12packAbs Diary

It's been a while since I've been here...I seem to keep going away for a while and then coming back. I guess I just go through phases where sometimes I want to write and share and other times I get somewhat withdrawn.

Earlier in the week I accidentally discovered something that my wife did that made me extremely upset. She did what she did and then repeatedly lied about it. That started a whole big arguement and discussion, and now we are separating. It's our 11th anniversary in a few weeks...but I guess we've both been unhappy for a while. We're going to try an make this amicable, especially since we have a 5yr old son.

Anyone interested in a divorced accountant?


I come and go as well - Ive been trying to get back in the swing of things but it isnt easy...

Im sorry to hear abt you and your wife...trying to seperate on respective terms isnt easy and good for you for trying it...it is best for the kids involved especially if your little guy is only 5...my little girl is 3 and doesnt understnad why we sometimes get along and sometimes don't (back together on and off) and why her daddy lives somewhere else and always works (what I tell her) why she cant see him whenever she wants...just continue to be a great daddy - I know you will but that is so critical...

Your a damn good looking guy - that digs tatts on chicks - you will find someone in no time if it is what you want:):):)

Ive been single for 3 yrs since my seperation but I also have a 3 year old so go figure...well and a 13 yr old - I have a hair pulling out household...LOL

:hug2::hug2::hug2:
 
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Your username pulled me in.... haha

Okay, so I came in to perv due to your name. haha! But anyways... I just wanted to say congrats with breaking through your "plateau" and losing 7lbs. I'm sorry to hear of the situation betw/ you and your wife, but I do hope your divorce isn't a nasty one. Have a great weekend.

-Sheryl
 
We had a very honest and open conversation tonight, but it ended in her telling the truth about something that she's lied to be about over the years and it was a very big deal to me.

I am completely shattered and broken. I have lost all faith in women and relationships and I can't believe how hurt I feel.

Ok, maybe not the right topic for a weight loss forum, but it's late, I'm a little drunk and feel like I never want another relationship ever again.
 
We had a very honest and open conversation tonight, but it ended in her telling the truth about something that she's lied to be about over the years and it was a very big deal to me.

I am completely shattered and broken. I have lost all faith in women and relationships and I can't believe how hurt I feel.

Ok, maybe not the right topic for a weight loss forum, but it's late, I'm a little drunk and feel like I never want another relationship ever again.

Ha:)Ive been single for 3 years and I can totally relate there - single for a reason:)

:hug2::hug2::hug2:
 
We had a very honest and open conversation tonight, but it ended in her telling the truth about something that she's lied to be about over the years and it was a very big deal to me.

I am completely shattered and broken. I have lost all faith in women and relationships and I can't believe how hurt I feel.

Ok, maybe not the right topic for a weight loss forum, but it's late, I'm a little drunk and feel like I never want another relationship ever again.

it's your diary and yu can talk about whatever you want... and I'm sorry you're in such pain over it...

Yeah women pretty much suck, relationships aren't much better some days... but youo might change your mind later on when you're not so drunk and there's some distance between now...

Hope you heal soon... and there's people who will liste/read if you want to talk/write...

take care...
 
Thanks ladies...

I think it'll be a while before I'd consider another relationship...too much distrust of women (present company excluded, of course). I'm sure I'll get over it, but it won't be soon enough.

I'm not working this week and starting a new job next Monday, so I'll be getting in lots of training this week. A couple visits to the gym and 10+ karate classes (including helping out with the kids classes), so at least I'll keep busy and active.
 
most people, present company included, aren't trustworthy... :D

take care of yourself right now... and add some fun to your life right now...
 
That year sucked

Wow...2008 really sucked. I think 2009 is going to be a much better year.

