DietAccountability101
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Well done for keeping up with exercise when it's miserable outside! The divide between August and September is always so noticeable with the weather.
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Well done for keeping up with exercise when it's miserable outside! The divide between August and September is always so noticeable with the weather.
Cate
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Ah, yes. I'm just not a coat person. I don't find them comfortable in the car. I do have a grey woolen peacoat, which I wear very occasionally.Coldest day of the year and I see no mention of a winter coat (fleece jackets aren't coats!); excuse me while I giggle
I try not fret over it either Chef. Moderation is key & I also feel much better when I am keeping an eye on what I eat.
Salmon is delicious Em. We have it once or twice a week. We buy a 5 kg box of it from the wholesaler & it comes frozen into individual fillets. G always cooks an extra fillet & we have that cold on toast next morning with avocado. Yum.
Ah, yes it normally is, but this is the wrong way around. Brrrrrr! In Australia, we are meant to be going from Winter to Spring. The daffodils are out, as are the wattles(*sneeze*) but it is not meant to be so blooming (pun intended) COLD.
I'm off to golf soon & it is very cold again. There is no snow outside at home today though. I'm all thermaled up!
Cate
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I did thanks, LaMa. I won't say that it was tropical, but it wasn't as cold as the day before. I had a lovely day & there was much chatting. My golf has been very ordinary this year. I can only improve.
We're off to town today as G has an ap't to see his specialist(every 3 months). We are also visiting our friend who is still in hospital after having his Prostate out last Friday. A couple of friends(B & M) are over from Melbourne just for 24 hours to see her brother for his birthday & we are catching up with them for lunch as well. He used to be married to another friend & I have never much liked his "new" wife. She's a bit of a smart arse. She upset us both many years ago while visiting while we were running the pub. She obviously thought we were doing the wrong thing bringing up kids in a pub environment because she just kept going on & on asking us if we thought we had done the wrong thing. Oh, well. It's only lunch. The funny thing is they have become best buddies with G's sister & her husband who used to live in PNG. When B & M were going over there for a job we gave them an intro. to M & L & they all got on like a house on fire.
I'm not looking forward to catching up, but things are never as bad as I imagine them to be mostly.
Cate
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It was fine. G's other sister joined us for lunch & they chatted, which made it easier.
G & I had a really good day.
When we visited our friend in the hospital he had just been given the OK to go home. Things seem to be following a similar trajectory to G, so I am very optimistic that all will be well for him.
G's specialist was really happy & said his PSA levels were virtually non-existent & that he would see him again in 3 months, but after that would only see him every 6 months for a year or so & then a visit with his GP would be fine.
I talked him into getting some smart new clothes- 2 pairs of slacks & 2 snappy shirts. He hates shopping, but I got him at a good time.
G & I had a really good day.
When we visited our friend in the hospital he had just been given the OK to go home. Things seem to be following a similar trajectory to G, so I am very optimistic that all will be well for him.
G's specialist was really happy & said his PSA levels were virtually non-existent & that he would see him again in 3 months, but after that would only see him every 6 months for a year or so & then a visit with his GP would be fine.
I talked him into getting some smart new clothes- 2 pairs of slacks & 2 snappy shirts. He hates shopping, but I got him at a good time.
That's great news! And getting someone who hates shopping new stuff is a real achievement. My mom has bought my dad clothes in his absence for 42 years now I only remember him coming along for a shopping tour (the ad hoc alternative to a badl planned outing) and going into a changing room. Mom and I flitted around for 15 minutes and he had 6 new shirts and two pair of jeans Guess who was surprised to find that shopping could be quick and painless?
I only remember him coming along for a shopping tour (the ad hoc alternative to a badl planned outing) and going into a changing room. Mom and I flitted around for 15 minutes and he had 6 new shirts and two pair of jeans Guess who was surprised to find that shopping could be quick and painless?
DietAccountability101
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Haha I know that feeling! If he's anything like my dad or boyfriend, those clothes will soon become his go-too wardrobe.
Rebel lee
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I've always loved shopping but im an oddball.......That's great news! And getting someone who hates shopping new stuff is a real achievement. My mom has bought my dad clothes in his absence for 42 years now
What Tru said
Two of my three BILs love shopping and the third loves it as long as the goal isn´t to find clothes.
Rebel lee
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Yea they do tend to sneak up on u. See you back soon...... Or at least soonish
Cate
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Thanks, Tru, LaMa & Rebel 
I have been waiting for G to go to golf to type in here. He is playing at another club & I was thinking of going with him, both for exercise & the company, but am glad I decided to stay home as I think I would have struggled to get through the day.
Yesterday morning first thing I got a message from D, our older son, asking me to take off any photos of him "like this" as it had really upset his GF, T. One was of him dressed in drag for a buck's party & the other of him with his cousin & her husband. The caption with the second photo said "A lovely catch up" & had 2 hearts. It was a photo I re-shared from 5 years ago. The message with the original photo included the name of D's GF at the time. Apparently, she has some weird idea that we are not accepting of her, that we wish he was still with the ex, who is younger & might provide us with more grandchildren, etc. We messaged backwards & forwards all day & I'm sure D still feels that somehow I have done the wrong thing, which really hurts me. I know that in a relationship your loyalties need to be with your partner, but I wish yesterday had not happened. Perhaps prejudice towards mothers-in-law is there whether you deserve it or not. I have tried not to push myself upon her as I sensed a reticence. I put it down to shyness. She has never really got to know us. I feel now that she most probably won't.
