"You're getting TOO thin!"

Darth Pooh

Darth Pooh

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What do you tell people when they actually say this to you?

I find this to become a common response to when people ask me how much I've lost (especially family members who ridiculed me my whole for being overweight, go figure).

So I was wondering, has anyone else had this issue and how do you handle it and how does it make you feel? I know it should actually be encouraging but sometimes it is very discouraging to me. I'd love to know everyone else's thoughts.

-Keith
 
thank you -those cancer drugs are really working...

When i want your opinion, next time, I will beat it out of you.

Thanks for your concern...

Thanks, why didnt you say anything to me when i was too fat?

thanks - wanna see me naked and roll around in oil? (i'd personally love that response just to see the reaction
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There are a few threads already on this topic... I'm sure there are better responses in there.
 
Well, I've never officially gotten to the point myself where people in my family have told me that, but my dad has. My grandmother (his mother) will constantly tell him that he needs to watch what he eats, he's putting on weight, he's getting "big" - very dramatic. And when he does lose the weight, she complains that he is TOO thin.

His response in the past is - well, mom, I'm sorry you feel that way, but I feel good, I know that I look better, and if you think its too thin, then don't look at me!

I don't know if that's the best approach...but my dad's kinda rough around the edges.

A lot of times, people suffer from their own insecurities..so rather than give you a compliment like "you're doing a great job, you look wonderful", its easier for them to make it a negative.

You know what you want your body to look like...and if they think you look to thin, piss on em! Hehe..that's how I feel anyways. I mean, unless you're skin and bones and at an "unhealthy" weight, then I would just take what they say with a grain of salt.

You lost weight for you...so that YOU would feel better..not so THEY would feel better. So, take it as a compliment! Say, I know, isn't it GREAT?? Want some tips?

Have a fabulous day! :cheers2:
 
maleficent said:
thank you -those cancer drugs are really working...

When i want your opinion, next time, I will beat it out of you.

Thanks for your concern...

Thanks, why didnt you say anything to me when i was too fat?

thanks - wanna see me naked and roll around in oil? (i'd personally love that response just to see the reaction
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You're absolutely hysterical, Mal! I didn't see your post until after I posted mine, and that's just freakin GREAT! I'd like to bottle you up and keep you in my pocket to handle all the assholes in my life..hehe. (Thanks for making me smile this morning :rofl:)
 
Keith,

I have had this very problem! I'm a college student, so every time I go home for the weekend, my whole family freaks on me. They tell me they think I have an eating disorder and stuff like that, which doesn't make me feel any better about what i still have left to accomplish. For a while my close friends worried too about me, so i had to show them i was actually eating and exercising regularly for them to get off my back. Some people find it hard to lose weight and seeing one do it quite determined can send your loved ones wondering what your doing and how far your going to go. If they are really there for you, explain to them that this is a lifestyle change and that it is for the best. When your with them show them how you have changed your food eating habits. Eventually, once they realize you aren't just trying to get really skinny, they will support your efforts.

Trevor
 
Mal, great lines! I need to go find this thread!

Miss, I like your dad already :) I have said things like that but to certain people. With people I work with it is kind of a different story, can't say "Don't look at me!", well, maybe with some I could ;)

Trev, I have handled my situations with a grain of salt. Like I said, the people who actually made the most mention of me being fat my whole life are the ones being most vocal about me losing weight. Amazing and utterly obnoxious at the same time. My sister went as far to call me anorexic looking which isn't true. I am not overweight anymore but far from skin and bones.
 
Whenever I go home my family usually asks me:

"You are eating, right?" lol

And I say yeah but not as much as I used to. To think how stupidly simple weight loss is.
 
Darth Pooh said:
What do you tell people when they actually say this to you?

I find this to become a common response to when people ask me how much I've lost (especially family members who ridiculed me my whole for being overweight, go figure).

