sillywilly221
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No offense at all was taken. With the anonymity of the internet, I'm using this as a place to vent, challenge myself, and discover things that I might not talking to someone I know or work with. I appreciate your kindness.
300 to 250 in 5 months...
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No offense at all was taken. With the anonymity of the internet, I'm using this as a place to vent, challenge myself, and discover things that I might not talking to someone I know or work with. I appreciate your kindness.
sillywilly221
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Positives:
1. Family support is crucial, it's good to know that you have a good family front. I'm the same way family wise.
I know not everyone is so blessed.
2. Your success: All I can say on this one is Bravo, if I may ask, what company is allowing you this success? Again, you do not have to answer that if you wish not to.
It is a small company. We are 4 guys on a mission! Trust me, you've never heard of us!
3. I like how you categorized friends into loose and strong connections, it's not only good on a personal level, but learning to do this and "prioritize" (if that's a good word) will lead to less stress and more fulfillment in your relationships.
Well, isn't acknowledging loose and strong connections a priority tool in and of itself?
4. For being 25, and having the same friends for practically the same amount of time as your age is awesome. I hold dear to my old friends, theyre the ones who have seen you through some of your most crucial development stages. Again, a great support group!
They are also the ones who really know you. They saw you wet your pants and still love you!
5. Those qualities listed aren't hard to see, in your post you can see some of those shine through, I anticipate that those qualities will continue to grow and take a deep rooted hold through this journey too.
Let's hope!
6. ...By saying I won't comment on that one should be comment enough, haha.
TMI perhaps, but don't act like you aren't impressed!
Negatives:
1. "A lack of balance is a killer": Truer words have yet to be spoken, recognizing this however will ensure your success in that department. With a little work and a whole lotta hoping it should come.
I'm getting their. Success at work will give me freedom to get back to the East Coast and around those I love and cherish.
2. I'm having a hard time replying to this one, perhaps some back story before I reply. I grew up in a Christian household, attented church, youth groups, went on to Bible College with the hopes of growing closer to God and my community. I started having doubts, which is not uncommon, looong story short, I can't say I am fully convinced in the Catholic/Christian perspective of God. You need to know me to know that I am not a floater switching between religions. I found some facts and researched them...this is why I'm no longer convinced. ANYWAY, that being said, not having a religion isn't necessarily a bad thing. Belief...in something is crucial. I still struggle without God, it is a very hard 'habit' to break. I was my happiest while walking with the Lord, but for me, things are either all or nothing, I don't have the belief, so I can't put my all into something that may not be there. I found (and this is based on working with all kinds of people) that when people believe in something bigger than themselves, they tend to be happier. Like your observation with the LDS community. (I really didn't know they preferred that better as a side note.)
I honestly believe that we will always lack a deeper understanding of a higher power. I could ramble forever, so I'll try to keep this short, for me, now, until I find my faith in something, I believe in the ability of the human spirit. We can do miraculous things, if we believe it. I am NOT trying to sway you away from any belief you may hold, hence the reason I didn't share the facts that caused my disbelief, I am simply trying to get across this: You must believe in something, but don't beat yourself up if it's not what you think it should be. Make sense? I hope so.
This is what I believe:
There are two paths in life any man or woman can choose to take - that with greatest resistance and that with least resistance. When we are young, we are taught the path with the greatest resistance is the most rewarding, while the path of least resistance is for the weak of mind. Paradoxically, the opposite is most often true. If you choose to take the path of greatest resistance, you are attempting to impose your will on systems and forces far greater than man will ever understand. It takes a stronger being to have faith that the universe tends to unfold as it should. The point - stop worrying, stop hating, enjoy your work, enjoy your family, enjoy your friends. All great religious and philosophical thinkers have been sharing the same message for years. I think the real question is...why aren't we listening?
3. Ah yes, "selfishness" to better oneself. If I may boldly say, at 25 and to be as successful as you are, with the understanding of that success like you do, doesn't appear to be selfish. A smart career choice yes, but unless you have fallen off of the face of the earth and refuse to talk to said loved ones, please don't add that to your pile of stress. I'm sorry that you feel lonely. I can only relate on a small scale, my parents moved a province over three weeks ago, so I miss them and that support. But I still am 'home' so I still have easy contact with friends and live with my wonderful brother and sister. It's a very brave thing doing what you did. I sincerly hope things work out for you.
