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LaMaria said:
Very true. I sincerely hope that not going back to under-eating is high on your list of priorities. For yourself mainly, because your body needs nutrients to stay healthy for many years to come and have the energy to do fun things but also a bit because you now have a kid and food habits are formed early. Your little one needs to see her parents share regular, healthy meals with her to form an idea of what´s normal behavior around food.
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I really do love my forum friends. LaMa has said what I was thinking.
I made the huge mistake of passing on my issues about my body image to my younger son. He grew up with me either being on a diet and/or being fat. I can't undo the past, but it pains me still.
 
cate said:
I made the huge mistake of passing on my issues about my body image to my younger son. He grew up with me either being on a diet and/or being fat. I can't undo the past, but it pains me still.
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We all do the best we can in the circumstances we are dealt. You weren't doing it to influence him, you were doing what the world around us tells us to do all the bloody time. I don't think there was a lot of awareness about the risks of "normal" dieting when R was little.

That being said: I'm very glad you're more aware of your health now, Jess. Bellyfat is usually the last to go, but posture/muscle tone can help a lot.
 
What happened, Jess? Are you ok? Whatever you´re struggling with: dealing with it in a well-cared for body and brain is easier than when you´re running on fast food. Hugs if you need them.
 
Thankyou :) I'm not quite sure. It's like I had a flare up out of nowhere. I think it doesn't help that there's not a lot going on in my life right now. My days are wake up, look after the baby, clean the house, watch my partner playing video games then go to bed. I asked my partner to watch the baby whilst I had 5 minutes alone yesterday and he said no. I know it's just because of the crazy shifts he's on right now - he usually helps a lot more - but I'm very disappointed in him that he couldn't spare a few minutes when it was apparent that I was having an episode. I went out anyway which I feel guilty about (but I knew he wouldn't go off and leave her).

I'm going to talk to him tonight about sorting out our routine. It'll be a fortnight at most before we've moved into the new place and his shifts are back to normal. I need some time a week that isn't baby or family time. I love my little one and I love my partner but I need my own identity too. Even if it's something as mundane as going for a jog. We need to get out more as a family, too. Walking and doing things really helps my mood and it's good for the baby.

Yesterday's diary:

Breakfast:
SlimFast shake

Lunch:
SlimFast shake

Dinner:
Cheesy mixed veg and new potatoes

Snacks:
A small oatmeal and chocolate cookie

Drinks:
16oz of water

Exercise:
Stair climbing for a couple of minutes
Some jumping jacks
10 minute walk
 
Today's off to a bad start food wise. It seems that the fridge still isn't sorted and all of the milk has gone off except for a vanilla milkshake. I've made my shake with the milkshake but that bumps it up from 230 calories to 300. I'm trying to take longer to drink it in the hopes that it'll spread the extra calories out. My partner is bringing some proper milk home when he gets in from work so I should be able to do lunch normally.
 
Urgh, that sucks. All of it. A great big YES to keeping your own identity. Could you maybe keep powdered milk on hand for emergencies? Glad to hear that the big stressors will be gone in two weeks and I hope you can work something out for the time in-between.
 
Jess, I remember the feeling well. When we had our boys G was running a restaurant & I nearly went up the wall. I had gone from working in a very sociable office, dealing with the public(an employment agency) to being mostly home on my own alone with 2 babies. My old workmates were party animals & not interested in babies. I had to make new friends fast or I was going to go crazy. An old friend rang as she'd heard I had just had a baby & so had she. We renewed our friendship. I also had stopped in the street one day, walking D in his pram, when I saw a woman in her front garden with a pram nearby & said hello. I asked her how she filled in her day. She told me she was hoping I would stop & talk one day. We decided to organise our own playgroup & I knocked on the door of a flat nearby where I had seen a woman with a baby & invited her too. We kept that going for a couple of years & I am still friends with 2 of them. We helped one another out by looking after one another's kids. It saved my sanity!

Staying your own person is important when you have kids. You are not just a mother and a partner. You still need time for yourself. When you get into your new place maybe check out what's nearby. There may be a playgroup at a health centre or a daycare centre at the local gym. Try to get a little settled first as your partner may well be stressed as well & hopefully will then be more willing to help. Most men are not great at expressing how they feel. Life is so much different when babies come along.
Sorry about the long post in your diary. Things will settle hon & you'll work it all out :grouphug:
 
Thankyou both. The powdered milk is a fantastic idea! I'll make sure to do that. It's a great relief that you eventually sorted it out, Cate. I think part of the problem is that since I know we'll be moving I don't want to get invested in any playgroups or anything just to end up miles away. Ugh, I wish men were brought up to talk about their feelings more. I have to bite my tongue when I see someone telling a child that boys don't cry.

I binged yesterday. I'm blaming my dinner. That avocado dip was the most disgusting thing I've ever tasted.

Breakfast:
SlimFast shake (made with milkshake rather than normal milk)

Lunch:
SlimFast shake

Dinner:
Sweet potato and egg with avocado dip
KFC chicken wrap

Snacks:
2 huge KFC cookies

Exercise:
2 mile walk

I need to get better at this dieting thing because I'm sure I'm supposed to feel guilt after having a cheat day but all I feel is full of cookies :p I'm considering weighing myself monthly which would be HARD but also help me look at my progress as a whole rather than getting disheartened at minute changes.

I took some progress photos yesterday and I'm really pleased with them. I just wish this over hang would go away. I can live with chubby thighs and plump arms (even when I was anorexic my arms were big) but I've never had a belly like this before!

And I still want another baby. Somebody slap me :willy_nilly:
 
:) I don't slap people, whether kids or grownups. But I'll give you my 2 cents: if you find you evening-binge regularly while on slimfast you may need to spread your calories over the day a bit more. I get terribly cravy the day(s) after I underate, even if I never once felt hungry
 
Thanks for the tip, LaMa. Isn't it odd how things we don't even feel can affect us so much afterwards? There's no chance of me under-eating though! Food cheers me up so much that realistically I don't think there's ever going to be a week where there isn't something unhealthy or high in calories. I'm ok with that, though - I've stopped my boredom eating throughout the day and that was the single biggest factor in my weight gain.

Sunflower - I know, right? :rotflmao: To be honest weightloss isn't even in my top 5 life goals right now. But I hate having to buy the biggest sizes in the shop just enough to stick to those shakes! Plus I really need to address the real reason I overate so much instead of hiding it under piles of food.
 
Boo for allergies! :(

I really like animals but I've spent the last two decades surrounded by them. Also, that cat is adorable, but their skin looks like my stomach when I sit down. :smilielol5:

I would like to get in shape before I put my body through that again but I don't want to wait too long to have another. I didn't get to have a normal pregnancy because too many other things were going on at the time. It's a big part of my depression.
 
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