel my date.:( There are 3 reasons for this. 1. He called again yesterday, which is nice, but he now wants to add another couple of hours onto our first date. Like a 6 hour date:eek: I think it's a little soon for that, as it's hard for two people to find things to talk about for an hour, let alone six. Also, I'm the one paying for a babysitter for 2 kids, and I hate to leave them that long, if I can help it. He's extremely nice, etc....but I think he wants to get too serious too fast. And I'm not ready for that.

2. I don't think there is a spark.:( Initially, I though there might be, because of the butterflies. But the butterflies are already gone...I think it was just nerves because he was a new guy. Kindness and respect are what I want most from a new man, yes. But I need butterflies too. I lived without them last time, and look what happened.:(

3. I don't think I'm ready yet...I'm still working on me, and I want to stay focused on me. Maybe that's selfish. But I've been working hard for 3 months now, and don't want to start slacking off in that area. My self-esteem needs it badly.

So, any opinions? Am I stupid for this?
 
No you're not being stupid. I'm a single mother and I understand some of what you're going through here. Honest....it sounds like a bit of cold feet to me. I say go on the date, but tell him since it is a first date you'd prefer not to have it be so long considering you have to get back to your kids and all. You could simply say that the babysitter can't stay that long and ask if he'd mind if you guys kept things to the original plan. He sounds like he'd be understanding of that.

As far as the butterflies...you've met the guy once, give the butterflies time to wake up. lol And even if there's not an attraction, what harm is there in getting out of the house and having some time with another adult and relaxing a bit? You deserve that. Just let him know that you don't want to move fast, but that you want to take the time and enjoy getting to know one another. If he turns out not to be a boyfriend kinda guy, you could gain a really good friend.

As for working on you...keep working, but that doesn't mean you can't enjoy life in the meantime. Once you're where you want to be physically and emotionally, you won't be able to turn back the clock to a particular event. Live life and keep working. Life is a journey not a race and you should enjoy it as it happens while always working to be the best you can be.

Just my two cents, I just don't want you holding yourself hostage at home and letting a social life (outside of the girls) pass you by. He sounds like a sweet guy, enjoy the attention and the time and take things slow. No need in jumping into anything head first...slow and steady, just like with everything else. Have a couple drinks, some dinner and a few laughs and come home to the kiddies. :)

...just my 2 cents.
 
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