Brave and reckless are often partners in crime.
4.It breaks my heart when I hear stories of this nature. All I can do is offer my condolensces. Very rarely do people cope in the "right way". I truly loved this line that you wrote: an external reminder of my very mortality. We are mortal. We won't be around forever, this is the very proof of needing to make the most of the time we have.
I actively assist others going through this. Life is about experiences. I sincerely don't want to die without any scars.
5. Failure comes in many forms, just like success does. What is your total picture of failure? Business failing? Relationships failing? It's such a broad subject to try and define that we tend to group everything into one. "Failure" So...I love football okay, favorite sport. It's not rare for me to talk about it/read about it/write about it everyday in some form, (even offseason, lol) In reality, a team that goes undefeated (in my opinion) doesn't have quite the same advantage as a team that loses. We NEED failure in some way. It is our motivation. Reminds me of "a walk to remember", I haven't seen it in years, but a line in the movie has stuck with me. It said without pain, there could be no compassion. Without failure, there cannot be success. How would you measure it? Everything in life is relative. There are opposites to all. This is the spectrum that we need to base what we consider failure and success.
Perhaps my fear of failure is actually a misinterpreted drive to succeed?
6. And I talk too much, which you have found.
Better to talk to much than never be heard...MLK JR.
1. Family support is crucial, it's good to know that you have a good family front. I'm the same way family wise.
I know not everyone is so blessed.
2. Your success: All I can say on this one is Bravo, if I may ask, what company is allowing you this success? Again, you do not have to answer that if you wish not to.
It is a small company. We are 4 guys on a mission! Trust me, you've never heard of us!
3. I like how you categorized friends into loose and strong connections, it's not only good on a personal level, but learning to do this and "prioritize" (if that's a good word) will lead to less stress and more fulfillment in your relationships.
Well, isn't acknowledging loose and strong connections a priority tool in and of itself?
4. For being 25, and having the same friends for practically the same amount of time as your age is awesome. I hold dear to my old friends, theyre the ones who have seen you through some of your most crucial development stages. Again, a great support group!
They are also the ones who really know you. They saw you wet your pants and still love you!
5. Those qualities listed aren't hard to see, in your post you can see some of those shine through, I anticipate that those qualities will continue to grow and take a deep rooted hold through this journey too.
Let's hope!
6. ...By saying I won't comment on that one should be comment enough, haha.
TMI perhaps, but don't act like you aren't impressed!
Negatives:
1. "A lack of balance is a killer": Truer words have yet to be spoken, recognizing this however will ensure your success in that department. With a little work and a whole lotta hoping it should come.
I'm getting their. Success at work will give me freedom to get back to the East Coast and around those I love and cherish.
2. I'm having a hard time replying to this one, perhaps some back story before I reply. I grew up in a Christian household, attented church, youth groups, went on to Bible College with the hopes of growing closer to God and my community. I started having doubts, which is not uncommon, looong story short, I can't say I am fully convinced in the Catholic/Christian perspective of God. You need to know me to know that I am not a floater switching between religions. I found some facts and researched them...this is why I'm no longer convinced. ANYWAY, that being said, not having a religion isn't necessarily a bad thing. Belief...in something is crucial. I still struggle without God, it is a very hard 'habit' to break. I was my happiest while walking with the Lord, but for me, things are either all or nothing, I don't have the belief, so I can't put my all into something that may not be there. I found (and this is based on working with all kinds of people) that when people believe in something bigger than themselves, they tend to be happier. Like your observation with the LDS community. (I really didn't know they preferred that better as a side note.)
I honestly believe that we will always lack a deeper understanding of a higher power. I could ramble forever, so I'll try to keep this short, for me, now, until I find my faith in something, I believe in the ability of the human spirit. We can do miraculous things, if we believe it. I am NOT trying to sway you away from any belief you may hold, hence the reason I didn't share the facts that caused my disbelief, I am simply trying to get across this: You must believe in something, but don't beat yourself up if it's not what you think it should be. Make sense? I hope so.
This is what I believe:
There are two paths in life any man or woman can choose to take - that with greatest resistance and that with least resistance. When we are young, we are taught the path with the greatest resistance is the most rewarding, while the path of least resistance is for the weak of mind. Paradoxically, the opposite is most often true. If you choose to take the path of greatest resistance, you are attempting to impose your will on systems and forces far greater than man will ever understand. It takes a stronger being to have faith that the universe tends to unfold as it should. The point - stop worrying, stop hating, enjoy your work, enjoy your family, enjoy your friends. All great religious and philosophical thinkers have been sharing the same message for years. I think the real question is...why aren't we listening?