So I was wondering, has anyone else had this issue and how do you handle it and how does it make you feel? I know it should actually be encouraging but sometimes it is very discouraging to me. I'd love to know everyone else's thoughts.

-Keith
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The correct response is, "Lose weight." It works on several levels. :D
 
[Focus];403659 said:
The correct response is, "Lose weight." It works on several levels. :D
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That would work, but my sister is like a stick and so are some of my coworkers who have told me I am getting too thin.
 
Darth Pooh said:
That would work, but my sister is like a stick and so are some of my coworkers who have told me I am getting too thin.
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I think once they think about it for a while they'll get it, but it's really all about what works for you. If you want to try to have an actual conversation with them, then, well, point it out. The hypocrisy, I mean. You could also try, "I'll stop losing weight if you gain some." But that's too obvious for my sense of humor.

I think the problem is almost universal. My girlfriend tells me every day when I whine about not being able to drop any weight anymore that maybe it's because I don't have any extra on me. What I do is I calmly pull out a picture of Stan McQuay I have handy and put it down next to my contest photo and ask her to, "Try and say that shit again!" She usually just rolls her eyes and wanders away. :D
 
I haven't had anyone say that, but I have had quite a few say "You look great. That's enough now, right?", and then when I've said that technically, I'm still on the obese side of overweight, they looked concerned.

I thought I knew what that meant and then another couple of sweet, frank, drunk friends confirmed it when they looked at each other and said laughing, but straight out, "Well then what about us!!?" I didn't know what to say about that!! (I think just something about me being really short ... )
 
"No, I'm not. You've just never seen me skinnier."

"....And you're too opinionated."

"Trust me. I could lose a few more pounds."

"That's my decision to make, isn't it?"

"I like running. So sue me."

There are more, but I can't recollect them now at the top of my head.
 
Watching someone lose as much weight as you have is quite dramatic change to get used to.

Obviously, When you get down in weight, your bones become more pronounced, especially in your face. OMG! A chin appears, cheekbones come out of hiding. Tell those critics not to freak out!

I just think they need time to get used to seeing the new you, who you really are under the excess weight. I wouldn't pay it any mind. I find some people just get jealous too, and cant be happy for anyone. If you are healthy and happy, just keep doing your thing! :party:
 
I've been told I was too thin at a few different times

At one point I weighed 115 lbs (5'4 height) so maybe I was, in some opinions, a little too thin

But other times I've been told it and I'm just like, you're definitely lying!

It's strange..
 
Your family knows you inside and out. They see the changes. I would be happy if they see changes, cause obviously your losing weight and it's noticable. Be happy they are seeing the change
 
I think people just need to get used to seeing you differently. They may think you look drawn or overly thin in the fact, for example, but that's just because they're used to seeing you with a larger, rounder face, so that's what's "normal" to them.

I get looks of horror when I tell people I have around 40-45 pounds left to lose. And then I just turn around and point to my butt and say, "Yeah, 15 right here alone."

I posted a similar query earlier. I think people are just trying to come to terms with the fact that you're changing. And also, realize, people who have never been significantly overweight don't really understand the magnitude of 40 pounds or any poundage larger than like 10-15 pounds. So they probably think 15 pounds is A LOT.

-Tamara
 
true story, my boss calls me in his office.. I thought i was getting fired... then he asked me if I had AIDS lol.
 
burneeed said:
true story, my boss calls me in his office.. I thought i was getting fired... then he asked me if I had AIDS lol.
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I've actually had a few people ask me if I was sick too... with people I joke about I tell them I am not sure if its the AIDS or the crack, but something is obviously working.
 
Darth Pooh said:
I've actually had a few people ask me if I was sick too... with people I joke about I tell them I am not sure if its the AIDS or the crack, but something is obviously working.
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then you prolly get the same responses I get...I have heard so far that I am on crack , have aids, throw up my food , on diet pills .. lol all just funny stuff.
 
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