So, to recap 2008 (if you need a good read, and also since I haven't posted on here in over a year now)...I separated from my wife (mid Dec 07 actually)...idea was to put the house up for sale right away (which really sucked because I loved that house and never wanted to move again)...early January, as the agent is about to come in and have pictures taken, there is a lot of rainfall with warmer temp which melts the two feet of snow in my backyard. The end result is that the basement flooded (for the second time in a year and a half), and the basement SWAT team has to come out, rip everything up and dry the place up. There were tons of homes that flooded at the same time. So it takes until mid-April to get the basement redone (a second time) and repainted. Now it's May and the house is finally on the market. All this time I'm in way over my head with a huge mortgage I can't possibly afford on my own and the house isn't selling. It finally sold in October or so, and closed in December. So I was basically at the brink of bankruptcy and was going further into severe debt every month. Last March and April (during my busiest time of the year - I'm an accountant) my stress level is through the roof, my attendance at karate has plummeted to rare appearances, and my nightly drinking has me getting to the point of getting concerned if I'm turning into an alcoholic. Other than that, I'm doing pretty well throughout the year.

Summer was good and I started doing CrossFit in July. Jesus Ch*st that stuff is F*****g hard...but you know what? I ABSOLUTELY LOVED IT! Somehow I pushed myself every single workout and went way past the point of giving up that I would have done if I was attempting it on my own. I also started getting back to karate...and within the second month...I was noticeably leaner and in way better shape...it was amazing.

Then when my house was about to be sold, and I was looking for a house, looking for appliances, got sick, blah, blah, blah...my last CF workout was mid-October and I don't think I went to karate at all in October.

Anyway...I've bought a new place and I'll be moving into it at the end of the month (house-sitting right now in the mean time with all my stuff in storage) and I'm very excited. Finally starting over with my own place.

So Monday I got my @$$ back into the CF gym and committed for the year. After a 3 month lay-off, that workout was difficult, but was scaled it down a bit for me. My legs were sore yesterday. Stairs sucked. Last night I was at karate and had a great workout there too. Today EVERYTHING hurts. And stairs really, really suck! Especially going down stairs. My eating has been good for the last couple of weeks in preparation for getting back into a routine. I definitely feel a rewewed energy and committment to accomplish some challenging goals for 2009.

Tonight is a rest day as I have my son tonight, and tomorrow night I'm going to a hockey game. I think my body could use the two days of recovery right now. I don't want to overdo it right away.

My goal is 5 workouts per week, with at least 2 CrossFit workouts and 2 karate classes, perhaps the 5th workout alternating between the two.

My weight has gone up a little bit from last year at this time (I had been down by Sept/Oct, but then a month of fast food and booze undid everything, and the holidays gave me some extra work to do. I've been around the 215 mark for the past few years...now I'm probably at around 220 (not sure of the accuracy of the scale I used last week), but that's probably where I'm at. I would like to get down to 205 by June or so...and down to 190 by the end of the year. Those are the weight goals. After a couple of months of consistent CrossFit this summer, I noticed that my weight didn't actually move a whole lot, but I was gaining muscle and burning a lot of fat...so even if my weight doesn't get down that far, I won't get too worked up about it as long as I can see, feel and measure the progress.

I know that there will be some setbacks...there are always are in life...but I'm going to do my best to be consistent and eat well.

Food-wise I'm kinda using a cross between the Zone and Precision Nutrition...it seems I have a fear of committment...lol

Holy crap...long post
 
Hey there sexy:)Good to see yuo back and posting again.

Glad to hear the house finally sold and that things will be looking up.2009 will definately be a much better year with all that crap behind you.

How is your lil guy doing ?
 
Hey Cinderelly! It's been a looooong time!

My little guy is doing well! He just took up snowboarding this year (I got him a snowboard & boots for Christmas) and he's awesome!
 
Thats so cool, I remeber you being a very involved hands on nature Dad:)!

I wanna try boarding but first I want to loose way more weight...

P.S. Team Tits is winning, LOL:D!

Why are you thinking about rooting for Cheeks?LOL
 
Jeez...I dunno...I'm cheering for both sides of the T&A battle!