3. Ah yes, "selfishness" to better oneself. If I may boldly say, at 25 and to be as successful as you are, with the understanding of that success like you do, doesn't appear to be selfish. A smart career choice yes, but unless you have fallen off of the face of the earth and refuse to talk to said loved ones, please don't add that to your pile of stress. I'm sorry that you feel lonely. I can only relate on a small scale, my parents moved a province over three weeks ago, so I miss them and that support. But I still am 'home' so I still have easy contact with friends and live with my wonderful brother and sister. It's a very brave thing doing what you did. I sincerly hope things work out for you.
Brave and reckless are often partners in crime.
4.It breaks my heart when I hear stories of this nature. All I can do is offer my condolensces. Very rarely do people cope in the "right way". I truly loved this line that you wrote: an external reminder of my very mortality. We are mortal. We won't be around forever, this is the very proof of needing to make the most of the time we have.
I actively assist others going through this. Life is about experiences. I sincerely don't want to die without any scars.
5. Failure comes in many forms, just like success does. What is your total picture of failure? Business failing? Relationships failing? It's such a broad subject to try and define that we tend to group everything into one. "Failure" So...I love football okay, favorite sport. It's not rare for me to talk about it/read about it/write about it everyday in some form, (even offseason, lol) In reality, a team that goes undefeated (in my opinion) doesn't have quite the same advantage as a team that loses. We NEED failure in some way. It is our motivation. Reminds me of "a walk to remember", I haven't seen it in years, but a line in the movie has stuck with me. It said without pain, there could be no compassion. Without failure, there cannot be success. How would you measure it? Everything in life is relative. There are opposites to all. This is the spectrum that we need to base what we consider failure and success.
Perhaps my fear of failure is actually a misinterpreted drive to succeed?
6. And I talk too much, which you have found.
Better to talk to much than never be heard...MLK JR.
sillywilly221
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Especially hungry tonight...
I almost ordered a pizza. OLD HABITS
Instead, I ate a 370 calorie, 7 gram of fat frozen spaghetti dinner. It is hitting the spot!
I'm trying to figure out why I am hungry. I ate lunch later today...although that would be counter intuitive... Why would I be hungry earlier?
Maybe I didn't eat enough. The Subway sub I consumed was only 700 calories. My usual lunches have probably exceeded 1000 calories.
I won't let this destroy me.
I've got bags of popcorn and fruit handy just in case.
I almost ordered a pizza. OLD HABITS
Instead, I ate a 370 calorie, 7 gram of fat frozen spaghetti dinner. It is hitting the spot!
I'm trying to figure out why I am hungry. I ate lunch later today...although that would be counter intuitive... Why would I be hungry earlier?
Maybe I didn't eat enough. The Subway sub I consumed was only 700 calories. My usual lunches have probably exceeded 1000 calories.
I won't let this destroy me.
I've got bags of popcorn and fruit handy just in case.
sillywilly221
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HUNGER FIGHTING TIP
Fiber baby...seriously, invest in soluable fiber. The kind that mixes into just about anything.
I added 3 teaspoons to my 370 calories spahgetti meal. The meal is now 415 calories (370+45), but with 9 more grams of fiber.
Fiber fills you up. This is gangbusters!
I've created a more filling meal that tastes EXACTLY the same.
Fiber baby...seriously, invest in soluable fiber. The kind that mixes into just about anything.
I added 3 teaspoons to my 370 calories spahgetti meal. The meal is now 415 calories (370+45), but with 9 more grams of fiber.
Fiber fills you up. This is gangbusters!
I've created a more filling meal that tastes EXACTLY the same.
sillywilly221
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Mmmmm...popcorn!
Well, today was interesting. I ate late and it caused me to be quite hungry. Very opposite from the last four days. I didn't take a gram of CLA this morning...perhaps that had an effect.
I ate a 700 calories sub from Subway, a 450 calories pasta meal, and a 300 calories bag of popcorn. All in all 1450 calories is not bad!
Well, today was interesting. I ate late and it caused me to be quite hungry. Very opposite from the last four days. I didn't take a gram of CLA this morning...perhaps that had an effect.
