Always will be a fat man.........but

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go home and toss your wife down on the kitchen table and have your way with her....

put that randiness to good use :)

I know I am being stupid.
I have a beautiful wife at home who loves me more than anything.
I just wish other people would just notice me sometimes- that's all. I am usually not this vain, it just occured to me that is a long ass time to not be flirted with.

All human beings have a want of validation.
 
I really do not know why...I mean I am fat and all but I see many fat people getting hit on all the time in clubs and the like.

I have a secret...


you aren't fat anymore...I saw the pictures. Shh, don't tell anyone...
 
Read the title of the thread sweetie- that is a fact that will never change.

I may not look as fat but I will always be fat.
Your secret is safe with me.:D
 
I didn't believe I would every think a different way darlin' but I have started to come around a little...you never know.

Good to know you can keep a secret, I can too :D
 
I know I am being stupid.
I have a beautiful wife at home who loves me more than anything.
I just wish other people would just notice me sometimes- that's all. I am usually not this vain, it just occured to me that is a long ass time to not be flirted with.

All human beings have a want of validation.

Being flirted with has virtually nothing to do with what you look like but by what you put out to people... I know I got flirted with more when I was almost 400lbs than now...

Look around you - people notice you... and not because you're nice to look at but because you're a nice guy (and i mean that in a good way -not a nice guys finish last condescending sort of way)
 
You know damn well what i am talking about Mal. There are times when noone wants just to be acknowleged as a 'nice guy' or what have you.
I want to have to disappoint someone because I am happily married.:D

Actually I may need to rethink this entire conversation- I had to tell one of the guys that I play volleyball with that not only was I married I was straight.:D
Actually made him visably upset.
 
Being flirted with has virtually nothing to do with what you look like but by what you put out to people... I know I got flirted with more when I was almost 400lbs than now...

Look around you - people notice you... and not because you're nice to look at but because you're a nice guy (and i mean that in a good way -not a nice guys finish last condescending sort of way)

I totally agree with Mal here...and for what it is worth, you get flirted with here quite a bit :D
 
You know damn well what i am talking about Mal. There are times when noone wants just to be acknowleged as a 'nice guy' or what have you.
I want to have to disappoint someone because I am happily married.:D
happily married men give off this 'vibe' - that well -makes it not worth the effort to flirt - no ROI...


Actually I may need to rethink this entire conversation- I had to tell one of the guys that I play volleyball with that not only was I married I was straight.:D
Actually made him visably upset.

So you're setting off someone's gaydar - fascinating :)
 
I had to do adouble take -i mistook the oo for oc -and thought WOW - what kind of volleyball do you play?

YEE_ HAW!!!

Damn you Mal.
Now i woke up my wife.....:D

We play naked, swinging volleyball of course.:D- doesn't everyone?

'oo' for 'oc'- awesome- thanks, you gave me a great laugh to end my day.
 
* disclaimer- all views expressed in this rant are contradictory to all advise given by Bigguy on this board.*


So I know I was trying to get away from weighing myself as often as I was but I just have not been able to totally get away from it.
I really think my scale is broken in some way. I weighed myself this morning and I was 225.5. I like the weight but why the hell has it not gone down? There is no way that I am breaking even with calories- no way. I know it is just a number, I know I look decent, I know clothes are fitting better,I know my stamina and strength are at all time highs- but I want the freaking number!!!
I do not want to go back to counting all the frickin calories again and writing down every single little frickin thing. I eat well and in reasonable portions- what the hell is going on?
I change my damn cardio routine all the time- I never really allow my body to settle into a 'routine'. I run 20+ miles a week, I play volleyball once a week, I WT 3-4 times a week. I am doing yard work now and all this and still I cannot get the damn number to move!!
I am one more 225 from giving up all this and just trying to live healthy but not giving a crap about anything else!

I do not know why I am hung up on 210. I want to reach 210. I wanted to be 34 and be 210. 34 is in 4 weeks- not going to happen.

- sorry about that-
Resume normal programming.
 
Damn you Mal.
Now i woke up my wife.....:D
well yo don't have to thank me - hope you had some fun with her :)

We play naked, swinging volleyball of course.:D- doesn't everyone?
I need to get out more clearly...

I do not know why I am hung up on 210. I want to reach 210. I wanted to be 34 and be 210. 34 is in 4 weeks- not going to happen.
you're gonna be 34 for a full year... you've got plenty of time to get to 210...

When is the last time you took a "break" from your routine? maybe that's what you need - eat at maintenace for a while -then cut back..
 
* disclaimer- all views expressed in this rant are contradictory to all advise given by Bigguy on this board.*


So I know I was trying to get away from weighing myself as often as I was but I just have not been able to totally get away from it.
I really think my scale is broken in some way. I weighed myself this morning and I was 225.5. I like the weight but why the hell has it not gone down? There is no way that I am breaking even with calories- no way. I know it is just a number, I know I look decent, I know clothes are fitting better,I know my stamina and strength are at all time highs- but I want the freaking number!!!
I do not want to go back to counting all the frickin calories again and writing down every single little frickin thing. I eat well and in reasonable portions- what the hell is going on?
I change my damn cardio routine all the time- I never really allow my body to settle into a 'routine'. I run 20+ miles a week, I play volleyball once a week, I WT 3-4 times a week. I am doing yard work now and all this and still I cannot get the damn number to move!!
I am one more 225 from giving up all this and just trying to live healthy but not giving a crap about anything else!

I do not know why I am hung up on 210. I want to reach 210. I wanted to be 34 and be 210. 34 is in 4 weeks- not going to happen.

- sorry about that-
Resume normal programming.

Brian...have you been measuring dear? I am telling you FROM MY OWN PERSONAL EXPERIENCE that in the time it took my body to register a two pound weight loss I lost almost 4 inches off my waist.

With that sort of change, I almost could give two shits what the scale says.

Reread the Scale Mentality immediately.

We have been there so I know where you are coming from. Try using another approach to measure your progress. You look great - the pics don't lie.
 
You are right Mal- you do need to get out more.:D

Seriously though- why would a break in the routine do anything for me- not being cheeky, I honestly do not know.
Thanks for the perspective of 34 for a year... never thought of it like that.
 
I hate throwing questions his way.... but steve's answered this countless times-- that when a person is plateaued - a potential solution is to take a break from the routine - eat at maintenance for a bit -then cut back again - you might gain a little poundage wise - but the long term effect -will be the weight starts to come off again at a reasonable pace.
 
Brian...have you been measuring dear? I am telling you FROM MY OWN PERSONAL EXPERIENCE that in the time it took my body to register a two pound weight loss I lost almost 4 inches off my waist.

With that sort of change, I almost could give two shits what the scale says.

Reread the Scale Mentality immediately.

We have been there so I know where you are coming from. Try using another approach to measure your progress. You look great - the pics don't lie.

No I have not been measuring. I am a big do as I say not as I do kind of guy...
I really need to do that tomorrow morning- I do know my waist on Monday was 39.5, lowest ever.
I know the scale mentality- really I do. I know that in principle the number means nothing- yet if most people who say that were asked honestly I really think they would say that it matters to them.
I am just frustrated with weight this morning. I am all jiggly in the middle- I know this is a good sign but it really is frustrating- and I really thought there would be a change with the scale.
*sigh*
*double sigh*
 
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