Cate's Diary

Oh, Rob. You just made me smile & that was through tears. Yes, I came home from golf in tears. I haven't been saying what has been going on as I did not want to hear any "told you sos". The women want me to do the bar & I said I would on the condition I get a key & a security code. The general committee knocked that back. I really can't believe how they treat me out there & I don't deserve it. I brought all my stuff home & left after presentation & a meeting that we didn't know was going to happen. I should never put myself through this shit. I have bawled my eyes out since I got home & am still upset. But, you Rob, you just made me smile :grouphug:
 
Cate I am sorry I don’t know how I missed so much of your posts except I am using phone at moment From the email link .
I have to say I must first instinct with all the golf crap is to tell them all to “ go f**k themselves “ .
Sorry if that is crass but seriously they need a good kick up the arse .

If you want to play golf go play with your friends but get off all the committees . Don’t overthink it . You have been through all this before . It’s not going to change . Time now to step back and stay away from it . You don’t need that crap in your life . Your a lovely wonderful person and how dare they treat you like that . It’s total disrespect.
I have kind of gone through something similar in my work the last year or so and now I just ignore that aspect of it and it’s easier . I didn’t tell them to their faces what I thought but I mentally give them the middle finger which feels good !!
 
Oh, Petal- if only you knew how many times I have told them just where they could stick their f'ing golf club (in my head only), both while I was sitting there listening to the women drone on & when I went & emptied my locker out, without anyone noticing, left without saying anything, except "bye". I swore all the way home & have said f*c# the golf club so many times & cried & cried until I came to the conclusion that I am done. Totally & absolutely done. I won't go back out there & play with any of them & I will just play with our social group once a month & wait until the end of the year & resign. If your job is like that, hon you really do need to start looking at change. It is so bad for your health. This club has been so bad for my mental health & I know that it is not good for me. Thank you for your lovely, kind words. I really do appreciate them xoxo
Thank you Tru & LaMa. Hugs are always welcome & much appreciated. I am so, so done with the golf club. I don't have anything out there & no need to go back & I'm not. Done.
 
Oh Cate - so sad to see the drama with the golfing gits is ongoing.. Please be done this time. It is not worth this anguish.. I'm sorry my lovely. Big hugs xxx
 
Good to hear Cate . For something that’s supposed to be fun it’s pretty grim ! Enjoy the monthly social outings .please don’t cry anymore and add to your mental thoughts when you tell them to shove their clubs up those asses to give it a good rotate aswell ( gosh I’m wicked )
My job it’s just one element I got treated like that , and from the higher powers . I can cope and as my husband pointed out to me it turned out to be less work but it’s just the lack of trust and respect. I Have lovely friends here in work and they keep me sane as I do them . But next year I am going to reassess work . Kind of stuck for now .
 
I love your wickedness, Petal. It does feel better thinking evil thoughts, but better knowing I'm done, done, done!
 
Cate said:
The general committee knocked that back. I really can't believe how they treat me out there & I don't deserve it. I brought all my stuff home & left after presentation & a meeting that we didn't know was going to happen. I should never put myself through this shit. I have bawled my eyes out since I got home & am still upset.
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I am absolutely gobsmacked and outraged on your behalf! A meeting just starting here, but I'll be back before bedtime to say this STINKS and hugs!
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Okay - back as promised. I read your post in a tearing hurry and could hardly take it in that they had been so rude and so stupid. Stupid, stupid, stupid. Petty power plays with keys! - I've seen it before, in a vaguely analogous situation (not sporting club, though).
You do well to wash them off you for good, like a nasty residue from touch ... something or other. Gone, gone, gone! Play golf when and as it suits, but they are absolutely out of your hair. I'm sorry it came anywhere near you.
And sorry for your situation, too, Petal. I'm glad there's some good workmates as well as negative, negative supervisors/managers.
 
If it makes you feel better you can have a key to my house anytime, or you could just come through one of the unlocked doors... We have no code that I know of. No need to tend the bar here, it takes care of itself.
 
