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Having my oats right now, with water, apple and ginger. Nom! Good job on filling up that calorie requirement, your body needs some energy. But if you feel bad about cookies maybe some nuts or dried fruit could help?
 
I don't feel bad about the cookies this morning. :drool5: At that point a calorie was a calorie so what difference did it make. I had something I like. 250 calories of yogurt wouldn't have been any better or worse.
 
BugDude said:
I don't feel bad about the cookies this morning. :drool5: At that point a calorie was a calorie so what difference did it make. I had something I like. 250 calories of yogurt wouldn't have been any better or worse.
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I like it. I have done similarly (though mine involves BBQ ribs). A little leeway is always good, as long as it's just a little.
 
3/7....20.03 miles....1hr49min....11.0 mph....2182 calories

So I rested up yesterday for a longer stretch today. Did a 20 miler!!! My longest ride yet, and even though I paced myself for the long haul and kept it steady without really digging hard I still averaged 11 mph. I took 4 bottles of water with zero cal powerade mix with lime juice added, a PB&J, almonds and dried cranberries, and blueberries. That's 500 calories in snacks and a good mix of nutrients. I stopped every 6 miles and switched water bottles, ate a little of each thing, stretched a minute, and hit the trail again (I paused my app so the time above is only ride time, but each break was a couple minutes).

So, considering I pushed myself today, I upped my total calories for the day to 1900. On the way home from the ride (my family came and picked me up at the rendezvous point) we stopped at Subway and I got a roast beef on wheat with tons of veggies, light mayo and mustard. Got home and had some beans and other proteins with it.

I still feel pretty good, so I didn't burn myself out on the ride. Might do a short light ride tomorrow just for enjoyment. I'll see how I feel.
 
3/8....4.76 miles....33 minutes....8.7 mph....438 calories

Just a light casual ride around the neighborhood with my wife today, then went and played 18 holes of golf. I'm pretty tired today but still managed to be active. I'm going to get to bed early tonight and ride in the morning. Depending on how I feel will determine how hard I push tomorrow. Stayed on calorie goal today even though we went out to eat after church (grilled shrimp and scallops, asparagus, couscous, salad with light dressing, and water with lemon) and then had Digiorno pizza this evening.
 
Something happened last night after my 20 mile ride and I didn't have the energy to get into it then. But I feel the need to get it off my chest.

I've been married right at 22 years. My wife can be somewhat of a "Negative Nancy" but she gets it honest since I hear her and her sisters complaining about their mom doing it to them. So I'm not surprised and it's nothing new, just frustrating.

After my ride last night we were eating our Subway sandwiches we got on the way home and I was talking about that being the longest ride I've done yet. All of a sudden my wife rather abruptly and rudely blurts out (in front of our kids) "Why do you have to be so all or nothing? Why do you have to push everything you do? Why can't you just be moderate and down the middle? Why can't you just do the same lower distance every day?"

I replied "Pushing yourself is how you improve. If I did the same 5 mile ride every day at the same pace I'd never improve my ability. It would lose it's impact as I got used to it."

Then I said, "You know, you would hope that your spouse would be happy for what you're doing and proud of your accomplishments. I don't know why you have to bust my bubble when I'm feeling good about something just like your mom does you and your sisters." She said, "Well, I get it honest. I'm just afraid you're going to burn out." I replied, "Good, let me, then I'll move on to something else new and push that. It's what I do." She said, "Well, I'm just moderate down the middle of the road." To which I replied, "Then it's a good thing I'm an extremist or you'd never be exposed to anything."

I have to say it was very annoying and disappointing, but I'm not going to let it discourage me from my focus. When we went for our little 5 mile ride today, for me that wasn't even exercising. But she was toast. Maybe part of it is jealousy, maybe resentment that I'm taking the time to do it (she's a stay at home mom and both kids are in school, so she can't say she never has time...she just doesn't make time). Or perhaps that's just her personality. Whatever the case, it would be nice to feel supported and encourage by your spouse but I'm not going to let it distract me either.

Sorry for the rant...just needed to vent my frustration on this journey. Thanks.
 
