Hi Suzie
Go for it!!! The program really is amazing!
No matter what you do in life you will always have people trying to sidetrack you and being able to deal with these people can be very empowering.
From the start I only told my partner, my sister and brother in-law and parents. My partner and sister have been the most amazing, supportive and encouraging people. When I told my parents my mum was excited at the prospect and my dad said to be ‘it was on the news just the other day that all these fad type diets never actually work’. That was it. Putting it into perspective for you my father is morbidly obese and has been since I can remember. He has been told he needs to lose weight or he wont be at his granddaughters 16th birthdays let alone 21st or weddings so I thought he would be more supportive of my determination and efforts.
For weeks he tried to force me to break with ‘just have a chip’, ‘I made you a soup’, ‘I made your favourite’, all of which I just declined nicely. But then one night I was at their house and he said to me in a really narky manner ‘what, so you cant even take just one night off this program, you cant just eat dinner with us and have what we are having?’ To which I replied ‘yes, dad, I can eat what your having, you know what I can also walk across the road and have McDonalds or KFC, I eat what I want.’ He said ‘good, I’ve made…’ I cut him off and said ‘but what I want to eat is the food I prepared and brought with me. I want to eat exactly what is on my eating plan. It all comes down to a choice – I can have that or I can have this. I choose this’.
He was stumped and has been nothing but supportive since and I have actually introduced them to some Cohen techniques and recipes that they really enjoy – like using saladas as your breadcrumbs (with salt and pepper on prawns and calamari they have a much nicer, lighter taste!
When people realise that you are following the program so strictly because you actually want to not because you think you have to because someone has told you so, it makes all the difference. At the end of the day there are always at least two choices regarding everything we do… and it’s up to you to choose the one that is right for you. This program is right for me.
I take my food, scales and measuring spoons everywhere with me. If people have a problem I let them know it’s theirs and theirs alone. As soon as my loss became noticeable people have wanted to try my food as I have prepared it – which of course they cant!
Being assertive doesn’t mean being nasty or rude. Let their insecurities empower you and your journey!
Wow – sorry for writing so much… I didn’t realise! Just got on a roll!
Good luck and I look forward to being able to follow your progress.
Lauren