Anke Says: Just Do It!

Your life sounds like a fresh start of exciting projects and activities--NICE! I highly approve of your riding to work :D And I'm wanting to belly dance myself, my homegirl is all girly and about goddess empowerment and female energy...and I feel like more of a bunch of male energy in a heterosexual female's body. Where the fuck is my inner goddess??? Anyway, my gym offers belly dancing and my homegirl gave me a beautiful purpple veil with bells on it for my birthday. I already have a jingle belt and I been to belly dancing a few times last year, so I'm going back! Wish me luck ;)
 
I'm so glad you like your new place :) Your bike ride to work sounds awesome, but I don't blame you for not wanting to ride it every single time! Did you talk to him about getting separate cupboards?
 
Hey love! I think I would seriously try to keep the binging under control, before it becomes a nightly habit. Smack it down while it's just coming up:smash:
I'm happy to hear about the great progress otherwise, little missy! Keep on keepin' on, as I rarely say ;)

:D Great stuff here, girl!

:sifone:

<3 Annie
 
more and more binging... work functions... muffins... plus at home, late at night, I'm unstoppable. It's scary.
 
Ok... Deep breaths...What are you going to do to stop this? Have you been exercising? I'll find that my tendency to cheat is much lessened by an intense workout.
 
Ok, grip gotten!

I am back on track with eating, and on a mission to exercise this week, will check in!
 
Oh goody! Way to go Anke! :hurray:

Do check in! I can't wait to see your continuing progress!

:) Annie
 
All food was good today so far. I will be going to belly dance class tonight, as well as doing about 400 skips with my rope at home.

I must complete some work for my boss (the BIG boos :) ) So I'll get right on that after my exercise, dancing, and a shower.

I want to let all of you know, I haven't had time to check up on everyone, and I feel bad :( But please know that I'm thinking of you all, and every one of you motivated me to persevere with this journey!

Oh, I need some advice/help/tips on procrastination.... if there's any chance one of you do it, plus still succeeds, please tell me how!!!

Guess I'm just lazy :sifone:
 
Same here Anke, I also got a grip now and will finish this journey finally... well hopefully in a few months. I keep moving my goal but I think that is fine, as long as the weight does not go up again but stays steady or goes down the journey may be longer if it so shall be...
I am hoping that I am 55 kg by Christmas now, I just know that the first few weeks after moving to Ghana will be hectic and I don't want or need more things to think about. And that is the next time I will see my in laws, and I would love to look hot hot hot for them (I wrote somewhere before how my mother in law is very body shaped obsessed and I want to show her how without magic healers and surgery you can get a nice body!).

So yey for new grip and let's continue!
Camy
 
Ankebuzz said:
I want to let all of you know, I haven't had time to check up on everyone, and I feel bad :( But please know that I'm thinking of you all, and every one of you motivated me to persevere with this journey!

Oh, I need some advice/help/tips on procrastination.... if there's any chance one of you do it, plus still succeeds, please tell me how!!!
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Don't feel bad! I just witnessed a Redneck gunfight on my front porch on Friday, helped assist a homeless guy hook up teenagers with acid on Saturday, and poured wine for drunks all day sat & sun ;) (mild exaggerations).

I DID sign up for a 4 day on Sundays course in bellydancing, using zills and I don't even know how at all! I'm excited to start getting into that. I want to connect with the community in some way, and belly dancing seems sexy-fun! I've done a few beginner's classes last year but I suck. Practice makes perfect of course :)

Tips on procrastination: write down objectives/goals in a planner with a little square and check off what you've accomplished. Go to bed earlier and wake up earlier and try to do something that you've been meaning to do, but been too "lazy" to do it (unless you are NOT a morning person, then sleep in and do it at night I guess.

Just trying to help! :D
 
I sabotage myself. Purposefully. And I don't feel like I can stop it. Literally at the end of a PERFECT Weigh-Less day, I can't seem to accept it, I just HAVE to stuff my face numbly for a while.... soooo bad... like I can't just accept success....? Maybe I don't think I deserve it?

