Cate's Diary

Thanks, Mol. It's really important to me to try to look for the positives when confronted by the negatives. I think it's easy to get overwhelmed by the bad things in life & it doesn't help anyone, including yourself. I hope our son & his GF will be happy too. This will be her 3rd marriage & his 2nd! They seem happy with one another & I will be hopeful. It is far from straightforward as they each have 3 kids, incl. older teenagers. It will not be easy. She had this idea that I didn't approve of her, but I think she is getting to know me better & be more comfortable with me. I think she has had bad relationships with her previous in-laws.
Hi, Jen. I try to have a plan each month, but also try not to tackle too much or I might end up going the other way. I want to have a really good month. I like the sound of nurturing November :)
We had a really big storm last night & it was quite melodramatic. It reminded me of a stay in Baltimore when I visited my sister. I had never seen anything like it before. I love storms! Today it is foggy & very gloomy. I just heard some more thunder.
We are going to a niece's 40th tonight. We have been so slack over the years with weddings & major birthdays & we have the guilts so are going for 1.5-2hrs max. It's a 120 km return trip.
On Sunday we are going to Hobart for a BBQ & live music at R's. We were only staying one night, but he wants us to stay for another & go & look at the block of land he has just bought, so we are most likely going to do that. Our GS is coming with us, but he'll crash on R's couch.
I have found myself getting a bit stressed the last few days, so had better take some precautions & make sure I have more home days. The trip away & then 4 days out at the club obviously has caught up with me.
Nurturing November, unfortunately, has a major golf tournament in it, that G & I are in charge of. :(
Time to go waste some time on FB & then I had better go have a shower & get dressed. I'm feeling just a little bit laaaazy, xoxoC
 
You're in charge of the golf tournament, Cate? That's impressive. It takes good people skills. A former co-worker of mine's husband did that, and it ended he got offered a big job based on how he handled it.

Enjoy the trip. I hope it all works out for your son!
 
jackbenimble said:
You're in charge of the golf tournament, Cate? That's impressive. It takes good people skills. A former co-worker of mine's husband did that, and it ended he got offered a big job based on how he handled it.

Enjoy the trip. I hope it all works out for your son!
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Thanks, Jack. I would much rather not be organising anything really, but am stuck with obligations for now, so do the best I can. I don't enjoy it.
I'm looking forward to seeing our YS, R, as this recent suicide has shaken me up more than I thought. (He suffers from Bipolar).
Thanks for your good wishes for our OS. He is a very kind & loving person & I hope it works out for them both.
 
Hi Cate hope you enjoyed a nice shower and ready to face all you have to face .
You certainly have a lot going on at the moment .
I'm sure your son and his GF are all set up for this wedding seeing as they have done before.
I think it's great you are showing interest in your YS land and I'm sure it will be a success for him . Very best of luck to them both .

You have a busy weekend ahead with lots of driving so try take it easy when you can and enjoy it all . Stay safe xoxo
 
cate said:
Neither of us felt like going to the 40th so we didn't go. We should never have said yes.
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I think considering how busy you are at the moment, that's completely fine.

Congrats on your son's engagement. I'm really pleased that you are getting on better with his fiancée. Not surprised at all that she's warming up to you, haha.
 
Wow, glad you got a little break in all the travel and stuff at the club. How was your visit with your sister? Nice you cancelled the appearance at the birthday party and took care of yourself! I am in for Nurturing November, too! My goals are to get in a little more exercise and to read the labels on what I buy more - just looked at the salad dressings I was about to buy and wow, don't even know what some of those multi-syllabic ingredients are! Also I want to work on making the whole house a cozy nest over the next 4 or 5 months. Really nice to have you back!
 
Thanks, Em. While I realised that she had misread me, it still hurt that she had & was avoiding me. I would so much rather get on with her, than not. If I have done something wrong or said something to hurt someone then I could apologise & hope to be forgiven, but this was hard. I just never gave up & kept inviting her to things. I also gave them both some money for their birthdays while they were away & wished her happy birthday on the day (via snapchat, via, D). I was determined to be determined to mend the rift (that didn't exist on my part).
Hi, Marsia. I have taken a good break now, & am having another day at home, with G. That will be 3 full days at home & a good breather. It is crazy weather! Really gusty & there is lots of snow on the mountains!
The visit with my sister was good really. I loved meeting up with some of the allergy group that I have heard about for years. It was quite fascinating really. One woman in particular who is quite wealthy & intelligent was dressed like a homeless person & was fairly toothless. Neither of us cares what anyone looks like, but it was a shock. I liked one of the women so much I told her she could stay with us if they ever got to Tas. I'm glad I went. My sister I think had been embarrassed to invite me into her home, because she had been to ours. That was crazy. I am so glad that she has the stability of owning her own home. There are so many people with MCS who rent & that would be horrendous. You would have no security & no say in when work gets done to the house you are renting. So many people end up homeless & living in their cars or in tents.
Making your house a cosy nest is an excellent idea. My home is my haven.
We are going down to R's tomorrow for his BBQ & are now staying an extra night to see his block. If anyone wants to know where it is pm me & I'll let you know. It is really taking off. I hope it never becomes really developed as it's a peaceful haven now, only accessible by ferry.
Here's to Nurturing November! xoxoC
 
Glad the visit to your sister went well and that you got the chance to reconnect. I don't have siblings, so can't imagine what it is like to have a sister feel like she can't get close. That must have been so hard, and hopefully it's better now! That's really great you met the allergy group, too. Too bad there aren't more jobs for people with chemical sensitivities. I guess you would have to be a forest ranger or something outdoors to be really sure you are safe. That sounds so hard!

Hope the visit to your son's land goes well. I really hope it turns out to be a livable place!!

Stay warm (and cozy!)
 
Cate have a brilliant weekend . Glad you took some time out for yourselves the last few days . It's hard to find that time . Sounds like you enjoyed the visit with your sister . It's funny when we meet someone and we perceive them to have been different looking . Always a total shock .
Right I should be shopping by now so better get moving
 
Hello, lovelies. I have only been home for 30 mins. We had an excellent time. The party on Sunday was good & the music was great. We went down to look at R's land yesterday & hopefully steered him in the right direction with what would be the best approach to making good use of it. He was going to buy an 11-metre unregistered furniture truck & park it on it, but logistically you would not be able to actually get it on the land. It is very steep, but I think will be good for him. I really hope he just takes it slowly. It will be a good place for him if he keeps it simple & peaceful.
I am very tired. I'm looking forward to a fast day on Thursday. I'm playing golf tomorrow if it isn't raining, but Thursday & Saturday will be home days.
Will check out the other diaries later xoxo
 
Thanks, Jen & Petal xo
When I woke this morning I felt emotionally exhausted. I tried to put a positive slant on how R is at the moment, but to be truthful he is on the up & up & I'm sure is becoming manic again. He is spending money & making big plans & I'm scared. When he's depressed I worry that he may kill himself. When he's manic I worry that he makes rash decisions which may end up with the same result. We both felt the same this morning & G hardly slept.
I went out to golf but just wasn't up to it. I burst into tears on the 2nd tee & came home. G has lit the fire & we have both dozed this afternoon & I feel a little stronger. The club is driving us crazy as well. It's a long story, but neither of us really likes going out there much.
I'm sorry that I am not being attentive in your diaries. I feel drained. Lots of love to everyone, xoxo Cate.
 
Thanks, Tru. I know you are right. I'll try to protect myself. We have to look after one another as we are both struggling.
 
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