Hi Cate, I'm sorry to hear they're continuing to treat you poorly at the club. It's not worth the grief to put yourself through that. I hope you will seek out more positive relationships elsewhere. If you really love golfing there, I hope you can find a way to keep playing. Maybe stick it to them by just hanging around in spite of their attitude.

BTW I saw this news story and thought of you. Have you spotted the Tasmanian tiger?
‘Mythical’ wolf-type animal once declared extinct ‘spotted’ eight times
 
Petal001 said:
For something that’s supposed to be fun it’s pretty grim !
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. I completely agree with this. I am so happy you are not going back. I hope you find a group of people who value you for you and treat you well. You are wonderful and kind and no one deserves being treated like that when they are trying to volunteer, for heaven's sake! You can't get a golf club where you are picturing sticking it - their heads are in the way!

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Hi, Marsia- Ferns are a beautiful thing. Parrots think they are delicious. I love that you have a fernery. What type of ferns do you have? The generation gap is hilarious! I find it really entertaining.
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I have wild fiddleheads, maiden hair, holly fern, one with purply leaves that is maybe a Japanese painted fern, and some that are like Boston ferns kinda but big and I don't know what they are called. That's cool parrots eat ferns! I am putting pretty driftwood between the ferns and trying to get some moss established, too. I am actually going to mulch them today.

Big hugs and sorry for all that drama!!!
 
Thank you, everyone, for the support & the hugs. :grouphug:
Amy. I'm absolutely done with them this time & am not going to put myself through any more. There is a very poor culture at this club & I should have known better than to go back.
LaMa- I'm glad I'm done with them too.
Alligatorob- You're sweet & funny. I saw your post in the middle of the night when I couldn't get to sleep & it made me laugh!
Bensanon- I won't keep playing there. I hadn't been enjoying it for a while so won't miss the club. I am much better off without it. I'll keep playing with our social group & at G's new club, with him on the occasional Saturday. I can pay a fee to still have a handicap. I can't look at that link & it wants me to subscribe. There have been many reported "sightings" of a Tasmanian Tiger, but I'm afraid they are well & truly extinct. It's a tragedy & many more to follow, unfortunately.
Petal- Good morning, wicked one. I couldn't get to sleep last night & sat up reading for hours, but then crawled back into bed & crashed. No more tears though. Your stick it up their arses & give it a good twist helped.
Marsia- I am relieved that I am not going back. I think I have been in readiness for this Thank you for your very sweet words. I don't think anyone deserves to be treated poorly. I'll be much better off away from the club & won't put myself through it again. I don't need to join any club. You had me thinking off which clubs would fit up there......maybe the ball retriever :eek:
Your ferns sound beautiful. Spraying milk on things helps develop moss.

Just a question for you. I'm not going back to the club & the answer wouldn't make me change my mind about that. The women's secretary wrote an email to the general committee asking if I could have a key & a code & if one other woman could have a code as she already has a key. I have wondered if she wrote in that email that I would not do the bar unless I had a key & a code. I was too wound up (angry & upset) to speak in the meeting to ask at the time. I would like to know if her email put that in. If so, they were hardly likely to approve it. Do you think I should ask or just let it go? No-one knows I'm not coming back. I'm just not going to turn up next Wednesday. I had put my name down to play in the club championships, starting in 2 weeks time & need to get that removed somehow......
Anyhow, I won't be losing any more sleep or shedding any tears over that golf club. I don't want to be angry or hurt either so am letting it go. Done.

Winter seems to have returned. G may just have to get the fire going again. There's just a short time each year when I wish we had an alternate heating system. I think we'll have a lazy day today. Maybe it's a day to catch up on some housework, rather that outside work.
 
Are there any other sports/activities you could do to take the place of going to "that" club ? a friend of mine really gets into geocaching as it get him out and about walking places and exploring new locations. I see there is a fair few caches in Tas Geocaching Australia
 
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