I DO deserve it. I deserve every bit of good that comes from taking care of myself damnit! GRRRRR!!!!!! WHY do we have to have cookies and ice cream in the house!!?? (well, not anymore...)

Anyway, I'm going to go buy all the things (that my bf bought for him/us) to replace what I ate the last few days. Then I will try again, this time realising that the food will always be there, I may as well get used to it. I need to allow myself treats, but then not beat myself up for being too soft on myself and end up numbly bingeing. Maybe it's because I strive for perfection, but once I go wrong.... then I have to go wrong BADLY!!! WHY??? It's this all or nothing mentality...

I attach emotions WAY too much to food. I need to detach... see food as fuel again... I managed to do that while I was exercising, I guess it comes naturally then. But then I MUST keep up with regular, cardio exercise, as well as my body weight training.

OK, plan of action, I have a skipping rope, so for now that will be my cardio. Last night I managed 300 skips. I want to aim for 500 tonight. I am still doing pushups, managed 8 real ones this morning. I must do my full body work out... I'll write/draw it out so I can follow it easily.

I have also noticed a decrease in my general vegetable intake... I need to rev that back up again... I remember how good it feels to get all the right food groups and nutrients daily... natural mood booster.

And then of course I must take into account that I have just moved out of my parents home and my boyfriend and I have moved in together. It's a stressful situation, albeit normal, healthy life stress. Nonetheless, I must be KIND to myself now. Allowing myself to binge numbly is NOT self-loving. I am contradicting my OWN goals with my behaviour, and that's just silly. Clearly it means that I do not believe I can/may/should/want to/deserve to REACH MY GOALS. I need to start REINFORCING MY POSTIVE BELIEFS again.

Motivation/self-confidence doesn't always keep itself going, you have to keep feeding and nurturing it with your achievements, your good qualities, and your positive beliefs about all your goals and life.

So now, no longer is my journey about losing these last 5kgs... it's about changing my feelings towards myself. I need to love myself FULLY and BELIEVE in myself and my values and goals... this is the way forward.
 
Self sabatoge? I'm betting there's a large percentage of folks very familiar with that on this forum... yours truly included. :leaving:

What you have to do is make yourself believe is YOU ARE worthy of success. Even if you need to look at yourself in the mirror and repeat "I am worthy of success" to yourself until you believe it. Or something similar. Make yourself a list of 5 reasons WHY you ARE worthy of success on a small piece of paper, put it in your wallet. When you are feeling down about yourself, take that list out and read it aloud. Sounds silly, I know, and I probably come off as one of those kook motivational coaches. Can't help it... I'm just weird. :jump:

Have you done any bellydancing lately? Even putting on some bellydance type music and practicing in your living room or kitchen? If you haven't, I recommend doing it. From what I've been reading, it seems that bellydance makes you happy. Do more. Nevermind the jump rope (unless it makes you happy too)... go shake those hips, girl! It may help with the feeling of self worth.

Your first and last paragraphs speak volumes... hang in there!
 
Anke, you have the right frame of mind. And it is totally possible to have indulgences and still lose weight, trust me! Look I'll use myself as an example only because that's what I know: Yesterday I was at the grocery store and I decided I wanted Ben and Jerry's ice cream. I noticed it is 4 servings a pint, 300 calories a serving. I ate my delicious lunch that had veggies and "fruit" like avocados and cherry tomatoes, first. Then I sat there was like do I still want ice cream? Yes! SO I ate 1/4 of the pint. I could have kept going, but my stomach was full. I remained CONSCIOUS of my body. I closed the lid and felt absolutely happy and glad I did what I did. 2 hours later I went running. OK, yeah, I have an advantage since I'm half marathon training and I ran for over an hour......but that doesn't mean I can eat anything I want! I had a low-calorie home-made dinner that evening. And I'm down a pound from yesterday (where I'm at in my cycle also, Day 11, makes a difference as well).

