Before pictures. First post. I'm being brave. And I need help with my face.

:seeya: from Canada
My heart is broken for you and the pain you have suffered from other people. No matter how many of us tell you the truth (that you look absolutely lovely and do not appear to need any surgery!), I fear that the horrific wounds you suffered at such a tender age are continuing to wound you.

*I URGE you to seek appropriate counsel for what happened to you, so that you can grow into a healthy young woman in every respect!*

As for your weight; we are nearly the same height and I started my WL journey at 211 pounds. You certainly wear yours well; I would not have guessed your number. Come here often for encouragement and advice, and to update us on your progress (physically and emotionally!). You truly are a beautiful girl.

Wishing you success on your journey,

:grouphug: Janice
 
That sounds terrible, i can't imagine how that would feel.
Rest assured though that if people are mean they will be so anyway and will often create reasons to if there isn't one and as far as i'm concerned a statemnt that you are 'ugly' is completley fabricated.

If only you were in my neck of the woods;)
 
In all honesty, I think you look positively fine. When you lose the weight, you'll see your face slim down and change, you very well might just love the new you and realize that in the great scheme of things, it wont matter. You are NOT ugly and people who said you were, need to look in the mirror and understand that it's they who are ugly, for even beginning to call someone else that!

Trust me, I used to have a lot of the same issues, I weigh more then you tho, I'm 17, but I've seen my face change in different ways through out my life and now that I'm really going to take a hold of my weight, I try not to pass judgement on myself until I'm at the weight I want.

If you ever need someone to talk to or anything of the sort, send a PM my way =)
 
Its just shocking how cruel kids can be when they decide to pick on a person. I mean until I read your post about these mean kids in school, I was thinking you could be one of those fake posters that just likes to get people riled up. I thought how can such a gorgeous girl believe she's hideous, that's impossible!

OK, so the cat's out of the bag mami, you're hot and that's a fact! Now you need your confidence to catch up to the reality. These kids made up a fiction that you were not worthy and you were ugly. That was a made up lie and they all had their fun playing along. High school seems to have this cliquey hierarchial nonsense going on that has no basis in reality. Luckily you're finished with that and no one in your future needs to see that girl they tried to create. Its time to get back to your essence, the girl you were before you were abused to such an extent. Please try to find that girl.

If you want our continued help or friendship, start yourself a diary about your weight loss and other things. Take care luv :).
 
uhhh wow.. Seriously you are gorgeous! I recommend that if you want to lose weight that is up to you, but WAIT to get anything done to the face until after you lose the weight. I bet that will give you the look you desire... Not that you would need to be fixed up by a surgeon anyway.. That's crazy talk ;) You look great just the way you are.

But really... You are really beautiful, and if you lived near me I would totally ask you out :) So yah. You would have this handsome fellow on your arm :D
 
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You are a knockout! Whoever is telling you that you're ugly is really thinking you look a lot better than they do and they're telling you this to make themselves seem better. Sound odd? People do that! You have gorgeous eyes, pouty full lips, a cute slender nose, your face shape is fantastic, and your hair is thick and healthy. What part of your face do you see that's ugly? You really need to see yourself through your eyes and not other's eyes. At the end of the day, these people will not be with you. You will ALWAYS be with you, so you better figure out who you're going to listen to.
 
I don't go for blondes, having said that, there is nothing wrong with you, you look to me like most other girls and most girls are not ugly, in fact they're far from it. Women in general seem to lack more confidence then men do for some reason.

I can't see anything wrong with your jaw, your nose, your face or anything else. Highschool can be a pretty traumatic time for many people. At 18 you're so very young and vulnerable and in my own experience (i'm 25 now) your self esteem will grow as you gain more life experience. Even though i'm a little out of shape myself i think women find me irresistible.
 
You're really really beautiful :) you've got amazing hair, and pretty eyes.
You honestly don't need any plastic surgery, and you do carry your weight well, you look far lighter than you are.
I hope you realise how pretty you are :)
 
Wowee!

If someone done beat you up with the "ugly stick" please tell me who they are, cause I wouldn't mind a whack or two of that kind of ugly myself!

If you are ugly I had best just crawl back under my rock because I must be hideous!!!

And really, in the long run, people who tell you you are ugly are one of 2 things:

JEALOUS or ENVIOUS!
or
Just plain $*%#heads who's opinion doesnt matter anyway!

