Polly, you have nothing to feel guilty about. I was the biggest whinger in the world on Sunday & Monday- over nothing!
Our ex DIL's house has been flooded & she & her bf had to stay elsewhereon Sun & Mon nights(at her half-sister's). She has her mother's house available, which is empty, but has been hassling our son to take the kids. He has just had them for the 2 extra nights & has to go to work. He thinks she is being totally unreasonable about it(she's been abusing him, even in front of the kids) & he sent me a message yesterday saying that I should say no to whatever she asks me. It has made us feel really torn. When I got a message from A (our older GS) yesterday asking if he & the 2 littlies could come stay with us I was in tears. I rang D & told him & he was angry with his ex. A was with his Mum at the time apparently & she was using him to put pressure on us. She didn't even ring me herself. I sent him a message back saying that I was sorry but he couldn't & that his Dad had just been speaking to his other grandmother & that her house was available. He messaged me back to say "Don't worry, the insurance company are putting us up in a motel." D had also got abused my his ex MIL who let slip they could all stay in her house as she's away interstate.
It was not a good day. I felt so bad about saying no. I know our ex DIL was being manipulative, but it still felt horrible. I love these kids so much & it's not their fault their Mum is like she is. (I'm trying to be polite.)
D came up for dinner last night. He was extremely stressed & very tired. The caves he works in are closed & there is a lot of damage. He has to work out staffing & prioritise the work that will need to be done to get them re-opened. It may take a month. He had many abusive texts & calls from his ex & her mother & had got to work very late yesterday & there was a lot to do.
I think my ex DIL may not be able to move back into the rented house. I hope all their possessions are not ruined. My sister just messaged me to make sure I knew about B & the kids being flooded out

G & I are meant to go to a meeting in Dev tonight. I do hope he decides we don't have to!
I weighed this morning & it was not good. I need to make sure I do 2 fast days a week, every week. I'll do Friday I think.
I'm not feeling miserable today. I really feel for our grand-kids. Their mother is very unstable. I understand that our son has to try to switch off so that he can cope with the situation. I'm not very good at it. When she does have the kids she spends half her day in bed & does very little. She doesn't work. It's a tough situation. He pays her maintenance as if she has them full-time, but he actually has them 3 nights a week. She also gets paid a quite reasonable amount from the government & has a live-in BF, who has a full-time job.
I won't go back & re-read this or I'll probably delete most of it. I think I'll chill out with a book.
Much love to all, xoxo Cate