Cate's Diary

Hi Cate, I don't think it matters if the secretary put that in or not. You were in a high position in their club and they know they can trust you with the key and code, so not giving it to you either way seems about the same to me. I don't think the secretary would have put that in there unless she doesn't understand about diplomacy. A normal person would have given you what you asked for so you could do your volunteer job without having to beg people to let you in and close up. I don't think you are overreacting in either case, and you were very unhappy there before this!

I did a lot of housework and cooking today instead of going out in the chill, too. Hope you had a nice productive day with G!

Tru, geo-caching sounds so fun! Have you tried it? I'm really curious!!
 
Geo caching sounds fun. :)

About the letter-question: you could ask for a copy of the letter, since it concerns you, but I expect they'd drag their feet about giving it to you. And unless you got a copy of it, would you trust them to tell you straight what they put in it? It's probably better to just just say "Done, and it's utterly irrelevant what was written or why the committee decided as they did".
Easier said than done. of course - and, truly, sympathies and solidarity to you through this hard time making the "Done" be done.

Here's to a better future, do what you want to do, with the people you want to be with.
 
Tru- There are lots of things that usually clash with women's golf & I'll start checking them out again, now that I am done. Geocaching doesn't appeal to me. I'll start thinking whether I want to take up anything new or not soon.

Marsia- I decided this morning that finding out how the email was worded would only change who I was annoyed with the most & there's no point. I have had a productive day. I did some hand sewing (setting up a machine is harder in my opinion) & ironing, tidying up etc. I emptied my golf bag out & put away anything to do with the club. That felt good!

Amy- I felt better when I made the decision not to worry about finding out about the email. Doing what I want to with the people I want to be with is a really good idea.

I did a little mental exercise this morning which was a great stress relief. G had a woollen jumper that has been falling apart & he has been wearing it around the block. I showed it to him today & he said to throw it away. Instead, I cut it up into little pieces, saying f*#k you.......insert names of everyone I could think of on the committee & the women who annoy me. It was good. The jumper is now in the compost bin with lots of worms :D
 
Cate I was going to say don't ask about the letter but I see you have decided not too so that's good. Have a good evening and chill now x
 
Oh no Cate, I'm sorry to hear that the golf club has created more drama and stress in your life once more. I think stepping away from it and playing at that other club with G might do you the world of good. Hope you are okay.
 
I really like your rituals of clearing out your golf bag and making that a final decision and getting your aggressions out on the old jumper. I have been doing that while doing yardwork - just letting all the stress thoughts out while working out physically. It really helps for letting things go!
 
Hi, Amy, Marsia, Petal, Em & anyone else reading my diary.
Thanks for checking up on me :grouphug:
G & I had a full-on day yesterday & had a really lovely day. We had to get up very early to be at his new club at 8 am for breakfast & then played in a 4-person team event that we both really enjoy. We played with 2 of our favourite people there & we ended up being runners-up in a field of 60 (15 teams). Our older son & the 2 younger GK's arrived about 10 mins after we got home. After we finished our game I was able to tell each of the 2 guys briefly what happened at my local club & they were both quite shocked. I did not get upset at all.
I got a call from the guy who has been running the vets comp since we stopped asking me if I could do the bar next month for their big tournament. I said that I couldn't but did not want to tell him why not over the phone. I offered to call in to see him over the next few days to explain, but he said that wasn't necessary. The irony of it all. I had been contemplating offering to help for a few hours before this latest debacle. I am so, so glad that I have scrubbed that club. I was treated really well yesterday at G's club & feel so welcome there. I'm still not going to join it though. I can play there most weeks if I want, but will only play when it really suits me & only with G.
We'll take the GK's to their mother's soon & do some shopping at a lovely grocery/providore nearby. A friend is meant to be coming out to help G get wood today, so I may just hop on my bike as it's a miserable looking day out there. I might have to dust it first :blush5:
I do feel much better xoxo
 
That is really great to read! Just lovely! So good - the happy times with G and son and GK's and a good game of golf and especially having the other garbagey guff absolutely out of your hair!
Cheers for the rest of your lovely weekend - and for a vigorous "run" on the bike!
 
Thanks, Amy. As I just sat down in my chair with my laptop to have a quick squiz at the forum a whole heap of black cockies just flew over our house. I counted 49, flying SW'ish. Maybe they're heading back up the mountains. The weather has been very rough! When we got home from golf yesterday it was snowing lightly. The bike is as yet still dusty. I'm having a cup of peppermint tea. Hope you're feeling much better now :)
 
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