Cate's Diary

Hi, Marsia, LaMa & Petal. Stocked up on yummy fruit again yesterday. I had a lovely day today at our ladies Christmas breakup. I had to say a few words a few times, my partners (drawn randomly) & I won the comp, I did the bar & it all went well. It was a successful day. I'm easing into the role & also getting a little bit more respect. That sounds a bit egotistical, but I feel as some of them see that I am prepared to do stuff, without taking crap, they are being better towards me.
G has just gone out to 8-ball & I have an evening at home on my own. I feel really good.
 
I slept right through the night last night & woke up feeling so rested. It doesn't happen often.
It's slightly rainy here today & is meant to bucket down in the next few days. It will be nice.
I know from what I see on FB, that R (our younger son) has some business venture happening & I am not asking any questions, to reduce any chance of stress. We have only been messaging occasionally on FB & haven't spoken since his w/e up here. It's safer this way.
 
Wow, you are setting such great boundaries for yourself. Hope it rubs off on me - I really have to work at that sort of thing! It doesn't sound egotistical at all to share that you found a way to get people to treat you well. That's so wonderful! And I am really glad that you are sitting back and not trying to come to the rescue of R. That sounds hard, but so much healthier than getting drawn into the drama!

Hope you have a wonderful time enjoying all the rain!
 
Hi Cate I too slept well and feel rested . It's horrendous wind and rain here too .
Glad all ok for you and you finding a way to deal with things .
 
Hi, Marsia. Your positivity is rubbing off onto me. The forum is good for me & has helped build my self-esteem. I find with R that the more I know the more I worry. When each of our sons went OS for a year I barely thought of them, let alone worried about them. The rain was nothing but mizzle & lots of wind, but apparently is coming in full force tomorrow.
Hi, Petal. I had yet another good night's sleep. It's priceless! It's crazily windy here at the moment, but with mostly blue skies. I have spoken to a few women lately & may take up Tai Chi again in the new year. There is a class on Thursday mornings & that would be good after golf the day before. One of the golfing women has only just given up golf (she's in her 80's) & goes. I met her when I used to go bushwalking.
Someone else said I should do belly dancing when she saw me doing a silly dance. I had my Christmas hat on that when you press a button plays "You know you make me want to dance" & jiggles wildly. I may have been doing a very jiggly dance to its tune at the time :D When I told her I can belly dance & did a brief demo, she agreed. I used to love belly dancing. I just love dancing.
We have friends coming for lunch today. We play golf with them in the Sunday social group we play with. I really like her & she is becoming a good friend. She hasn't seen our house yet. It's very clean & tidy. We are having Venison curry, chicken curry, vegetable curry & rice, with pappadams, yoghurt & rhubarb chutney. Then we'll have a freshly made banana cake, which we can have warm, with a little ice-cream if anyone wants it.
 
Wow, the meal sounds so delectable!!! I'd like some, too!!!

I can just picture you wiggle-dancing with your hat! :santa: I bet you will love tai chi - dancing and meditative martial art in one, what's not to love?

I feel exactly the same, that we are rubbing off on each other and helping each other build self esteem. We have to be ourselves because no one else is going to do it for us!!!
 
The dancing sounds like great fun. I tried learning some bollywood off you tube for a while . That was fun too .
Your meal sounds great and I hope you have a great time with friends .
I'm like you to an extent re the kids the less I know the better . Husband is a dreadful worrier though
 
Dancing is so wonderful. We were dancing to some of the musical numbers in my daughter's play last night, just being silly and singing loudly, too. I need to do more of that - I got pooped out so fast!

I like "the less you know the better" policy. At some point kids need to make mistakes and pick themselves up and learn from them, and we are not going to be able to delay the inevitability of that. I have to remember this for when I have to go through it!!
 
Marsia- Our lunch was scrumptious & we had a lovely day. I had lots of fun at our ladies lunch & enjoyed being silly, along with my "responsibilities". My year has been too full of stress & that has to change. I don't think I can do tough love, but I can do "I love you, but it's high time you stressed me less, love." My parents knew little of what I did when I was our son's age & I am going to ask fewer questions from now on.

Petal- Bollywood dancing looks like SO much fun. Dancing is very good for us. Being a worrier is such a self-defeating thing. The more you worry, the more you worry. I empathise with your husband. Worrying really makes you feel sick. I have to learn this "the less you know, the better" thing, but I am determined to do it :)

Em-OS-overseas. It must be an Oz thing. Thanks, Em. It's good to feel better again. I'm going to see a counsellor in the new year & get some help with this worrying less thing & not taking on everyone else's problems. 2018 would not have been kind to my heart. I need to build some more resilience.
 
Marsia said:
On Dasher, on Chomper, on Pincher, ...!
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Very funny, Marsia :)
I just realised that I will need to buy a Christmas present for our son's GF's younger daughter as well, now that they are all living together. It's hard to get your head around complex relationships. They may bring her I think on C'mas night & I can't give D's kids a present in front of her & not give her one. Even if she doesn't come, I probably should get her something. Eek. I wouldn't have a clue what she would like. I just sent D a message asking for hints.
I must get out in the garden today. We didn't get much rain but the ground will be nice & soft. I have some Zucchini & sugar snap pea seedlings that need to get into the ground.
Feeling good, but laaazy.
 
Hi Cate! Hope you had a really nice weekend and got to garden! We had a birthday party at an escape room for one of my daughter's friends and studied for finals and cleaned for guests coming this week, so not too much new here. It's raining and is beautiful out! Hope your Christmas shopping went well!
 
Hi, Marsia. Wasn't it weird not being able to log onto the forum? It must have been under attack I would say. I did get to garden & planted out my seedlings & a couple of plants that I had in pots that will do better now that they are down in the earth. We had an ins & ane storm with huge hail not long after I finished. G was off cutting up wood & only just got back in time. He was nagging me to go get wood with him & I so didn't want to & didn't. We don't have to do absolutely everything together. He gets a bee in his bonnet about getting wood.
We were happy with our last Christmas present for E. We bought a kids cookbook.
Marsia- I have never heard of an escape room. Is that a new thing?
We went to our younger GK's assembly & our GD got quite a few awards. The school has been good for her. Our GS seems happier there too. Unfortunately, I'm quite sure I saw a drug deal go down between a couple of the parents. It creeped us out. This happened at a junior school, right near very young children.
We also communicated quite well with our ex-DIL, her mother & her new BF. I did not feel at all uncomfortable with them & didn't pick up any unpleasant vibes. Our OGS was there as well & had told us that he had better sit with his other grandma as he knew we wouldn't care if he didn't sit with us. I knew what he meant. We would not give him a hard time. Our older son worked today. It's a little disappointing.

This time of year is crazy really. I am hardly home. I don't feel stressed though.
 
cate said:
He gets a bee in his bonnet about getting wood.
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:) My dad has enough wood dried for at least 5 of the cruelest imaginable winters :D
cate said:
I'm quite sure I saw a drug deal go down between a couple of the parents.
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Did you see the stuff they were trading? Couldn´t it have been a secretive transaction to do with Christmas presents? I´m probably being too optimistic here, but... hope?
 
LaMaria said:
:) My dad has enough wood dried for at least 5 of the cruelest imaginable winters :D
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It's a blokey thing :D
LaMaria said:
Did you see the stuff they were trading? Couldn´t it have been a secretive transaction to do with Christmas presents? I´m probably being too optimistic here, but... hope?
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No way LaMa. It was pathetic & just like in a bad, bad movie. One thing I am not is a drama queen or gullible. It was a drug deal.
 
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