Butt (lol) I've always had a soft side for a nice booty...:biggrinjester:
 
Hi there! I somehow just landed on your journal and just wanted to say hi! I love your signature -what a good motto! You seemed to have had a crazy 2008, good luck in the new year! :)
 
So after workouts on Monday and Tuesday last week, by Wednesday my body (especially my legs) really hated me. I couldn't make it to any workouts on Thursday or Friday (Wednesday was a planned rest day). Saturday I led the kids karate class, and then did the adult one an hour later. It was a fairly high intestity class, finishing off with some fighting. Sunday was a rest day, and my ass still hurt yesterday.

Went to crossfit last night, and as usual, the workout kicked my ass, but I was pretty happy with my performance considering the 3 month layoff I had. I'm noticing a HUGE improvement in my mental toughness from doing this stuff. I don't let myself think that I can't continue, I just take a deep breath and work on one movement at a time.

It is absolutely incredible what you can make your body do with the right mindset and determination. I noticed this in doing 24hr mountain bike races...I was amazed at how hard and long I could push myself. Keep in mind, that I was doing a LOT of training, so I don't advocate a newbie to push themselves to exhaustion right from the start...you have to work up to high levels of intensity. I find that I absolutely love how I feel when I get my fitness to the point where I want to push harder and faster to see how far I can go. That is a turning point in my fitness...up until that point the intensity sucks because it's so freakin hard. I need to get back to that point - so that is my three month goal. I also will be testing for my brown belt in March, so I have less than two months to bring my fitness up several notches. It would be nice to drop 10lbs or so by then as well, as the extra weight really slows me down.

So far this week the plan is:

Monday - crossfit
Tuesday - karate
Wednesday - off
Thursday - crossfit
Friday - either crossfit or karate
Saturday - either crossfit or karate
Sunday - off

That's going to be more or less my weekly workout schedule with 4-5 workouts per week. During really busy weeks, I'm committing to do at least 4 workouts during the week.
 
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Nice workout schedule--crossfit sounds mentally challenging (whoa that sounds weird) but glad you're a toughie and can not only handle it, but get back on the wagon so easily--nice! :hurray:
 
A little work on the snatch...

Hey Curvie, thanks! It'll be a challenge to keep it up during my busy season, but I gotta stick to it. Consistency is the key!

So not a bad week last week, I got in 4 workouts, and Saturday's class was cancelled, so beyond my control. Eating could be better, but could be worse too. I keep going through these phases where I just don't care enough to plan my meals and get things prepared ahead of time (some may call this laziness...some of the time, I would agree).

Good workout tonight...lots of bodyweight stuff, then some skill work on the snatch (yes, that's what the olympic lift is called). Not to be confused with the clean and jerk. Don't blame me, I don't make this stuff up. All round muscle fatigue tonight...it really caught up to me on what seemed like an easier workout. Sadly, there are no easy workouts in Crossfit...you just do them faster and with more weight as you improve, they still suck. But they're freakin awesome at the same time.

It is so much easier to sit my ass on the couch (or at the pub) for the night...sometimes I don't "feel" like working out. You know why? Because it's very hard! I don't have any easy workouts where I can just go through the motions if I'm not into it. I have to get my ass into gear every time I'm at the gym or at the dojo. I have no choice. That's why I don't think about doing the workout too much beforehand. I get my shit ready, and get my ass over there...and the rest takes care of itself. Seriously, if you sit and think about whether you want to work out or not...what are the chances that you're going to consistently make it to the workouts? Not very good, in my experience, anyway.

My advice of the week:

Don't think, just do. Consistency is how your going to reach your goals.
 
LOL your a cutie!I think honestly alot of us dont feel like working out, we just do it although for the most part i have learnt to enjpy what i am doing.

Good for you for being back, posting and for having such a grooling schedule/routine:)

Im sure you will get those ten lbs off fast.
 
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