Cate's Diary

cate said:
Our son qualified top of the ladder in the state team qualifiers. I took the GK's in & we had a lovely time. We are all very proud of D. He will now represent his state at the national championships in October.
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A little late reading diaries but wanted to say quite an accomplishment, congrats!! You must be a very proud momma.
 
Thanks LaMa- you're a darling. I haven't done my squats today as my calf muscles are very tight. I'll do some stretches during the day & do them tonight.
Thanks Miss Fit. I am very proud of him xoxo
Fast day today. Had a bit of an anxious night. In a hurry now, so will explain tonight xoxo Cate
 
Thanks butterfly & LaMa. I do feel better this morning, but had a bad day as well on top of being anxious in the morning. I went out with G, rather than staying at home on my own. It was a good decision. I ended up having a couple of glasses of red wine after eating the dinner we had put aside for our son. I broke my 500 cal fast prob by about 250 cals. & woke up this morning to a 1.5 kg loss anyway! I'll take it. I'm almost back to where I was a few weeks back.
I'm about to head to golf. Once again I know I need to go. Staying at home would be so much easier.
Will explain about D, our son, tonight. He's not stressing too much. I'm glad I saw him last night.
Bye for now. Will check diaries tonight, xoxo
 
I played golf & had a lovely day. It is a struggle on the golf course as it's so waterlogged. There were no good scores yesterday, but I was runner-up.
Our son, D was putting pressure on me to buy our car from us. I know he needs a new one but we are not ready to buy a new one. I like driving my car. It wasn't very fair of him to put pressure on me. I then found out that he had talked to G about it & had said how much he spends on petrol every week. :eek:
Apparently he had just found out that his ex. has moved into a new rental up the coast. He can't get his head around how he is going to manage to pick the kids up & take them back & be able to fit it into what is already a hard schedule with his job. He has always got them off the school bus on Thursday nights. If he was running late he could ring us & get us to get them as that bus goes up our road. Then he would drop them off on Sundays on his work as it was on the way. Now they will be living 60km away in the opposite direction. Really she should share the driving & either drop them off or pick them up, but she is not reasonable. He may have to try to work out a totally different schedule. She gets gov't money to look after them, has a live-in BF, which she does not declare, gets lots of child support from our son, he has them 3 nights a week & all of the money D spends on A's support does not get taken into account, because he is not D's biological son. The system sucks. She also has not declared the money he had to pay her as settlement on the house. He will never have any money.

We had some hassles at the golf club with the green keeper. He threw a hissy fit. Instead of saying the course should be closed he said nothing directly but got around ranting & raving. We just don't need that. G got so stressed about it all. I was the one to hear it & I suggested to one of the other workers who was asked to be course manager if it might be a good idea to go talk to him about it, which he did. Apparently, they had a robust, but productive conversation. It just confirms our decision to go off committee. We need a break. After a particularly bad Tuesday, I then got a text message from the barmaid saying she couldn't work on Saturday. We have about 80-90 people playing in a very social comp. A large group come from nearby city to play a memorial day. It is a very busy day. G is no longer playing & he & I are doing the bar all day & G will cook the bbq in the middle. Not happy about this. I wasn't even going to be there at all. Last year, last year. Thank goodness. I'm tempted to quit as bar manager as well. I haven't made up my mind yet.

We are about to head again. G is giving blood & we have some shopping to do. I am feeling a bit stressed & have an upset stomach. Apparently, the littlies are not happy about the move. They say the house is cold & small. They also now have to change schools. They have just started holidays & will have to start at a new school for the last term of the year. CC, the youngest, will not be happy. He told me he did not want to change schools. He's 8. Poor kids :( Kids are resilient I know, but he has taken the marriage split the hardest.

Better scoot, xoxo
 
Sorry about everything happening with your son's ex. She sounds like a real piece of work! Is the support court ordered? Here in the states if support is court ordered, if the person does any sort of move that will change the current regular system with the kids it has to be approved through court before they do it. Not sure if it's the same out there or the same type of situation, but it doesn't seem fair at all for her to do that. Sorry you're going through all that, Cate. :grouphug:
 
Thanks MF. I'm not really sure how it all works. I know it could have been worse & that's how D is trying to look at it. I'll ask him when I see him. Thanks for the hug sweetie xoxo
 
O dear, that all sucks! On the one hand "she´s difficult" shouldn´t be a reason to let her have her own way all the time but on the other I know what an energy drain it is to try and deal with some people. That goes for both the mom of your grandkids AND the golf situation.
 