I know no one here will call you ugly, because yer not.

sirant
 
ok i can understand the rhinoplasty sort of, hey the narrow michael jackson nose seems to be the fashion, but the rest i really didnt notice, as the others said you are beautiful. I have a rather broad nose also, but wouldnt have surgery on it to change because its pretty superficial - and it somewhat defines me (perfect is boring)


Good luck with loosing the weight, if i were you though i would put off the surgery until you have done the weight loss, it will change the way you look a fair bit.
 
Maybe its the pictures but I dont find your nose looks at all large or "broad". It matches your face and your nice big lips, for one thing. I personally think nose jobs generally look horrible, with bones oddly sticking out where there's usually some cartilage. If someone's nose is really out of shape, then yes I have seen pictures of nose jobs that make a difference. But for people who start out with a normal nose that's not humongous or with a large bump (and we've all seen those and this one is not it), it often just doesn't look right.
 
Hi,

My daughter is 7 right now and I guess I internalized your traumatic event at age 7 and literally sit here w/ tears in my eyes. I don't know your background or how this happened to you but u need to know u r loved. Kids, teenagers, even adults can sometimes just be cruel, for no real reason. As a child, I was slightly overweight, by no means obese, but was very aware of it and when I think of it now, realize how insecure I was around my peers. Didn't hold my head up high, this again, was when I was in elementary school.

I can still remember once going on a school trip and the bus passing my house (we didn't live in a neighborhood, but more on a main road) and someone said, there's my house and this kid for no reason, just to be mean, said, yeh probably has roaches. I remember another child saying something mean to him. But u know that stuck w/ me. We were not poor, we were middle class, the kid who made the mean remark was upper middle class. Though, we didn't live in a neighborhood and some viewed us as different. Just because of that.

Where the hell am I going with this? Have no clue. Just I guess I know how kids be cruel and as a parent of two - am very very aware of this and make sure that my kids are not being bullied but also that my kids are not the bullies. Really teach them about respecting each other.

If something happened to you when you were a child as traumatic as an event that u experienced, and again, I don't know the circumstances, but this might of caused u to feel bad about yourself. Without knowing it, you might be projecting those feelings. If you see yourself as ugly, then you are projecting that image. Your peers probably could sense you felt that way about yourself and found you to be an easy target. Not that they thought u were really ugly but they honed in on your weakness and sensed that you felt that way.

You need to really look at yourself and realize how you look. Do you know how many women pay to have their hair look like yours??? You have great eyes, nice full lips (again, people paying for botox, and you get them for free), have to agree w/ the other posters - u hide your wt well or your scale's batteries are on the fritz.

Start believing in yourself. Stop focusing on thinking you are ugly. Everytime you start to think that switch it to - I am damn good looking - I have great eyes, great lips, great cheekbones, etc... Hold your head up high, smile when you are out in public. I don't care if you don't feel like it - do it. You will see an amazing response from people and I mean a positive one. Look people in the eye as u r walking by and smile. If u r not comfortable at first doing this,start w/ sunglasses, but smile when you are out in public.

I have through my life noticed that when I felt great and was out in public, it must of shone through, because people, mostly men but women too, would smile back or give me a wow at me or just friendly to me in the store.

Okay, and whatever u do, don't see a plastic surgeon because those people are in the business to make money - so of course they would tell everyone they should change this or do this!!! Think of the most gorgeous persson u know star or otherwise and I would bet they would recommend work for them. Funny story, once I had to go to an ear/nose/throat specialist for my eear. As the doc is looking at my ear he says to me, "did u ever consider a nose job?" I said, what's the matter u need some money to make your mortgage payment??" Can u imagine someone saying that to ya. Look, don't have a perfect nose, but it's no Dangerfield nose.

Seriously, try it, next to you go to the store, just smile and look people in the eye, I am sure u will have an amazing experience. Also, replace that negative thought that you have with a positive one. Anytime u start to think u r ugly replace it with the I am good looking thought.

Also, Good Luck with your wt. loss journey.
 
i think you look very pretty! don't ever think your face would look better if you did a little nip and tuck, because honestly you don't need it. God has created everyone with their own unique beauty. just stick to your weight loss program and you'll look even more prettier than the pictures you've posted! :)
 
Girl, there is really nothing wrong with your face. Instead of getting some bizarre facial surgery, go see a counselor & deal with self esteem issues.
 