I ate a 700 calories sub from Subway, a 450 calories pasta meal, and a 300 calories bag of popcorn. All in all 1450 calories is not bad!
sillywilly221
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Reward day!
Every Saturday I allow myself a treat for a week well done. Today, I'm ordering a pizza. Now, there is the catch. I don't want to stop my momentum, so I've decided to get a healthy pizza...imagine that!
I did some research...seriously.
Where I live there aren't any great Italian Mom & Pop pizza places, so I chose to focus on the major chains. The three around here are Dominoes, Pizza Hut, and Papa Johns. Considering PJ is the best of the three, I started there.
I researched the nutritional info on all three pizzas and decided on a 14", thin crust, white cheese pizza. At 220 calories a slice, a whole pizza would run me 1760 calories. If I'm burning 2000, that still leaves me a nice deficit and that is if I eat the WHOLE pizza.
I got pineapples on it... I loves me some pineapples. I'm sure those add some calories, but I'm not going to feel bad about eating fruit.
All in all, I'm getting to reward myself and still healthy while I'm doing it. Spot on baby.
Oh, and I ordered a two liter bottle of diet coke with it. I probably shouldn't have, but what the hey!
Every Saturday I allow myself a treat for a week well done. Today, I'm ordering a pizza. Now, there is the catch. I don't want to stop my momentum, so I've decided to get a healthy pizza...imagine that!
I did some research...seriously.
Where I live there aren't any great Italian Mom & Pop pizza places, so I chose to focus on the major chains. The three around here are Dominoes, Pizza Hut, and Papa Johns. Considering PJ is the best of the three, I started there.
I researched the nutritional info on all three pizzas and decided on a 14", thin crust, white cheese pizza. At 220 calories a slice, a whole pizza would run me 1760 calories. If I'm burning 2000, that still leaves me a nice deficit and that is if I eat the WHOLE pizza.
I got pineapples on it... I loves me some pineapples. I'm sure those add some calories, but I'm not going to feel bad about eating fruit.
All in all, I'm getting to reward myself and still healthy while I'm doing it. Spot on baby.
Oh, and I ordered a two liter bottle of diet coke with it. I probably shouldn't have, but what the hey!
txsqlchick
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Sorry, but you probably should eat something for breakfast. You don't have to eat "breakfasty" foods for breakfast. Eat what keeps the hunger at bay and what's nutritious.
That's fine, but green tea is not a magic bullet. Its effects on metabolism are not dramatic.
If you're still eating the way you were earlier in the thread, you are eating too much protein. Carbs are not the enemy. In fact, they're your friend. If you're eating too much protein you could damage your kidneys. Lots of protein = ketones = kidneys work harder = stress = you get the picture. Plus, if you don't get enough fiber in your diet you won't be able to poop. That's BAD.
You probably would not have to drink as much if your diet was lower in protein.
What's your total for calories for the day? It sounds like you may not be eating enough.
I go to the gym at lunch. It doesn't take 3 hours, but my gym is close to my office. I eat at my desk while I work after working out. I do not go to the gym in addition to going to lunch. I go to the gym instead of going to lunch. I do still eat in the middle of the day...I just use my break to work out instead of eat. If you really can't do it in the middle of the day and you can't manage it after work, then you might have to become a morning person and do it before work.
sillywilly221
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So yesterday, I did end up eating the pizza for breakfast, lunch, and dinner.
Today, I'm eating a foot long roasted chicken sub from Subway on whole wheat with heavy honey mustard, loaded with veggies. Also, I got a 10 piece chicken nugget from McDonalds.
The sub will run me about 700 calories. The nuggets will run about 500 with 2 honey mustard sauces. All in all, 1200 calories. An 800 calories deficit isn't bad!
Today, I'm eating a foot long roasted chicken sub from Subway on whole wheat with heavy honey mustard, loaded with veggies. Also, I got a 10 piece chicken nugget from McDonalds.
The sub will run me about 700 calories. The nuggets will run about 500 with 2 honey mustard sauces. All in all, 1200 calories. An 800 calories deficit isn't bad!
douknowjello
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where'd ya go?
sillywilly221
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Wow...my last post was a year ago today. Seriously, what are the odds?
So where have I been?
Well, in September of last year I decided to move across the country to Florida to live with friends and create an East Coast office for my company. I suppose the move distracted me.