I am not going to go on & on with this as I will just get upset again. She obviously has serious hangups. One thing it has done unfortunately is really altered how I feel about her. Where there were only positives, there is now a big negative. This morning she unfriended me on FB, which felt bad, but is probably for the best. I hate bloody drama!
It's all too insane for me to get my head around really.
I cried and cried yesterday until I don't think I could have cried anymore. I rang my sister last night & cried some more. I wanted to tell her about it before I rang on her birthday today.
Moving on.
I am going to do some outside work today & am going to attempt to add loads of dirt to our raised beds to surprise G. I need to do something very physical outside in the fresh air. I am also fasting as yesterday morning before I got D's message I had weighed myself & GAINED 2 kg in the last week. FAAAAARRRKKKKK!!!! That is so weird!
OK. Rant over for now. I need to get moving!
I have been waiting for G to go to golf to type in here. He is playing at another club & I was thinking of going with him, both for exercise & the company, but am glad I decided to stay home as I think I would have struggled to get through the day.
Yesterday morning first thing I got a message from D, our older son, asking me to take off any photos of him "like this" as it had really upset his GF, T. One was of him dressed in drag for a buck's party & the other of him with his cousin & her husband. The caption with the second photo said "A lovely catch up" & had 2 hearts. It was a photo I re-shared from 5 years ago. The message with the original photo included the name of D's GF at the time. Apparently, she has some weird idea that we are not accepting of her, that we wish he was still with the ex, who is younger & might provide us with more grandchildren, etc. We messaged backwards & forwards all day & I'm sure D still feels that somehow I have done the wrong thing, which really hurts me. I know that in a relationship your loyalties need to be with your partner, but I wish yesterday had not happened. Perhaps prejudice towards mothers-in-law is there whether you deserve it or not. I have tried not to push myself upon her as I sensed a reticence. I put it down to shyness. She has never really got to know us. I feel now that she most probably won't.
I am not going to go on & on with this as I will just get upset again. She obviously has serious hangups. One thing it has done unfortunately is really altered how I feel about her. Where there were only positives, there is now a big negative. This morning she unfriended me on FB, which felt bad, but is probably for the best. I hate bloody drama!
It's all too insane for me to get my head around really.
I cried and cried yesterday until I don't think I could have cried anymore. I rang my sister last night & cried some more. I wanted to tell her about it before I rang on her birthday today.
Moving on.
I am going to do some outside work today & am going to attempt to add loads of dirt to our raised beds to surprise G. I need to do something very physical outside in the fresh air. I am also fasting as yesterday morning before I got D's message I had weighed myself & GAINED 2 kg in the last week. FAAAAARRRKKKKK!!!! That is so weird!
OK. Rant over for now. I need to get moving!
Rebel lee
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Damn..... I see why you needed some alone time. I wish I had some advice to give you but me and both my son in laws are in the same boat. We had to work hard just to tolerate each other. Sooooo just barely.........Thanks, Tru, LaMa & Rebel
I have been waiting for G to go to golf to type in here. He is playing at another club & I was thinking of going with him, both for exercise & the company, but am glad I decided to stay home as I think I would have struggled to get through the day.
Yesterday morning first thing I got a message from D, our older son, asking me to take off any photos of him "like this" as it had really upset his GF, T. One was of him dressed in drag for a buck's party & the other of him with his cousin & her husband. The caption with the second photo said "A lovely catch up" & had 2 hearts. It was a photo I re-shared from 5 years ago. The message with the original photo included the name of D's GF at the time. Apparently, she has some weird idea that we are not accepting of her, that we wish he was still with the ex, who is younger & might provide us with more grandchildren, etc. We messaged backwards & forwards all day & I'm sure D still feels that somehow I have done the wrong thing, which really hurts me. I know that in a relationship your loyalties need to be with your partner, but I wish yesterday had not happened. Perhaps prejudice towards mothers-in-law is there whether you deserve it or not. I have tried not to push myself upon her as I sensed a reticence. I put it down to shyness. She has never really got to know us. I feel now that she most probably won't.
I am not going to go on & on with this as I will just get upset again. She obviously has serious hangups. One thing it has done unfortunately is really altered how I feel about her. Where there were only positives, there is now a big negative. This morning she unfriended me on FB, which felt bad, but is probably for the best. I hate bloody drama!
It's all too insane for me to get my head around really.
I cried and cried yesterday until I don't think I could have cried anymore. I rang my sister last night & cried some more. I wanted to tell her about it before I rang on her birthday today.
Moving on.
I am going to do some outside work today & am going to attempt to add loads of dirt to our raised beds to surprise G. I need to do something very physical outside in the fresh air. I am also fasting as yesterday morning before I got D's message I had weighed myself & GAINED 2 kg in the last week. FAAAAARRRKKKKK!!!! That is so weird!
OK. Rant over for now. I need to get moving!
Rebel lee
New member
Yea it happens like that.
Sounds to me like D´s GF was feeling raw yesterday and she had a bit of a meltdown. That´s not your fault. We all have our weak spots and hang-ups and they´re not for other people to fix. Maybe in her past relationship(s?) she really was often compared to exes. Maybe D´s troubles with his his kids´ mom mean he mentions her more often than his GF would like and she interprets that in the light of past experiences. Some MILs really are nasty. Combine that with the misogyny soaking through our history and a stereotype arises which makes you the focus of her anxiety. None of that is your fault and I´m very sorry you were caught in the mess.