Thanks, LaMa. I am trying to stay out of it & then do what D wants us to. He does not feel like bending to her will at all. He's quite angry with her these days. I don't know how he managed all the years they had together. I really do feel like pulling the pin on all positions at the club, but I think going off committee is the main one. That is happening, regardless. 3 more months to go!
 
Someone earlier in the week said something lovely about me, that they saw from my avatar & I was embarrassed at the time (but also chuffed) & did not reply. I was feeling a bit emotional at the time. I have tried searching the diaries & can't find where or who it was. I must learn to accept compliments graciously. I thought I was getting better at it, but because I didn't reply straight away I have missed the opportunity to pass on that I was having a really bad day, but the comment made me feel special. Whoever it was I am sorry that I let that go. I hope you read this. Thank you very much xoxo
 
Had a really good night's sleep & woke this morning feeling a fair bit better about everything. Our son has come up with a plan that should work OK & seems to be dealing with it OK, so we will too. It may involve us spending time with them on Sunday mornings & putting them on a bus home to their mother. We are more than happy to do that. He'll work it out. She actually had the cheek to say he would have to stay with his GF & drop them off before work on Sunday. Wow. He told her that was not possible & that his parents would put them on a bus on Sundays if he was working. She drives him fairly crazy, but at least he's capable of making jokes about it, in between cursing her. "I only have to deal with her for another 10 years!"

I'm fasting today(500 cals), my stomach has settled down & I'm feeling OK.
Sometimes that is good enough. Tomorrow will be a BIG day. We'll be out at the golf club all day. We'll need to shop along the way, be there by 9am & most probably won't get home until 5-5.30. I will be on my feet all day, doing the bar. I am looking forward to Sunday.

I am going to have a lazy day today. My calf muscles have been really aching & I have also been getting a lot of cramps (really bad cramps). I already take Magnesium. I'll do some homework & maybe tweak some things I take. Because they have been aching so much I have not done squats for a couple of days. I have also been doing some stretches & massaging magnesium oil into them. They still feel tight this morning, but not painful.

Time to waste some time on FB, xoxo
 
Good luck with the golf monster day! Good to hear your son is dealing with the whole situation and finding solutions. It´s so sad when kids get used as weaponry against an ex-partner!
 
Hi! Pretty sure I will never catch up reading your diary, but I will just start here :) See if I can learn a thing or 2.
 
Hi LaMa & Anke. The golf day was huge (left home at 8.30am, got back home at 7.30pm) but was also successful. I was on my feet all day & was very tired last night. I do love a day that goes well, though. G & I did a good job & it was appreciated, which helps.
I massaged my feet & legs last night as they were really aching. I slept very well.
A couple of days ago, I rode my bike, did squats & danced about a fair bit. I think I forgot to mention it. It was on my FD. We have been listening to a new CD, which is very catchy. I had an active week, what with playing golf on Wednesday as well. I haven't done any weights at all.
My July plan might have to be tweaked.
We are picking the kids up soon & bringing them up here for a few hours & then putting them on the bus back to their Mum's. The "littlies" are quite excited about it apparently. Perhaps it will make them feel a bit grown up. :)
I'm a bit tired today. G & I committed to doing the day again next year. We have a good rapport with the visitors & enjoyed their company. Sure, it was hard work but it was worth it. It was a great day for the club.
Lazy day coming up.........xoxo
 
Thanks, LaMa. It sounds like your Spartan race was also satisfying. Well done to you too xoxo

I don't think my Mum is going to be around for much longer. She seems to have declined quite a bit in the last few days. I called in on our way home Sat night & she was sound asleep at 7.10pm. I got a call yesterday from the nurse to say that she was sorry she missed me Sat as she wanted to have a chat with me about Mum. She has thrush in her mouth apparently & did not want breakfast yesterday & they were keeping her in bed for the day. We had a good talk & I expressed the view that it might be Mum's time soon & she agreed. The poor old thing has had such a good innings, but she really has no quality of life anymore. In the last 6 years, she has gone from being a feisty, intelligent & active woman to a frail, non-verbal shadow of her former self. I have really cherished the last 5 years, since bringing her to Tassie, but I can see that it would be best for her to go soon. G & I are going in to see her soon.

It is a very wild day. We had hail & crazy winds during the night & there will be more flooding in Tasmania today. Snow is predicted down to sea level this week as well.
Did 20 squats before my shower this morning & massaged my calves in the shower. I don't think there will be any golf this week because of the heavy rain. I'll ride my bike instead.
Lots of love to all who take the time to read my diary, xoxo Cate
 
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Tasmania, Australia. (Taken 2015 I think) Snow is predicted down to sea level, very soon. Brrrr!!!!
 
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