I'm sorry about the feeling of lack of support in the family. Sometime people just don't know the right things to say to express their concerns without sounding harsh or critical.
Good job being active after your long bike yesterday.
 
Everyday l get up early in the morning and run 5 to 10 Kilometers it all depends with the mood l will be in and if really up for running will run for 10Km maximum and then stop. With such running everyday have lost a large amount of weight and also through the training program l am into has helped me loss weight so much.
 
I´m sorry to hear communication with your wife is less than optimal but as far as I can tell from what you describe it really is just the style of communication that´s a bit off. The core of the problem seems to be "I´m afraid you´ll burn out". Which would sound a lot better if she´d started with "I´m really glad you´re trying to get healthy so I and the kids will have you around for a good long time but I´m afraid that at the rate you´re doing this it´ll get too much for you and won´t last". But... I must add that your response wasn´t a whole lot better than her start, communicationwise. We can´t change other people, we can only ever change ourselves (as you´re doing with this journey!). Try to help her by assuming that she means well (some people don´t but I´m sure you know your wife well enough to decide about that), explaining how her words make you feel (not: what her words are doing to you) and asking simple questions to find out what she really means. Time enough to get loud and/or upset after finding out what someone means exactly, getting each other up in arms (which is how that previous communication sounded to me) won´t bring clarity.

Sorry to get myself involved in things that don´t concern me, ignore me if you think I´m far off.
 
LM, you're right. My response wasn't productive which I'm disappointed in myself for that. I've been working on how I handle, react, and approach over the last year and the results have been great in terms of interpersonal dynamics. This happened the be one of my triggers and perhaps being drained from the ride I didn't maintain my newly developed ways of handling. Live and learn, sometimes no matter how many steps forward we take there will be moments we take one or two back. We've been together 30 consecutive years dating and married, so we seem to work through things fine. But marriage has its moments.
 
I don't get the responses from my wife like that, but I do sense a slight "chill" when I'm doing my exercise thing. I think part of it is that I'm escaping the family to exercise (don't have much choice with my current regime and kids' ages), but I also sometimes feel like she wants to be invited along. Is that possibly what's happening with your wife?
 
Great job being aware of how you handle things and keeping an eye out for possible improvement! As you say: you must be doing something right if you´ve managed to stick together for so long :)
 
Little John said:
I don't get the responses from my wife like that, but I do sense a slight "chill" when I'm doing my exercise thing. I think part of it is that I'm escaping the family to exercise (don't have much choice with my current regime and kids' ages), but I also sometimes feel like she wants to be invited along. Is that possibly what's happening with your wife?
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We go on family or just us 2 rides on Sunday. Our kids are 13 and 6, so a short ride around the neighborhood with the daughter watching her brother is ok (alarm on and we have camera system can watch from phone) but she's not ready for longer or faster rides. We have arranged some sitters this month on a couple Saturdays for us to go ride.

At this point, I'm forging ahead while making sure we have time to bike each week as a family or couple.
 
3/9....10.05 miles....53 minutes....11.3 mph....1115 calories

Moderate ride today, but was pretty tired the rest of the day...which wasn't good considering I worked from 8:30 am - 8:30 pm today. I've got an 8:00 meeting in the morning but will still ride. May have to cut it short, but that's ok seeing as I need to catch up on some rest. I've gotta take my bike in for a tune-up Wednesday afternoon and pick it up Thursday afternoon, so I plan a rest day Thursday.
 
Wow, very impressive after a 12 hour day to put in that effort!

Appropriate to my post yesterday, though it may not apply from what you were saying, this popped up on my FB feed later today:
 
Just to clarify, I did my ride yesterday at 6:00 am. Weekdays I typically get up at 5:45 am and do my rides. It just made me tired all day at work which was 12 hours.
 
3/10....10.05 miles....50 minutes....12.1 mph....1175 calories

Felt good this morning, good strength and energy so I went at it with higher intensity. My average speed would have been better if I had not had to stop for 2 school buses and 3 cars. The hazards of road cycling.
 
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