Cate's Diary
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Butterfly88
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Lazy days can be good, enjoy.
Cate
Long term member
Thanks LaMa, Butterfly & Stacy. I did have a lovely rest day & demolished another book.
I have been getting my knickers in a twist over the B thing. She "unfriended" me on FB Saturday, which showed me what she thought of my attempt at holding out an olive branch. Our golf club meeting is tonight
I'm nervous about showing G my resignation letter (draft 10?). Perhaps I'll just verbally resign if she doesn't amend the minutes.....Is there any point in me trying to make a point?
I just deleted a paragraph. I'll scrap the letter I think & maybe just write out a few notes to help me verbally resign if it's not fixed tonight. I have a tendency to get teary if I am angry and/or hurt. Notes might help.
OK. I think I have made a decision. I'm looking forward to tonight's meeting being done & dusted.
Doing a FD(500cals) day & Thursday. I want to stick with these days if I can. I need routine.
Bye for now, xo Cate
I have been getting my knickers in a twist over the B thing. She "unfriended" me on FB Saturday, which showed me what she thought of my attempt at holding out an olive branch. Our golf club meeting is tonight
I'm nervous about showing G my resignation letter (draft 10?). Perhaps I'll just verbally resign if she doesn't amend the minutes.....Is there any point in me trying to make a point? I just deleted a paragraph. I'll scrap the letter I think & maybe just write out a few notes to help me verbally resign if it's not fixed tonight. I have a tendency to get teary if I am angry and/or hurt. Notes might help.
OK. I think I have made a decision. I'm looking forward to tonight's meeting being done & dusted.
Doing a FD(500cals) day & Thursday. I want to stick with these days if I can. I need routine.
Bye for now, xo Cate
StacyH
New member
Why does the FB thing hurt so much? 
My father deleted me, my hubby and his ONLY grandchild - my son!!
Didn't see any family on my side for the holiday's for the first time in my life.. So depressing to be deleted/disowned...
Stay positive and focused!
That's my motto for 2016!
It's their LOSS to not have me in their lives..
Hang in there!
My father deleted me, my hubby and his ONLY grandchild - my son!!
Didn't see any family on my side for the holiday's for the first time in my life.. So depressing to be deleted/disowned...
Stay positive and focused!
That's my motto for 2016!
It's their LOSS to not have me in their lives..
Hang in there!
Cate
Long term member
That didn't hurt me Stacy. It is a sign though. It has been a struggle not deleting her. That sucks re your Dad!
I discussed it with G & we agreed on a strategy. Hopefully the minutes will be amended to reflect what I said, rather than the opposite.
If that does not happen I will post it, as is & it will have to be read out at the next meeting.
No matter what is said I won't quit tonight.
I'm glad he thought the letter was good & didn't think it needed changing. We both feel quite sick about tonight's meeting. This has to stop.
[emoji258] xo Cate (via Tapatalk)
I discussed it with G & we agreed on a strategy. Hopefully the minutes will be amended to reflect what I said, rather than the opposite.
If that does not happen I will post it, as is & it will have to be read out at the next meeting.
No matter what is said I won't quit tonight.
I'm glad he thought the letter was good & didn't think it needed changing. We both feel quite sick about tonight's meeting. This has to stop.
[emoji258] xo Cate (via Tapatalk)
Oaks
New member
You are going to feel so much better when all of this nonsense is behind you. Life is too short for all this unnecessary stress you are dealing with. You should be stressed about family and health and well-being, not childish behavior from adults who don't need to be a part of your life. Secretly I have to admit I'm hoping the minutes don't get amended, because to me that would make your decision to resign easier. If they DO get amended, then you might be tempted to stick around and chances are something else is going to come up to cause trouble again. Either way, you stay strong!
Cate
Long term member
Thanks Oaks. I don't know where to start. I can't possibly explain what happened last night. The minutes were not amended. She made a huge deal as if I was doubting her integrity, demanded an apology from G & I for "abusing her" in her own home & made us out to be baddies..................It was totally futile attempting to get her to see reason. Towards the end of the meeting she then suggested that we use an audio recorder for future meetings in case something like this happens again. I agreed that was an excellent idea & that I had it down to mention, but decided against saying anything. I stood up for myself, as did Grant, but we did it with dignity & did not stoop to her level. I did well not to mention her abuse of me in front of members to which I should have got an apology. I said that I would prefer that things were not personal. I stressed that I wasn't apologising for querying her, but that I apologised for coming to her home. I said that would not happen again. At the end of the meeting I felt totally exhausted. She would have felt like she got her own way & I did not behave like her.
I will wait to see what the minutes say before I decide what to do next. I hardly slept last night & woke feeling sick & down.
B's husband shook G's hand outside after the meeting apparently & thanked him. He said he has felt sick about the whole thing. G told him we both did too. That hasn't changed for us, but maybe he'll get a little peace in his household.
I feel angry, hurt, upset & fairly shattered. I know I should be quitting today, but there is another side to me that tells me that I have a contribution to make & that I should not let this woman beat me. She has an obstacle to everything I suggest or say. Quitting would make her day.
G has agreed that we will both go off committee in October & he will no longer be captain. I may step down from the bar managers job as well. Depending on how everything goes this year we may consider joining a different club.
It's Vet's golf day today & I have to put on a brave front. I'm doing the job as secretary until the end of the year & I want to do it well.
On a better note. Our son, R is coming up for a visit on Thursday, bringing a friend from Canada & a lovely friend, who is really handy & who is going to fix some stuff for us.
I'm taking our little dog to the vet this morning for a shave. She has half a blanket attached to her paws, where she does the cat-like thing. She's a Silky Terrier & everything clings to her.