This is my only post here at this site. You are incredibly hawt! Please don't mess up that beautiful face with surgery!

This may sound stupid, but I say use your awful high school experience as motivation to lose your weight. You already have the gorgeous face - if you can get down to a healthy weight, EVERYONE would be checking you out for different reasons than you think right now. I'm not saying this to be shallow, I'm just saying to take what was meant for harm or evil in your life and turn it around for the good. Make your ex-creep-classmates jealous of you in a healthy way. I believe that as time goes on you'll gain the confidence you need....I know I did.

I agree with others here too - you're too attractive for everyone to be looking at you in a negative light.....that's just in your head because of your past and you should probably see a counselor.
 
Hey,

When I read your post, I felt so sad, because I understand! I'm around 180 nd 5'7, and have always had issues with my weight, ever since I was a kid! (im 17) However can I say, when I saw your photos I did not understand what you were talking about?!! Like, alright I understand like a bit of exxageration, you know everyone has insecurities, but you are way off balance! Firstly you have such awesome hair, seriously work the hair! People would KILL for that hair. Secondly, do you know how well you carry your weight??!! I would have said you were around my weight, if not a bit less!! (im unfortuently cursed with a round face) so, when you lost a bit of weight, you are gonna look so great, and your face, man uv got nothin to worry bout! Nice eyes, big lips (hahaha me to scweeet!!) and your nose suits your face! And yes, so it might have a bump (i actually couldnt see it but you know) but no ones perfect, and I seriously could not see it at all.
Thirdly, as for those shit kids at your school, I don't know what to say. Not only can i not even believe people would treat someone like that, (I'd expect that in some sort of over exxagerated tween movie with a queen bee and even then thats a bit over the top bcos its so horrible),but I don't understand how you would even get it! You look normal already! And I agree with one of the posts above, turn it into motivation, work out, and then shove it right back in their ugly faces. (don't forget all bullies bully bcos they're insecure themselves) So, I hope I have helped inspire you somewhat, in the same way so many people on this forum have inspired me to lose weight also!!
Over and out.
180 pound girl.
PS. seriously, you have NOTHING to worry about!
 
wow, you are GORGEOUS!!! I don't just mean "ok" looking, or average. You're ABOVE average, very beautiful! Your eyes are amazing, I certainly wouldn't touch anything around them. A lot of girls would kill to look as good as you. you have very nice skin as well .. I mean .. are you even wearing makeup?! no doubt, your stunning. I bet if adults are starring at you, it's because they think your attractive - turning heads :D

That's completely horrid that kids picked on you in school and left you feeling this way.

I wish you all the best of luck with your weight loss ... if you were about an inch taller, after the weight is gone, I would suggest modeling!
 
Wow, I dont know what to say. You all are so incredibly sweet. As I read your replies I litterally started crying. This month has been very tough for me and I put aside my goals; however you all have just given me the push I needed in the right direction. Thank you so much for the encouragement and for being so kind. You all really don't know how much it means to me. I thought you all would be just like most people I've met; shallow and rude to me. But youre not. Yall are some of the nicest people I have talked to in a LONG time.

It's good to know that not all of humanity is evil.

God bless you all and happy holidays. I shall post update pictures soon.
 
Girlfriend, you are stunning! Seriously, your face is beautiful. There is absolutely nothing that needs changing.

Your look is beautiful and unique. You don't want to be just another face in the crowd that's undergone the surgeon's knife.

Check out the celebrity pics on awful plastic surgery dot com. These celebs have all the money in the word to go to the best plastic surgeons and a lot of the results are pretty bad.



If you feel you must, maybe just play up your best assets. Your hair, mouth, eyes and complexion are gorgeous. Perhaps just some enhancement with cosmetics or a new cut or style for your hair. I'm not saying you need either, but it's always fun to experiment and try out new looks.

Mac cosmetics (both in their own Mac stores and at Mac counters in larger department stores) will give you a free and fun beauty makeover. Mac cosmetics are my fav. They're long lasting, true to color and relatively inexpensive compared to other department store makeup counters.

Call up your nearest Mac and make an appointment for a free makeover...it'll be fun! You can find the Mac closest to you at the following link:



Take a look at what some celebs look like without makeup. You outshine all of them with your natural look.



Just remember, kids are mean...period! The kids that take pleasure in taunting and teasing others are just insecure and unhappy with themselves. Don't let them rain on your parade!

:grouphug:
 
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