As far as my weight, I'm up to about 320. To give some perspective, I was 270 when I joined. Wow...50 lbs in about two years...that can't be good!
I'm 26 going on 27 and I'm tired of making excuses. When I look in the mirror, I don't see me anymore. I see a ticking clock and questions marks...will I die of a heart attack? Will I die of a stroke? Will it happen sooner or later? If I die, will the techs be able to move me? How embarrassing would that be?
I've lived off of fast food and soda. I've had enough.
On Monday, I started cooking. I bought a George Foreman grill, a ton of chicken breasts and pasta. Over the last few days, I've lived off a diet of oatmeal, chicken, pasta, and tea (I've given up soda altogether). I'm working on diversifying my diet.
For instance, today I woke up and ate around 11. I had a grilled chicken breast with some left over pasta from a few nights ago. I ate a large dill pickle as well. It is about 2:30 ET and I'm full. I'll probably have a small snack. I plan on having chicken salad for dinner. I realize chicken will get boring, so I'll have to get creative and discover new healthy things that are cheap and easy to cook!
Maybe I'm kidding myself. Maybe I'll quit again. This time it feels different though. I hope I can do this. I wonder what I've lost by being too big.
I'm a confident guy, but being over 300 and having lots of stretch marks hits your confidence. I live near the beach, but I'll never take my shirt off. God, and women. I haven't been on a real date in years...
What have I become? Is this who I am? Is this who I'm going to be? If I have kids, will they look up to me?
I'm ready for a change and now is the time. No more excuses.
I will post here everyday, multiple times until I reach my goal...200 lbs. Yeah, I'll have to lose 120 lbs. God ... 120 lbs. Have I really gained 120 lbs since the age of 20? I'm floored just thinking about that number...
No more...I'm doing this. No more excuse. No more acting like a fucking know-it-all about weight loss. No more magic bullets. No more.
If I don't change now, an early death is almost a certainty. I won't have it. I have too much to live for.
No more excuses...
So where have I been?
Well, in September of last year I decided to move across the country to Florida to live with friends and create an East Coast office for my company. I suppose the move distracted me.
As far as my weight, I'm up to about 320. To give some perspective, I was 270 when I joined. Wow...50 lbs in about two years...that can't be good!
I'm 26 going on 27 and I'm tired of making excuses. When I look in the mirror, I don't see me anymore. I see a ticking clock and questions marks...will I die of a heart attack? Will I die of a stroke? Will it happen sooner or later? If I die, will the techs be able to move me? How embarrassing would that be?
I've lived off of fast food and soda. I've had enough.
On Monday, I started cooking. I bought a George Foreman grill, a ton of chicken breasts and pasta. Over the last few days, I've lived off a diet of oatmeal, chicken, pasta, and tea (I've given up soda altogether). I'm working on diversifying my diet.
For instance, today I woke up and ate around 11. I had a grilled chicken breast with some left over pasta from a few nights ago. I ate a large dill pickle as well. It is about 2:30 ET and I'm full. I'll probably have a small snack. I plan on having chicken salad for dinner. I realize chicken will get boring, so I'll have to get creative and discover new healthy things that are cheap and easy to cook!
Maybe I'm kidding myself. Maybe I'll quit again. This time it feels different though. I hope I can do this. I wonder what I've lost by being too big.
I'm a confident guy, but being over 300 and having lots of stretch marks hits your confidence. I live near the beach, but I'll never take my shirt off. God, and women. I haven't been on a real date in years...
What have I become? Is this who I am? Is this who I'm going to be? If I have kids, will they look up to me?
I'm ready for a change and now is the time. No more excuses.
I will post here everyday, multiple times until I reach my goal...200 lbs. Yeah, I'll have to lose 120 lbs. God ... 120 lbs. Have I really gained 120 lbs since the age of 20? I'm floored just thinking about that number...
No more...I'm doing this. No more excuse. No more acting like a fucking know-it-all about weight loss. No more magic bullets. No more.
If I don't change now, an early death is almost a certainty. I won't have it. I have too much to live for.
No more excuses...
sillywilly221
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For dinner, I am having a salad with two grilled chicken breasts, sliced bananas, sliced apple, sliced green pepper, and romaine lettuce.
sillywilly221
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I take a multivitamin every morning. Are there any advantages to taking one before you go to bed?