I'm exhausted. Wish me luck for the day xo Cate
I will wait to see what the minutes say before I decide what to do next. I hardly slept last night & woke feeling sick & down.
B's husband shook G's hand outside after the meeting apparently & thanked him. He said he has felt sick about the whole thing. G told him we both did too. That hasn't changed for us, but maybe he'll get a little peace in his household.
I feel angry, hurt, upset & fairly shattered. I know I should be quitting today, but there is another side to me that tells me that I have a contribution to make & that I should not let this woman beat me. She has an obstacle to everything I suggest or say. Quitting would make her day.
G has agreed that we will both go off committee in October & he will no longer be captain. I may step down from the bar managers job as well. Depending on how everything goes this year we may consider joining a different club.
It's Vet's golf day today & I have to put on a brave front. I'm doing the job as secretary until the end of the year & I want to do it well.
On a better note. Our son, R is coming up for a visit on Thursday, bringing a friend from Canada & a lovely friend, who is really handy & who is going to fix some stuff for us.
I'm taking our little dog to the vet this morning for a shave. She has half a blanket attached to her paws, where she does the cat-like thing. She's a Silky Terrier & everything clings to her.
I'm exhausted. Wish me luck for the day xo Cate
(that´s all the hugs the site will allow...)What an exasperating woman! I still think that the simplest way right now would be to step down. She will doubtlessly find another victim, which will make it easier for other people to see the pattern. But I can fully understand that you don´t want to "give up" and leave the club in her clutches
MrVee
New member
Seconded. Ultimately, you definitely deserve to be happy and so your decision on what to do about this person and situation should start from there.
Hope all else is going well!
Cate
Long term member
LaMa- Thank you, honey for all the hugs. I know that you are right. Hi Vee- thank you too. I am unhappy at the moment & it is solely due to B & the golf club, but mainly B. I actually had told myself that same thing mentally during the day yesterday. I really had the miseries. I was better last night when I was able to tune out. I got a pleasant email from her last night asking me for some information. Obviously she's happy with the outcome of the meeting!
If I went off committee G would still be on, so I would still hear all about it 2nd hand. If I can wait until Oct to quit it would be cleaner. Knowing that we are both stepping down hopefully should help with coping until then. I will stand up for myself & be careful what I say to anyone. I would prefer to leave without leaving a bad impression.
Hi Polly- my finger doesn't really hurt, but I have to keep it strapped so that it is straight for 6-8 weeks, to give the tendon any chance of healing, otherwise I'll end up with a very bent & crooked little finger. It makes gripping anything difficult, including writing or holding a golf club. B unfriending me makes it all seem less hypocritical at least. I have been limiting what she saw anyway & I would prefer to not be her friend in any way, shape or form. It is sad though if someone you thought of as a bestie "unfriended" you, without a word of explanation. That is rude & gutless. If it was someone I genuinely cared about I would ask why.
Everything else is good. We are going to a "Celebration Of Life" today for an 80yo at 2pm, which will not be too sad as it was a relief in the end. We knew him quite well, but the connection is through his brothers mainly & his SIL, who I play golf with.
The funeral for the 85 yr old vet golfer who committed suicide last week is on Friday at 10am. It is a double funeral for him & his wife. G & I have to go to the AGM of the Northern Tas Vets at the same time. I am now the secretary & G is the captain. We really can't get out of the meeting & there really is no-one who could take our place. Most of the vets will go to the funeral & we'll ring the family to put in our apologies.
I feel less stressed today & had a good night's sleep. That always helps. The night before I had bazookered B quite a few times. It was very messy.
If I went off committee G would still be on, so I would still hear all about it 2nd hand. If I can wait until Oct to quit it would be cleaner. Knowing that we are both stepping down hopefully should help with coping until then. I will stand up for myself & be careful what I say to anyone. I would prefer to leave without leaving a bad impression.
Hi Polly- my finger doesn't really hurt, but I have to keep it strapped so that it is straight for 6-8 weeks, to give the tendon any chance of healing, otherwise I'll end up with a very bent & crooked little finger. It makes gripping anything difficult, including writing or holding a golf club. B unfriending me makes it all seem less hypocritical at least. I have been limiting what she saw anyway & I would prefer to not be her friend in any way, shape or form. It is sad though if someone you thought of as a bestie "unfriended" you, without a word of explanation. That is rude & gutless. If it was someone I genuinely cared about I would ask why.
Everything else is good. We are going to a "Celebration Of Life" today for an 80yo at 2pm, which will not be too sad as it was a relief in the end. We knew him quite well, but the connection is through his brothers mainly & his SIL, who I play golf with.
The funeral for the 85 yr old vet golfer who committed suicide last week is on Friday at 10am. It is a double funeral for him & his wife. G & I have to go to the AGM of the Northern Tas Vets at the same time. I am now the secretary & G is the captain. We really can't get out of the meeting & there really is no-one who could take our place. Most of the vets will go to the funeral & we'll ring the family to put in our apologies.
I feel less stressed today & had a good night's sleep. That always helps. The night before I had bazookered B quite a few times. It was very messy.
Remind me not to cross you... This must be an emotionally challenging week for you on all fronts, I´m really glad you´re feeling better. What hat are you wearing today?
Cate
Long term member
My hat today was a Carlos Santana fedora(I actually have one), decorated with exotic feathers [emoji126] Going to a funeral puts life & hassles into perspective. I decided against attempting to play golf (& B would have been there) & quite enjoyed my day. Caught up with some lovely people [emoji171]
[emoji258] xo Cate (via Tapatalk)
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LaMaria!