I'm just trying to help by example. My question to you is, were you hungry before you "numbly" ate the junky foods? A weapon against the treats in the house is to have nutrient-rich, low-calorie-for-it's-weight food available, and FORCE yourself to eat that first before you move on to the goodies. Don't even think about your behavior as hindering your weight loss efforts. Change your mind frame to "I am hungry, my body needs nourishment and vitamins and macros to function on a cellular level. I'm going to eat this delicious salad, tuna sandwich, pea soup, whole grain wrap, whatever, so I get the food I NEED to feel my best. Then afterward, I'm going to satisfy my sweet tooth because I can, I deserve it, and if I stop at one serving and exercise today, I will still lose weight and I'll be proud of myself."

Look, I'm trying to help by offering solutions. Please don't be offended, I'm sharing what worked for me.....I have confidence that you can get a better handle on your eating patterns. Just keep trying and don't beat yourself up. Binges happen. Battle the urge to binge with a healthy meal, even if it isn't mealtime. A healthy 400 calorie meal is going to be better and satiate you (especially if it's full of fiber, like beans) than being hungry trying to wait for dinner or whatever, then throwing in the towel and eating 900 calories worth of cookies and chocolate M&Ms or whatever.....

YOU CAN DO THIS. You deserve to look hot and shed the fat you don't want on your body.

:hug2:
 
I know you'll do this right! Always remember, stay aware of how you feel. If when you get depressed, you binge, Just notice it earlier and do some things to cheer you up, like belly dancing, jump rope, or do some other thing that you find happy and exhilarating.

I know it's possible to change your mood; I've been coping with that since middle school. I KNOW YOU CAN BEAT THIS! It's all in your mind, dear. Notice that the world doesn't stop after you binge and feel guilty. If you happen to binge, for any reason, just remember, it's not the end of the world!! just get up from your fall, dust yourself off, and keep trying.

Go Anke! I'll be cheering for you! :D

:)Annie
 
Hey all!

Wow, thanks for all the good advice, comments, and support above. I really needed it.

So, new plan of action:

Last night I made a vision board, and I want to make another today. I also want to make a list of ways to cope with stress that do not involve smoking or eating. I'll put that up here when I'm done. I also want to carry around a few powerful affirmations with me, so I'm gonna figure those out today too.

And Phoenix, I DO enjoy the skipping, so will continue, hehe. But you are right, the dancing will make my soul happy... and I've been neglecting it. I want to commit to dancing every day from now on. I love it so much, it should not be a huge mission.
 
Ankebuzz said:
Hey all!

Wow, thanks for all the good advice, comments, and support above. I really needed it.

So, new plan of action:

Last night I made a vision board, and I want to make another today. I also want to make a list of ways to cope with stress that do not involve smoking or eating. I'll put that up here when I'm done. I also want to carry around a few powerful affirmations with me, so I'm gonna figure those out today too.

And Phoenix, I DO enjoy the skipping, so will continue, hehe. But you are right, the dancing will make my soul happy... and I've been neglecting it. I want to commit to dancing every day from now on. I love it so much, it should not be a huge mission.
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Hiya Anke,
I totally understand the self sabotage. I do the same thing. I did not binge eat last night. You might want to try a mouth gaurd. You will dream about food and bite down on the gaurd and feel satisfied, at least I do. And I sleep better. I don't get up to eat at night and miss sleep ... u know ...

I do the same thing regarding after making one mistake, I just throw my hands in the air and just do even worse...

You can do this hun
We all believe in you. I believe in you!

You rock!!

love yas
always
your friend
natalie jo
((hugs)):cheers2:
 
I was looking through your pictures and your avatar, although really cute, doesn't do you justice--you are SO beautiful and adorable! no WONDER you did modeling!

Vision board--2 thumbs up!

I'm with annie and natalie--you CAN do this! :D
 
Well, you've probab;y heard of "The Secret". It's a technique used to visualise your goals and turn them into reality. You stick pictures of who you want to be and what you want to have or do on it (from magazines, internet, whatever) and then you look at it every day to remind yourself. I make a big collage-like thing.

Okay, so the weekend was a bit dippy... had a wedding, ate a few pastries... ate Tinkies :( but also managed to do SOME exercise. Now I have until Thursday's group weigh in to make a dent here. I picked up 1kg last week, the biggest gain since I started 5 months ago.

Thanks you all for the lovely compliments and encouragement... YOU rock!
 
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