Cate's Diary

Thank you, Petal. I absolutely cherish my family. I think so many kids are missing stability in their lives & I feel blessed that we are able to provide that. Our family is more important to us than anything & I really do mean anything. I think the kids know that. I know our sons do.
 
It really does take a village to raise a child and you´re clearly no small part of that village.
 
Thanks, LaMa. That village/town support feels like something from the distant past, unfortunately.
 
From what I can tell the village is not a literal village these days but rather a group of friends, relatives, and professionals, but that doesn´t mean it no longer exists. It doesn´t always work - but then the literal villages/towns of the past let plenty of kids fall through the cracks as well.
 
Hi Cate, just catching up, I suppose the kids and Archie just need some getting used to. Dogs are also quite protective so I wonder if they just see something new as a threat. It'll just take some time to adjust but I am glad you are enjoying his company :)
 
I see you as part of your friend's village, LaMa & understand what you mean. I think I feel so lucky that we had a close, supportive extended family but of course lots didn't.
Misty, Archie is fine with adults, but there's something about the look of C that upsets him. He's a very gentle boy. I think he reminds him of someone in his past. I must ask.
I woke up feeling a bit out of sorts for some reason. It was a disturbed night's sleep with lots of rain and wind & I think I was listening out for Archie.
 
Cate said:
I woke up feeling a bit out of sorts for some reason.
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Sorry to hear that Cate. Hope it passes as you get on with the day.
Maybe it's a bit of sadness with the grandkids gone again? I know i can get sad after a good visit with family is over. I hope you can see a lot more of the grandkids over the next while. So good that the covid rates are pretty much zero in your area!
 
It did, Liza, thank you. I think it was a combination of the horrible weather yesterday & not enough exercise, the rough night's sleep, thinking about the kids situation, not having texted the women's golf captain telling her I'm not doing the bar.....I'll do that right now!
 
Thanks, LaMa. Me too. I came back to report back that I sent that message. I really hoped she wouldn't ring me like she normally does & she hasn't yet. If she asks who advised against me doing the bar I'm going to say "I'd rather not say." I made G laugh by saying "my lawyer". :)
 
Blame it on Emily Rose! :coolgleamA: She's an android from the future warning you against doing things that will be detrimental to the human race!! Lol.

I had a disturbed sleep last night as well. I have been in bad form all day.

Regarding Archie and kids - my friend in work has a dog that was in a shelter that was in a home where the kids were horrible to her. Could be something like that.
 
Haha Em. You're part of my advisory panel. "I have been advised not to do the bar". No-one needs to know who advised me. I can add that there is also my husband, my 2 sons, my sister......but it is you lot that I rely on to keep me in line. I think that's why I say a lot of the things I do in here. I got a message back from B1 this morning saying it's my call & she understands. I think she thinks it's probably a c19 thing, but that's ok.
Having a disturbed sleep really throws me out. Last night I slept like a log. Archie slept from 11-7.45. I laughed when I heard his little mumbling at that time & then a slightly whining "C'mon on, surely it's time" & then one little woof, which really made me laugh.
I wondered about asking his ex-owner as I thought that may have been the case, but if so it would have been her son. I don't want to offend her.
 
So good you got that message sent and over with! I don't know what the whole history there is but I get the sense it wasn't a positive experience--who needs more stress nowadays?!
 
If letting her think it's c19 saves you from being pressured I'm all for it. I agree that asking Archies former owner about kids would be very awkward if it had to do with her son, or even if she might conclude you think it was her son. For animals the present matters much more anyway: whatever caused his unease doesn't need talk therapy but kindness and the rebuilding of trust.
 
Sorry Cate I missed your post where Archie is funny with children . I would just let him have his space in a safe place when kids are around and he will come play with them when he feels comfortable.
glad you sent that text about the bar . Don’t worry we won’t let you back there !!!
 
Thanks, Liza, LaMa, Petal & Em.
I am not going to go to golf today as I would prefer to spend the day at home with Archie. I really enjoyed just playing 9 holes of golf & having a drink & a natter afterwards with my favourite women, when we were allowed to. Now that it's back to 18 holes with all of the women I'm not keen at all. I was relieved that I didn't get a call from B1. She can think what she likes. I don't think I'll tell anyone why I'm not doing the bar. They should know really, without having to ask. "I have been advised not to" will do as my answer, even to my friends.
I think with Archie & kids, I will just be careful with him when we are out. He does seem nervous around small children. I would say he has had some unpleasant experiences with them.
I think you're right, Petal. I think C just ignoring Arch & letting him get used to him gradually, without any pressure is the best bet. I think he'll learn that C is gentle & safe.
I love having a day to myself as much as I love G. It just feels different. I make take Arch with me later, go for a walk around the river & go out & pick up my clubs as I need them for next Sunday. It's the 1st day of our social golf group after lockdown. There are currently no active cases in Tasmania. Out of 226 total cases, we have had 213 recover & 13 deaths. I hope they keep the state locked down for at least a couple of months more.
 
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There are currently no active cases in Tasmania. Out of 226 total cases, we have had 213 recover & 13 deaths.
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That is amazing, and great news. We don't have many cases here but since what little lockdown we had has disappeared the numbers are starting to increase.

I think C and Archie will be fine, it just takes time.

How goes the diet?
 
Hi, Rob. It is great news, but I wish people wouldn't be in such a rush to go back to the old "normal". I think it's because our state government has been so strict that we have got to this stage. It would be good if we could just stay locked down for a while longer & just allow travel around our state.
I just can't seem to motivate myself to knuckle down to "dieting". I'm doing ok, but really hate logging everything I eat. Hopefully, the motivation will come. I keep trying. Maybe I'll have to try 5:2 again I think. That seems to get me focussed. I don't binge eat, I don't eat junk food, I exercise every day, drink lots of water......but I haven't weighed myself for a week and I only half log & then give up. I don't want to make any excuses but I get up to let Archie out in the morning in my dressing gown & Uggs & we have breakfast & coffee & then showers, so I don't get a chance to weigh myself first up. I'll force myself to do it tomorrow quickly first thing. Brrr.
 
Thanks to Rob, I weighed myself this morning & am happy to say I am motivated again. I was ignoring the elephant in the room, which I thought was me.
Archie & I went for a drive, I picked my golf clubs up & picked up a book from the library that I ordered pre-covid (yay!) & we had a big walk around town( about 5km). I came home & had a really light lunch.
I have had a lovely day & also did lots of house cleaning.
 
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