BikiniBound's Diary

LOL!!

Playin' catch up is fun!

Plus, more OT is on the way for him as well as RHC 4 me any min.. :flame:

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Once again doll, so proud of yer NEW Low RE: WEIGHT LOSS...LoL at the previous comment by Trevor..

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Hi Kimberly

Changing the subject completely - shouldn't you be filling in an application form. Don't leave it all until the last minute.

Consider yourself nagged.

Take care
Love
Margaret
 
Shower sex is always an option, Mal, for sure. But we've also been known to just throw and towel down and say to hell with the bleeding!
 
I've had enough. I just told H I want a divorce--and that I mean it. He agreed and said to me, "good riddance to bad rubbish." Ouch. I don't care if I don't have any money. I don't care if it's right before the holidays. He was such a prick to me tonight after I was nice to him about his bad day today. There is no way in hell I want to be married to someone who has so little respect for me. I want a man who thinks I'm wonderful--and he clearly doesn't. No amount of counseling is going to change his low opinion of me. I guess I'd better contact a lawyer...:ack2::ack2:

Happy Monday!!
 
Aw! I'm so sorry to hear that. I don't know you very well.. just what I've read around in the past couple of days, but I guess that eventually enough is enough. If he is brining you down, then that just isn't good.
 
RadiantPebble said:
Aw! I'm so sorry to hear that. I don't know you very well.. just what I've read around in the past couple of days, but I guess that eventually enough is enough. If he is brining you down, then that just isn't good.
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Thanks. Our whole married life has been pretty bad. I've finally had all I can take. He just isn't the same person I fell in love with 10yrs ago.
 
Well, after that response from him, there's really no reason to rethink it, is there? That's not to say it will be easy, because it probably won't be. If you need to talk, cry, vent, etc., I'm here for ya!

At least you got a few good "rides" before the park closed for good! (Sorry to make light of a crappy situation, I'll try to balance it with sympathy and understanding....)

Any idea when he will be moving out?
 
AmbaLove said:
Well, after that response from him, there's really no reason to rethink it, is there? That's not to say it will be easy, because it probably won't be. If you need to talk, cry, vent, etc., I'm here for ya!

At least you got a few good "rides" before the park closed for good! (Sorry to make light of a crappy situation, I'll try to balance it with sympathy and understanding....)

Any idea when he will be moving out?
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I thought the same thing about the sex, so don't feel bad..lol

I have no idea when he'll be moving out--haven't discussed it. I cannot bear to talk to him anymore tonight.
 
bikinibound said:
I've had enough. I just told H I want a divorce--and that I mean it. He agreed and said to me, "good riddance to bad rubbish." Ouch. I don't care if I don't have any money. I don't care if it's right before the holidays. He was such a prick to me tonight after I was nice to him about his bad day today. There is no way in hell I want to be married to someone who has so little respect for me. I want a man who thinks I'm wonderful--and he clearly doesn't. No amount of counseling is going to change his low opinion of me. I guess I'd better contact a lawyer...:ack2::ack2:

Happy Monday!!
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I can't imagine how difficult this must be.

What a douchebag to say something like that to you!

You deserve SO much better than that, and I'm SO happy you realize it.

I'm so glad you are taking the necessary steps to free yourself and find Mr. Right! You deserve everything life has to offer!!!!
 
bikinibound said:
He agreed and said to me, "good riddance to bad rubbish." Ouch.
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First off, I'm so sorry for you Kimberly! :( Marriage is very serious, and it's a tragedy that this one didn't work out. However, many people have suffered through 2, 3, sometimes MORE marriages. I hope your pain isn't too terrible, I don't want you to become depressed. If this is the right thing, than you'll feel liberated and relieved amongst the sadness. I hope! Like I said before, you're a MAN'S DREAM. I wish I could get you out here to California, there are an awful lot of great men out here :) But still, I'll support you best I can, even if this doesn't quite go through. Wish I could go to your house and take you out for a walk and a nice bottle of wine! :beating: Ah, tis the downside of being an emo type girl who gets attached easily :rolleyes:

As an aside, this exact phrase was uttered by Johnny Rotten, also an Aquarius, about his poor dead overdosed friend Sid Vicious of the Sex Pistols. And Johnny has tried time and time again to help Sid kick the habit, meaning he cared about their relationship but he'd given up and was not emotionally available enough to be tactful. I think your H loves you very much but the negative patterns you two shared due to incompatibility on an important level caused him to say that. I'm not trying to build him up, but I really think he's hurting and he's also at a despairative state. I don't care if that's not a word, it is now! I just want you to remind yourself this is not your fault, this is just a mismatch of minds and you have a future, a bright one that involves a great love. At least, I'm optimistic for you :)

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OMG Star, that was a real shocker about you and H. I'm so sorry its come to this and you must be feeling so badly about the situation and his rude comment. Obviously he's just hurt too and I know he gets mean when hurt. He needs to figure out his own life and go back to Australia, he can't be happy in his situation either not having his own space. This will get him moving and will force him out of his major rut that he's in over here. And his rut is really bringing you down as well. Is he going back to Aussie?
 
Agggghhhh! So just a few minutes ago he comes into the room where I am and apologizes about calling me bad rubbish. He said it wasn't a good way to go to bed. I just looked at him incredulously. So I wasn't about to let this end at that, and followed him into the bedroom. I told him that I don't think he respects me or thinks very highly of me, and that he cannot say the things he said to me earlier and get away with it. He basically was looking for a fight earlier tonight. He knew what my reaction would be, and when I didn't give it to him, he didn't let it go--he pushed it until he got me to say what he was waiting for. And then he insulted my opinion, told me I was a liberal living in a dream world and was deluding myself. This isn't the first time we've had this discussion. Anyway, back in the bedroom a few minutes ago I told him I didn't see how we could ever work things out, and that I was at the end of my rope. I said, "You're not the same person you used to be." Then I left the room.

Yes, Val--we are incompatible. My H is a creature of habit. He becomes very attached to the familiar. When we lived in Korea he had this crappy little apartment and he loved the damn thing and was sad when he moved out of it--he still talks about it--and how one day he'd like to buy it. He probably feels the same way about me. Even though I'm not his dream woman, we've been together so long he can't imagine life without me--even though life with me sucks ass. Neither one of us is happy, and I don't see how it can change. His low opinion of me is basically b/c I'm female. He didn't have very positive female role models growing up, and his mother drives him insane. So no matter what I do, he will always think I'm inferior b/c of my sex. I don't want to have children with him b/c he'll probably teach his sons to think the same way about women, and teach his daughters that they aren't as good as their brothers. He is a dutiful son to his mother, but he doesn't like her and he doesn't respect her. I'm not gonna put up with that bullshit. He may be sad and despairate, but so am I, and he doesn't seem willing or able to do anything to keep from losing me.
 
bikinibound said:
His low opinion of me is basically b/c I'm female. He didn't have very positive female role models growing up, and his mother drives him insane. So no matter what I do, he will always think I'm inferior b/c of my sex. I don't want to have children with him b/c he'll probably teach his sons to think the same way about women, and teach his daughters that they aren't as good as their brothers. He is a dutiful son to his mother, but he doesn't like her and he doesn't respect her. I'm not gonna put up with that bullshit. He may be sad and despairate, but so am I, and he doesn't seem willing or able to do anything to keep from losing me.
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I think he feels bad about HIMSELF and is slightly depressed. I'm sorry it came out on you. :cry:
 
Curvie Girlie said:
I think he feels bad about HIMSELF and is slightly depressed. I'm sorry it came out on you. :cry:
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We are both feeling bad about ourselves and depressed. I'm depressed as hell and have been for about 6 years. That's why I haven't been able to kick myself in the ass and be productive.
 
Yer just too damn AWESOME 4 him gurl!

You ARE fantastic!

<3 you! :hug2:

So sorry you have ta deal with crap like that and right at the holidays as well. :rolleyes:
 
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